Originally Posted By truesteez⏩

Being wealthy and under the radar is the most ideal situation, especially if you have assets. Publicity opens you up to unwanted attention, harassment and risk for theft or lawsuits. You're doing it right. Plus you probably get more quality clients from referrals or word of mouth.

GJDM

I learned a great lesson 13 years ago. Money does NOT buy happiness. I have shared the story many times, but I will briefly. I enjoyed decent success early in life. College drop out. Parents were not wealthy. (Dad was an electrician and my mom was a mom) Was self-made millionaire in my mid-20 and I was obsessed with achieving more and more in life. I never enjoyed any of it really. I was just so driven that it never dawned on me to enjoy life. No achievement was ever good enough and each day was about trying to do better.

Life dealt me a great lesson. One that I needed. Having the economy crash 08-09, shutting down 2 businesses AND almost getting killed in a accident faced me to evaluate my life in my mid-30's. I broke my neck and suffered a TBI which caused short term memory loss. Took me a year to recover, although I will never be the same mentally. TBI has changed (lessened my abilities to process at the level I once did). I have (had) very high IQ and process at a good level. Self taught compulsive learner my entire life.

Anyway, I learned that I always had everything in life that I wanted to be happy. I just never appreciated it. That is my wife and kids. I took them for granted. I never took the time to be 'present'. I saw that nothing I ever bought made me happy. Even owing 3 helicopters at one time and 'commuting' out of my back yard was not something I appreciated. I just took for granted that I should be doing all those things and was focused on what is next.

So I swore off all things material. I sold most of everything. Sold the 10,000 sqft home and moved in a small neighborhood where our kids (3 and 5 at the time) could live a 'normal' life. It was great. I went from driving a G-Wagen (one of the first 200 in the us) to driving a Nissan Mini-van. I put my kids on the bus every day and was there at the stop sign to get the off when the day was over. I took 3 years off of any work and found true happiness. NONE of it came from stuff.

As time has gone on, I have allowed myself to enjoy some of the fruits of my labor. I have had a few lambos (which I would only buy after my wife convinced me to do for myself). I built our family another home. But I always make sure I dont loose focus of what is important.

I am putting my efforts in things that we can enjoy as a family. I just took a 16 hour round trip to pick up my son's Christmas gift. I bought him his own race car. When he finally turns 16 we will be able to travel to more car events and he will need his own track car. I got him out on track starting at 14. It has been an awesome journey. This new car is a PERFECT thing for us. Totally track dedicated. (not street legal). Has sequential transmission...etc. Kind of a crazy thing to buy for your kid, but it is about the experiences this will bring us and the times we will share. We are already planning our attack to be ready for the new track season in spring!

I dont feel I have all that much and I live what I consider very conservatively. I feel lucky to get to share these moments with my family and that to me is the most important thing.

RAW lifts
635 Dead http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mATRBZ0gwdg
585x7 Dead reps http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6yf2ZkdNNNQ
420 Bench (paused) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJ2_Q-TLIB8
535 Squat https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kdgVaiTi4-8&feature=youtu.be

Originally Posted By induced_drag⏩

I learned a great lesson 13 years ago. Money does NOT buy happiness. I have shared the story many times, but I will briefly. I enjoyed decent success early in life. College drop out. Parents were not wealthy. (Dad was an electrician and my mom was a mom) Was self-made millionaire in my mid-20 and I was obsessed with achieving more and more in life. I never enjoyed any of it really. I was just so driven that it never dawned on me to enjoy life. No achievement was ever good enough and each day was about trying to do better.

Life dealt me a great lesson. One that I needed. Having the economy crash 08-09, shutting down 2 businesses AND almost getting killed in a accident faced me to evaluate my life in my mid-30's. I broke my neck and suffered a TBI which caused short term memory loss. Took me a year to recover, although I will never be the same mentally. TBI has changed (lessened my abilities to process at the level I once did). I have (had) very high IQ and process at a good level. Self taught compulsive learner my entire life.

Anyway, I learned that I always had everything in life that I wanted to be happy. I just never appreciated it. That is my wife and kids. I took them for granted. I never took the time to be 'present'. I saw that nothing I ever bought made me happy. Even owing 3 helicopters at one time and 'commuting' out of my back yard was not something I appreciated. I just took for granted that I should be doing all those things and was focused on what is next.

So I swore off all things material. I sold most of everything. Sold the 10,000 sqft home and moved in a small neighborhood where our kids (3 and 5 at the time) could live a 'normal' life. It was great. I went from driving a G-Wagen (one of the first 200 in the us) to driving a Nissan Mini-van. I put my kids on the bus every day and was there at the stop sign to get the off when the day was over. I took 3 years off of any work and found true happiness. NONE of it came from stuff.

As time has gone on, I have allowed myself to enjoy some of the fruits of my labor. I have had a few lambos (which I would only buy after my wife convinced me to do for myself). I built our family another home. But I always make sure I dont loose focus of what is important.

I am putting my efforts in things that we can enjoy as a family. I just took a 16 hour round trip to pick up my son's Christmas gift. I bought him his own race car. When he finally turns 16 we will be able to travel to more car events and he will need his own track car. I got him out on track starting at 14. It has been an awesome journey. This new car is a PERFECT thing for us. Totally track dedicated. (not street legal). Has sequential transmission...etc. Kind of a crazy thing to buy for your kid, but it is about the experiences this will bring us and the times we will share. We are already planning our attack to be ready for the new track season in spring!

I dont feel I have all that much and I live what I consider very conservatively. I feel lucky to get to share these moments with my family and that to me is the most important thing.

takes a special type of person to see the sky above the clouds yet find happiness on the ground

that was always with you regardless of what happened.

Boycott foodservice industry crew

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Originally Posted By rectifryer⏩

takes a special type of person to see the sky above the clouds yet find happiness on the ground

that was always with you regardless of what happened.

Wish I had understood that sooner! Much of what we are conditioned to desire goes against the nature of finding happiness. Just finding the ability to be in the present is a HUGE step to understanding what brings fulfilment. I am lucky in many ways to have figured this out, albeit the hard way

Originally Posted By MountainLion84⏩

Nice OP

Will you post pics of it here when it's completed? That would be neat

If BB.com is still around

This is one that is being built now that I did. Owner is 'famous' in the NASCAR world. Cool home limited by a narrow site. I enjoy being the guy who no one knows that will leave behind a bunch of stuff that people live in and never think about me, yet I have touched their lives in some way.

Originally Posted By SouthDakotaBrah⏩

We are all just 'some guy', doesn't matter how outwardly successful you are (100% srs), if you understand that it means you are a truly conscious human

btw OP I had a similar experience, bad car accident + TBI forced me to slow down, give up my career ambitions of working 60+ hours per week, ended up finding God and finding the way (srs). Those types of events happen to us for a reason brah

Glad you survived that. My accident did not give me any spiritual revelations, but it did affect me deeply in other ways. I found a love for all people and an appreciation for people who are different than me whereas before, I was critical of others. I learned to embrace what is different, and stop judging. (or at least try to accept people as they come to me). I survived an accident that was almost impossible to survive. I dragged a guys dead body out of the wreckage who was 1/2 decapitated just inches from me. At the time of trauma, you are not in your right mind. I got to experience first hand just how fragile life is. I have never had a 'bad' day since my accident. There are some that just are not as GREAT as others.

Eye opening and truly a gift for me. I look at it still as one of the best days of my life. I would not take it back ever.

Originally Posted By YeahTheGoys⏩

Based

Moar boar no longer wants moar!

Dont get me wrong, nice stuff is nice, but it does not bring true fulfilment. Lots of rich lonely people trying to buy distractions from their deep pit of unhappiness they live within. I have found that I feel most happy giving up caring about what makes me happy, and living for others. Specifically to be there in support of the ones I love. I feel pretty unimportant overall and I am happy with that. I am turning 50 in a few months.

The one thing I do take a lot of pride in is the 25 years I have spent in the gym. It is mine and for me. Many misc warriors will throw rocks and shout 'juicy'. (no longer lifetime natty, but had almost 20 years of training before turning in my natty card). But you simply dont hold a quality physique AND maintain good health by abusing drugs. It might work in the short term, but it will catch up with you in the end. Like many other things, life is all about balance.

RAW lifts
635 Dead http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mATRBZ0gwdg
585x7 Dead reps http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6yf2ZkdNNNQ
420 Bench (paused) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJ2_Q-TLIB8
535 Squat https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kdgVaiTi4-8&feature=youtu.be

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Originally Posted By Nonsense916⏩

How much is he paying you

This home will be about 60 for design. About 10k of that is for structural engineering, so the design itself will be about 50k. Architects can 'seal' their own designs for structure. But when you are just a 'designer' you subcontract out the structural design to a licensed PE. I know enough about structure to do it myself, but I lack any credentials. So I just draw the 's' pages and have the engineer add his notes and then incorporate into final plans.

Originally Posted By DesiredUser****⏩

Impressive skills especially being self taught brah. Is he going to put in a dock with some boats/jetskis?

He is on a beautiful lake lot at the end. He has almost 3/4 mile lake views out he back of the home to the other side of the shore in that area. The home on the property is getting knocked down. The home to the right just sold 2 years ago for 7 mil. Nice area for sure, but this will be the 'nicest' one in my opinion. Not many modern designs in our area.

RAW lifts
635 Dead http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mATRBZ0gwdg
585x7 Dead reps http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6yf2ZkdNNNQ
420 Bench (paused) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJ2_Q-TLIB8
535 Squat https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kdgVaiTi4-8&feature=youtu.be

*Look at reflection in car window and flex every time crew*
*Use half the roll to wipe after a poo crew*
*Fart in the gym and blame rotten smell on faulty ventilation crew*
*Fart at home and blame it on the dog crew*
*Watch neutron-star density poop mock me as water flushes around it and it stays put crew*
*Drive 2 minutes in the summer and back of shirt gets completely wet crew*
*Coffee black as midnight on a moonless night crew*
*Fat shame my cat on a daily basis crew*

Originally Posted By induced_drag⏩

Wish I had understood that sooner! Much of what we are conditioned to desire goes against the nature of finding happiness. Just finding the ability to be in the present is a HUGE step to understanding what brings fulfilment. I am lucky in many ways to have figured this out, albeit the hard way

.

Yes its a huge part of collective illusion, and is a known phenomenon. Sometimes we chase chit just because its what we're supposed to do, so we get competitive about it. Its easy to obscure what makes us happy, especially when large stacks of cash does a pretty fukking good job making it easier to find happiness.

Boycott foodservice industry crew

Originally Posted By induced_drag⏩

Among other things, I design homes. I am self taught, like everything else I have ever done.

Originally Posted By induced_drag⏩

Last minute 16 hour round trip to pick up a race car for my son.

Originally Posted By DuracellBunny⏩

My house has 2 sides that are glass and it's set on 40 acres over 1/4 miles from the road, with a gated driveway. People don't randomly wander up to it.

Originally Posted By induced_drag⏩

I learned to 'build' in the field swinging a hammer.

Originally Posted By induced_drag⏩

College drop out. Was self-made millionaire in my mid-20.

shutting down 2 businesses
I have (had) very high IQ and process at a good level. Self taught compulsive learner my entire life.

That is my wife and kids. ... owing 3 helicopters at one time and 'commuting' out of my back yard

10,000 sqft home
driving a G-Wagen (one of the first 200 in the us)

I have had a few lambos (which I would only buy after my wife convinced me to do for myself). I built our family another home.

Originally Posted By induced_drag⏩

I dragged a guys dead body out of the wreckage who was 1/2 decapitated just inches from me.
Eye opening and truly a gift for me. I look at it still as one of the best days of my life. I would not take it back ever.

Barbers offer to cut my throat instead of my hair because of my ugliness crew
Cry myself to sleep while humping mattress and clutching pillow crew
Make eye contact with a girl, pass out and get a concussion crew
T-Mobile worker laughed at me because only had one number for 5-friends/family plan crew
Got jumped and bystanders laughed/recorded it crew
Take out trash and trash man mistakes me for garbage crew
Mom slides food through slot in my door without saying a word crew

Losers let it happen, winners make it happen.

Nonsense Army Crew.

Not in the AM

Screw nature; my body will do what I DAMN WELL tell it to do!

The only dangerous thing about an exercise is the person doing it.

They had the technology to rebuild me. They made me better, stronger, faster......

RAW lifts
635 Dead http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mATRBZ0gwdg
585x7 Dead reps http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6yf2ZkdNNNQ
420 Bench (paused) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJ2_Q-TLIB8
535 Squat https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kdgVaiTi4-8&feature=youtu.be

RAW lifts
635 Dead http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mATRBZ0gwdg
585x7 Dead reps http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6yf2ZkdNNNQ
420 Bench (paused) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJ2_Q-TLIB8
535 Squat https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kdgVaiTi4-8&feature=youtu.be

Don't put that on me Ricky Bobby, don't you ever put that on me.

Screw nature; my body will do what I DAMN WELL tell it to do!

The only dangerous thing about an exercise is the person doing it.

They had the technology to rebuild me. They made me better, stronger, faster......