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05-14-2019, 10:21 AM

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#61

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Originally Posted By HoustonMiscer⏩

kWent to a bar last weekend and randomly met a chick I went to hs with who I haven't seen in years lol. She actually noticed and remembered me before I remembered her. Got to talking and I ended up leaving without saying goodbye to her (miscers gon misc). Went back to that same place to close the night out and she came up to me again. Ended up making out with her. This is a girl who in highschool called me a nerd. It felt pretty good. I got her number and will try to hang out with her again sometime. If it doesn't work out, oh well at least I made out with her lol. My beta highschool self had a crush on her and I am pretty sure she knew at the time which made it feel even better for me.

I honestly don't get it. So this bitch used to call you a nerd and rejected you, now she's aged and you finally have a chance to hook up with her, you feel really good about it.

What am I missing here... you think you're 'getting her back' or something? The most powerful thing you could've done is reject her, like she rejected you.

05-14-2019, 10:30 AM

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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩

I honestly don't get it. So this bitch used to call you a nerd and rejected you, now she's aged and you finally have a chance to hook up with her, you feel really good about it.

What am I missing here... you think you're 'getting her back' or something? The most powerful thing you could've done is reject her, like she rejected you.

Odds are she called him a nerd because she was flirting and it went right over his head.

I'm a bit upset that he didn't close the deal. She's cute as ****. I would 100% have tried bag it.

Give me her number.

Originally Posted By jacemano⏩

So choke and slap around a bit? If she isn't doing anything, that's like license to do EVERYTHING.

(P.s. yes I'm bored today)

That's what I ended up doing.

05-14-2019, 10:30 AM

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Originally Posted By HoustonMiscer⏩

you are a sex monster

We all are. You just have to get into touch with the animal. It's fun. Like 'making love' is nice and all, but hate ****ing... now THAT is a great f**k.

The best f*** I ever had was when my ex and I had a massive fight (one of the breakup kinds), and then we practically beat the crap outta each other, me a bit more until she was just an orgasmic mess. It's just better when you let the monster out.

05-14-2019, 10:32 AM

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Originally Posted By HoustonMiscer⏩

you are a sex monster

Lol

Y'all are on a roll today.

05-14-2019, 10:45 AM

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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩

I honestly don't get it. So this bitch used to call you a nerd and rejected you, now she's aged and you finally have a chance to hook up with her, you feel really good about it.

What am I missing here... you think you're 'getting her back' or something? The most powerful thing you could've done is reject her, like she rejected you.

if it was me 3 years ago with all that hate in my heart i probably would have done that but at some point you have to let the hate and negativity go. what good it is doing me to reject her. so what if i have 3 good minutes of revenge, it would be an opportunity i let slip away. that's the way i look at it

05-14-2019, 11:42 AM

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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩

I honestly don't get it. So this bitch used to call you a nerd and rejected you, now she's aged and you finally have a chance to hook up with her, you feel really good about it.

What am I missing here... you think you're 'getting her back' or something? The most powerful thing you could've done is reject her, like she rejected you.

That was over 10 years ago, and High School is ruthless.

I get it though, when I lost a **** ton of weight an went from being obese to looking in shape I started to get attention for girls that in the past wouldn't have given me the time of day. Felt good to know the hard work I put in was having demonstrably positive affect, no residual hate on my end.

05-14-2019, 12:02 PM

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Originally Posted By HoustonMiscer⏩

if it was me 3 years ago with all that hate in my heart i probably would have done that but at some point you have to let the hate and negativity go. what good it is doing me to reject her. so what if i have 3 good minutes of revenge, it would be an opportunity i let slip away. that's the way i look at it

Are you bi-polar?

05-14-2019, 01:37 PM

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This chick I met is either a) crazy, b) love bombing me, or c) is just extremely interested in me. I wouldn't rule out the last one, but it feels sorta forced... especially given the fact I met her literally 2-3 days ago.

05-14-2019, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted By zeronotyethero⏩

This chick I met is either a) crazy, b) love bombing me, or c) is just extremely interested in me. I wouldn't rule out the last one, but it feels sorta forced... especially given the fact I met her literally 2-3 days ago.

A girl is interested in you and now it's too much?
LOL misc gonna misc...

05-14-2019, 01:40 PM

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05-14-2019, 01:49 PM

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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩

Love bombing is a major red flag. Feels amazing but can be sign of cluster B PD’s so proceed with caution.

Maybe I'm too cynical but one thing I'm always aware of with emotional behaviors - either positive or negative - is the fact that if someone can come on that strongly, love bomb etc. unwarranted (i.e. without a particularly good reason), then they can also do the opposite. And vice versa.

A trade off I learned about being with someone who's very emotional - excited easily, fun/spontaneous etc - is how the opposite emotions will trigger just as easily as the positive ones. This seems obvious, but a lot of people don't seem to acknowledge that and just naively bask in the positive.

By all means enjoy the great feelings if a pretty girl is love bombing you, but be cautious so you don't get destroyed/hurt on a comedown.

05-14-2019, 01:51 PM

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PS Took me 10 tries to post that last message - got the 404 page. Had to remove "(" and replace with "-" for the second set of brackets.

05-14-2019, 01:52 PM

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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩

I honestly don't get it. So this bitch used to call you a nerd and rejected you, now she's aged and you finally have a chance to hook up with her, you feel really good about it.

What am I missing here... you think you're 'getting her back' or something? The most powerful thing you could've done is reject her, like she rejected you.

I think I'd agree with this. You could have talked to any other girl there but you went ahead and made out with her, thus giving her the impression you are the one that is having to live up to her standard. That's how I see it.

05-14-2019, 01:56 PM

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Originally Posted By DolphinPilot⏩

I think I'd agree with this. You could have talked to any other girl there but you went ahead and made out with her, thus giving her the impression you are the one that is having to live up to her standard. That's how I see it.

Exactly, but a lot of men see it as winning if they get laid regardless. No, she rejected you when you were younger, called you a nerd, and now she'sstillgetting her way with you.

05-14-2019, 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩

Exactly, but a lot of men see it as winning if they get laid regardless. No, she rejected you when you were younger, called you a nerd, and now she'sstillgetting her way with you.

Agreed. You would just be showing her that you're still infatuated with her the same way you were back then; you're wrapped around her finger.

05-14-2019, 02:14 PM

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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩

I honestly don't get it. So this bitch used to call you a nerd and rejected you, now she's aged and you finally have a chance to hook up with her, you feel really good about it.

What am I missing here... you think you're 'getting her back' or something? The most powerful thing you could've done is reject her, like she rejected you.

he shoulda smashed then not called

best of both worlds

05-14-2019, 02:28 PM

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#77

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Originally Posted By jacemano⏩

Nothing like smashing girls from school who rejected you.

Feelsgoodman.jpg

If they don't get all fat.

Alright HoustonMiscer, now try to translate this into sex. It seems like every time you're so close and yet so far. Be direct about your intentions.

05-14-2019, 02:41 PM

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#78

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Originally Posted By jimbong⏩

That was over 10 years ago, and High School is ruthless.

I get it though, when I lost a **** ton of weight an went from being obese to looking in shape I started to get attention for girls that in the past wouldn't have given me the time of day. Felt good to know the hard work I put in was having demonstrably positive affect, no residual hate on my end.

I usually just ignore people I went to hs with unless if we were cool. It's not like I go out of my way to say whatsup or anything like that.

For whatever reason, people who were not even my friends come up to me from high school to say hi and I'm like "Why?"

05-14-2019, 02:47 PM

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Originally Posted By BlackScorpio91⏩

I usually just ignore people I went to hs with unless if we were cool. It's not like I go out of my way to say whatsup or anything like that.

For whatever reason, people who were not even my friends come up to me from high school to say hi and I'm like "Why?"

lol I've had this too. I've even had jobs post-high school where some guy tells our co-workers "I went to school with him!" and I don't remember him at all. It is bizarre, I agree.

05-14-2019, 02:50 PM

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#80

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Originally Posted By DolphinPilot⏩

lol I've had this too. I've even had jobs post-high school where some guy tells our co-workers "I went to school with him!" and I don't remember him at all. It is bizarre, I agree.

I see it like this.

If they were not my friends or we did not like each other in high school, they shouldn't talk to me. It doesn't make any sense and it's kinda annoying.

Plus alot of these people I don't even remember.

05-14-2019, 03:11 PM

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Originally Posted By BlackScorpio91⏩

I see it like this.

If they were not my friends or we did not like each other in high school, they shouldn't talk to me. It doesn't make any sense and it's kinda annoying.

Plus a lot of these people I don't even remember.

I was out to lunch with my roommate and a couple girls he knew my senior year of college. About halfway through the meal, the one girl my friend knew is like, oh yeah, did you know "girl #2" went to your high school Jimbong? And I said, oh really? What year? Then girl #2 answers that she graduated the same year as me and we had multiple classes together senior year. I could not remember or place her from High school, got real awkward after that.

05-14-2019, 05:06 PM

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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩

Exactly, but a lot of men see it as winning if they get laid regardless. No, she rejected you when you were younger, called you a nerd, and now she'sstillgetting her way with you.

This...like...man when you do badly in your teens and most of you 20s....its almost impossible to think "well golly gee this is FINALLY happening because Im doing it right"

The idea they are consciously settling seems unshakeable from the mind

05-14-2019, 05:23 PM

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#83

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Originally Posted By otakutrevan⏩

The idea they are consciously settling seems unshakeable from the mind

No, it's because her value (SMV) has decreased and his has increased over time. I'm guessing she's 30-35 y/o now and looks it.

Mine is much higher than it was 10-15 years ago, across the board.

05-14-2019, 05:39 PM

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Originally Posted By pondus_levo⏩

She was a dead fish. When I asked for feedback she got upset and said I was making it weird.

I was never able to finish with her, until the last time. I knew I was going to dump her, so I just went to town on her throwing her around and doing what I wanted pretending she was someone else, came on her ass and showed her the door.

Which I didn't even enjoy because I'm into making love, not ****ing.

Opposite here

Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩

I honestly don't get it. So this bitch used to call you a nerd and rejected you, now she's aged and you finally have a chance to hook up with her, you feel really good about it.

What am I missing here... you think you're 'getting her back' or something?The most powerful thing you could've done is reject her, like she rejected you.

What's the point of that? That kind of validation is for the birds. He should go for it if he's interested and reject her if he's not.

05-14-2019, 05:54 PM

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Originally Posted By MediocreGains⏩

What's the point of that? That kind of validation is for the birds. He should go for it if he's interested and reject her if he's not.

He's the one that's saying it's all the sweeter because she rejected him and called him a nerd in school. He still hasn't clarified what he meant by that statement, but the implication is that he's getting some sort of retribution, and I'm saying no it's the exact opposite..

05-14-2019, 06:03 PM

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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩

He's the one that's saying it's all the sweeter because she rejected him and called him a nerd in school. He still hasn't clarified what he meant by that statement, but the implication is that he's getting some sort of retribution, and I'm saying no it's the exact opposite..

Thought it was more along the lines of him feeling good about himself rather than getting retribution. I could be wrong though.

05-14-2019, 06:25 PM

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Originally Posted By HoustonMiscer⏩

if it was me 3 years ago with all that hate in my heart i probably would have done that but at some point you have to let the hate and negativity go. what good it is doing me to reject her. so what if i have 3 good minutes of revenge, it would be an opportunity i let slip away. that's the way i look at it

I can see both sides of this. I was def not a looker when I was younger and got rejected a lot. Now that I'm fitter and dress better I get looks from guys that def didn't look my way years ago. It's either reject them to get the last laugh or get laid because the dry spell sucks. Either action, you still win at the end.

05-14-2019, 07:23 PM

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Originally Posted By DanielleGreen⏩

I can see both sides of this. I was def not a looker when I was younger and got rejected a lot. Now that I'm fitter and dress better I get looks from guys that def didn't look my way years ago. It's either reject them to get the last laugh or get laid because the dry spell sucks. Either action, you still win at the end.

Pretty much this.

Have you ever rejected a guy who previously rejected you Danielle?

05-14-2019, 07:35 PM

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[QUOTE=Luc1fer post_id=1580122321]No, it's because her value (SMV) has decreased and his has increased over time. I'm guessing she's 30-35 y/o now and looks it.

Mine is much higher than it was 10-15 years ago, across the board.

[img]https://www.hookingupsmart.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/smv_curve1-1024x502.jpg[img][/QUOTE]The sun is gonna fizzle out anyway. That being said...I actually have a date tomorrow...that the girl set up...and the girl is actually decent looking to me....and she is texting first.....

Inb4 flake
Inb4 random ghosting out of no where

05-14-2019, 07:37 PM

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Originally Posted By otakutrevan⏩

The sun is gonna fizzle out anyway. That being said...I actually have a date tomorrow...that the girl set up...and the girl is actually decent looking to me....and she is texting first.....

Inb4 flake
Inb4 random ghosting out of no where

In b4 another man calls her up and she "forgets" about you.

In b4 she looks up your name on social media.

She a black girl or white girl?

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