Yeah it is largely unfulfilling once you've had so much of it anyway, but it always ends up 'overriding my better judgement'.

Every time a relationship has failed for me though I tend to miss the 'little things' the most. When my wife is away I honestly miss the way we wake up together every day and have a coffee.

Well the FWB won't be affected at all. She's great and since we are truly just friends that bang once or twice a week won't mess anything else up.

I haven't had sex with the others yet but Saturday it will happen with the one English girl.


I can't even start to form a bond until after sex has happened.

And the last girl I fell in love with I was actively seeing others but she got me quick and I lost interest in everyone else.

The girl I just saw is really really cool. She has all these cool little quirks and mannerisms that I just love the way she moves her head facial expressions.

She's got a banging body and a pretty but not beautiful face.

Not sure where that will go yet.

Not knocking it at all, just sounded open ended from the first post. I'd likely do the same thing in the same shoes.That's what the dudes are for.

My plan is doomed to failure. I'm a huge fan of vagina

You might be less enthusiastic after you see the roast beef and feel nothing but air when going deep on some of these single moms.

All in all - tons of reason for optimism for anyone coming out of a divorce to find happiness getting back in the game regardless of what you're looking for but you have to prioritize it, accept it might take some time and do other things in your life to build your overall confidence and happiness.

I was checked out of my disappointing marriage for quite a while but took my time making sure there was nothing to salvage being we had a young child.
I reached out to past flings first (probably a mistake as one quickly re-caught feels who I had zero interest in). My confidence approaching/picking-up/dating girls was shot but I'm still a social person so I was able to get out and meet some here and there but well below the quality I wanted. I didn't go online (Bumble/Tinder) until the divorce was finalized as I didn't want to piss off the ex even more but also I just wanted to be of a certain level of confidence before doing that as well. I was also hella busy with work/gym/getting the divorce done/prioritizing relationships with friends and family and my son so getting back in the dating game wasn't something I had time for during portions of that year.

Things changed when I took a bro-trip and took down a cute younger girl one night.
Since then my confidence shot through the roof and I've hooked up with 8 girls in the last 6 months. Last few months focusing more on quality and dating ones that are hot and interest me (actually found some quality on bumble). I put one girl i met at the bar on a pedestal and didn't feel worthy of her even after a decent connection & sorta messed it up but in hindsight it wouldn't have lasted anyways and she wasn't right for me personality-wise.
Currently dating someone I'm very attracted to, has their chit together, and is generally good for me but taking my time figuring out if getting in a relationship is the right move.

Way happier now than I was during my marriage.

PM number and pics. Do it now!Nah, none of that. Just two people who can't get along anymore. 18 years, it's bound to happen.

i just got dumped after 7 years in mid october. i havnt started dating or smashing yet. no kids or anything thank christ. but the dating world is scary now.

Random sexual encounters mostly.

It would be hard to go through all the normal crap again

are there any chad mgtows

I would never make it. Not at my age.

And if you're like me, the thought of being with another woman sounds exhausting too. I know this is the misc. where everyone claims to bang women regularly, but I legit have no desire to be with anyone other than my wife. 15 years and I still only want her.

Since the sex thing doesn't apply to me - if I were to become divorced (God forbid), I'd not look again.

I'd had almost already given up when I met my dude. My plan was to launch a business and do community service until the end of my time on this earth.

I can't deal with the multi-partner, scatterbrained romance game people are engaged in today's world.

First time divorced I was relatively young (met @ 24, married @ 27, divorced @ 32) and I was determined to not let it turn me into a bitter old woman. Didn't really date around though because I ended up married to the first guy I started seeing.

This time I don't know. I don't have any real desire to remarry. Not looking to have children. Don't know if I have the energy or emotional resilience to date a bunch of people. Oh, and like dating as an old lady was never awesome, but now from the outside it looks super yucky.

But I do miss sex. Actually read a post by a woman that hires professionals and thought, well, very straight forward and you don't have to worry about catching feels for someone that isn't into you. Still icky though.

Meh.

Therapist seriously suggested I consider trying women. Definitely a lot more single women available than men in my age group.

I literally can't envision either scenario; however, the divorce situation would probably be a little different after a while I suppose. I'd like to think I'd control myself but one doesn't really know until they're in the situation lol.

Tons of single guys.

Not sure I would continue seeing a therapist if they told me to cross over (nohomo)

Not divorced but was in a relationship for 7 years, last 4 of which was engaged... If it'd been up to her we'd of been married within the first year of engagement. I had been going on a bit of a fuk spree thinking it'd fill the void but now I'm actually trying to make connections with girls again and it's weird brah. Almost just feel too tired to start over from scratch. I can't imagine going through this at like 40. Right now I'm seeing a real good girl who probably deserves better than me who is kind of young and naive but even now my head is stuck in the past abit and it's like I got a mental block from quite feeling that same closeness and familiarity I did with my first love. But the more time I spend with this girl the closer I'm getting to it, just isn't going to come as quickly or easily as it did for me the last time.

Been with my girl for 3 years. We'll probably get married at some point, but if not and we break up I'll probably be done with women and go full MGTOW. Reason being is that I've had to make a lot of adjustments to my life to accommodate a relationship with my girl, and she's actually one of the most easy going and down-to-earth girls I've ever met. At my age, having to break in somebody new would be too much work and not worth the effort.

That's what I was trying to get at earlier in the thread: if you vet properly you put a lot into it, and if I got divorced (or even if my wife were to tragically pass away etc) I don't think I would have it in me to ever open up to someone in that way again.

I have been divorced for about 18 months and it has been the best thing for me mentally. No major drama in the relationship but just kinda fell outta love. Been seeing someone exclusively for awhile now. Been a 100 percent up front with her zero chance I’ll ever remarry or have more kids. She’s cool with that which was shocking cause she wanted kids and is younger. But I was super up front about it. I had zero intention of getting into another relationship but it just happened and she’s a great girl.

How old is she? Seems weird that a woman who wanted kids would change her mind.

check your inbox bby

Strong therapist.

If things are that bad, find the nearest miscer and try that out.

Spoiler!That's what I'm thinking. I know people who say they don't want kids and changed their mind, but I've never heard the reverse.

She’s 30 never been married. It’s possible she may want kids down the road. If that’s the case I’m out not being heartless or anything I have two kids that mean the world to me. I’ve been very up front about it. Guess time will tell. She knows I have every intention on getting a vasectomy this summer(on waiting list).

Like Columbia, MO or Colombia the country? And pic of friend, 40 year olds dudes typically don't run through hot college chicks.

Just to clarify—you’re miscing about an old oneitis while you’re on a date?

This right here, this is going full misc