Elden ring too confusing

I've played probably 10-20 hours of this game and the problem I'm having is that I don't know what build to use. I don't know what stats to make a priority, I don't know what weapons to look for, I don't know where to go.

Do most people that play this game use a guide?

I've beaten bloodborne and played DS3 so I'm not stranger to fromsoft games, but Elden Ring is just so open ended I don't know if I'm making a trash build or not.
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