Fuuuuuark. This sort of thing makes me rage

Not Gunna lie, thought this was Gunna be some gay chit thread with some FA whinning about how his life seems pointless even though he sits around playing video games and jacking off to porn all day long.

Damn man, I feel for you. I have a 3 year old son and a year old daughter. Can't even imagine not being able to see them everyday, nevermind for months. For those saying be selfish I get where you're coming from, but this **** would drive me insane. That's time that you can never get back. Wondering what your child is thinking or worse what she is telling him as to why you aren't around.

The system is phucked. If you're a man you are screwed if it comes down to court.

I don't even know what advice I can give besides some books on stoicism or buddhism. Whenever I've been through some **** (girlfriend getting raped) those were the things that kept me from going over the edge and doing something I would regret and gave me a happiness I never thought was possible. Keep strong man. It seems dark now but if I were you I would probably go back to buddhism and stoicism. That may not work for you but give it a shot.

Chit like this makes me rage man, fuk vindictive ex's especially when a child's future is involved.

I’m not in the same place now but I def have been before. So white knuckle it until it’s over the best way you can and try to keep busy. Even if it’s just running. Runners high will help you here if you’ll give it a try op.

Very hard to get the motivation when in this mental hell I know but your son will need you throughout his life, she can’t trap him forever.

Make her disappear. Properly prepared, it can be done

Hang in there Champ.

I hope things get better for you.

All of these half assed answers people sending you their best wishes OP is hogwash. It’s like people who say “sending prayers your way” fuk that you need real.

You will live a miserable miserable life til you die and that’s it. You can 1) suck it up for your child and do your best for them. 2) make her disappear, get away with it and you and your child will live a quiet nice life, or you get caught and end up destroying your child while spending the rest of your life in prison until you off yourself.

This is not a joke. This is not a game. I’m not smiling or laughing.

Sincerely whatever you choose, I do hope you can find some peace

This is what happens when you shoot your baby batter in a woman based off her being "hot" and not being a genuine person who was good for you in the first place.

Everyone has something to say about celebrities/athletes that settle down with "average" looking women. This is why. Opee clearly married a vile opportunistic kunt.

Brah...i been there too. Wasn't married but baby momma turned into a legit crackhead. I went from 2 weekends a month visitation to 2 years of no contact as I was put through hell trying to get full custody of my son.

Got to the point that I had a gun in my mouth ready to end it all. For whatever reason all that ran through my mind at the moment was my sons face. Didn't pull the trigger, obviously.

Then finally, after 2 years I got full custody of him. I know what you're going through...but you need to do this for your kid. Keep fighting, things will get better.

It's BS how father's have no rights in court tho.

Tbh I tread carefully around these kind of stories. I mean, why would you wife up and impregnate such a complete lunatic in the first place? Says a lot about you.

At the beginning of last year I started working with abused and abandoned kids with psychological problems. That means, they have massively upset because they parents are assh@les, druggies, raping them, or trying to murder them.

It is emotionally exhausting, however, there is no WAY I can be a man and give up on helping children. That is just not in my code of honor. So, I am doing all kinds of stuff to help these kids and even trying to help their parents, and some of these types, I do not like.

I even increased my workouts and stuff because I have to stay sharp, can't get tired, and have to project energy so these kids can feel some positive power from an adult. They pick on up energy and if you're fit and full of life, children love that. I was playing call of duty on super hard mode with this boy after a session, that was sad, and he loved it. So, I have to be ON THE BALL to help these kids so they don't grow up to be insane adults or kill themselves.

These kids aren't mine and yet that's how I think.

You need to get in that mode, immediately.

You can trust me when I tell you, the kid thinks about you ALL OF THE TIME and you need to amp up your game.

Also, you can resolve ALL of this legal crap by stepping up to the judge and tell him that you want what is best for your son. You do not want to argue and go back and forth. You love your son and want to resolve all of these issues for his mental health, and the family's.

Trust me on that.

By not fighting and asking for help, it makes you look like the rational and caring one.

I have been behind the scenes on a lot of court situations and the opinions of judges and lawyers is that people in family court, etc are retards who aren't adults. That's why they need people to force them to get along when they should be able to do that themselves. So, YOU be the one who wants to get along and it will improve your standing, very quickly.

UPDATE:

had a telephone court hearing, in a nutshell... she didnt have a lawyer, lied to the court, kept contradicting herself, broke down crying (clearly faking), said the past abuse allegations aren't a bar to contact and told the court my son misses me... lmao. but because the allegations are serious we still need to go thru the process, but i now get to see him fridays and saturdays, so i see him tomorrow. my lawyer did all the talking for me and did a great job. huge weight lifted off my shoulders, feelsgoodman. reyps on rc

100% this and every comment similar to this

Do a 360 on her and file for full custody. She’s toxic, it’s in your sons best interest. Your mom can help out

you've obviously never had a relationship. Women change... especially after marriage and kids

In the first few years of knowing her she was a completely different person in every way. She was adorable, fun/addicting to be around, nice to strangers, dressed well, could talk to her about anything for hours all night, cared about chit like nutrition and wellness. Acted like an actual mature adult. Idk if it was her new friends or just cause people just change or what but she turned into a trashy messy rude girl who was rude to strangers, waitresses etc, just a total bitch I couldn’t stand to be around or talk to for more than 10 sec and had nothing in common with.

She’s blamed it on mental health or her childhood before which she loves to bring up, but whatever, I have PTSD coming out of my fukking eyeballs from my childhood. I still would never use my son as a weapon. Suck my dick.

Full custody isnt realistic but at the very least I’ll get 50/50 back and I will get everything I can, not to be vindictive but cause it’s obviously what’s best for him. She came out with so much bs and just dug herself a massive hole. I’m very lucky she’s played it so badly and the wild accusations won’t stick or I’d have been in big trouble. She’s trying to move and change his school but the child officer said that’s not happening. She truly doesn’t give a fukk about him, only about herself. I just hope he’s young enough to not remember this bs and things can get back to some normalcy soon. This last year has been a fukking fever dream.

Picking a dame is truly the equal of a Russian roulette game

Only women who might have good values are children of immigrants srs.

That's good news!

Be a big dude and try to be awesome to everyone during this.

It's time to show the kid what a real man is.

I strongly disagree.

Nihilism and 'not caring about life' is a cancer to the mind that only leads to ruin. Those thoughts have to be fought against diligently. It's okay to be sad or upset sometimes, but not to 'not care about life'.

just make another baby










not srs..sorry brah wish you the best

keep your head up king. I cant say much w/o sounding too cliche. hope you feel better srs