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Originally Posted By anonkunbrah
I stopped doing it because overall, it was more beneficial to women than myself. More often than not, I will get rejected and she will get a self esteem boost from the encounter. So I don't see the point.
this. only if girls hit on me these days or make it obvious
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post 1605111141 05-16-2020, 09:00 PM
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Originally Posted By Aristotelian
They do, but far more likely for higher tier women. It's so easy to use dating apps to get laid that the question is: why go out of your way to cold approach now?

It still happens of course - I know plenty of women for whom it is a reasonably regular occurrence. If it is a decent approach, these women actually like it - because higher tier women don't really use dating apps anyway. And it takes far more effort than a swipe, angle photos, and a cheesy pickup line guys read off reddit or whatever the f*ck.
I don't mind being cold approached and can't really say anyone has been really creepy. I also don't consider guys I don't find attractive to be creepy by default like a lot of women do. Since I don't use dating apps, it's def preferable. I really wish guys at the gym would talk to me. Now that I'm not working with my trainer and solo at the gym (for about a month or two before shut down) I'm hoping maybe someone will. If the gyms ever open that is.

Every time I tell a guy who knows me IRL that I rarely get approached they are shocked and don't believe me.
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post 1605111311 05-16-2020, 09:03 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks
Some female miscers said they get approached a lot though. I think Caldef and maybe Trinnie and not sure who else.

And one said she gets catcalled and whistled at etc but don’t remember who that was. But yeah that type of approach is highly dependent on neighborhood. Can’t imagine anyone whistling/catcalling in my area.
Probably also depends how friendly you look? I don't think our introvert death stare helps.
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Originally Posted By Legz422
I don't mind being cold approached and can't really say anyone has been really creepy. I also don't consider guys I don't find attractive to be creepy by default like a lot of women do. Since I don't use dating apps, it's def preferable. I really wish guys at the gym would talk to me. Now that I'm not working with my trainer and solo at the gym (for about a month or two before shut down) I'm hoping maybe someone will. If the gyms ever open that is.

Every time I tell a guy who knows me IRL that I rarely get approached they are shocked and don't believe me.
put in a little effort

i know chicks dont really like approaching. but i mean.. just nudge it a bit. i think a lot of guys aren't confident enough to take the signs and run with them. i guess im not really speaking toward the 40+ crowd though
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Some retard negged me again

If cold approach happens then prove it. I'm tired of asking.
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approaches women crew

day time or night time.

I dont care just get over your Anxiety. Most of my lays are from approaching and the rest social circle.
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Originally Posted By eod8989
Some retard negged me again

If cold approach happens then prove it. I'm tired of asking.
what is the distinct difference between "cold approach" and meeting someone?

i assume youre going to say something about social circle here. but you dont think anybody has ever met someone not from their social circle?

i bet you live nowhere near a beach
post 1605111691 05-16-2020, 09:09 PM
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Originally Posted By Legz422
I don't mind being cold approached and can't really say anyone has been really creepy. I also don't consider guys I don't find attractive to be creepy by default like a lot of women do. Since I don't use dating apps, it's def preferable. I really wish guys at the gym would talk to me. Now that I'm not working with my trainer and solo at the gym (for about a month or two before shut down) I'm hoping maybe someone will. If the gyms ever open that is.

Every time I tell a guy who knows me IRL that I rarely get approached they are shocked and don't believe me.
Is there a possibility that they think you must be married (given your age)? I mean, first: most guys I know want to get in the gym and train like crazy and get out (either going before work or during lunch break); then second: the fitter women - this may be a guy thing - men pretty often assume they are 'taken' in some way.

Do you have hobbies outside the gym? Ever go sit in a cafe and read a book, etc? Gyms seem a bit 'tricky' in the broader sense - I barely see cold approaches there at all.
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Originally Posted By propreffered7
put in a little effort

i know chicks dont really like approaching. but i mean.. just nudge it a bit. i think a lot of guys aren't confident enough to take the signs and run with them. i guess im not really speaking toward the 40+ crowd though
I'm really shy IRL though. Srs. It's really hard for me to talk to guys I think are cute first. I freeze up. It's something I've been trying to work on and there's a handsome guy in my building that I always say hi to now. Trust me, that's a big improvement. lol
Originally Posted By Aristotelian
Is there a possibility that they think you must be married (given your age)? I mean, first: most guys I know want to get in the gym and train like crazy and get out (either going before work or during lunch break); then second: the fitter women - this may be a guy thing - men pretty often assume they are 'taken' in some way.

Do you have hobbies outside the gym? Ever go sit in a cafe and read a book, etc? Gyms seem a bit 'tricky' in the broader sense - I barely see cold approaches there at all.
Yeah, the guys I've talked to about it say that guys prob assume I'm taken. My FWB has said they're probably scared of getting rejected. He says they're idiots for not hitting on me. lol

Well, I volunteered for a dog rescue for years and came into contact with lots of guys. I had a few that liked me but I wasn't into them. I do not go sit alone at places. lol I've only gone out to eat alone maybe once or twice, ever.
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Originally Posted By Cass40
Pretty much this. It happens rarely.

Also, it wasn't that much more when I was younger. It also depends where you are and what kind of neighborhood etc.
that is BS. If your an average girl, you would have lots of guys giving you IOI's. Lots of women dont realize when a guy is showing interest.




A straight up day approach is rare and only puas do it.
post 1605111851 05-16-2020, 09:12 PM
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Originally Posted By eod8989
Someretardnegged me again

If cold approach happens then prove it. I'm tired of asking.
Some retard didn't read the thread again. Here's what you said, retard:
Originally Posted By eod8989
Does not happen in the metoo era
Here is post #2 from this thread, retard:
Originally Posted By Silencespeaks
Some female miscers have said they do but I very rarely get approached. Maybe a few times a year. Last time I recall was at the gym months ago way before COVID.
It does happen. See, retard?

Before throwing around words like "retard", retard, how about reading what the women on this forum write instead of just repeating your garbage over and over again?
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Originally Posted By Legz422
I'm really shy IRL though. Srs. It's really hard for me to talk to guys I think are cute first. I freeze up. It's something I've been trying to work on and there's a handsome guy in my building that I always say hi to now. Trust me, that's a big improvement. lol
nice, i hear you. you dont have to be super blatant in convo

but i mean.. if you walk from out of nowhere, place yourself near them and start a convo for like 2 days in a row, he should get the hint. just basic conversation

as a female should be easy, but guys have to be more direct
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Originally Posted By winston89418
that is BS. If your an average girl, you would have lots of guys giving you IOI's. Lots of women dont realize when a guy is showing interest.



A straight up day approach is rare and only puas do it.
if you’re not a chad it doesn’t count
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Originally Posted By propreffered7
what is the distinct difference between "cold approach" and meeting someone?

i assume youre going to say something about social circle here. but you dont think anybody has ever met someone not from their social circle?

i bet you live nowhere near a beach
People drink on the beach, that doesn't count

There has to be proof of cold approach happening and actually being effective

Where is it?
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I can not even go to a supermarket without getting approached
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i don't really do 'nights out' that much and thats where most approaching happens. last time i was stopped in the middle of the day was when i was in copenhagen in february, he was nice but i wasn't that attracted to him. before that it was december in the train station, so i don't get it a lot but it's still always super flatteringsometimes i can see some guys looking at me but they don't do anything
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Originally Posted By eod8989
People drink on the beach, that doesn't count

There has to be proof of cold approach happening and actually being effective

Where is it?
all the time man. i guess i shouldn't have said the beach part. i just figured you prob weren't near a beach considering i went not too long ago and some chicks from boston just sat next to me and started convo

what proof do you want or are you looking for in regard to how it works? again, are you insinuating people never meet other people from outside their social circle? i have a text convo from a girl i met in class a long time ago. i had never known her before. i took her home in my car and i wasn't in a good spot so i never did anything. had her number from that long ago, was talking to a friend when she came up and as a bet i said i could bang her.

i think i could have but that friday night i just didn't follow up on it. recently, i didn't get the girls from bostons number cause they were from boston and im from florida so i dont care
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ive approached more girls than 95% of the dudes here.

When I started it was awkward and I was bad. But after you get rid of your anxiety it becomes fun. You control your destiny on what girls you bang, kinda like swiping on tinder. Lots of girls become flattered even if they are not attracted to you.

of course I had complete blow outs with girls but I just troll them and its fun

I have banged so many girls and I would recommend to any guy.
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always see black guys cold approaching. they have no fear and dont give a fuk if they get rejected.
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Originally Posted By winston89418
ive approached more girls than 95% of the dudes here.

When I started it was awkward and I was bad. But after you get rid of your anxiety it becomes fun. You control your destiny on what girls you bang, kinda like swiping on tinder. Lots of girls become flattered even if they are not attracted to you.

of course I had complete blow outs with girls but I just troll them and its fun

I have banged so many girls and I would recommend to any guy.
How quick do you hit 'em with a black jesus copypasta or ask if they like daggers?
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Originally Posted By winston89418
of course I had complete blow outs with girls but I just troll them and its fun
exactly. and that's when the fear is broken.

cause it happens and you realize it's all good, there are tons of chicks out there, and the next ones have no clue . for instance, on a night out girls from one club have no clue about anything regarding anything happening at the next club

i tell dudes that all the time, but they can't get rid of their initial fear. it takes getting embarrassed
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Originally Posted By ErnieMccracken
How quick do you hit 'em with a black jesus copypasta or ask if they like daggers?
I have my own copy pasta but its corny AF. also depends what type of girl. If they are western, I have different lines.


I approached a lot of fob asians (koreans/japs) and you talk to them completely different. They are super easy lays for white guys.

Spanish girls are tough for me. Lots of brazilians/mexicans flake like crazy. White girls have good personalities but always feels like they have lots of options. But not gonna lie I approach lots of asians because they are easy for me. I dont want to work hard.
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also lol if you only use online game and not real life. I have never used online before. Phuck that
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Originally Posted By TugOfPeace
51 years old with a FWB...?
Oh FFS. How many times do I have to explain this. He's long distance and I don't get to see him often. So not a bf and I don't know what else to refer to him as here. Maybe I should just start saying "my man". lol
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Originally Posted By Legz422
Oh FFS. How many times do I have to explain this. He's long distance and I don't get to see him often. So not a bf and I don't know what else to refer to him as here. Maybe I should just start saying "my man". lol
"A guy who creampies me on occasion" will work
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Originally Posted By Legz422
Oh FFS. How many times do I have to explain this. He's long distance and I don't get to see him often. So not a bf and I don't know what else to refer to him as here. Maybe I should just start saying "my man". lol
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