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post 1573034611 02-06-2019, 01:34 PM
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Stop relying on the internet. Ask someone you have regular interactions with on a weekly basis if they wanna grab a drink. An out of the blue message from a guy I barely know would freak me out, and I'd think he wanted my booty.
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Originally Posted By PTzFree⏩
You sound like a guy who washes his hands after he pees at the gym every single time without forgetting hygiene even for a second
I have hand washing dyslexia I think, many times I wash my hands and then I pee. Sometimes I will wash my hands again after I pee but most of the time I figure the wash from before the pee had to be about good enough..
post 1573034751 02-06-2019, 01:36 PM
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Originally Posted By PTzFree⏩
You sound like a guy who washes his hands after he pees at the gym every single time without forgetting hygiene even for a second
You're going to make me cry.
post 1573034871 02-06-2019, 01:38 PM
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The fact that you suspect you have asperger's combined with your history of having problems making friends combined with your propensity to tell edgy inappropriate jokes which is something aspies love to do tells me you might actually have it and it might be worthwhile for you to see a specialist to determine if you have it or not.

So much of friendship and socializing is overrated anyways. There are very few people that have the character and intelligence that make for good friends.
post 1573035011 02-06-2019, 01:39 PM
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Put on some weight, breh.

Srs question, are you incel looking?

I would work on improving hair style, facial hair and style.

And don't masturbate too much. You will smell like a cum rag that's been sitting under a bed in a room with 98% humidity for 6 months.
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post 1573035421 02-06-2019, 01:43 PM
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Originally Posted By johnnydeep1⏩
How else can I ask them to hangout (srs. I am pretty socially fuked up)
I would suggest not contacting people you probably barely spoke to before, out of the blue. If you share interests, its easy enough to be like "bro, lets grab a drink and catch the game" or something like that.
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post 1573035741 02-06-2019, 01:47 PM
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Originally Posted By aleeboy⏩
Put on some weight, breh.

Srs question, are you incel looking?

I would work on improving hair style, facial hair and style.

And don't masturbate too much. You will smell like a cum rag that's been sitting under a bed in a room with 98% humidity for 6 months.
This is actually a good question. I really don't know.

I am 24 now and I got girls until I was 20. I used to get hit on all the time. Very attractive, slim girls would ask me out to dance, study etc. Even my 30-year old blonde Counselor in the 12th grade asked me to study with her(like an idiot I said no, because I had social anxiety) and commented on my hair cut. I have no idea why I can't get laid in the past 4.5 years but got so much attention in H.S and middle school. Girls used to have "crushes" on me in elementary as well. Never after grade school though. I thought it may be my personality, but now I am more talkative and have college degrees. Before (when girls actually liked me) I used to act like a complete weirdo. I would say i'm normal personality wise now. I thought it may of been my weight (I used to be 5'10 and 170 lbs) so I cut down to 162 lbs. (slim and muscular) and girls still don't like me. I looked at old H.S year books, my old drivers licence, some old FB pictures and still I see no difference between my appearance now and back then.
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post 1573035841 02-06-2019, 01:48 PM
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Originally Posted By RainingBlood⏩
When I had issues with anxiety and panic attacks, I sought out a psychologist and made it clear I wanted to start cognitive behavioral therapy prior to starting any medications. He would've referred me to an in-house Psychiatrist for medications.
How'd that work out for you?
Originally Posted By Muzzlrpress⏩
Stop relying on the internet. Ask someone you have regular interactions with on a weekly basis if they wanna grab a drink. An out of the blue message from a guy I barely know would freak me out, and I'd think he wanted my booty.
Pretty much this.

Read this book OP.



Then watch the classic movie "What About Bob?"



If you're 23 years old asking these kinds of questions, son smack piss son...
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post 1573036111 02-06-2019, 01:51 PM
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Originally Posted By jeshelton⏩
How'd that work out for you?



Pretty much this.

Read this book OP.



Then watch the classic movie "What About Bob?"



If you're 23 years old asking these kinds of questions, son smack piss son...
Thank you for the book suggestion. I'll look into it.
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post 1573037791 02-06-2019, 02:16 PM
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Originally Posted By RainingBlood⏩
What field do you work in where you know this? Please tell me about your experiences and what you've determined to be a "real problem", doctor.

While we're at it, don't try to flex your masculinity in here, tough guy. Different people deal with different things, and just because you think it's "gay stuff" doesn't make it so. It clearly means a lot to the OP and it bothers him enough to make a post. You don't know his past, so don't try to downplay his feelings. Stop contributing to the stigma of mental health.

I highly recommend not speaking on things you don't know about before you embarrass yourself even more.
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post 1573038471 02-06-2019, 02:27 PM
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someone one already said it, you just can't give a phuck. invest in yourself, you reek of desperation brah.
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post 1573038781 02-06-2019, 02:30 PM
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Op, to have a friend you have to be a friend.

I told my son this. It may sound like a pithy maxim but it worked for him.
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post 1573040061 02-06-2019, 02:48 PM
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join the boy scouts you can make tons of friends there
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post 1573042121 02-06-2019, 03:18 PM
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Originally Posted By MEDITATE⏩
join the boy scouts you can make tons of friends there
yeah
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post 1573042411 02-06-2019, 03:23 PM
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You should have asked them to go for a Pumpkin Spice Latte. *******s love that ****. *******
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post 1573042941 02-06-2019, 03:33 PM
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They honestly probably thought you were gay and trying to come on to them.

Why don't you get a new hobby that involved some people interaction? Sign up for a co-ed sports league. Start playing pokemon go and join a meetup. Seriously there are a **** ton of people that play that stupid game lol. Go to a music festival. even if you go by yourself you might make some friends. if you want to be bold make a sign tht says "here by myself, looking for friends and hugs". (serious, ive seen it work. just don't be a f*ckin weirdo).

You don't need a Psychologist or Psychiatrist, you need a life coach.
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post 1573043271 02-06-2019, 03:39 PM
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I'd be your friend OP but you are red if that helps
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post 1573044741 02-06-2019, 04:01 PM
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Op’s story was my life story all through high school and college. I think I should write a self help book. It wasnt easy to come out of it but it was worth it.

How? In a nutshell:
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post 1573048381 02-06-2019, 05:07 PM
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Originally Posted By GravityLee⏩
Op’s story was my life story all through high school and college. I think I should write a self help book. It wasnt easy to come out of it but it was worth it.

How? In a nutshell:
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Very nice. I may try the self help stuff.
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post 1573048591 02-06-2019, 05:11 PM
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Originally Posted By johnnydeep1⏩
Thanks for the advice buddy.
Should get your TDS checked out, too. Srs.

Ask him why you cant understand that people voted for Trump. Others have done this.

Btw. fukking LOL @ another beta thread. Cot Dayum how does the misc get these? Not mad, entertained.
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post 1573048681 02-06-2019, 05:12 PM
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Anyone else feel this way? Besides online, pretty much everyone I know doesn't have this issue.
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post 1573048731 02-06-2019, 05:13 PM
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Originally Posted By BullittEV⏩
Should get your TDS checked out, too. Srs.

Ask him why you cant understand that people voted for Trump. Others have done this.

Btw. fukking LOL @ another beta thread. Cot Dayum how does the misc get these? Not mad, entertained.
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The book jeshelton posted ( Dale Carnegie’s How To Win Friends And Influence People) changed my life. I recommend reading it AND listening to it at least 4 times. Its important you both read it and listen to it. The human brain processes information differently based on if its from sight or hearing. In other words some things will become a permanent part of your memory from hearing it, some from reading it, because a sentence can be more or less impressionable based on the format.
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It's tough after college. There is only one thing you can do. You have to move to the hottest part in your city by all the bars. Then go out a lot. You'll make friends.
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Originally Posted By GravityLee⏩
The book jeshelton posted ( Dale Carnegie’s How To Win Friends And Influence People) changed my life. I recommend reading it AND listening to it at least 4 times. Its important you both read it and listen to it. The human brain processes information differently based on if its from sight or hearing. In other words some things will become a permanent part of your memory from hearing it, some from reading it, because a sentence can be more or less impressionable based on the format.
WOW. Thanks. Just ordered it off Amazon.
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You're awkward so talk less and listen more. Maybe then you'll be able pick up on social etiquette.
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lol'd at being mid 20's and actually asking another mid 20's guy if he wanted to meet for a coffee. I would immediately think you were trying to get a toe in the door to put your dink in my Angus. what kind of "guy" activity is meeting for coffee?

ask him to grab a beer and watch a basketball, hockey, or English premier league soccer game. ask him if he wants to check out a live concert/show. ask him if he wants to meet at a hookah bar that has an instagram you saw "had some hot chicks that visit often".

why are miscers so fuking awkward and then shocked they're FA
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Originally Posted By lucrative⏩
It's tough after college. There is only one thing you can do. You have to move to the hottest part in your city by all the bars. Then go out a lot. You'll make friends.
Talking to males is pretty much pointless. Almost no male will actually want to hangout with me. The percent is like around 5%. I would say that about 1 in 5 females seem interested in me OR would talk/handout with me. Sadly, many of those females are obese or utterly ugly. I've actually run a quick statistical analysis of the pct. of females and males who would want to talk or hangout with me and that seems to be the case. It would be smarter for me to try to talk to females because the chances of them wanting to hangout seems much greater. Trying to get male friends seems next to impossible.

The problem with talking to women is that rejection hurts much more, and its difficult to hangout with an obese or very unattractive female because I would rather not hook up(average ,slightly overweight, slightly below average, sure, just not VERY ugly or obese)
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Originally Posted By W1LLW⏩
lol'd at being mid 20's and actually asking another mid 20's guy if he wanted to meet for a coffee. I would immediately think you were trying to get a toe in the door to put your dink in my Angus. what kind of "guy" activity is meeting for coffee?

ask him to grab a beer and watch a basketball, hockey, or English premier league soccer game. ask him if he wants to check out a live concert/show. ask him if he wants to meet at a hookah bar that has an instagram you saw "had some hot chicks that visit often".

why are miscers so fuking awkward and then shocked they're FA
True, I should of just asked him that. Too late now.
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