A girl still in his sloot phase at 30 is damaged goods no matter how you look at it. A girl that is 30 but single are red flags in of itself, but there can be circumstances behind it that are perfectly logical. A sloot though? Nah man just enjoy the moment but dont even take it seriously.

As for you? Don't let you wanting to settle down blind you from chicks you should not settle down with. Been there done that. I'm 31 and I'm not exactly in a sloot phase, but if a chick comes along and she's not long term material but I enjoy her company I would not mind banging her. If she is anything more than I act accordingly. You should prob do the same, but to each their own of course.

sounds like she has a personality of a slut and you date like femoid . This is guaranteed going to fail.

Yeah, and honestly the last trip I was on with this girl she almost told me this same thing. She was getting upset about something and I tried to calm her down like a decent individual, and all of a sudden she stopped and said, "Oh wow, you really do like me after all". So maybe she even has trouble thinking a guy would seriously want to date her at this point.

But other than a couple sexual red flags, she really could make a decent wife. She has mostly great qualities but the couple thins that are bad make you say, "What the fuk?!?"

To be honest, I would be totally in favor of dating her for like 2 years as well. But I think she'd eventually find someone else in that time that she likes more(and would be more present and willing to provide more to her) and it isn't practical.

Outweigh the pros and cons then. Ride it out and see what happens

Tbh from my viewpoint, she doesn't sound like as much of a sloot as you led on at first. Just seems sexually experienced. I have met some turbo sloots and my goodness those girls you really do not want anything to do with.

Yeah, I don't think "turboslut" is the correct word, at least from what I've seen out of her so far. But she is definitely sexually experienced, and she has told me all these crazy party stories where she just happened to be present when this crazy sexual stuff was happening around her but she wasn't participating, which seems likely she's leaving certain details out to look better to me. And there were a couple times when guys she had chatted with said things to me like, "Hey man would you ever consider letting another guy fuk your girl?" and she was actually upset when I told her about it.

Basically I think she sometimes comes off as a turboslut while partying, but she's a lot more selective about who she actually has sex with. She probably just likes the attention more than anything.

if you want that old school love to the death she needs to be a virgin or tiny as count like 1 or 2 boyfriends otherwise I could never be fully invested in her and would just wander throughout the relationship tbh

Turboslooting is all about validation, for both men and women. As long as that root insecurity's there (and for women, insecurity is ALWAYS there), slooting's just going to grow back out of it like a weed.

Op, you’re catching feelings and it’s clouding your judgement. You’re best idea is to make a note in your head now that this is just short term, have fun in the moment type thing, and won’t be amount to anything serious. Trust me, you’ll thank yourself when you come across the girl that checks off all your boxes.

I can guarantee you that having a girl that had a threesome in her past is not on your ideal wife checklist.

Wait, what!? You actually let a guy talk to you like that? Wtf?

I don’t care the situation, you can’t let another man even think they can get away talking to you like that. You can’t tolerate that.

lololol

I know some swinging couples, and I don't know how they do it. I'm quite the manwhore myself, but the thought of any of my women being with someone else utterly disgusts me. Any sign she's a sloot I jump ship. Girls like this I'll bang but never attach myself to. I probably couldn't even take her out in public. Just go to hers or have her to mine for sex then disregard. If she's meeting strangers out in front of you imagine what she's doing when you're not there.

I would never let someone I know say something like that(and nobody I know would ever say anything like that). But this particular situation happened at a party while we were traveling, and the crowd was kind of a liberal sexually adventurous one. It's the type of situation where you can let it ruin your night while on vacation or just ignore.

Yeah, you're right. And she even tells me stories about things that happen when I'm not there, and sometimes they're pretty crazy and filled with sex and all kinds of stuff. But she says she's just there and not actually participating and just kind of enjoys being at these parties without participating as some type of novelty.

The last night I saw her, we were sitting in a big jacuzzi with a swinger couple who tried to escalate the situation into some type of orgy, and she was actually the one who got out of the hot tub and cut things off before it happened. So this is why I think there's a chance she's telling the truth, but she seems awfully interested in that particular scene to be not actually participating sexually at all.

Regardless, I had much stronger feelings for this girl before I found out about all this chit(when I only knew her as a girl is great company and likes to go out to nice dinners and have sex afterwards and chill), at this point I'm not in any real danger of trying to turn her into my wife or anything like that. She's planning on trying to move to the US later this year(not close to where I live), so I'd ideally like to keep this as some type of FWB situation where I go to visit her a few times per year, but there's no way I could possibly be exclusive with her in that situation knowing how she acts.

Do you really believe her?

Yes, but with a caveat. She's bisexual, so I think her expectation is that she would still be able to have sex with girls while keeping me as the only guy who is able to have sex with her. She explained this by saying it would also be good for me, because I'd be able to have threesomes with girls she brought into the picture.

However, when I asked if she would be ok with me fuking the girls she brought into the picture in front of her, she said she would have to think about it.

There was a situation that happened at the end of our last trip where she met a girl she was into, and this girl was married and at the hotel with her husband. And although she hasn't told me about it, I'm nearly certain she did something sexually with the girl after I left(which I don't have too much of an issue with). The thing is, I need to find out if she allowed the straight husband to fuk her while she was doing whatever she wanted with the wife. If she admits to that, I'm 100% no longer interested in her as anything but a FWB.

Do or do not, there is no try.

Do you really want to wife a girl who used to be called fingercuffs?

Seriously though OP. Next that hoe. She'll end up being nothing but trouble.

Yeah, I'm traveling with her again soon for a couple weeks so I definitely don't want to do anything to ruin the trip. But although I think she tried her hardest to act like a decent girl when I first met her(and seems to be trying to act this way again now), as soon as there was any type of instability on our last trip, she quickly started acting like a single girl who was out partying(or a girl testing limits to see what she could get away with). This was probably a good thing, as it allowed me to see a side of her that I had absolutely no idea had existed in the previous month we had been hanging out together. It's better to have that chit come to light early instead of like 6 months into a relationship.

Pretty much this. Any girl who says she’s bisexual should automatically be discounted as wife material. Any girl with a kill count in the double digits should be discounted. Any girl who only has had one night stands should be discounted.

People make mistakes, but a mistake should only happen once.

What's funny, this girl told me that she's never had a one night stand with a man before(only with girls). I didn't fuk her the first night we met, but I did in the afternoon the next day.

But in general I do agree. I could probably tolerate a girl in college being bisexual(or being adventurous), but this girl is 30 and there's no way I'd ever be ok with having to fight for my wife's attention. Especially a girl like this who doesn't really work and is likely expecting a guy to pay for her down the line.

Regardless, I'm going on a trip with her soon and will try to probe some information out of her. She's said a lot of things in the past, and I have a good memory. I need to test to see whether she was lying about some of the comments she made on our first trip in regards to how she has operated in the past.

She could say everything you wanna hear, and after that starts raw dogging left to right, be careful about that, no offense tho

OP is falling in love with a ho.

I know this is a troll post but in all honesty, i actually do believe everyone deserves a chance to change. Im just calling a spade a spade

u probably should meet more high quality girls so u dont easily have oneitis for slooty bitches (srs)

Leopards never change their stripes. Once a whore always a whore.

Yeah, you're not wrong at all. And I'm honestly expecting that she'll do something on this next trip that will push me away for good. Like I said, she's acting as the perfect slump buster for after COVID, but I also won't be surprised if I find out some new details about her life soon that will cause me to finally say no more.

Before our last trip she actually got an STD test and both of us were clean. So at least I'm not expecting to get anything.

i beg to differ

its RARE for sure, but as I mentioned earlier, the sooner it is out of their system the better. although there could always be a chance there could be a complete relapse.

I'd say in majority of cases there is less than a 20 percent chance of this working out, but OP seems like he's made up his mind so all we can do is hope for the best.

Haha, I definitely haven't made up my mind. At this point all I have planned is another trip with her. At this point I'm just hoping to have a good time and keeping my fingers crossed that she doesn't pull anything after like 5 days that ruins the rest of the trip for me.