How to kindly tell friends to fuk off? (srs)

07-13-2021, 01:03 AM

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ppl just want to talk and say hello

just say sup or link memes

u don't have to talk a lot, but just something...most ppl want to know their friends are around and ok...it makes them feel better even if ur just linking memes and talking about stupid chit

07-13-2021, 02:25 AM

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07-13-2021, 02:40 AM

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Originally Posted By Ken-O⏩

You sound like you are exactly the type of dude that the OP is complaining about lol. An energy vampire, calling others bad person just because they have diff personalities.

Well, to clarify, OP is complaining about having a couple of friends that randomly text him or dm him just to chat, and that he considers it annoying as fuk. Keeping in touch = energy vampire? Notevenonce.
Again, to clarify, I'm not calling OP a terrible friend "just because they have diff personalities." I'm calling him a terrible friend because he sounds like a spoiled dude who is unable to appreciate his friends keeping in touch.

I'm sorry your feelings were (obviously) hurt by the advice I gavespecifically for OP.Hope you're able to recover from this inadvertent slight you narcissistic fuk.

07-13-2021, 02:52 AM

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07-13-2021, 03:25 AM

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Originally Posted By MetroBrah⏩

I don’t blame you. I always thought “wyd” was reserved for the gf/wives/fk buddies. The men folk I’m associated with only text to meet up or might send a funny article or something brief

thats what men are supposed to do, we dont talk just to talk

leave that to women

07-13-2021, 03:29 AM

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Mother fukers in their 30s asking for advice on how to speak to friends.

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07-13-2021, 03:56 AM

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Do you do this with everyone or just friends that aren't super close?

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07-13-2021, 03:57 AM

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OP I used to think like you until last year, but I changed my perspective.

I would receive texts from a close friend and immediately think "ugh I'm wasting my time responding and they ask me all the time". I either didn't respond or I responded many days later. Earlier this year my friend died of a sudden heart attack and now I receive no messages like that. It made me realise that my thoughts were selfish, because I was looking at the text interaction purely from my view and I rarely reached out to him asking how he was. He genuinely cared for how I was doing and I couldn't give him the time of day because it was taking up 'my' time.

Try reaching out to your mates every once in a while to ask how they are, but don't be overzealous about it. Having close friends that care about how you are is nice and it should be your responsibility to support and not just be a receiving leech. You may find that once you reach out they will reduce their direct messaging.

07-13-2021, 09:32 AM

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Originally Posted By poptarts⏩

Well, to clarify, OP is complaining about having a couple of friends that randomly text him or dm him just to chat, and that he considers it annoying as fuk. Keeping in touch = energy vampire? Notevenonce.
Again, to clarify, I'm not calling OP a terrible friend "just because they have diff personalities." I'm calling him a terrible friend because he sounds like a spoiled dude who is unable to appreciate his friends keeping in touch.

I'm sorry your feelings were (obviously) hurt by the advice I gavespecifically for OP.Hope you're able to recover from this inadvertent slight you narcissistic fuk.

Oh yes, I was so, so hurt by your post lmao

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07-13-2021, 09:47 AM

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Wyd OP?

lol

If you'd rather talk/catch up in person then make plans for that. I also don't think that if someone is just sending a quick text to say hi that it needs to be a long drawn out convo. You can respond with a quick text and then let it drop from there, especially if it's not a close friend. I do think it's important to try to keep up with friends, especially good long term friends. As an adult it's definitely work to make sure you stay in contact. If you have too many casual acquaintances that it's too much work or annoying you then you'll need to cut down on your acquaintance list. I enjoy texting but if I had 10+ people texting me everyday it would get annoying. I have one or two people that I text with every day and a couple others here and there through the week.

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07-13-2021, 09:53 AM

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Wyd?

Pls respond, OP

OP is definitely a ***got.

Originally Posted By Porridgemonster⏩

OP I used to think like you until last year, but I changed my perspective.

I would receive texts from a close friend and immediately think "ugh I'm wasting my time responding and they ask me all the time". I either didn't respond or I responded many days later. Earlier this year my friend died of a sudden heart attack and now I receive no messages like that. It made me realise that my thoughts were selfish, because I was looking at the text interaction purely from my view and I rarely reached out to him asking how he was. He genuinely cared for how I was doing and I couldn't give him the time of day because it was taking up 'my' time.

Try reaching out to your mates every once in a while to ask how they are, but don't be overzealous about it. Having close friends that care about how you are is nice and it should be your responsibility to support and not just be a receiving leech. You may find that once you reach out they will reduce their direct messaging.

Dang, that's rough. Sorry for your loss.

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07-13-2021, 09:54 AM

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Stop ghosting me OP and answer my fkin question I'll ask again: Wyd lol.

Turn read receipts off is what you should be doing.

07-13-2021, 09:57 AM

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Originally Posted By Airror⏩

Dang, that's rough. Sorry for your loss.

Thanks brah. Although I did feel a lot of guilt I now see it as him showing me a life lesson that has positively changed my view on social interactions. I think being open to critique and self aware enough to acknowledge your areas of improvement is what everyone should be doing.

07-13-2021, 10:16 AM

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Originally Posted By drvillain⏩

note: I semi think I'm the main problem because most people complain that I dont reach out, so if so, how do I get better at this? (srs)

by, ummm ... reaching out ?

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07-13-2021, 10:23 AM

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Have never received a wyd text from a male

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07-13-2021, 10:25 AM

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Originally Posted By drvillain⏩

I have a couple of friends that randomly text me or DMing me just to chat, and it's annoying as fuk.

If they want to make plans I'm with it, but a "wyd" text every other day, with no purpose other than to chat I just can't get behind. Maybe I'm just a mean person, IDK. But I ghost when I get texts like that, and of course I get a text complaining about me ghosting.

note: I semi think I'm the main problem because most people complain that I dont reach out, so if so, how do I get better at this? (srs)

Just set up a group chat with your friends, and then they can chat with each other, they don’t feel like you don’t care about the friendship, and you can chime in every now and then.

07-13-2021, 10:28 AM

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I don’t get the hate tbh

I hate social chit chat with a passion

Don’t hit me up and expect me to entertain you, my goddam family do this to me a lot.

07-13-2021, 10:32 AM

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Originally Posted By Ausaric⏩

That sounds awesome, nobody ever texts me for anything. Unless it’s my parents checking to see if I’m still alive. It would be amazing to have people who care about you and like to spend time with you. I literally have no idea what that feels like, and it’s a very alien feeling like it’s something deep that’s missing in my life. You should be happy.

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07-13-2021, 10:39 AM

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Who is it we’re representing and trying to be today, friends bare minimum hey? Damn that was cold as **** for a minute there, kinda sucks considering ayy... maybe there was intention behind it

Though investigations seemed to be at the heart of it from beginning not the best intended hey? Well it can always be turned around I guess. Sort of seems like the best way forward... attempting to entangle me is frustrating no doubt, sort of on top of everything else?

Though imagine it’s difficult to be an intermediary for so many doesn’t it? Yeah what a weird situation to be in...

Guess it’s a game of chess right? Damn... well cut certain influence and move on?

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07-13-2021, 06:14 PM

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I take friendship very seriously.. I would cut you like a bad habit for disrespecting me though and you would have lost the best friend you ever had

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07-13-2021, 06:17 PM

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I had the same thing happen. Most friends were married with kids, dating or working a lot so I would get random texts like “what’s up”

I just wouldn’t respond unless it was important. They will usually get the hint and they will stop texting.

Honestly, it’s awesome not getting texts a lot. I pretty ride solo.