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06-29-2019, 03:50 PM
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Originally Posted By peachy977⏩
Clubs are dogchit for picking up women unless you are so good looking that you stand out and will have sloots flock to you. Going out clubbing (especially alone) with the intention of picking up women is a no no and 9/10 times you won't get chit. Bars are alright but it depends on which ones. If you have friends bring them with you so you can keep each other accountable and help each other out. If you are alone why not try and make friends in the bar instead of immediately going after chicks. Try talking to people, being social and just having a good time instead of immediately looking like a creep on the prowl the minute you enter the bar.Went out todays bars and pubs full of men no women and only women there they are taken or in groups meeting women is impossible
Also a good place when it comes to the nightlife is outside the establishment where people go to smoke or another way just people on the street that are going from club to club or bar to bar. Those people you see on the street are the same people that are in the clubs anyway.
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Originally Posted By BohemianSlav⏩
It don’t work because people espically women stick to who they know and don’t want to explained their social circle that they are in meeting women is impossible! This is why I quit going bars and pubs it’s pointless just as bad as online dudeClubs are dogchit for picking up women unless you are so good looking that you stand out and will have sloots flock to you. Going out clubbing (especially alone) with the intention of picking up women is a no no and 9/10 times you won't get chit. Bars are alright but it depends on which ones. If you have friends bring them with you so you can keep each other accountable and help each other out. If you are alone why not try and make friends in the bar instead of immediately going after chicks. Try talking to people, being social and just having a good time instead of immediately looking like a creep on the prowl the minute you enter the bar.
Also a good place when it comes to the nightlife is outside the establishment where people go to smoke or another way just people on the street that are going from club to club or bar to bar. Those people you see on the street are the same people that are in the clubs anyway.
Also a good place when it comes to the nightlife is outside the establishment where people go to smoke or another way just people on the street that are going from club to club or bar to bar. Those people you see on the street are the same people that are in the clubs anyway.
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Originally Posted By mudrock⏩
sometimes its hard to tell or they play the ole bait and switch like they werent eye fukkin the crap out of you. Would not reccomend cold approach for 90% of the misc.i feel that you should only cold approach if she is eyeing you.
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06-29-2019, 06:48 PM
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Originally Posted By GainzMcgee⏩
This and dating apps and bars get you no where so meeting women is impossible because if you can’t meet them in bars and online and you don’t know anyone (or your friends don’t hook you up) where are you meeting women?sometimes its hard to tell or they play the ole bait and switch like they werent eye fukkin the crap out of you. Would not reccomend cold approach for 90% of the misc.
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Does anyone have any tips on how to meet women cold approaching don’t work nothing does anyone wanna say anything I feel depressed
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Cold approaching don’t work lolhttps://youtu.be/iTZI6RNwv9M
09-14-2019, 08:27 AM
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Originally Posted By peachy977⏩
So you did 3-5 approaches, got no interest from them, and then assume cold approach does not work?Cold approaching don’t work lolhttps://youtu.be/iTZI6RNwv9M
You're low IQ. Firstly anyone who does this regularly will tell you 3-5 approaches is nothing. Try 10-15 at least in one session.
Secondly - you got rejected based on your looks / approach / the fact they were unavailable. This does not equal that cold approaching doesn't work. It just means they didn't want to go out with YOU specifically, based on the aforementioned factors.
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
you look like Ross from friends lolIt would be an instant rejection since most girls don't date men they aren't familiar with in 2019. Like a decent woman wouldn't be single or date someone who could approached her srs
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Social circle is still the best way, you barely gotta do anything and girls love you. You also get the benefit of more friends.
But pulling girls from cold approaching definitely feels alpha. It also feels awful when it doesn't work which is most of the time.
But pulling girls from cold approaching definitely feels alpha. It also feels awful when it doesn't work which is most of the time.
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OP isn't wrong, but don't go around malls cold approaching chicks randomly. That's the wrong way to do it. Cold approach works if you're at an event or doing a hobby where there's already some common ground.
Approaching girls randomly on the street or in departments stores is a recipe to fail hard.
The cold approach really shouldn't be seen as completely obvious you're hitting on them. For example in the gym, ask for a spot of some kind. Not with a 315 bench press of course but something where it makes sense you'd be asking for her help. I've struck up conversations with girls by asking if they'll place a plate on my back for weighted planks. Or I've asked them to do me a favor and let me know if I'm swing too much doing hanging leg raises.
From there in between sets you just ask them their name and strike up a natural conversation with them. It's not totally obvious I'm hitting on them so their guard is initially down since my request seems fairly reasonable in both of these. I know damn well I don't swing doing hanging leg raises, I've done thousands of them, but they don't know that. I can also get the plate on my own back for planks if I need to, but it's easier if someone else does it so it doesn't seem strange to be asking.
Likewise for other events/hobbies. If you like art exhibits go to an art exhibit and make a casual comment about a piece of art you both are looking at. Obviously you better know what the f*ck you're talking about though or this will come off as you trying to pick her up. It needs to be genuine.
If you like going hiking, it's easy to make friends on the trails, especially at the top of the trail or an overlook where people are taking breaks.
You have a dog? Go to a f*cking dog park and strike up a conversation with a girl who has an awesome dog.
Your goal shouldn't even be to pick them up, but just to have a conversation with them about a topic you actually want to talk about. It's pretty obvious to anyone if you're zeroing in trying to land a date or if you're just engaging in friendly conversation. Shoot for friendly conversation. If at the end you think the conversation flowed well get her number.
Approaching girls randomly on the street or in departments stores is a recipe to fail hard.
The cold approach really shouldn't be seen as completely obvious you're hitting on them. For example in the gym, ask for a spot of some kind. Not with a 315 bench press of course but something where it makes sense you'd be asking for her help. I've struck up conversations with girls by asking if they'll place a plate on my back for weighted planks. Or I've asked them to do me a favor and let me know if I'm swing too much doing hanging leg raises.
From there in between sets you just ask them their name and strike up a natural conversation with them. It's not totally obvious I'm hitting on them so their guard is initially down since my request seems fairly reasonable in both of these. I know damn well I don't swing doing hanging leg raises, I've done thousands of them, but they don't know that. I can also get the plate on my own back for planks if I need to, but it's easier if someone else does it so it doesn't seem strange to be asking.
Likewise for other events/hobbies. If you like art exhibits go to an art exhibit and make a casual comment about a piece of art you both are looking at. Obviously you better know what the f*ck you're talking about though or this will come off as you trying to pick her up. It needs to be genuine.
If you like going hiking, it's easy to make friends on the trails, especially at the top of the trail or an overlook where people are taking breaks.
You have a dog? Go to a f*cking dog park and strike up a conversation with a girl who has an awesome dog.
Your goal shouldn't even be to pick them up, but just to have a conversation with them about a topic you actually want to talk about. It's pretty obvious to anyone if you're zeroing in trying to land a date or if you're just engaging in friendly conversation. Shoot for friendly conversation. If at the end you think the conversation flowed well get her number.
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09-14-2019, 08:57 AM
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Originally Posted By Suqat⏩
It doesn't work. No girl is going to just date some random dude that cold approaches her lol. No way. I've never seen it irl or seen any proof of it working without paid actresses.Wrong. I have had success with it, as well as many other men. Go online and look around for tips, tons of guys have written books on the subject (!). It is as simple as go up to girl, talk to girl, convey interest in girl through your body language, ask for number, plan date, REPEAT 100+ times. By 100 times you will have an idea of what works for you, that simple.
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
that's because you don't leave that gym in your garage. Last month my friend pulled one of the cashiers at a fast food joint we went to. She was like a 6/10 butterface but he smashed.It doesn't work. No girl is going to just date some random dude that cold approaches her lol. No way. I've never seen it irl or seen any proof of it working without paid actresses.
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09-14-2019, 09:10 AM
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Originally Posted By CaliSuperSport⏩
Never seen this happen either. It takes hours and hours of rapport to get to the point of hanging out with people unless you are a legit sociopath. Nobody is just meeting people by cold approaching them like that.that's because you don't leave that gym in your garage. Last month my friend pulled one of the cashiers at a fast food joint we went to. She was like a 6/10 butterface but he smashed.
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
Lol it happens. You're a shut in and professing to know everything about social interaction.Never seen this happen either. It takes hours and hours of rapport to get to the point of hanging out with people unless you are a legit sociopath. Nobody is just meeting people by cold approaching them like that.
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
It don’t work watch my video on it my approach was fine had good clothes and just got my haircut still got rejected it don’t workNever seen this happen either. It takes hours and hours of rapport to get to the point of hanging out with people unless you are a legit sociopath. Nobody is just meeting people by cold approaching them like that.
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Originally Posted By CaliSuperSport⏩
I done everything right good haircut confident good clothes still got nothing but a conversation nothing works I agree with eodSocial circle is still the best way, you barely gotta do anything and girls love you. You also get the benefit of more friends.
But pulling girls from cold approaching definitely feels alpha. It also feels awful when it doesn't work which is most of the time.
But pulling girls from cold approaching definitely feels alpha. It also feels awful when it doesn't work which is most of the time.
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Originally Posted By CaliSuperSport⏩
Wrong you don’t meet people through friends as they are selfish and out for themselfs that’s why I resorted to cold approachingSocial circle is still the best way, you barely gotta do anything and girls love you. You also get the benefit of more friends.
But pulling girls from cold approaching definitely feels alpha. It also feels awful when it doesn't work which is most of the time.
But pulling girls from cold approaching definitely feels alpha. It also feels awful when it doesn't work which is most of the time.
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
You can meet people who are out having fun, you just have to be having fun too. Nobody wants to hang out with someone who seems miserable.Never seen this happen either. It takes hours and hours of rapport to get to the point of hanging out with people unless you are a legit sociopath. Nobody is just meeting people by cold approaching them like that.
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Originally Posted By peachy977⏩
bruh you need to chill. You're clearly givin off desperate vibes.Wrong you don’t meet people through friends as they are selfish and out for themselfs that’s why I resorted to cold approaching
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Originally Posted By CaliSuperSport⏩
Not desperate at all have high standards actually your comment made me laugh you tell people to put effort into things then when they do you call them desperate? Strong contradiction sonnnn but I’m happy to be alone for the rest of my life now I knew nothing worked anyway onwards and upwards!bruh you need to chill. You're clearly givin off desperate vibes.
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Originally Posted By Rajc⏩
And these are the same that’ll tell you you’ll meet someone when you least expect it just Looooolimagine telling a man that is desperate due to his situation to not give out desperate vibes
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I was the gym again and for like the 5th straight day everyone was just on their phones or had ear buds in. I walked in without ear buds and it was complete silence so i put them back then. To think people meet via cold approach these days is insane. You can't even talk to people. It's not even about making friends or getting a date or whatever it's just the fact you can't meet anyone at all when you are alone. It's just insane at this point. At no point in my life do i ever see people cold approach or any of that. Every time i go somewhere it yields the same results. Like a damn hamster spinning in a wheel.
It's so frustrating because i keep hearing this cold approach stuff on this forum but i go out and see everyone staying to themselves. If they are alone or come alone they are by themselves.
It's so frustrating because i keep hearing this cold approach stuff on this forum but i go out and see everyone staying to themselves. If they are alone or come alone they are by themselves.
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
meetup.comI was the gym again and for like the 5th straight day everyone was just on their phones or had ear buds in. I walked in without ear buds and it was complete silence so i put them back then. To think people meet via cold approach these days is insane. You can't even talk to people. It's not even about making friends or getting a date or whatever it's just the fact you can't meet anyone at all when you are alone. It's just insane at this point. At no point in my life do i ever see people cold approach or any of that. Every time i go somewhere it yields the same results. Like a damn hamster spinning in a wheel.
It's so frustrating because i keep hearing this cold approach stuff on this forum but i go out and see everyone staying to themselves. If they are alone or come alone they are by themselves.
It's so frustrating because i keep hearing this cold approach stuff on this forum but i go out and see everyone staying to themselves. If they are alone or come alone they are by themselves.
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Originally Posted By CaliSuperSport⏩
Thing is you are not going to be getting laid consistently from social circle. I also prefer being independent and not having to hang around a group of people I don't even really like just for the sake of potentially meeting women through them.Social circle is still the best way, you barely gotta do anything and girls love you. You also get the benefit of more friends.
But pulling girls from cold approaching definitely feels alpha. It also feels awful when it doesn't work which is most of the time.
But pulling girls from cold approaching definitely feels alpha. It also feels awful when it doesn't work which is most of the time.
Originally Posted By Fortunamera⏩
I'd say even if you are good looking you are going to get rejected 9/10 times. If you look good though I don't really think alot of these are rejections but moreso the girl just not ready to date or looking to fuk. She might be in a relationship, gotten out of one, her friend got cheated on and she thinks all guys are players, she migh have some crisis going on in ther life and a million other reasons as to why she isn't availible. You guys need to stop taking this chit so personal and just move on. The guys that have success with approaching are approaching 100s of women not 5 chicks that turn you down and you go into self pity mode...So you did 3-5 approaches, got no interest from them, and then assume cold approach does not work?
You're low IQ. Firstly anyone who does this regularly will tell you 3-5 approaches is nothing. Try 10-15 at least in one session.
Secondly - you got rejected based on your looks / approach / the fact they were unavailable. This does not equal that cold approaching doesn't work. It just means they didn't want to go out with YOU specifically, based on the aforementioned factors.
You're low IQ. Firstly anyone who does this regularly will tell you 3-5 approaches is nothing. Try 10-15 at least in one session.
Secondly - you got rejected based on your looks / approach / the fact they were unavailable. This does not equal that cold approaching doesn't work. It just means they didn't want to go out with YOU specifically, based on the aforementioned factors.
Originally Posted By Rajc⏩
It's definetly a catch 22 but he is right. I honestly believe women can smell that chit a mile away.imagine telling a man that is desperate due to his situation to not give out desperate vibes
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Originally Posted By BohemianSlav⏩
Most likely not unless you kick it with some slooty chicks, but that happens. But it's usually how guys meet their girlfriends and have consistent sex.Thing is you are not going to be getting laid consistently from social circle. I also prefer being independent and not having to hang around a group of people I don't even really like just for the sake of potentially meeting women through them.
Originally Posted By peachy977⏩
u wot. by definition you're desperate. You just need to get better at hiding it or lower your standards to get off and not be so awkward around women. People notice the tiniest pieces of body language that will out you for being nervous or creepy.Not desperate at all have high standards actually your comment made me laugh you tell people to put effort into things then when they do you call them desperate? Strong contradiction sonnnn but I’m happy to be alone for the rest of my life now I knew nothing worked anyway onwards and upwards!
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