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post 1621906331 11-07-2020, 07:53 PM
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Originally Posted By JaymzJ⏩
Which is different than choosing to have confidence or not.
Not mine but the below sums it up.
“ True confidence is a feeling of self-assurance that is grounded in an authentic experience of our own ability, perspective and sufficiency. It's a stable connection to the fact that we can do what we want to do, feel how we want to feel, and be who we want to be in this world.”
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Originally Posted By FA*******⏩
I can choose to think I can dunk on Bron. What difference does it make? I can't dunk on Bron. If I act like I can dunk on Bron, people will see me as a fool.

Like Omnivium says: confidence comes from experience and success. You've done something. You know you can do something. You can do it again. It's not "choosing" to groundlessly gas yourself up, that's just narcissism.
You're still not getting it.

Confidence is the act. You're not choosing delusion.

I can wake up tomorrow and choose to walk around confident and be self assured in who I am. That's the definition of confidence. Confidence is the action itself, not the action of delusion.

What you choose to do with it is not the idea of choosing to be confident.
post 1621906601 11-07-2020, 07:55 PM
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Originally Posted By oneanddone2⏩
Not mine but the below sums it up.
“ True confidence is a feeling of self-assurance that is grounded in an authentic experience of our own ability, perspective and sufficiency. It's a stable connection to the fact that we can do what we want to do, feel how we want to feel, and be who we want to be in this world.”
True, you can choose to feel self assured or not
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post 1621906991 11-07-2020, 07:59 PM
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Originally Posted By FrankGrimes29⏩
You're still not getting it.

Confidence is the act. You're not choosing delusion.

I can wake up tomorrow and choose to walk around confident and be self assured in who I am. That's the definition of confidence. Confidence is the action itself, not the action of delusion.

What you choose to do with it is not the idea of choosing to be confident.
So I can choose to feel self-assured while I get reked by King James. Gotchu. Pretty sure I won't feel so assured when he's putting the ball in with his frickin dink.
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post 1621907181 11-07-2020, 08:00 PM
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Originally Posted By oneanddone2⏩
Not mine but the below sums it up.
“ True confidence is a feeling of self-assurance that isgrounded in an authentic experience of our own ability, perspective and sufficiency. It's a stable connection to the fact that we can do what we want to do, feel how we want to feel, and be who we want to be in this world.”
Bolded for y'all to reread.
Originally Posted By Destor⏩
Unfounded confidence is called delusion. You can definitely choose to be delusional, although it comes naturally to some people
Reread this while you're at it.
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post 1621907221 11-07-2020, 08:00 PM
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Originally Posted By FA*******⏩
So I can choose to feel self-assured while I get reked by King James. Gotchu. Pretty sure I won't feel so assured when he's putting the ball in with his frickin dink.
You can but that wouldn’t be too bright... would it?
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post 1621907261 11-07-2020, 08:01 PM
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Originally Posted By FA*******⏩
So I can choose to feel self-assured while I get reked by King James. Gotchu. Pretty sure I won't feel so assured when he's putting the ball in with his frickin dink.
There is a fine line between being confident and being cocky.
post 1621907351 11-07-2020, 08:02 PM
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Originally Posted By JaymzJ⏩
You can but that wouldn’t be too bright... would it?
So what determines "bright" or "right", vs "wrong"?

Prior experience. It's been said a dozen times ITT.
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post 1621907561 11-07-2020, 08:03 PM
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I have lost confidence these last few years. If you can lose it, you can gain it.
post 1621907721 11-07-2020, 08:04 PM
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Disagree


Confidence is a foundation that has to be built.


Someone who just chooses to be confident without having walked any kind of rightous path towards it is what is known as cokky.
post 1621908031 11-07-2020, 08:06 PM
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Originally Posted By FA*******⏩
So what determines "bright" or "right", vs "wrong"?

Prior experience. It's been said a dozen times ITT.
That’s a whole other topic. Knowing right from wrong involves having your perceptive powers trained, God’s word, the bible can greatly help with that.

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post 1621908641 11-07-2020, 08:12 PM
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Originally Posted By PISTELERO⏩
Disagree


Confidence is a foundation that has to be built.


Someone who just chooses to be confident without having walked any kind of rightous path towards it is what is known as cokky.
So it's cocky to be confident in yourself? Why?

It's cocky to be confident that you can win in a fight as 5'10 120lb fruitcake vs. a trained fighter that is 6'2 240lbs.

But to have the mentality of confidence is a choice and isn't cocky. So because I failed at picking up 20 chicks so I can't be confident in myself?

Do you guys see the difference here?
post 1621908791 11-07-2020, 08:14 PM
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5'2 indian manlet as confident as 6'2 chad? Not happening. Its all genetics + environment.
post 1621909021 11-07-2020, 08:16 PM
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Originally Posted By FrankGrimes29⏩
Both of those examples aren't choices.

Some of you guys are missing the point. You guys are basing the assumption that confidence is based around things like social interaction, women, and others actions and thoughts.

Confidence will only plummet if you allow it. You can choose to be confident still in both of those situations. I can actively choose to believe the opinions of 20 8/10 females of me means nothing, and continue to be confident.
what if you got rejected by 500 8/10 females? then by 500 5/10 females? are you still confident, or are you lying to yourself? that's called fake confidence.
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Originally Posted By roughinhouse⏩
5'2 indian manlet as confident as 6'2 chad? Not happening. Its all genetics + environment.
You're not getting it.

I find it funny how all these incels go immediately to looks and women for what confidence is.

Confidence is based on "SELF-ASSURANCE." It is based on your worldview. Your confidence should be dictated by you, not others.
post 1621909501 11-07-2020, 08:22 PM
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Originally Posted By FrankGrimes29⏩
So it's cocky to be confident in yourself? Why?

It's cocky to be confident that you can win in a fight as 5'10 120lb fruitcake vs. a trained fighter that is 6'2 240lbs.

But to have the mentality of confidence is a choice and isn't cocky. So because I failed at picking up 20 chicks so I can't be confident in myself?

Do you guys see the difference here?
If you failed at picking up 20 chicks, I'd say it's safe to NOT be confident in your chick picking up abilities.... See what I'm saying?
post 1621909561 11-07-2020, 08:23 PM
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Originally Posted By FrankGrimes29⏩
So it's cocky to be confident in yourself? Why?

It's cocky to be confident that you can win in a fight as 5'10 120lb fruitcake vs. a trained fighter that is 6'2 240lbs.

But to have the mentality of confidence is a choice and isn't cocky. So because I failed at picking up 20 chicks so I can't be confident in myself?

Do you guys see the difference here?
It’s cocky and foolish/delusional to believe that an untrained fighter would be able to take on a someone bigger and more skilled.
A cocky and confident person is one that knows with great probability that they can pull of some certain great feat and then brag/rubbing ones nose in it (the bragging would be the cocky aspect of it).
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Originally Posted By FrankGrimes29⏩
You're not getting it.

I find it funny how all these incels go immediately to looks and women for what confidence is.

Confidence is based on "SELF-ASSURANCE." It is based on your worldview. Your confidence should be dictated by you, not others.
I think your mixing up being secure in who you are as a person and being confident in an ability.
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You need confidence to be successful but without success it’s harder to be confident. So I think you just have to be confident in your ability to be successful or at least fake it until you make it.
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Originally Posted By Crazy_Desi⏩
what if you got rejected by 500 8/10 females? then by 500 5/10 females? are you still confident, or are you lying to yourself? that's called fake confidence.
Are you guys purposely missing the point?

So in that scenario you're just saying he should kill himself because .00000000000001 of the population rejected him?

What's "fake" confidence.

Confidence: a feeling of self-assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities.

Notice the language? "self" "one's" "own"

If I get a job as an accounting but never have done accounting, does that mean I can't be confident? I'm not allowed to? I'm not talking about being confident in being a great accountant despite never being an accountant. I'm talking about the actual being of confidence.

Otherwise in your worldview, you can't be confident as a 5'2 indian man. Ever. Just because.
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Originally Posted By FrankGrimes29⏩
You're not getting it.

I find it funny how all these incels go immediately to looks and women for what confidence is.

Confidence is based on "SELF-ASSURANCE." It is based on your worldview. Your confidence should be dictated by you, not others.
That's not how reality works. Humans are social animals. Your confidence is generally determined by how others others treat you. If you're an ugly kunt, many people are going to treat you like garbage lowering your confidence. I would also say that things like social media and the internet further amplify this 1000x over since you get to see what "everyone" else gets to experience that you don't.
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Originally Posted By roughinhouse⏩
That's not how reality works. Humans are social animals. Your confidence is generally determined by how others others treat you. If you're an ugly kunt, many people are going to treat you like garbage lowering your confidence. I would also say that things like social media and the internet further amplify this 1000x over since you get to see what "everyone" else gets to experience that you don't.
No, that isn't reality. You just pointed to non-reality things being reality. Social media isn't reality. Who would people be more receptive to, an ugly nice person, or an evil good looking person? I can point to many good looking bros on here with 0 confidence and bang hookers because of crippling anxiety. I can point you to a guy with no arms or legs that is married with kids and does tours speaking to people. That's reality. Fat ugly people are being parading around in society nowadays and made to feel exceptional. So what's reality then?

Why do you guys keep attaching confidence to something else?

I'm talking about the thought of confidence stand-alone. The act of confidence as the raw idea. I can choose that.
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Being delusional is a choice.

Confidence is a consequence of success.
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