this (srs)

OP is good looking though so he'll make it

No
Its not worth being seen as a creep..especially if you know them and see them often and have to keep seeing them.

Thats why ive never askd out a girl

I fear that this is srs

I can confirm that i am too pussie to ask out a girl because shy and scared of rejection. That **** hurts dawg.

Nah fam.

Nowadays it's "let's hang out". That being said I don't think I've heard of anyone go on an actual date in years

No
Its not worth being seen as a creep..especially if you know them and see them often and have to keep seeing them.

Thats why ive never askd out a girl

This.

We're in the age of smartphones and Tinder. A woman will treat you like a huge ******* if you actually try to court her.

Any girl who treats you poorly because you act like a gentleman needs to get ****ed.


You guys need to go outside and talk to girls.

Most women don't even realize that 99% of the time a guy talks to them out of the blue, it is an attempted pickup.

Well misc brahs, do you guys ask out women anymore?

Negative.

man where do you live? i always see people shotgun approaching every girl.

i used to until i learned how to make the most mind-blowing fleshlight out of a subway bag and a towel

Men ask women out on Tinder, social media, etc.

Here's some amazing passages regarding being nervous around girls from the beautiful book, The Alabaster Girl by Zan:

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We are the children of men. We had a father who stood upon this earth… on a battlefield… with a sword in his hands… with the same champion blood coursing through our veins as his…and we’re afraid to talk to that girl over there?

But we are nervous, men say. Of course we are nervous! We are moving out of our comfort zone. This is marvelous, don’t you see? Nothing wonderful is ever accomplished without the willingness to look foolish or risk failure.

What’s so great about comfort? Comfort is what we’ve had our whole life.Disdain comfort!We should always be willing to be nervous, to scare ourselves a little, because nervous energy is the pulse of life. Celebrate nervousness, for it is the life-blood of reckless abandon, of great adventure, of desire manifested into action!

To be nervous andembraceit is amazing. Instead of using nervousness as an excuse to shrink back, a man can use it as a rocket fuel to propel him forward. “Uh… I was standing over there, and I saw you over here, and uh, I’m a little nervous, but I had to come over and say hello. What’s your name?” This will set him apart from all the other men in the world who are living their lives as spectators.

Besides, it is universally endearing to women when a man is a little nervous and doesn’t try to hide it. How many times have I heard this from women? Sure, he might be stumbling over his words a little, but here he is, showing up, leading the dance, speaking his truth. That’s more than most men can say.

What’s more, a women can be a little intimidated by a man who comes across as too smith, too polished, too rehearsed. Why? Because she, too, is a little nervous, a little insecure, and it’s nice to know that he, like her, has a vulnerable side, a human side, and isn’t trying to hide it. Women don’t relate to us because we are cool or perfect or living brilliant lives. They relate to us because we, like them, are scratching our heads every day, trying to figure it all out.

Vulnerability is not weakness. Vulnerability is not wallowing, pathetic, or needy. Vulnerability is authentic. Vulnerability is as masculine as anything else. It takes real strength to feel nervous, to be curious about it, to express it, and then to step forward anyway. This is the verypinnacleof masculinity.

Our body language will naturally follow suit. Men think they need to learn to stand up straighter, to throw their shoulders back, to cock their heads just so. There are all kinds of books on how to adjust our posture and body language but all of that is, for the most part, unnecessary. Our body language is an automatic expression of how we see the world. If a man sees the world with curiosity and wonder in his eyes, his body language will display it. If he loves women and life and is not afraid to show it, he will stand tall, his back will be straight, his chin will be up. If he feels nervous inside but chooses to show up anyway, he might look nervous… but he will also lookalive.


When a man is attracted to a women and he allows the moment to dissipate because of a faltering hesitation, he is letting his fathers down. Now only that, he is also letting women down, all the women in the world. Because… where is he? Women deserve his authentic self, his whole strength, his masculine glory, his messiness, his nervousness, his ridiculousness, his everything. Women deserve him fully present, fully showing up.

When a man approaches a women who draws his heart, well then, no matter how nervous he is and no matter what he says to her, at least he is doing his part. He is doing his job as a man. To be aware that he is nervous and then to step forward anyway is just as much an act of masculinity as his father from the distant past standing on the earth with a sword in his hand. He has discharged his duty as a man. He has earned his right to stand upon the earth.

Woody Allen said that eighty percent of success is just showing up. The problem with modern men is thatwe don’t show up at all. We are invisible on purpose.

The difference between failure and success is not the absence of fear, and the difference between a mediocre life and a grand life is not confidence. The difference is the courage, the willpower, and the discipline to simply show up. Show up. That is all a man can do. That is all a man needs to do. Never underestimate the power of just showing up."

I don't use Tinder often, but if I do, I still prefer to do ask her out over the phone. It's a more human touch that I feel takes off pressure, and displays a lot of confidence. So many guys are scared as fuk just to make that phone call.

However, last Tinder date was a disaster. The girl was hilarious over text and seemed really outgoing but when I called her it was like talking to someone with zero conversational ability. On top of that, during the date it was a disaster because she had no concept of how to carry a conversation.

That's the problem these days; women are so used to talking over the internet/apps and when it comes to real life, they freeze up like autists. Not worth it anymore.


Only time I'll even bother approaching at this point is if I get a very strong indicator of interest and if it's the right situation.. beyond that, **** it.

Oh and just because I don't feel like making a 2nd thread, For those that do ask women out. I'm crushing hard on this nerdy/awkward girl at work that doesn't know how fine she is. Should I stick with my direct approach with this one? I usually don't talk to girls like this one.

I would go indirect with a girl from work.. If you want to do anything with it at all.

Especially with an awkward girl. Ask her out to do something with some plausible deniability built in then go from there.

Stick to direct approach.
You don't fix something that aint broken son.

I feel you on this. I mostly date online, but I like to have at least one phone convo with the sloot before we meet up. My text game is trash, and I don't understand how people can truly communicate by just texting. Who was vocal tonality, laughter, and real-time interaction? I like to hear the girl's voice and feel her vibe before meeting her. It puts me 100% more at ease on the date. I always act like an autisticel if my only prior communication with the girl was via text.

rarely, for me I use it in an environment where I can show off my attributes tho

Approaching girls are a pool party/ lake when the shirt is off feels like fishing with dynamite.