Dude you met a gold digging skank. You were nothing but a wallet with a dildo to her.

Try to analyze your interactions and make sure you recognize the signs next time and treat them accordingly.

How did you vet her? Travelling isn't free. Where was she getting the funds to travel the world prior to meeting you? Very few trust fund babies in this world. It's a red flag if she was shady on that.

I've done a fair amount of travelling myself. There's primarily three ways a woman can travel the world so "freely":

1) She's on a paid business trip and her business is funding it. Expect her to be working around the clock for her business and very little to zero free time for companionship. If she does have free time, she's probably too exhausted from working to fully enjoy it.
2) She worked hard to save up money for it. She is either fresh out of school and taking a break before starting her first job, or currently on leave with current employer or in between jobs for different employers living on/travelling on her savings till it gets low enough for the need to go back to work again. She probably already has an itinerary though, since she has been long planning this and she's worked very hard to save up for it, she is not likely to deviate from her own itinerary to go on some random man's travel itinerary (likely also a rent-cel who is also in between rental leases).
3) She's a whore and gets random men (who she's intimate with) to fund it, which is how she is so easily/readily available to follow a random man's itinerary.

Just vet the next travel partner harder next time. If it's another woman #3 (and likely it will be as that's the only type who is that readily available), perhaps make it clear should you decide to fund it, that it's directly tied to her performance in meeting your specific needs and behavioral expectations of her. Additionally make the consequences and penalties clear for unacceptable behavior (for example, penalizing displays of female entitlement mentality, etc.). Or at least that's what I would suggest. Then again, I'm one of those believers that people generally don't get what they deserve in life, they get what they negotiate. And everything's negotiable.

Yeah, I mean this is clearly true. But the first 1.5 interactions with her she was not acting like this. She only started acting like this when she found out how much money I had, and how much the people I interact with had. While she has dated rich guys in the past and gotten a bunch of free chit from them, we split all the bills on our first trip and she was like the most loyal caring wifey I could have ever imagined. But she started reading about different things on the second trip and all of a sudden it shifted her into another crazy/princess/golddigger gear that I hadn't seen before.

I actually put her in the friendzone today, which is hilarious. Can probably still fuk her in the future without dealing with all the mental issues from past male relationships. Sounds like a win-win actually lol.

How did you vet her? Travelling isn't free. Where was she getting the funds to travel the world prior to meeting you? Very few trust fund babies in this world. It's a red flag if she was shady on that.

I've done a fair amount of travelling myself. There's primarily three ways a woman can travel the world so "freely":

1) She's on a paid business trip and her business is funding it. Expect her to be working around the clock for her business and very little to zero free time for companionship. If she does have free time, she's probably too exhausted from working to fully enjoy it.
2) She worked hard to save up money for it. She is either fresh out of school and taking a break before starting her first job, or currently on leave with current employer or in between jobs for different employers living on/travelling on her savings till it gets low enough for the need to go back to work again. She probably already has an itinerary though, since she has been long planning this and she's worked very hard to save up for it, she is not likely to deviate from her own itinerary to go on some random man's travel itinerary (likely also a rent-cel who is also in between rental leases).
3) She's a whore and gets random men (who she's intimate with) to fund it, which is how she is so easily/readily available to follow a random man's itinerary.

Just vet the next travel partner harder next time. If it's another woman #3 (and likely it will be as that's the only type who is that readily available), perhaps make it clear should you decide to fund it, that it's directly tied to her performance in meeting your specific needs and behavioral expectations of her. Additionally make the consequences and penalties clear for unacceptable behavior (for example, penalizing displays of female entitlement mentality, etc.). Or at least that's what I would suggest. Then again, I'm one of those believers that people generally don't get what they deserve in life, they get what they negotiate. And everything's negotiable.

Of course she wouldn't be acting like a gold digging skank first to get you riled in, they all do that. Pretend that they truly love you until you're on the hook.

She may be like that to all new people she meets, or to the actual close people in her life.

Another thing that could have happened, is you could have projected that onto her. So by paying for her and showing off how rich you are and how much money you have you may have triggered some defense mechanism or offended her in some way, where she was like:

"Why is he trying to impress me with his wealth? I thought we had a good personal connection. Is he like most guys, just trying to use me and all he has to offer back is his money, rather then the human connection?"

And then once that thought got ingrained in to her, she was like: "Well fuk him, if he wants to treat me like that, I'll treat him like a wallet"

This is why OP should be the travelling guy whose at huge house parties enjoying life, mingling with these girls rather than the guy making wall of text threads because he's looking for relationships on a 3 week holiday.

Cliffs:

Op is paying women to travel with him and have sex with him.

Matt Gaetz and Joel Greenberg are currently going down for exactly this.

Yeah, 100%. It's crazy how quickly I went from being this awesome hot guy who she had crazy times with to a boring older guy in her mind. Money is the ultimate vaginal dryer.

I bet you think strippers like you too. lmao jk.

Sounds like she was just a selfish hoar and you just got caught up. Move on to the next one and please don't travel with her again. It's just going to bring you down the same rabbit hole or you trying to get revenge bang out of it and her trying to manipulate you for something. Old song, gross dance.

She would do odd things like getting all kinds of different guys Instagram while we were out(when these guys were clearly hitting on her), and she started wanting me to pay for everything without giving any type of real commitment in return. In contrast, the first couple weeks



Dude re-read this 5 times


Haven’t figured it out yet?

This girl is a walking plethora of mental social issues. She deliberately disrespected you, herself and any relationship you had in every single way while deliberately using you


Girls are fukn evil man. I’m sorry OP you sound like a good guy you’re all about the spending life together, falling in true love being there together while she took you for an absolute joy ride

Worst part is she’s talking to other guys right this second and good chances one or two of them is when she was with you

Run away, she texts, tell her she has social mental issues and is a lost cause and never reply back because she will seek closure and justify her mental order to never change

Stay safe out there bros. Wake up. Woman do NOT need you and WILL use you

i don't agree with this beta bux chit.

idk, i get this sense that you're trying to contort your personality around her

if you have money just put your foot down when she starts to act that way?

i mean.. i know you did but i dont see the problem. just don't put up with it

how can you hide you have money forever from someone you want to be with?

but i totally agree with hiding it up to a certain point. or not being flashy originally

Yeah, I'm not planning to block her on social media or anything like that, but she blocked me from her IG story and hasn't responded to a voice message sent this morning and I'm not planning to send anymore.

I figured out she was using me sometime at the end of the last trip and I kept things together in order to enjoy the remainder of the trip(and assumed she'd lash out and do something crazy if I confronted her about it). But after that I knew things were likely over and I mentally processed once I arrived home. Now that things are officially over I'll forget about her relatively quickly.

Definitely learned a lot here, and will make a point not to be as naive next time. Obviously you can let your guard down more in the US, but in 3rd world countries there's obviously more sophisticated tactics being employed. Lucky she didn't steal anything more from me other than some experiences. but I did get the best sex of life and some fun out of it so it's not a total wash. But this next trip could have been interesting if I had been super naive about it.

Yeah, I mean eventually she would have found out and started acting this way even if I kept it a secret for longer. As I found out when I started testing her during the last week, she had a wide variety of tactics to deflect blame and try to turn the person accusing her of bad behavior into the bad guy. Once she started doing this, I cancelled our trip the morning before we were leaving and we ended it.

Well I don’t know her but let’s say theoretically if she is a golddigger manipulator user etc. Of course those people don’t show their true colors from the start. That is the whole con. They have to con you into trusting them first.

That is why love bombing is a well known tactic of abusive people. They love bomb you to reel you in with love, sex, attention, gifts etc to make you think they are an amazing person and that you can trust them.

Same with financial con artists. They will come across as extremely trustworthy at first and present all these markers of trust and confidences. Going above and beyond to make you trust them. So they can reel you in for the long con later.

Idk if she was actually that bad but just saying in general you should be aware that this is a common manipulation strategy that users and abusers and con artists etc all use.

Funny the Midwest has the GOAT guys imo. Goodlooking All American safe boring guys are GOAT. I’ll happily pass on any excitement lmao.

Anyway just watch your back that some new girl doesn’t con you. Especially if you are looking for excitement and chemistry and great sex. Those things are very easy for women to fake to reel in guys they are targeting. It’s the easiest manipulation tactic to use on men.

No pics huh u lying ***

So pics or what

Coming from a guy who’s been with over 500 woman and settled down now to someone who’s been there my lowest and built me into a king I can tell you if you date a girl or say you getting laid by her is okay that she deliberately hurt and used you, puts you in a state of denial.

It’s okay we all go thru it. Even me before. Hell man I’ve been pushed down a stair case, nearly ran over 3 times once my foot and had two girls fighting for me in a parking lot yelling to each other “he fukd me 8x in a day! Well he fukd me 9 and cam in my ass” I can tel you this,

The woman you deserve will come to you when you least expect it. And you’ll be together forever no matter what as if the universe revolved in making this happen


And it will not happen with $ or the shirt you wore or car you drive. Find yourself, focus on you, and strive to be better every day, if you fail you try again. Stop contacting her immediately and go for a run and some air or whatever brings you peace and a way to search for yourself. Good luck OP