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Thread: Gonna ask out kurdish chad at my gym on Monday (no pics)

post 1541995391 01-27-2018, 09:31 AM
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Originally Posted By YeahImMad⏩
Ayyyyyyyyyyyyy

It went really well actually, had drinks, went for steak and then more drinks. We got along great although I drank too much and was hanging today. Only problem now is I think I'm catching sum feelz......... damn
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post 1541995631 01-27-2018, 09:36 AM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Misc standards, rated last year I think, and I'm in my forties not 40.
That means your not average. Your drop dead gorgeous if he wasnt lieing. Are you really awkward? Bring dolls with you like kids? Also since your looking for a real relationship with a way younger guy. He most likely sees no future with you. Best you can hope for is being a long-term side piece or a sugar momma.


Edit if you just want FWB just go to the local basketball court. In sure some of the boys wouldnt mind having a Becky at there beck and call.
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post 1541995941 01-27-2018, 09:41 AM
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Originally Posted By YeahImMad⏩
well fml that means I must have done or said something wrong during the date. Funny thing is, we spent the whole time chatting and laughing and getting along really well
That's your perception. Their perception may be totally different. Everyone has a bad day once in awhile where other people don't realize it, and it may have nothing to do it you.

I'm just saying to not take it personal because there may be some unknown information that you may not be familiar with, that to no fault of your own, affected their perception at that time and place.

If they barely know you, you can't take it personal, as they don't really 'know' the real you.
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Last year I seriously considered dating people I'm not attracted to and focusing on other things than physical attraction. I've very carefully thought it through and ultimately decided that it's not worth it to me. I'd truly rather stay alone than date someone I'm not really into just to not be alone.
This is somehow the most shocking thing I've read in this thread. You had to somehow "carefully think it through" to not date someone you're "not really into"?

It's normal to want to date people you are attracted to. If you can't seem to date people you are attracted to well, assessing what you bring to the table seems to be in order.

I just want to clearly state that anyone who is so afraid of being alone that s/he will simply string someone else along to avoid being alone is a trash human being who uses other people simply as tools for his/her own needs. Absolute trash.
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post 1541997641 01-27-2018, 10:08 AM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
... I think lots of people settle for someone they are not attracted to just to not be alone....
See above. Anyone settling to be with someone "they are not attracted to" to "not be alone" is a very weak human being. Keep in mind that I'm focusing on the way you're phrasing this - marrying someone you do not believe is the 'hottest person you have ever seen' is normal, but being with someone 'you are not attracted to' is a terrible way to approach life, and relationships with other people in general.
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Do you really think the only kind of physical attraction to exist is instant?

I’m not knocking it ...instant attraction is powerful and fun and can be absorbing but it’s simple lust and can be as easily stated by fukking and disappear as grow into something stronger

Instant attraction is not all there is...that’s why you’re told to give people you like, but don’t feel it in your loins so to speak, a chance
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post 1541998781 01-27-2018, 10:25 AM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Oh I think it's very common. It's pretty standard dating advice to focus on personality and character instead of physical attraction.

People fear being alone and I think lots of people settle for someone they are not attracted to just to not be alone. Especially women when they get older and want marriage and kids. Then they will start focusing more on other things like if the guy will commit, if he will be stable and loyal, if he will be a good provider or a good dad etc.
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post 1541999541 01-27-2018, 10:33 AM
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Originally Posted By Rabbitjb⏩
Do you really think the only kind of physical attraction to exist is instant?

I’m not knocking it ...instant attraction is powerful and fun and can be absorbing but it’s simple lust and can be as easily stated by fukking and disappear as grow into something stronger

Instant attraction is not all there is...that’s why you’re told to give people you like, but don’t feel it in your loins so to speak, a chance
When you do that your love life will only be OK not incredible.

Unless the other person makes drastic changes. Losing 25lbs after you start dating. Lifting. Fixing teeth ETC.

It's settling.
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post 1541999651 01-27-2018, 10:35 AM
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Originally Posted By TommyRO⏩
Who knew dating was so hard in 2018
It's hard brother. It really is.

I have three first dates between tonight and Tuesday and seeing a regular tomorrow.
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post 1541999941 01-27-2018, 10:38 AM
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Originally Posted By leoslayer1⏩
When you do that your love life will only be OK not incredible.

Unless the other person makes drastic changes. Losing 25lbs after you start dating. Lifting. Fixing teeth ETC.

It's settling.
Sex is 70% mental ..that’s why sex with your oneitis is better even if she’s not the most objectively physically beautiful

Instant lust is not greater than building attraction ...nor is the sex with lust and no feels better than sex that comes with growing attraction necessarily

It’s not settling to give people you don’t automatically drool over a chance
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
lol I don't think that's what she's looking for IRL. Plus, the one she really likes is like a 5-6/10 to me. So if he was just a normal dude walking down the street who's to say he wouldn't be interested in an attractive woman like SS?
That wouldn't be a problem then lolz. Each person can get in a relationship with whomever they want, but there has to be an attraction...whether that is physical, personality, etc. .don't you agree?

I two people who are not compatible get in a relationship or get married just to settle, then that relationship will not last.
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Not looking for lust at all actually. Nor for fireworks or anything spectacular. Just simply attraction. When I go on a first date I judge it by whether I feel like seeing that person again, if I want to get closer or am waiting to get away, and if thinking about touching or kissing them feels good or bad.
I don't know why people have such a hard time understanding this. It's not about lust and fireworks. It also has not as much to do with looks for me. It's an overall feeling of connection. Why would I want to continue seeing someone I don't even want to kiss? If I absolutely don't feel that attraction to even want to kiss someone, it's not going to come about on a 3rd, 5th or 10th date.
Originally Posted By Fang2⏩
That wouldn't be a problem then lolz. Each person can get in a relationship with whomever they want, but there has to be an attraction...whether that is physical, personality, etc. .don't you agree?

I two people who are not compatible get in a relationship or get married just to settle, then that relationship will not last.
Yes, I agree with you. For me it's not all about physical attraction. I have said that a million times heres. I think people assume they know what SS is looking for IRL because of the pics she posts of football players, and assume her standards are too high. I can't say they are, as the guys she finds attractive to me are not that attractive. Just like I'd bet money she'd rate my FWB a 2-3/10 yet to me he's the sexiest man I've ever met. It's not about objective looks.
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Originally Posted By Bigbuster1⏩
Lol at a girl asking a guy out. If he’s interested, he’ll come to you
Not if she doesn't look interested.
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Originally Posted By Rabbitjb⏩
Sex is 70% mental ..that’s why sex with your oneitis is better even if she’s not the most objectively physically beautiful

Instant lust is not greater than building attraction ...nor is the sex with lust and no feels better than sex that comes with growing attraction necessarily

It’s not settling to give people you don’t automatically drool over a chance
And most people seem to forget sex actually gets better over time (if you're with the right person and you're both communicating). That first time with someone, while exciting, is usually awkward comparing the to 2nd, 3rd, etc.

I also find that the more I like someone as a person, the less I notice their physical flaws, and the more endearing I find their quirks. Compatible partners grow into each other. You learn to love one another and get excited to just see that person. With all my previous relationships, whenever I think of them fondly, it's always the experiences I shared with them, moments we had, chilling on the couch rubbing his feet kind of thing. Not "we had mind blowing sex", how good the sex was, is always just an afterthought.
They said she's gone too far this time

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Originally Posted By Rabbitjb⏩
Sex is 70% mental ..that’s why sex with your oneitis is better even if she’s not the most objectively physically beautiful

Instant lust is not greater than building attraction ...nor is the sex with lust and no feels better than sex that comes with growing attraction necessarily

It’s not settling to give people you don’t automatically drool over a chance
You don't have any control over attraction. Noone does. Attraction resides in the human subconscious and being turned on is an automated instinct.

There's no logic to it. There's no making it happen. It's there or it's not.

This is medical and scientific fact. You can't choose to be attracted.
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Yes



Yes I do like younger guys. I've gone out with older ones too but am usually more attracted to younger ones.
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Originally Posted By leoslayer1⏩
You don't have any control over attraction. Noone does. Attraction resides in the human subconscious and being turned on is an automated instinct.

There's no logic to it. There's no making it happen. It's there or it's not.

This is medical and scientific fact. You can't choose to be attracted.
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Originally Posted By leoslayer1⏩
You don't have any control over attraction. Noone does. Attraction resides in the human subconscious and being turned on is an automated instinct.

There's no logic to it. There's no making it happen. It's there or it's not.

This is medical and scientific fact. You can't choose to be attracted.
I’m not saying attraction is a choice, it’s just not necessarily instant.

And once there over time you can choose to be receptive to being turned on. It is seemingly easy in a long term relationship for sex to die it ...at least that’s the constant refrain isn’t it

So there must be a way over time for attraction to remain ...and that does take conscious effort ..in remaining sexually confident and open ...in seeking to feel attracted
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Originally Posted By leoslayer1⏩
You don't have any control over attraction. Noone does. Attraction resides in the human subconscious and being turned on is an automated instinct.

There's no logic to it. There's no making it happen. It's there or it's not.

This is medical and scientific fact. You can't choose to be attracted.
If everyone around you tells you blondes with fair skin are the most attractive eventually you will associate these qualitys with beauty. What your attracted to has a lot to do with your environment. Seems like there is logic to it.
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Originally Posted By halfbreedbrah⏩
If everyone around you tells you blondes with fair skin are the most attractive eventually you will associate these qualitys with beauty. What your attracted to has a lot to do with your environment. Seems like there is logic to it.
Valid point ...what is deemed attractive around the world differs ..its culturally enforced

Esther honig did some photoshop experiment like that
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Originally Posted By halfbreedbrah⏩
If everyone around you tells you blondes with fair skin are the most attractive eventually you will associate these qualitys with beauty. What your attracted to has a lot to do with your environment. Seems like there is logic to it.
Nope it's purely automatic.
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Nope it's purely automatic.
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Originally Posted By Rabbitjb⏩
I’m not saying attraction is a choice, it’s just not necessarily instant.

And once there over time you can choose to be receptive to being turned on. It is seemingly easy in a long term relationship for sex to die it ...at least that’s the constant refrain isn’t it

So there must be a way over time for attraction to remain ...and that does take conscious effort ..in remaining sexually confident and open ...in seeking to feel attracted
There is a difference in keeping attraction alive in a marriage and feeling attraction for some stranger that you are meeting for the first time. Did you not feel attracted to your husband when you first met him? Either physically or mentally or both?
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
There is a difference in keeping attraction alive in a marriage and feeling attraction for some stranger that you are meeting for the first time. Did you not feel attracted to your husband when you first met him? Either physically or mentally or both?
Nope LOL...I’ve spoken about this before, we met via mutual friends and continued to meet over time with no indication of anything ...took one night at a club and dancing with him for that attraction to suddenly appear seemingly out of nowhere
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