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post 1691398433 10-09-2023, 05:55 PM
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Originally Posted By rollerball⏩
just take some fukkin drugs for mental illlness nigguh, problem fixed
all the drugs I have found have unwanted side effects, infact many people on prescription meds seem kinda 'dead inside'

whilst it's better to be a bit void of any 'oompf' and be mentally at peace , it's certainly not a solution as far i'm concerned.

zoloft, citalopram, ****** etc - yeah they all serve a purpose but it's no way to live imo. sure again it's better than not living.

weed helps put my mind at ease like a true G but it doesn't feel sustainable as when there's a high, there's a low. so it's a constant juggling act - so I try avoid it. although it instantly makes my mind feel good so there's that
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Originally Posted By rollerball⏩
Life is comparably chitty for the vast majority of people on this planet. If you can take a drug that deadens you while still be able to take advantage of 1st world living then I say you're doing relatively great.
what a crap mentality no wonder you need drugs to function
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Originally Posted By rollerball⏩
Life is comparably chitty for the vast majority of people on this planet. If you can take a drug that deadens you while still be able to take advantage of 1st world living then I say you're doing relatively great.
being void of personality doesn't mean anything?

i know it's better than 'suffering' in many ways, but from what I see, meds just help you succumb to mediocrity which is obviously relative (what we consider mediocre, is living the dream compared to a kid in a hut living in the Philippines).

so yeah one could take meds and just 'get on with life', your right.

it all just seems like a bandaid solution, like any other self help stuff
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post 1691398933 10-09-2023, 06:06 PM
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post 1691399023 10-09-2023, 06:09 PM
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Originally Posted By rollerball⏩
Lol it's a crap mentality to understand how good we have it here compared to much of the rest of the world? Lol k.
well yeah, if you need drugs to over ride your natural chemical balance - you're doing something wrong surely?

i know it's ironic coming from me as I'm on a journey to be happy but i'm not sure meds are the answer.

my cousin is diagnosed bi polar/manic depressive and has been on meds since we was a bout 30 , he's now 50. yeah sure the meds appear to help him, but I can't help but think if he could be hypothetically picked up and put in a situation in life where he thrives - he wouldn't need meds.

but instead he's constantly had the whole square peg/round whole scenario in life, where he's felt the need to do stressful jobs to make a living and support his family, but not all of us are cut out for stressful living in cities and high pressure jobs (He was a stockbroker earning **** tonnes of £ in the early 2000s).

my point is sorry, is that people on meds seem no happier, kinda like religious people. it's just a bandaid solution.

you're right in that it's weird how we can't just enjoy life and maybe modern advancements in medicine are a good thing but the human mind has been a thing for what.......thousands of years. anti depressants/SSRIs came out in the late 80s. maybe modern advancements in medicine have been 'that' great, but from I can see SSRIs aren't a great solution.
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Originally Posted By rollerball⏩
Lol it's a crap mentality to understand how good we have it here compared to much of the rest of the world? Lol k.
you do realise 3rd world countries hardly have any depression/anxiety etc? it's the most advanced countries that suffer from this nonsense.
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Originally Posted By 7empest⏩
well yeah, if you need drugs to over ride your natural chemical balance - you're doing something wrong surely?

i know it's ironic coming from me as I'm on a journey to be happy but i'm not sure meds are the answer.

my cousin is diagnosed bi polar/manic depressive and has been on meds since we was a bout 30 , he's now 50. yeah sure the meds appear to help him, but I can't help but think if he could be hypothetically picked up and put in a situation in life where he thrives - he wouldn't need meds.

but instead he's constantly had the whole square peg/round whole scenario in life, where he's felt the need to do stressful jobs to make a living and support his family, but not all of us are cut out for stressful living in cities and high pressure jobs (He was a stockbroker earning **** tonnes of £ in the early 2000s)
some people genuinely have f'd up minds but they're quite rare. we've all been conditioned to think we have depression or anxiety when we are abusing our bodies with alcohol and drugs, eating like crap & spending our whole lives in front of screens. show me a person with a good circle of friends/hobbies, that spends time in nature, eats well, doesn't drink & do drugs & exercises often and is still mentally not well. if they're still messed up then sure they may need some assistance but majority of people on anti depressants etc are just taking the easy way out rather than putting in work into their bodies & mental health
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Originally Posted By rollerball⏩
huh? that's retarded. some people like you and OP have fukked up chemical imbalances, just figure out what you need from a pharmacology perspective and move on with your life.
thats prob due to alcohol though. once you start abusing alcohol, withdrawals physically and mentally suck. slowly getting off it will fix that
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Originally Posted By ithappenss⏩
some people genuinely have f'd up minds but they're quite rare. we've all been conditioned to think we have depression or anxiety when we are abusing our bodies with alcohol and drugs, eating like crap & spending our whole lives in front of screens. show me a person with a good circle of friends/hobbies, that spends time in nature, eats well, doesn't drink & do drugs & exercises often and is still mentally not well. if they're still messed up then sure they may need some assistance but majority of people on anti depressants etc are just taking the easy way out rather than putting in work into their bodies & mental health
Ok, but how do we deal with the overbearing truth that everyone and everything you love will die, and actually, relatively soon in the grand scheme?

for some it appears not a huge issue but I find it extremely hard to come to terms with. Of course the best thing to do is live life to the best of our abilities and bring happiness to people who we love - but it's still kinda ****ty (the outcome)
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Originally Posted By ithappenss⏩
thats prob due to alcohol though. once you start abusing alcohol, withdrawals physically and mentally suck. slowly getting off it will fix that
nah I don't care for alcohol and have never been a drinker. I only disovered weed recently too so that can't be the issue as I was the same depressed kunt back then too.

A problem is i'm too fukken sensitive as a human being, which isn't a trait I like about myself, but it's there. i don't like being the way I am at all, in the slighest.

anyway i'm off to beddy byes, night peeps, catch u tomorrow
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Originally Posted By 7empest⏩
Ok, but how do we deal with the overbearing truth that everyone and everything you love will die, and actually, relatively soon in the grand scheme?

for some it appears not a huge issue but I find it extremely hard to come to terms with. Of course the best thing to do is live life to the best of our abilities and bring happiness to people who we love - but it's still kinda ****ty (the outcome)
just have to come to terms with it. not much we can do. spend time with the people you care about now & that's it. if you're at your best mentally it will be easier to deal with it when the time comes opposed to how you'd deal with it if you were already in a low spot
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post 1691400363 10-09-2023, 06:33 PM
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Originally Posted By rollerball⏩
Lmao at this existential dilemma that 14 year olds go through.There is no grand scheme, there is no underlying purposeother than to exist and prosper if possible - we have the time that we have on earth, enjoy it while it lasts.
yet people are so damn determined to have kids to make their own lives appear less stark and make their journey in life less lonely by bringing other unconsenting people into the world who just go a long with life until they reach adulthood and question stuff.

it's a vicious cycle.

"my life has no meaning"
"lets have kids to make our lives more meaningful"
*kid(s) 20 years later* "life has no meaning"

it's just blind leading the blind and yeah some are lucky enough to just get on with it or take meds to make life bearable. but there's no denying the whole situation is ill thought out and moronic (when you look at it from a logical standpoint, not through the eyes of 'love').

'love' = a magic spell. no denying it's there and it actually exists unlike magic. but people shouldn't make such big life decisions such as imposing life on an unborn embryo while under the effects of love - imo.

how many kids do you know that were born into a loving household but their life ends up rather tumultous by teenage years/adulthood - when they realise their existence is based upon a fleeting feeling (love)


also damn I didn't have any existential dilemmas @ 14, i wish i did then perhaps I wouldn't be a 30 year old man making a fool of himself on an internet forum and I could have outgrown such feelings



again perhaps the answer is just to stay busy, all the time, no matter what.

this helps somewhat
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Originally Posted By mr.left
Take a trip to India and **** on the beach... you will realize how Blessed you really are. there are plenty of people out here in worse situation's than any of us.

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yeah all of this stuff people say to comfort those in need like "goto india and see how other people live" etc. of course it would be moronic to not appreciate how 'lucky' we are in the western world (UK, US etc at least).

but just cause someone has it worse doesn't make it any better tbh. all that does for me is make me realise how unbelievably selfish humans are, that they know their living conditions suck because of the population - yet for the past 30 years or so they breed like rats. all to make their own lives less lonely etc.

why not, look around and see the situation clearly isn't gonna get better (and actual get worse) by continually popping out children
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Originally Posted By rollerball⏩
Huh? Wtf is this, life for people like you and me has been relatively awesome our entire lives. I'm psyched I got brought into this world by my parents as opposed to a limitless oblivion with never having experienced a sense of self and seeing cool chit, eating cool chit, fukking hot bishes, going on sweet vacations or whatever the fukk life has to offer.

I could understand this mentality if you were born a North Korean or one of those starving African kids with the flies all over them but you're playing a fukking Suhr dude.
lucky you mate and i know it's not 'luck', it's concious decision to be happy and grateful.

i do feel grateful but it's so fleeting and i dunno , it feels soul destroying just existing and know that's all we're doing. we're not here for a special purpose. whilst this clearly brings peace to people (that there is no divine purpose/plan), for me, I just often wish I never got brought into it in the first place.

i knoww there are cool aspects of life., like muzzlepress said even being in an air conned room miscing is a blessing. but damn - it really does feel like clutching at straws a bit. I know it isn't, and what you dudes are saying is totally right - but yeah it's kinda hard to feel. maybe human expectations are too high?

but i'm not even expecting a crazy dan bilzerian life, I just want to get through life in the least painful way possible, but yeah I sure as hell wish (my) life didn't have to of happened in the first place and my parents just got a chihuahua or something instead of me
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Originally Posted By MichelleLnne⏩
Quit drinking and find something to help you with your coping skills.. I started doing yoga almost three years ago and am a recovering alcoholic.. id say that yoga has been life changer for me. I also had 20 years of alcoholism leading up to me quitting so there were many hard lessons along the way. So that’s where my advice comes from but drinking is always the worst **** you can be doing.. it makes 0 better!!
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Originally Posted By 7empest⏩
yeah all of this stuff people say to comfort those in need like "goto india and see how other people live" etc. of course it would be moronic to not appreciate how 'lucky' we are in the western world (UK, US etc at least).

but just cause someone has it worse doesn't make it any better tbh. all that does for me is make me realise how unbelievably selfish humans are, that they know their living conditions suck because of the population - yet for the past 30 years or so they breed like rats. all to make their own lives less lonely etc.

why not, look around and see the situation clearly isn't gonna get better (and actual get worse) by continually popping out children
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Go get your test checked. Seriously. Everything you've described is a sign of lower test.
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Originally Posted By mr.left
LIFE IS short and nobody is here to save you... Man the **** up and make your dad proudhttps://youtu.be/nnn_1-9ap8w?si=a5HrC4oiGhAxufjF
see, when people use this approach on me, it doesn't inspire at all, quite the opposite. it makes me wish existence (mine) never happened because it's setting everything up for heartbreak right from the get go. to me, suffering of that magnitude (even if it's catastrophised in my mind) simply doesn't make life worth. no matter what one goes on to achieve, meet, love etc. but hey - there's a view
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Go get your test checked. Seriously. Everything you've described is a sign of lower test.
yeah i will do, last time it was within the range. not low, not high but i'm sure that private dr would have taken the opportunity to sell me testosterone if she felt it would help, cheers though brah
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nah, I just think people like you make mountains out of molehills
yeah perhaps
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