Boundaries are for yourself not other people.

Took me a long time to understand that.

This.

Also OP did you even bother to hear her "boundaries". Everyone has boundaries and to say that you don't have your own means you're a people pleaser.

Only abusers have an issue with bondaries,however abusers will twist "boundaries" into manipulative rules. Definitely something you have to assess on a case to case basis.

Yep, we had known each other for only like a week at that point. As soon as she said this, I went from super excited to nearly telling her to stay home.

he knew her for a week, you dont get it, a woman really into you should be chill and on her best behavior, especially in the early stages, not bitching and nagging you. you realize it will only get worse when hes committed later and she really shows her true colors. this is her while shes hiding her colors right now and its already fuked up.

You can test if she had anal sex with someone else a few hour before.

Take a feather and stroke it over her anus. if the anus reacts with pushing together she did not have anal sex. If the anus opens it means the anus still reacts to the stimulus of anal sex.

This is how doctors test on abuse victims. But you can use it on your own.

You can test if she had anal sex with someone else a few hour before.

Take a feather and stroke it over her anus. if the anus reacts with pushing together she did not have anal sex. If the anus opens it means the anus still reacts to the stimulus of anal sex.

This is how doctors test on abuse victims. But you can use it on your own.

Yes this is common sense but many women think their company alone is worth the world, like guys really want to hear about their slooty friends or work drama at their email HR job.

There are no boundaries with guys they are into.

Id wonder who’s the dude that she wouldn’t have any boundaries at all with

Lol, she actually started talking about boundaries when I told her I wanted to do anal.

I don't even understand what OP is talking about. Is it something sexual?

Boundaries aren't rules my guy. Maybe you're right her boundaries are BS, but you didn't listen so you'll never know. Just because you're paying for everything doesn't mean you get complete control lol.

Though based on this situation she'll probably let you get away with most things anyway.

To be fair women do tend to misuse "boundaries" for rules, but in this case we'll never know.

I remember I went through a phase of this when I tried online dating lol. These girls would use these “therapy style” buzzwords with me that they thought were taking control of the situation but were in reality just dead giveaways to me that they were damaged goods.

Anytime a girl would play some **** like that with me I would basically just look at them like they were crazy and had no idea what they were talking about and say something like “I’m not sure what you mean by boundaries or whatever, but I don’t think anyone should do something they’re not comfortable with so it’s up to you.”

But that’s true for me, if I took a girl on a trip that I wasn’t clearly dating and hooking up with, I wouldn’t have those expectations.

My whole thing is that I believe if you’re looking for a real relationship, it’s not fair to take YOUR baggage from the previous relationship and put in on the next person. It’s also not fair to go in to the next person with a “I’m NEVER going to let what _______ did to me happen ever again.” Girls with this kind of mentality are perpetually single and on these dating apps. They’re so desperate to get a pathway to a relationship set in concrete, that they don’t let a real relationship develop naturally and the guy walks (if he’s a good guy).

It’s really sad actually.




But in this case I think Kraken was right and it was mainly this. She either didn’t want to have sex (for real) or she was on with sex, but didn’t want to feel cheap and used. Like she OWES you sex for the trip.

If you hadn’t had sex at that point, then it’s likely she didn’t want sex at all on the trip.











Give us the details

Violating said boundaries is going to get her wetter than she's ever been.

Scrap the onshore trip plans and pivot into a international waters yacht trip. I have a feeling her boundaries will loosen.

Because of the implication.

Also, for the Misc. Here's a picture of the girl I am talking about, if someone can embed.

https://imgur.com/a/SU2CmJi

I traveled for a month with her, and we were fuking like 2x per day for the first few weeks, but eventually I realized she was a selfish bitch and I pretty much lost interest. Fuked her once during the last 10 days of us sleeping in the same bed, and left her at the airport in Manila. Hopefully she’s doing ok?

Anyways, I’m pretty easygoing and eventually she started nagging me constantly to buy her things she didn’t have and would throw mini tantrums if I told her no. She probably thought I was hooked on the pussy, but I was pretty much over it as it wasn’t that good and she started looking worse.