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post 1655275463 01-30-2022, 06:41 AM
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Think of it like this: you are at a gym. An honest to god facility for working out. It's not prison. you don't have to get into a fist fight to get the bench press. Everyone said I'd end up in prison for murder or some other crime, but I ended up with high honors, and a college grad. So when I go to the gym, I remind myself of what an achievement it is to get to go to a place where the equipment is good, the windows let the light in, and there's even a pool. It's all about perspective. There are a few administrators who sincerely hate me, and probably 99% of the people there. But the point is, I get to be there and they can't call the cops on me. (although they usually have one in uniform standing around staring at me waiting for me to **** up so they can arrest me.)
post 1655275533 01-30-2022, 06:43 AM
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Originally Posted By MegaSloot⏩
Think of it like this: you are at a gym. An honest to god facility for working out. It's not prison. you don't have to get into a fist fight to get the bench press. Everyone said I'd end up in prison for murder or some other crime, but I ended up with high honors, and a college grad. So when I go to the gym, I remind myself of what an achievement it is to get to go to a place where the equipment is good, the windows let the light in, and there's even a pool. It's all about perspective. There are a few administrators who sincerely hate me, and probably 99% of the people there. But the point is, I get to be there and they can't call the cops on me. (although they usually have one in uniform standing around staring at me waiting for me to **** up so they can arrest me.)
yeah the equipment is great and all, but i just dont feel accepted there which sucks but i will still continue to train
post 1655275573 01-30-2022, 06:43 AM
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^there is a uniformed police officer standing around in your gym waiting to arrest you??

Jesus how many mentally ill people are there on the misc
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post 1655275693 01-30-2022, 06:46 AM
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Originally Posted By lancefraudd⏩
Would love to train in the states. maybe one day brah srs
Brah we could be best friends. (Ded fkn Srs)
post 1655275853 01-30-2022, 06:51 AM
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Originally Posted By gmenfan40⏩
Brah we could be best friends. (Ded fkn Srs)
that would be amazing braah ded fkn srs
post 1655276143 01-30-2022, 07:00 AM
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Ok, no one has called you out for your username which actually has the word "fraudd" in it...lol. Almost reminds me of the old internet troll Ken M.
post 1655276173 01-30-2022, 07:01 AM
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The most unwelcomed facilities are gyms. People are very judgemental in there.

If you're fat/skinny - what are you doing here
If you're shredded - you're a try hard douchebag

When I go to new gyms I typically don't even have a conversation with somebody until like a year or so, maybe a head nod other than greetings
post 1655276443 01-30-2022, 07:11 AM
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Originally Posted By Shysty021⏩
The most unwelcomed facilities are gyms. People are very judgemental in there.

If you're fat/skinny - what are you doing here
If you're shredded - you're a try hard douchebag

When I go to new gyms I typically don't even have a conversation with somebody until like a year or so, maybe a head nod other than greetings
Wow a year or so? So a whole year you train without talking to anyone? How do you do it? You dont feel lonely?
post 1655276503 01-30-2022, 07:13 AM
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Originally Posted By lancefraudd⏩
Most are busy with families or live too far away. If i go early i know a lot of regulars but theres not much going on besides handshakes and small talk
So what exactly are you looking for? It’s not like you’re supposed to have deep philosophical discussions there. Other than lifting, sloots, music, work, and family what are you supposed to be talking about?
post 1655276513 01-30-2022, 07:13 AM
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Originally Posted By lancefraudd⏩
Most are busy with families or live too far away. If i go early i know a lot of regulars but theres not much going on besides handshakes and small talk
What are you expecting from a gym conversation? Deep thoughts about life?

Its not that these people are unaccepting of you, they dont know you and most people dont care to go out of their way to know you.

So relationships typically start with a bit of small talk, and as you see someone there more and more regularly, you either get to know them better or you dont. That is based on both parties to want to get to know each other better. It happens organically.
post 1655276623 01-30-2022, 07:16 AM
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Originally Posted By donblaximus⏩
What are you expecting from a gym conversation? Deep thoughts about life?
Originally Posted By jtaylor2010⏩
So what exactly are you looking for? It’s not like you’re supposed to have deep philosophical discussions there. Other than lifting, sloots, music, work, and family what are you supposed to be talking about?
I mean like we are not close friends who hang out and have strong bonds.
post 1655276973 01-30-2022, 07:23 AM
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Originally Posted By lancefraudd⏩
Wow a year or so? So a whole year you train without talking to anyone? How do you do it? You dont feel lonely?
Yea I talk to some gym goers when I see them out and about, but I'm in there to lift not converse. I prefer not to talk because im pretty hyped up in there.
post 1655277163 01-30-2022, 07:31 AM
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Originally Posted By Shysty021⏩
Yea I talk to some gym goers when I see them out and about, but I'm in there to lift not converse. I prefer not to talk because im pretty hyped up in there.
do you hang out with any of them outside of the gym?
post 1655278563 01-30-2022, 08:17 AM
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I quit going last year and just lift at my home gym

It was either too packed and I couldn't get a machine or random and old guys kept approaching me so I left
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post 1655278623 01-30-2022, 08:18 AM
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
I quit going last year and just lift at my home gym

It was either too packed and I couldn't get a machine or random and old guys kept approaching me so I left
were you lonely at gym
post 1655278683 01-30-2022, 08:20 AM
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What's with all these mentally ill frauding larpers?


OP keeps reposting screenshots from the dude's insta and right now it's 2:18 am Monday in Sydney...
post 1655278703 01-30-2022, 08:20 AM
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Originally Posted By lancefraudd⏩
do you hang out with any of them outside of the gym?
Only if I bump into them, I don't invite them out. But when I do bump into them we typically kick it the whole night, especially at the bar.
post 1655278773 01-30-2022, 08:21 AM
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What do you mean not accepted?
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post 1655278913 01-30-2022, 08:25 AM
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Originally Posted By Schnitzl⏩
I don't go to the gym to socialise, I go there to work out and lift heavy chit. No judge though, I've got some middle aged men groups who stand around one machine and chat away but I feel like I'd lose out on the intensity of the workouts if I buddy buddied with others.
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post 1655278943 01-30-2022, 08:25 AM
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Originally Posted By leoslayer1⏩
What do you mean not accepted?
When I am at the gym, i feel like a complete outsider, outcast, alienated, rejected

No one there wants to be apart of my life.

Being accepted could include, being invited to hang out, starting friendships, receiving hugs, giving positive support etc
post 1655279413 01-30-2022, 08:39 AM
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Originally Posted By lancefraudd⏩
When I am at the gym, i feel like a complete outsider, outcast, alienated, rejected

No one there wants to be apart of my life.

Being accepted could include, being invited to hang out, starting friendships, receiving hugs, giving positive support etc
Dude are you trolling? Nobody out of the bluejust invites a stranger to hang out.
post 1655279503 01-30-2022, 08:41 AM
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Originally Posted By donblaximus⏩
Dude are you trolling? Nobody out of the bluejust invites a stranger to hang out.
not trolling. doesnt even have to be hanging out. no one at the gym wants to be friends which makes me feel alone
post 1655280093 01-30-2022, 08:58 AM
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Originally Posted By lancefraudd⏩
not trolling. doesnt even have to be hanging out. no one at the gym wants to be friends which makes me feel alone
Have you tried talking to people on a consistent basis?
post 1655280303 01-30-2022, 09:03 AM
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Originally Posted By donblaximus⏩
Dude are you trolling? Nobody out of the bluejust invites a stranger to hang out.
It's his idea of "trolling".

Ffs his username is lancefraud, using pics that are clearly not his, made around 500 eod-level autistic posts in 2 weeks about being ronery and not getting hugs from strangers. He also claims to be from Sydney where it's right in the middle of the night.

Mental illness.
post 1655280313 01-30-2022, 09:03 AM
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Originally Posted By donblaximus⏩
Have you tried talking to people on a consistent basis?
yeah but only briefly
it goes like this hey man what are you training today how are you etc then ends.
or i would tell them about what program i am on an we talk about lifting for a bit

and most of them i never see again
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I thought OP was a troll but it just seems like he’s depressed. Get some help before it’s too late (srs)
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Originally Posted By AdvancedDreamer⏩
I thought OP was a troll but it just seems like he’s depressed. Get some help before it’s too late (srs)
Thanks for the concern. I have tried but its hard to beat isolation and depression. Therapists never seem to work nor antidepressants
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Originally Posted By lancefraudd⏩
yeah but only briefly
it goes like this hey man what are you training today how are you etc then ends.
or i would tell them about what program i am on an we talk about lifting for a bit

and most of them i never see again
So open up the conversation?

- Hey, I'm looking for X. Do you know of one that is good?

- Have you ever X?

- What's your favorite X?

- Do you follow X [sports]?

Most people like to be helpful, or talk about shared interests. Worst case they say "dunno, sorry".

Maybe try a different activity that involves more interaction with people? Some kind of team sport or cross fit maybe? Martial arts?
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Originally Posted By katya422⏩
So open up the conversation?

- Hey, I'm looking for X. Do you know of one that is good?

- Have you ever X?

- What's your favorite X?

- Do you follow X [sports]?

Most people like to be helpful, or talk about shared interests. Worst case they say "dunno, sorry".

Maybe try a different activity that involves more interaction with people? Some kind of team sport or cross fit maybe? Martial arts?
Yeah i talk about sports sometimes like boxing and mma. But i dont know how i can start a friendship.

should i say something like, can i be your friend after talking for a while?
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