Honestly? I wouldn't change a thing - even with all the chit I went through.

Age: 40, checking in.

My advice is to try and make what you love to do into a career even if you’re broke for a while. Also, don’t get into debt.

Early 20s - have all the fun and make all the dumb decisions that won't financially ruin you or grant you a criminal record.

Mid 20s - You def want to be getting started in the career you believe is going to take you into your 30s and 40s

Late 20 - "Old enough to know better. Young enough to do it anyway"


The TLDR of most of this stuff is have fun BUT you realllllllllllllllly want to be setting yourself up for success. As an early 30s brah theONLYthing that keeps me happy with life is that my credit score is great, my finances are great, and my health is great. I actually quite hate swallowing the black pill of realizing i'm no longer an invincible 25 year old stallion. However, i don't have any regrets cause i travelled a ton and set my finances up in a way where I don't have any debt.

Other things I've noticed:

- Even the chaddiest of bachelors that have their pick of women in early/mid 20s decide to settle down IF their career doesn't send them to that remote work 150k+ a year time.

- The hardest concept I had to grasp was that you likely will not settle down with the hottest woman you've ever fuked. Some old 40cel told me that when i was 24 and i laughed in his face cause i thought he was jelly. no he was right. I've got a couple 10s under my belt but they were almost always the worst humans. You want to shoot for that 7 or 8 that you like being around even if you're not fuking.

- Believe it or not, as you progress to 30.... 31.... 32... slaying randoms gets less and less gratifying. Even if they are hot. You start to value being around someone that makes you laugh, someone you can take out to dinner and not feel like "shes using me for the free meal" etc. etc. Even if you don't get married, having an attractive partner in crime is substantially more gratifying than bringing home random skanks.

Learn how to looksmax early on.
Don't ignore red flags in women and hope they'll change once they mature.
Take your health seriously. Be active. Keep playing sports you enjoy.
Know the friends and family you have with values that align with your own and keep them close.

Travel everywhere you want to go. Don't even think about it, just do it.

Network. Look out for your family. Focus on making money from investments ASAP. It seriously changes your brain to see the material investments growing in your favour, no matter what else you think you know.

Low expectations help. No one is special, just mogging and staying out of trouble.

You are not above biology. Take care of yourself well, respect seniority, politics, etc.

It's easier the younger you are. Due diligence to stay out of trouble. (Do not tell anyone about your bank account(s), security cameras, good insurance, social backup to check people. Get anything important in writing.)

Also, learn self-defence. Only place you cannot use your intuition because your senses become overwhelmed in the moment. Know ahead of time what to do, and practice the muscle memory. [Simple strategy: avoid dangerous situations, escape, and use range weapons to escape if you must.]

Do whatever it takes.

I went back and finished my grad in my 30’s that I should of finished in my twenties. So don’t wait.

fuk it


Save money early
Invest money early
try hard to stay out of serious debt (debt makes you a slave)
Don't get married young (fuking idiots)
Don't knock up women young (dummies)
Get an education in something that will be in high demand.
Start a Roth IRA early as possible.
Don't get out of control with booze/drugs/sex/etc

Stop caring so much about things that don't matter..it's not that serious.

Spend a little less time partying, maybe a bit more time hustlin'

Oh and treat people better, there's no need to be an ass 👍

Save money (better yet, invest it)
Eliminate debt, especially credit cards
Travel (I understand this kind of conflicts with the previous two but just do your best I guess)
Don't go too crazy with alcohol
Looksmax--lift, diet, skincare, etc
Don't chase girls, let them chase you

do not stop working out, accept no bullshiit or shiitty people, try to start your own side hustle or business, put 100% into 401k

Also, don't speak like a ghetto DJ "spitting" remixes

Man speaks the truth. But at the same time I am NOT settling for a subpar mate. I’ll be banging sloots until I find that one girl that’s worthy. I’d rather be 30 and single than be with a toxic western piece of trash

My advice would be the following:

Marry a sloth before she turns 25...don't wait for the "next best thing" because there is no such thing. Dating in your 30's is a literal cesspool.

Invest every dime you can into your investment accounts, real estate, and a roth IRA. Educate yourself about compounding interest, as well as investing. Read the millionaire next door.

Buy a home...real estate is important. Don't piss your money away on an apartment making someone else wealthy. My home has appreciated over 100k since i bought it when i was 24.

Listen to your heart...pursue a passion...it makes work that much more enjoyable. Life isn't all about acquiring a 10/10 chick and a lambo...learn contenetment and embrace what truly makes you happy. Try to turn that into a side hustle or a career.

DONT BE LAZY. Consistency is key in every aspect of life if you want to become a success.

STAY OUT OF DEBT! If i had every penny i pissed away on cars/jeeps/trucks/women/liquor etc, i would have a very nice paid for home, or a rental home. Debt is your enemy...don't buy chit just to stunt because there is always gonna be someone with more chit than you. Live within your means.

Wondering what 30+ers think of long distance relationships... Is it a waste of time?

I really want to get back with my ex but we broke up because of the distance. She is honestly one of the nicest/sweetest people I've ever met in my life.

Maybe I should just focus on making money and if it happens again, it happens?

Does this include student loans? My family is broke as **** and the only way to go to school is getting a loan

Go to a community college for your first 2 years, work 40 hours a week, and hustle bro. I did this and graduated with a civil engineering degree, and no debt. It just takes longer than 4 years to achieve. GL man

consistency in the gym, even if only 2-3x a week, it'll build a foundation.

also, do more cardio. strength sticks around for a long time, cardio/endurance/conditioning doesn't

No ragrats for the most part. (29 early next year)

Spent too much on meals out and alcohol
Wouldve started my own company earlier (started 25/26, wouldve started 20-21)
Would've travelled more than I did before I bought a dog (and as much as I love him, wouldve bought a dog once I had kids, not earlier)
Would've doubled down on working harder/sooner + Saving more.
Try to be more patient with people and sympathetic.
Never take foot off the pedal with diet or training. 20s are the easiest decade to look the best.

30

Wish I would've banged more sloots, didn't pop the cherry until after college and had a few good years before settling down. I look back at HS and college with regret. I really had to work hard to be able to do it though, it never came anywhere near natural for me.

In some sense I wish I would've travelled more or done more things like that. But I really did about all I could've done with my work situation. Already maximized my time off. So I guess this isn't really a regret.

The number one thing I'm glad I did, and I would choose this above #1 and #2 although they aren't mutually exclusive, is stack money. Been making a killing in software and should be able to at least semi retire by mid 30s which opens up so many possibilities.

All in all, you regret **** that you don't do more than what you do. Just don't **** up and do something that screws you like stupid debt, dumb degrees, kids before you afford, bad wife, felonies, not building towards financial freedom early, etc

I wished I traveled a bit more, and maybe not wait so long before I established a solid career

Other than that it was still pretty awesome