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they're likely going to be chalked up to a "call so many people 'cousin' " thing versus a "have so many cousins" thing.

Because my cousins can’t take a left hook. Bunch of pure *******s.

Nursing homes get a bad rap because the lower-tier ones outnumber the better ones. The legit ones are communities of elderly who can hang out and do stuff together. It's like a resort that you live at with other people your age.

Then again, my parents have money so they can afford to live in one of those baller retirement communities if they wanted to.

From what I gathered white american families don’t have that “big family” mentality that a lot of other cultures do. Family is extremely important in asian, africans, South American’s, and some european cultures like italians and greeks.

This. Im not going to expect my kids to take care of me because im not a ******* and will save enough for the retirement of my choosing so im not a burden. Lol at poeiple who never saved a dime and expect their kids to bail them out, poverty mindset of peace.

there's a problem with any culture that views elderly as a 'burden'. what's next, are children a burden too? oh wait...most miscers think they are too.

you know society has failed when anything other than instant gratification is viewed as a problem

What about old people who don't want to be doted over? All of the older men in my family are like this. None of us want people taking care of us as if we were little babies.

if you don't need to be taken care of then you wouldn't be. if you are still able and fit then you should be teaching your grandchildren and being an all around
contributing member of society.

I want my kids to be successful and enjoy the fruits of thier labor and spend it on themselves and thier kids instead of blowing it on taking care of mom and dad who have worked for 40 years and should be able to take care of themselves. I view the elderly that saved nothing and expect thier kids or tax payers to bail them out just because they are old as a burden because they are.

this mentality sums up exactly why 'white people have no cousins'.
all relationships are basically a financial transaction.

Noticed that too.

im asian and really close to my cousins.

Not true at all, but if that is what you take from it, so be it.

I think he was just saying that he doesn't want his kids to feel expected to take care of him when he's older. Not that he'd mind if they did it, just that he'd want them to live their own lives first without worrying about him when he's older.

When it comes to whites in general poorer families are a bit larger and closer knit. And more wealthy/successful families are smaller and more spread out all over the country.



When I was a kid the family reunion on just my moms side was about 200-300 people. Grandparents and their siblings. Their kids. etc. Essentially it would be 1st cousins to 4th cousins. We'd literally need to rent a event building to get together. On my dads side it was significantly smaller because it was literally just him and his siblings and their spouses/children. Parents, uncles, aunts, etc. all dead by the time my father was 16. Even then he originally had 7 siblings + their spouses and their 2-5 kids each.

Fast forward to 2019 and we haven't had a family reunion over 15 years. Maybe about 150 family members have died during that time period. The younger generation is spread across the country due to college + jobs. Etc. Without the older generation organizing/pulling everyone together people just kind of drift apart. Everyone is busy/caught up in their own lives.

This is kind of how I see it. The elderly getting poor care sucks, but I don't want to be an overly big burden on my kids when I'm old, assuming I live long enough to not be able to handle basic cares. The solutions to that are twofold:

1. Build a decent retirement so I can afford better care for myself when I'm an oldcel - How many of these people who wind up either relying on their children or bottom-tier nursing homes to change their diapers and feed them when they're old bothered even trying to build a legitimate retirement for themselves? Some people genuinelly just get the shaft, and I feel for them. But I have no sympathy for people who spent their working lives buying extra luxury vehicles, boats, motorcycles, snowmobiles, huge fancy houses, etc. who wind up broke when they can't work anymore. You should be planning for retirement from the start of your career and consider it with every major purchase you make and whether or not that will screw you in the long run.

2. Taking care of your physical health in general - a lot of this has to do with the luck of genetics, but you should at least maximize your potential for good health as you age. *Most* people that live to be active and mostly self-sufficient into their 80's/90's took reasonably good care of themselves throughout their lives and weren't couch potatoes, bindge drinkers, smokers, addicts of other sorts, or eating junk food constantly. Sure you'll meet the occasional person who neglected their health for decades and still functioned decently into their 80's and the health/fitness conscious person whose genetics screwed them by the time they in their 60's, but those are the exceptions, not the rules. Take care of yourself when you're young, and there's a high probability it'll pay off as you age if you continue to do so. Then perhaps you'l still be able to wipe your own asss for an extra 10-20 years, if nothing else.


People talk about how their parents gave them everything so they refuse to put them in a nursing home, and it's a fair arguement. But as I see it, my kids don't entirely *owe* me taking care of me like a helpless toddler when I'm a washed up old fart, because it was ME who chose to have them, they had no say in the matter. Therefore I feel like I owe them everything, but am not expecting to kick back and bank on them for the exact same in return when I'm old, as I should be setting myself up now to not require much help from them.

That's weird OP since I have a few cousins, none of them are white tho so maybe you stumbled onto something here?

have you ever taken full care of a parent with dementia?

i always thought when blacks say "cousin" they just meant it was a friend. like how they call everyone brotha, obviously they cant all be their brothers?

dont blacks have more abortions than any other race?

Everyone here is trolling right? Had no idea that people think that cacs don't have cousins (wtf lol) and theres wypipo in this thread basically confirming it? U wot?

Intredasting. I'm not even white and this is still pretty true for me, only hang around with cousins for holidays and the occasional family gathering.

This is pretty much me and I grew up down south. It also didn't help that my mom was kinda anti-social. Plus I have family all over the country too.

you have to be the most rascist miscer period. Always posting triggering shiiiet with your amphibians and shiiiet.

Im white and have zero cousins and i put birth control in my aunts drinks to maintain my pure white no cousin status. You peasants wouldnt understand.

if youre ever lucky enough to be an old man in a nursing home, you get tons of wizard sleeve. srs

they SHOULD feel expected to take care of their parents. is 'duty' not valued in your culture? it doesn't matter what the kids wants, it's his phkkng duty to care for his parents. it's not even something that should be up for debate.

it's no wonder why people no longer want to have kids. it's the logical conclusion of the 'every man for himself' mentality

The cousins I actually like live too far away. And with all of their kids I have a dozen or two I've never met. My wife is in a similar boat. She's also an only child, I have one sibling. My kids will only have a true cousin when my sister has a kid.

just lol @ the self righteous young kunts itt. like youll be taking care of your parents 24/7 when they cant walk, wear diapers, and forget who you are

Youre missing the point. Of course if either of my parents had an emergency that they needed help with i wouldnt hesitate to do whatever was needed, chit happens. All im saying is that i will give my children the same courtesy my parents gave me of doing everything in my power to avoid a scenario where I couldnt afford my own medical care or retirement. I wont feel like my kids owe me a dime because i chose to bring them into this world and support them, not the other way around. You commented about white people making relationships financial transactions, but from my point of view that is exactly what you are doing by expecting kids to pay back thier parents for raising them.