Log In

Your email is not your username

Register

If you were a member of the old Bodybuilding.com forums and would like to reuse your previous username, you can request it below. We use your email only for registration and do not store it. For more information, please see our Privacy Policy.

Confirm your email

A registration code was sent to your email. Enter it here.

Welcome

You have successfully setup your account.

Sign in

Quick Navigation Bottom Misc
Forum » I'm socially inept. How to improve social skills?
  1. Results 31 to 41 of 41
  2. Page 2 of 2
  3. First
  5. 1
  6. 2

Thread: I'm socially inept. How to improve social skills?

post 1542178531 01-29-2018, 09:43 AM
-
#31
  1. RonaldMcflurry
  2. I woke up like dis
  1. RonaldMcflurry
  2. I woke up like dis
  3. Join Date: Jun 2016
  4. Posts: 14,495
  5. Rep Power: 80496
Practice makes perfect. You have to put yourself out there. I find that if you initiate conversation, most of the time people just ramble on and you don't have to say much anyways, especially women.
Nuggets of Wisdom
post 1542179041 01-29-2018, 09:49 AM
-
#32
  1. hbhorat
  2. We're all gona make it
  1. hbhorat
  2. We're all gona make it
  3. Join Date: May 2011
  4. Location: Perth, W.A, Australia
  5. Age: 29
  6. Posts: 6,045
  7. Rep Power: 20603
Originally Posted By MuzzieChik786⏩
There's a podcast out about this. It's "fake it till you become it." I'll have to look it up for you.
Yeah be sure to quote me, or leave a link in my CP hehe ty men.


Also @ OP, maybe read how to win friends and influence people. Not exactly aimed at being shy, but gives you some pointers for things you should do and how to make people like you. Perhaps it'll give you confidence to get out there and talk to strangers knowing that there's a higher chance of them liking you.
"Gotta do what you gotta do in order to be successful"

*Mod changed my sig to "Sig line can't be a novel" even though lots of people have longer sigs crew

*Mod is watching me while I sleep.....

*KENKONGs fan club crew*
post 1542179481 01-29-2018, 09:53 AM
-
#33
  1. MuzzieChik786
  2. Registered User
  1. MuzzieChik786
  2. Registered User
  3. Join Date: Nov 2013
  4. Posts: 28,332
  5. Rep Power: 274026
Originally Posted By hbhorat⏩
Yeah be sure to quote me, or leave a link in my CP hehe ty men.


Also @ OP, maybe read how to win friends and influence people. Not exactly aimed at being shy, but gives you some pointers for things you should do and how to make people like you. Perhaps it'll give you confidence to get out there and talk to strangers knowing that there's a higher chance of them liking you.
Here you go, it's a TEDTalk - 17:30 is where it becomes relevant to "fake it till you become it."

Opie - watch this video - it's all about body language and the impression you're putting out there:

https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_...es_who_you_are
Thus let me live, unseen, unknown;
Thus unlamented let me die;
Steal from the world, and not a stone
Tell where I lie.

2/17/15 - Dunk Tank Results: 15% bf (Omron said 18.6%) - 123.4 lbs LBM
post 1542179911 01-29-2018, 09:58 AM
-
#34
  1. SquidwardT
  2. Banned
  1. SquidwardT
  2. Banned
  3. Join Date: Nov 2013
  4. Age: 31
  5. Posts: 862
  6. Rep Power: 0
go to the ymca and go play ball with some randoms or do an MMA related sport ie bjj where you're forced to interact with others.
post 1542180261 01-29-2018, 10:02 AM
-
#35
  1. cannonballdooky
  2. Registered Bag of Milk
  1. cannonballdooky
  2. Registered Bag of Milk
  3. Join Date: May 2012
  4. Posts: 5,940
  5. Rep Power: 8708
Sounds cliche but just keep working on it.

I'm in the same boat, I generally do ok in forced interactions, but it's hard to be interesting to a stranger.

I try smiling and saying hi to random people. Sometimes even try talking to a girl who you don't find very attractive just for practice and just see what kinds of things work. Just pretend all people are the same and talk to them like normal people, don't put them on a pedestol.
*HTC* crew
Looks ok in tank top, looks like a bag of milk shirtless crew
Ariel Winter's future husband
post 1542187091 01-29-2018, 11:08 AM
-
#36
  1. Bownage666
  2. Registered User
  1. Bownage666
  2. Registered User
  3. Join Date: May 2017
  4. Age: 37
  5. Posts: 720
  6. Rep Power: 1867
Originally Posted By Sanguivorant⏩
I often feel like I have nothing of worth to offer in a conversation so it makes me inhibited.
True for most people, minus the conclusion. Realize this and just talk chit like the others do.
check yo self before you fist yo self
post 1542188041 01-29-2018, 11:16 AM
-
#37
  1. rockr101
  2. Certified Tyrone
  1. rockr101
  2. Certified Tyrone
  3. Join Date: Nov 2011
  4. Posts: 11,411
  5. Rep Power: 23688
they got rid of imbored and now u take his place
{\_/}
( - .-)
/=>🎧
post 1542188281 01-29-2018, 11:19 AM
-
#38
  1. Slimbibbidy
  2. Registered User
  1. Slimbibbidy
  2. Registered User
  3. Join Date: Dec 2017
  4. Age: 38
  5. Posts: 264
  6. Rep Power: 528
Just be confident.






That really helped, didn't it?
I lost my chit.
post 1542188661 01-29-2018, 11:23 AM
-
#39
  1. JIGSAW
  2. I want to play a game...
  1. JIGSAW
  2. I want to play a game...
  3. Join Date: Jan 2007
  4. Location: United States
  5. Posts: 32,951
  6. Rep Power: 169411
go to the airport...........go walk around....make small talk with 20 people.....go home.

do it again the next day......
I walk amongst you.......but I am not one of you.
post 1542189791 01-29-2018, 11:31 AM
-
#40
  1. Holyfenix
  2. Registered User
  1. Holyfenix
  2. Registered User
  3. Join Date: Jun 2014
  4. Location: California, United States
  5. Age: 36
  6. Posts: 8,018
  7. Rep Power: 55892
Have you tried beer?
*Updated* If you can't hit a 320 yard drive, are you even a man?
post 1542190431 01-29-2018, 11:35 AM
-
#41
  1. ShabbaLife
  2. Registered User
  1. ShabbaLife
  2. Registered User
  3. Join Date: Nov 2014
  4. Age: 34
  5. Posts: 1,644
  6. Rep Power: 1800
Originally Posted By Sanguivorant⏩
I feel like the only time conversation flows freely for ke is when the relationship between me and the person I'm talking to is made clear eg. Professor and student, doctor and patient, seller and client.

In social situations where my relation to the other person is more ambiguous, I find it hard to talk smoothly like I see other people do all the time. When I try to socialize I usually get one phrase responses or one word answers, then I realize I'm making the other person uncomfortable and leave them alone.

The only people I feel comfortable talking to are childhood friends or guys who have autism, because either they tolerate my social awkwardness or are more honest with me in their interactions.

I was homeschooled for a time growing up and moved to three different countries, each having different social customs, cultures, etc. I'm embarrassed to admit it but most of my socializing growing up was done through Internet forums.


I often feel like I have nothing of worth to offer in a conversation so it makes me inhibited.

I have read the book "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie and while it has helped plenty I still feel like I'm missing something.

I'm at a loss of how to fix this problem. What do I do?
Delete bb.com account and go nomisc.
Natty soyprince
Quick Navigation Top Misc
Bookmarks
Digg.com
Digg
del.icio.us
del.icio.us
Stumbleupon.com
StumbleUpon
Google.com
Google
Facebook.com
Facebook
Posting Permissions
  1. You may not post new threads
  2. You may not post replies
  3. You may not post attachments
  4. You may not edit your posts