Never cheated on a GF, but cheated on my wife after 9 years of marriage. Was depressed for the last 3 or so, put on about 30 pounds, came home from work smoked weed and played video games and basically ignored her. I told her when we got married, I only need 2 things to make this last a lifetime, if you can do those two things I will always be with you. 1. Don't cheat on me and 2. Don't get Orca fat. Well 9 years in she went from 160lbs with an athletic frame to 230 lbs, class 2 obese. When I came out of my depression by working out and eating healthy I asked her to come with me on the journey. She half-assed it and always made excuses. Never had time to workout or eat right, but had time for parties with her friends and our kids. I made one final plea for us to reconnect and she declined to come with me with the lifestyle change.

It just so happened, I was given a married admin assistant about 20 months ago. She was a bit chunky like I was after gaining 30+ pounds in my married depression. We created a challenge like 6 months out to get to our goal weights. We motivated each other throughout the process, mainly via texting and hanging out at work. Our reward for hitting our goal weights was to go to Texas Roadhouse and get some of those rolls. We both made it to our goals and went to Texas Roadhouse. Me being cheeky, and really liking this married woman, told her I had a surprise for her after the lunch. Packed a blanket in my truck and had her follow me to the river. Set the blanket out by the bank and we spent the rest of the afternoon together (no sex or intimacy, just great conversation). After this we started going on hikes and eventually "fell in love" . We both divorced our spouses (we both had fat spouses that let themselves go and were unwilling to change), and we have adopted a fitness lifestyle together. We have been dating now for 6 months and everyday is better than the last. At least so far the best decision of my life. Marriage is a trap if both parties do not play by the same rules. We both were trapped, found everything we were missing in each other.

In B4 She's going to cheat on you next, once a cheater always a cheater. Guess only time will tell, but I feel good about this one....perhaps a little too good.

thats stupid

some of the most honorable men in history slept with many women when married. Monogamous marriage is a newer construct, many years of human existence we lived with no marriage and then when we started marriage a lot of it was about social status and money and politics so the husband still slept with other women. You can not say all men were dishonorable and had no integrity.

nope, never cheated. Never married before tho.

Only men that are too scared to deal with the issue head on resort to cheating. If I wanted to phuck other girls I would break up with my GF, why would I be with someone that I respect so little that I would cheat?

edit: read the op, and I actually do get that. Marriage is definitely different than just dating, especially if kids are involved.

How did it officially end? How's things with the kids currently?

do the kids hate your guts? also kinda mirin the story in a weird way.

If im being 100% honest, if I had a gf, I probably would.

I'm now invested in this man's life.

Why would i need to cheat when i can sex gf

Nope, never crossed my mind.

But if someone wants to cheat go for it. Who am to dictate how to live your life.

2 years into marriage your wife stops the whole charade and stops having sex altogether. this goes on for years. now what do you do loyal internet tough guys?

hookers

I don't have that problem azzhole.

Nah not interested in the least. I love my wife and family dearly, I can’t imagine jeopardizing that for anyone.

She got her own house at the end of July. Kids (3,6,8) live with her 70% of the time, I get 30%. Wife and I are co-parenting and are friends still. Divorce is final end of September. No lawyers, gave her everything she wanted since I cheated on her and I felt guilty AF. I got dimed out when she was at a friends house before the boys and I went on a Vegas trip. I left a day early to meet up with said woman in a hotel to get a proper Vegas send off. she realized after talking to the spouse of one of the dudes going that i found my own ride to the airport. Last night in Vegas wife texts me that she found an email about a shopping list for a weekend I went away with "friends" but was really the new woman. POS move, but marriage trap sucked and I had lost who I was. Wish she could have just not got so porky. But years of disgust led me to this. Not proud of it, but I need to be attracted to a woman in a committed relationship , or it just won't work. I can handle getting old and even 20-30lbs overweight. Can't handle Class 2 obese. Loved her, but she was pulling me down with her. Like the guy i am today so much betterm despite the POS feeling from cheating.

not saying cheating is the right thing to do, but you sound like a bitter fukking virgin lmao

Kids are still to young to know why I left. Going to introduce new woman end of September once both of our divorces are finalized. Never thought you could fall out of love with someone, but I really just am not into big girls. Dude, I use to watch only fap to BBW porn to normalize it in my brain. I tried everything. Just couldn't get into obese women. Wish I could have. Was living in misery and depression.

Might change your perspective if your wife put on 70+ pounds and became a different person...just saying

I agree 100% with this.

It's bad enough that women ultimately have the final say so on whether or not you get to smash, but to leverage it.. I'm going to go plant my seed in other gardens.

I think somebody has been cheated on.

And by somebody I mean him.

You shouldn't feel guilty tbh. She can't expect you to stick around if she let herself become a disgusting land whale. It just isn't fair to be forced to stay with someone you are literally disgusted by.
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Have cheated on gf's, would probably only wife a girl that was into banging other girls srs

My wife turned out to basically be asexual. I have a high libido and it was my own stupid fault for getting together with a woman I knew had a much lower sex drive than mine, but she checked all the boxes - smart, cute, good job, stable family etc. After five years sex dwindled to every six weeks if that - in fact, once she got pregnant in a three year period we had sex less than ten times, and one of those times resulted in my second daughter. So a total dead bedroom.

I was going crazy and also insanely stressed so when she was away with the kids for a week I went and got a massage with a happy ending and ended up paying for sex, and it was the best experience sexually I'd had in over a decade. Girl was super hot, banged my brains out. It kind of made me realize I didn't have to live in a sexless marriage. We tried counseling, but she was unwilling to change so I said forget it.

Much happier now. Much, much happier. Get laid whenever I want, have two wonderful girls and frankly we are way better co parents than we ever were married. And if she wants to be asexual, she can be. Never again will I LTR a girl with a lower sex drive.

Nope. Never being in a situation to tempt me helps I guess.

I’m not one to judge and you may be right. If anything did go sideways I think at that point I’d rather be single anyway.

yeah sadly

I caved in to some fresh teen pussay (srs)

Turned down a 3some with two hot blonde notre dame college girls because I just went exclusive with my gf 3 years ago, fiance today.

Not even enticed by other chicks. Easy pick.

Multiple times

He was the best man

I can tell this thread is full of brahs whose wives/gfs can access this site and know their usernames