You have one dad...be with him. God willing everything goes well OP.

Then it goes one of two ways: She resolves to be better than them and her rough upbringing makes her a better person. Or, she has trouble forming positive relationships and ends up just like them. I've witnessed both outcomes. My wife is a better person than her parents, by far. My cousins turned into the same chitty people who raised them. Obviously, you want the former and not the latter.

If she isn’t your wife or you’re engaged drop her quicker then a bad habit.

If you are to the above you got to choose her over your dad and see what comprises she’s willing to do and if she isn’t seek professional help together

dump her

If you don't have kids she needs to fuk off srs. If you had kids I could understand but lmao @ her if you don't. Show her your priorities and if she doesn't understand then do you really want a low class **** like that?

if your girl can't accept and understand that then she's a fukn idiot dead srs. would never let someone stay in my life for being selfish in a situation like that

wishing you all the best opie, sorry that your dad is dealing with this, he's lucky to have a son like you

You sound like a pretty good son to me. Rethink your relationship.

Thats tough bro srs
ive been there so i know how it feels.
hope everything turns out fine srs
wtf is her problem tf

Sounds like quite the quagmire...poosay or pulmonary.

You're a good man for wanting to help out and be with your parents. Your gf is being selfish. Not supporting you or having your back through something this difficult speaks volumes.

You know what to do and best wishes.

Wow, she sounds srsly selfish. If she's in her 20's, that's not surprising. I'm so sorry about your dad. That must be really hard to see him in so much pain and your mom so upset. You're a good son for helping them both out.

Cut her loose man. There is no other way to go

tell your girl to shape up or ship out

Go no contact and im not even joking.

They are but mine are not so she should understand me.I know, fuark parents death is devastating.I know it. My ex parents were also chit but she loved mine cause they always treated her like family. I dunno about my current girl, she should know this is not a permanent thing.No wife, no engagement. Just my current gf for the last 2 years.No kids. But she has been pretty good to me until now.Thx mate. Im actually the lucky one for having them as parents.Thx mate. I will.Thx bro. It sucks but at least I can spend this chitty situation with them.Fuak bro. I couldnt see my grandpa when he was dying cause he lived far away from here and my mom said I shouldnt go cause he was being in a coma but damn, until this day I regret that. I really loved that old funny kvnt and I still miss him. Fuark life srs too much pain to bear when you love your family.Thx. Yeah I know, the last thing I need know is a breakup but I don't see another option.She is 24 tho...
Its really hard indeed but it would be even harder not being here with him. At least I can enjoy his company until the end. But Im actually scared af to see him dying. That thought is really haunting me.
Thx for you support.

Do right by your father or regret it forever brah. you know what to do. best wishes mate.

She should be bragging to her friends on lipstickalley misc right now that she found the greatest boyfriend ever. A man who’s willing to make sacrifices to support his family.

You’re doing the right thing sounds like. Hell even if you were moving back because of money issues I wouldn’t hate.

Cherish every moment OP. Nowadays its rare to see such a tight knit family/culture in western society. Wishing your family all the best.

She is being unfair.

My father in law has alzheimer's, when we were dating before we got married he moved in to help his dad and I moved with him (I was 25) and rented out my condo and still do as an Airbnb. It wasn’t easy, his dad is very mean and hard to live with tbh but he only had us to help and still only has us. He can’t drive and gets lost and walks out of the house wearing nothing sometimes

The one thing that was hardest for me is I want to have a kid and it would be pretty hard in the current living situation. Hubby has three boys part time from his first wife and there just is not enough room in this house on top of that I’m not getting any younger and I think maybe there just won’t be a chance for me to ever have kids

But I love my husband and my step kids ( they aren’t little kids all teenagers) even my father in law. They are my family and my parents are my hubby’s family. If you love someone you make sacrifices and work together

She hasn't been with you your entire life. Your family has.

There are very few good reasons to be at home at 35. Yours is one of them. If she doesnt realize that then it isnt your problem

You know what to do man. Parents are important, cherish every moment you can with them while they are here.

Dump the sloot.

Hope everything turns out ok.

If your gf can't understand the sentiment behind your decision, it sounds like she majorly lacks empathy skills.

This is probably because she hasn't reconciled the emotional baggage that stems from her dysfunctional relationship with her own parents, causing her to try and separate you from yours (projective identification - look it up). In which case, red flag that you might want to raise with her.

Or, because she shares genes that result in empathy difficulties with her dysfunctional family. In which case, red flag.

Sorry about your dad OP.

Cut that bish loose OP dead srs, what the fuk kind of trash human is she

Family, ESPECIALLY good parents come before anyone idgaf

Thx mate.She is 24... I guess at her age braggin about family its not something popular.No money issues but I was hoping to get a new job 1k miles from here and now thats sound like a selfish thing to do. Its my dream job and I was so close to get it, Ive been working for that for the last 5 years and now its the worst moment to take that job. Life sometimes is huge bish.She is 24 and lives with a friend. But covid its making hard for me to see her, my dad would definitely die if he caught that chit.Thx mate!Fuark that sound tough! seems like you are one awesome and rare gf.I know but he is also kinda young to get that.Same. Family always comes first.Thx mate. Will do soon enough.

If you are into this for the long term, you probably want a girl who values the meaning of a family and having the back of each other. Clearly the one with you doesn't. I say let her go honestly.

I completely relate OP. That was the only major problem between my ex and I as I live at home to save my money for a house vs blowing it on apartments for no reason when she had her own place with a roommate. Wasn't like we didn't have a place to have sex, watch tv sleep together, shower together, cook etc.

End of first year together her true colors started coming out big time. My dad just had rotator cuff surgery on his 2nd shoulder. She flipped out on me for helping my dad work and fix on a porch literally a few weeks after his surgery vs spending the day with her when she was headed out of town for a whole 3 days the next week. I chose to help my dad like any good son would. Then my dog starts a few months long process of dying and I can't spend the night anymore because I have to get home to be there to pick her 100 pound body out of the floor every night and in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom. Her exact words were "so this is all I get" I spent like 4x a week with her and **** but couldn't leave a dad with rotator cuff surgery and my mom who's a tiny woman to be picking up a 100+ pound dog when it's my own dog. Dumped as a result. She comes back. Same arguments all over again. Never cared that instead of wasting money on a dumb apt, I took her on like 5 vacations in 8 months, was always spending the night, going to concerts. Nope just flipped her **** when I told her I wasn't moving into an apt that was over 60% of my guaranteed net income. Only an idiot would do that.

She's gone now and somebody else's problem. I don't miss the disrespect, manipulation, threats to leave me if I didn't move into an apt. Women like these don't love you for you. They love what you can provide and what they want and expect. Entitled, selfish, and unappreciative. Who wants that for a wife? Before her crazy ending, she told me to find somebody who would be happy with where I live and my lifestyle, her best case scenario would be a man with independence. Lol hope that works out for her and that is her holy grail of a man. Also like your current gf, my ex has zero relationship with her dad, and her mom is a chit show married 4x, and left her oldest son to fend for himself at 16 and moved multiple states away to be with a new husband. She was always jealous of and bashed my relationship with my parents.

I say to tell her this is how it's going to be, it's not your plans for the rest of your life but it is for now, and if it doesn't work for her then you hope she finds what she needs and is looking for and the relationship is over.