Seems wild disrespectful to mid cancel plans with you to go out to dinner with(likely) another dude, who likely asked her out to dinner that very day, she knew she had plans. if you have the tickets, ghost that bitch and either try and sell the extra ticket or both tickets. or just take the loss on one and move forward. cause i'm going to assume you have the tickets, hence why she didn't flat out cancel on you


edit:

her play is i'll go to this concert with my friend but go out to dinner with a guy i can see as a boyfriend.

the question is whether op raised an eyebrow based on information about this gal that only he knows or because he's a blackpilled miscer in general

go NC. a girl did this to me years ago who was actually my gf beforehand. we broke up for a little while and were just patching things up. we had plans to go out that night but then apparently some coworker of hers was having a going away party. she chose that instead of me. that was legit the last straw and i stopped talking to her for good.

Damn. She pretty much is saying you aren't important.

If she bailed on dinner for a "colleague" she definitely isn't interested, unfortunately.

If all this took place this is brutal.

And OP will now lose money off that extra ticket he bought her

Best way forward

A concert is a terrible date idea

definite disrespect


onto the next one

wow crazy fking night boyos LMAO

-was still pissed and got drunk b4 i went to pick her up
-the concert was scheduled to start at 9 and she wasn't ready til 9:30
-when she came into the car we talked a bit and i was probing her questions regarding this "colleague"
-somthing seemed off and i'm usually pretty good at telling when people are lying, she was looking down the whole time talking about this colleague, said they were celebrating a colleague leaving for his last day of work today but she seemed pretty uncomfortable and kept rushing me to drive
-then i said "give me my cable back" (for a vape that I 'gave' to her last week after our last date)
-she went back into the house and when she came back she gave me a micro-USB cable instead of the usb-c cable i gave her. which is funny cause we even tested the usb-c cable i gave her back at my place cause she really needed a cord for her vape and it worked for her vape, yet she somehow forgets and gives me a micro-usb cable instead? (she's broke, but I knew immediately she was stealing my chit. and I am a huge gamer/gaming pc person so I know my phucking cables)
-immediately caught her lying and told her to GTFO the car, said very very calmly "please get out"
-she wouldn't GTFO the car and starts throwing a hissy fit and was in denial i was lying to her, she called the cops while in my car, trapping me in
-lied to the cops saying I threatened to kill her and "I" was the one holding her hostage in the car
-cops came, I told the truth, de-escalated the situation and we both went home. obv I didn't do anything illegal and she was frantically trying so hard to convince the cops i was some psychopath/sociopath that was trying to kill her. (thank jeeeesus the cops were men and understood my situation immediately and could tell she was bat chit crazy)

It all happened SO FAST but my initial plan was to probe her questions and see if she was lying about the 'dinner with colleague' in the first place. When I asked her she kept looking down and wouldn't give me eye contact, almost as if she was shameful (probably lying). My next immediate plan was to see if she was even faithful about the vape cord I gave her, so I kindly asked for it back. And when she came back into the car with the wrong cable I knew she was lying about everything.

During her tirade / mental breakdown on the phone w/ the cop (she was half talking chit to me/half talking to the cops) she admitted to me that the ex that physically assaulted to her recently apologized to her (idk why she said that or what led to her saying that). So what I think is really going on was she's been secretly seeing her ex that used to abuse the phuck out of her (and they're currently in court too). her IG stories have been a lot of 'dinner' pics with no people in it so I'm assuming she's been re-dating her ex cause girls have clingy issues with guys that used to abuse them is my guess. explains why she was looking down in the car and uncomfortable/shameful when I asked her about "colleague" cause she knows it's wrong to date an abusive ex and doesn't know wtf to do with her life.

Sounds like a fukin mental case.

I'd go NC, it ain't worth it.

You should not ever be pissed at something a sloot does OP, it should merely inform you that she is a sloot. You may now begin segregating your assets from her and initiating ghost protocol (North Carolina extraction).

I'd go with Ratfish's advice and set up another date just to see how things will pan out

it's over

yea no kidding, she was spamming my phone after talking mad chit lmaooo, i just ignored and deleted her contact

i'm a usually super calm guy so I've never been in these kinda situations with girls but the misc is right about women, some of them are just bat chit insane and have the mental maturity of a 5 yr old

Was it a work thing? Sometimes you can’t get out of those in fairness.

EDIT: Yeah lol you handled that terribly, Ratfish had the most normal advice on here. Really shocking how insecure and autistic some of you are. Although in fairness, the girl also seems like a wacko.

Dodged a bullet. Definitely not worth your time or anyone else's unless they want drama and issues.

I don't get the part about freaking out over a usb c cable.

the whole things is pathetic tbh,
from her going on a date before your date
to you getting drunk and waiting 30 min past the start of the concert for her getting ready
to giving her a vape on your second date
to demanding the vape back, and freaking out about the wrong $5 cable

the police part is just icing on the cake


good work bro, and by bro I mean never my bro

Maybe she was kidnapped and her captor sent the message.

Did she flake plans before? A colleague is someone you see every work day so it is not like this is some long lost friend that suddenly popped up. This leads me to conclude that you are just an option and not ranked at the top. Give more attention to other women you are talking too. Try to shake of your feels for this one and NEVER anymore pay for her chit

Well that escalated quickly.

If she would lie about a usb c cable which is worth nothing then she’d lie about anything and can’t be trusted. That’s my take on it. Yes I overreacted but trust is a huge thing for me. I never wanted to see her again once I caught her in a lie and told her to get out. The fact she called the cops on me was pathetic and I never intended for that to happen. Imagine if I actually followed through w the date who knows how much crazier she could’ve been. Dodged a billet

Beast Chicken strikes again.

So what if she was getting smashed by Chad before seeing you? Are there already relationship commitments and she’s your gf? Op seemed to put too much ideal attachments to a sloot he only went on 3 dates with. Get drunk and drive to her interrogating her when she’s not even your gf? Strong traits of a non-alpha insecure person. You could have just went NC on the sloot and not show up at all and saved your time and trouble.

Yea I learned my lesson. Def overreacted cause alcohol was involved. Normally I’d just go NC. And no I wasn’t “interrogating” her just immediately found out about the cable and lost all trust with her. Why waste any more time lmao

girls are dumb about cables, I highly doubt she was trying to exchange cables with you, probably weirded out that you asked for a gift back after 1 date, it's possible, but why did you give it to her on the second date anyway?

anyway, you did dodge a bullet but you jumped right into this mess

If she made out with you in bed every time, she might actually like you but just lack some ettiquette. She might be with a friend, might think it is ok to change plans, ... or she might be seeing multiple people.

3 dates in is a bit early to be exclusive. She might be avoiding sex since she only does that once she picks someone.

Do you want to compete for her?

Wait you were drunk, drove to pick her up and then spoke to the leo while drunk in your car

Because she needed one for her vape so I gave it to her. Yes it was an unnecessary mess I could’ve easily avoided

After a heated argument and she calling the cops I sobered up real quick. Plus I’m Asian and cops treat me easily + good at handling situations w cops. She didn’t even know I was drunk

“Probing” someone with questions about where they were, who they were with, tends to to make them feel uncomfortable. You don’t know if she was telling the truth or not. The uncomfortable vibe and things being off could have been what you created.