Thanks everyone for the feedback on my Bumble convo. It's duly noted that I need to make a little bit more chit chat. However, I still prefer to be asking them for drinks by my third message out to them (so after their second reply). I tend to find it cuts out the timewasters and the women that just want to chat endlessly and fall in love online over an app and not actually meet up.

I have just arranged a drinks date next week with another Bumble match I got today and I was pretty direct with her too, asked her for drinks in my third message out to her, and she accepted and seems pretty keen.

Spoon pic or negs.

I reported that account. I think it's a fake. Claims to be female but no avi / pics and also their bb.com account is actually a male account not female.

Hmmmm....

im real, lemme take a shower and then i'll post a pic

Chicago brah check in in and i matched with this chick too lol.....too lazy to post pics but her work states “i work in finance at Nice try muderers” as my proof

Good luck OPIE

Had a smash set up earlier in the week with a 6/10. She was supposed to come over to my place for wine. I texted her a few hours beforehand while I was at work to confirm that the plans were still good. She responded with yes and then told me I should know that she was getting dropped off by her dad since she can't drive (22 years old). I asked her why she couldn't drive and she fed me some BS about how she took the fall for a friend and got a DUI.

Suffice to say, I was sketched out by that and decided to decline. The idea of a 22 year old chick getting dropped off by her dad so I can smash simply wasn't getting my dick hard.

Anybody have similar experiences?

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I posted some pics of matches that straight up asked for sex so you could see the looks level of guys using that approach and getting rejected. It's a risky move because the girl will just stop talking if she feels like you're gonna use her.

Agreed that this is more true than not.

But you can't deny that there's a subset of women on the app who are ovulating and want to **** the same night. (And will.)

if you are giving so much attention to 5/10s, they wont respect you, this is so cringe man, stop triple texting and insisting so much

such a weird story, why wouldnt she just take an uber

Maybe she didn't want to spend money you *******

Ya having daddy drive there and back twice is clutch.

I'll just leave this here...

True. I f'ed the misc brah first night I met him because of rapport but I didn't smash a handsome doctor that I met on the weekend because even though we had stuff in common he was very closed off and a chit conversationalist. I'm seeing a lot of guys failing on the rapport in my messages, they cba to talk and think it's hopeless. They also dont include vital info in their bios such as job, height interests which means I have to talk to all of them to coax details out. Is this done on purpose? Was talking to one guy, planned to meet found out he was shorter than me even though I included it in my bio. Him telling me his height would have saved me 2 hours of bs back and forth.

Spade, seems like you're doing better in Chicago than in New York. That right?

Just had a match and she was actually talking to me.
I was excited and then she started asking me for money.. fml
trying to date as an ugly guy is something else.
doesnt matter if youre in good shape

How are you having such problems. I'm 39, bald and short. And I get my share of ladies on there. I will actually be banging one I met off of a classifieds app called letgo. Lmao. Even on apps that arent dating sites I'm smashing.

decided to pay for gold again.
used boost a few days ago.
Have 5 matches from it.
None responded.
this girl I was talking about actually talked to me.. but she asked for money like I said.

I can get a handful of matches every few weeks but they just dont talk so thats the problem

myself and a couple of mates have rec'd similar messages too lately. $500 a hit. no thanks!

I bet you guys would have more success just going out and talking to girls. They are everywhere. Hope you are not just relying on apps. They are mostly trash.

I was gonna talk to a girl tonight at the bar but she was talking some silly chit about the Houston Rockets. I'm a RAN so I don't play that chit u feel me

Just LOL @ taking anything a girl says seriously. They're children, they don't know what they're talking about. Would you get mad at a five year old for talking chit about your team? Just give her a little pat on the head and take her home and hate-fuk her if you're that rustled.

Are you still FA? Have you had any success on tinder yet?

Yes. If you're really 48 you would know this.

What you seem to be forgetting is that those things aren't close to vital for men, they're for you to preemptively masturbate over; and if they're not included, that's for a reason.

The guys don't care, you know men just want to smash, the sexes are wired differently. Guys get on Tinder and think it's the freeway to sex. That's why they forget the part about rapport.

Lol. I got my dik sucked my a Tinder chick last October. I played with her pussy, almost fuked her but missed my chance (srs)

If its that important to you, ask. I've gone out with girls up to 4 inches taller than me, and they knew before hand how tall I was and were fine with it. Not his job to bring it up or his fault you care about that

@slyrz its about the same actually probably a bit worse in Chicago because I match less 7+/10's + <30yo's.

So the blonde I met last week from match and I had planned dinner at my house last night, then going to a dance bar. Was super stoked about seeing her again all week, and from her txts throughout the week it appeared she was too. Then I texted her yesterday to confirm at about 3:30pm she txts me back saying her alternator died and shes getting her car towed to the dealer, and will get a loaner. Told her to keep me updated. At about 6:30 she txts me saying the dealer is closed and shes trying to get a rental from her insurance. I told her if she needs a ride anywhere lmk (she lives about a 1/2 hour away) and said don't worry about dinner just lmk when you got the rental.

Didn't hear back until I txted her at 9pm last night saying if it's too crazy to come tonight we can reschedule. She said the rental places were closed and shes getting a rental tomorrow.

The whole time she was super apologetic saying she felt bad making me wait. But when she didnt txt me back between 6-9pm I couldn't help but get suspicious she was meeting with another guy.

She kept saying how "she was really looking forward" to us meeting again, and how "she really wanted to see me" plus I've blown an alternator and know it can be a hassle with tow trucks/rentals, etc...so am I bugging out over her meeting someone else instead?

My last message to her was to say if she gets the rental early enough then she should come for brunch tomorrow (today) or we can try for dinner again nxt weekend. Messaged her that at about 9:30pm last night. Didn't hear back from her till 11:30am today saying she just got the rental and asked how my morning is going?

But if she wanted to see me so bad last night, and was super apologetic about her car situation, then wouldn't she have txted me "ok sounds good" or something after I offered her plan B and C? And not wait until brunch time to reply, and without really indicating she's down with plan B or C?

At 11:30am today when she txted me, I was on my way over to this attractive milfs house to bang. After I busted all over her fake titties, and we cleaned up and were lying in bed, we started talking dating apps/sex and she starts showing me the other guys shes banging/talking too. I was interested so I asked about it. And she gets into some of the guys wanting relationships/getting jealous of other guys shes meeting, etc.. She shows me the guys and they are all good looking younger guys 28-32 with their chit together. One guy was a Dr, another in med school, etc.. Id say in terms of looks they were all in my league, me probably in the middle, as a couple I thought were better looking than me (no homer). One of the better looking guys shes talking to she said she butt heads with as she doesn't want to go to his place, she wants him to come to her. She said the "the sperm is supposed to swim to the egg, not the other way around..." and this guy, whos Chad status, is supposedly planning on taking the train 1.5hrs to see her in a couple weeks when her kids are away again.

Then she shows me another guy probably at my looks level or a tad higher, 31yo, who matches her and her friend, he made the connection via instagram that two of his bumble matches are friends, and tells them both! Then he tries to position them for a 3some (which neither of them are down for as they arent into girls). So I tell her my unicorn hunting story which was a semi brag 1 upping this other guy who asked her for a 3some all desperately and got rejected. So she asks me details/wants to see the girls, so I tell/show her.

Anyways that whole conversation with the milf, last night getting let down by the blonde, and lining up average to marginally above average looking girls in Chicago by direct dtf pitching them, has got me sick to my stomach and depressed to the point I'll probably be taking another break from this thing again.

Shocked you aren't getting enough matches just from U of Chicago alone...I think its another uni there. Only was there 3 days but I pulled off a bang with a U Chicago student (matched in morning, ****ed her around noon). If you have tinder plus, put your location right on campus. I matched a decent amount of hipster type of girls so they probably would be more down with older guys too

How old is the MILF?

On average, how long do you guys take to message the chick after you've matched?

^^ on average probably 2-3 days, but
at least 18hrs.Think its still spring break. Chicago is a great city to tinder. East Coast cities are typically better for me. Pittsburgh/DC probably 2 best cities in terms match quantity/quality of hookups/conversion rates.

Milf was 40. In shape with a very pretty face, tan, boob job, brunette with nice gold highlights, pearly white teeth, waxed landing strip, etc.. I almost never cum with a condom on, her pussy was so good almost busted in the first 15-20min.

My city is dry, just uploaded some matches that are pretty much the max looks level here maxcrushdotimgurdotcomslashall tinder keeps saying searching for new matches in your area because i swipe left on everyone. All of those guys must be tinder pros because they msg frequently even tho im barely replying and not meeting anyone rn.