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10-23-2020, 04:47 AM
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Mine died 8 years ago, bowel cancer.
stage 4 at diagnosis, sister and step dad didn't really understand and the docs were very sympathetic, but I was premed, knew she was a gonner then.
Cancer allows you to get your goodbyes in, and pallative care drugs the party until they are no longer there, over the course of a couple of weeks. After seeing it, I thought it was the best way, she never had to face the fear of going, she went from a last trip to Rome to being unrecognisable in personality in less than 2 week, because by the time it approached, her mind had been drugged into the abyss, a child like naivete.
Hope the best outcome happens, and be thankful for the time you had, and work hard and earn the sacrfices they made for you
stage 4 at diagnosis, sister and step dad didn't really understand and the docs were very sympathetic, but I was premed, knew she was a gonner then.
Cancer allows you to get your goodbyes in, and pallative care drugs the party until they are no longer there, over the course of a couple of weeks. After seeing it, I thought it was the best way, she never had to face the fear of going, she went from a last trip to Rome to being unrecognisable in personality in less than 2 week, because by the time it approached, her mind had been drugged into the abyss, a child like naivete.
Hope the best outcome happens, and be thankful for the time you had, and work hard and earn the sacrfices they made for you
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I'm sorry OP
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Major props to exyl for all this info.
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Originally Posted By exyl⏩
Nice info. Also, is there a male equivalent on what to look out for?Draining the lymphatic system:
1. Rebounding – Jumping on a trampoline for 10-30 mins/day
2. Chiropractic care plus an at home inversion table
3. Drink ½ body weight of Alkaline H2O in oz’s/day. Alkaline can be substituted with warm water and lemon. (1/2 to a whole lemon per 12-24oz’s of water twice a day)
4. Proteolytic enzymes (5g 3x/day on an empty stomach), pancreatic enzymes, and digestive enzymes
5. Lymphatic massage (Dynamic touch) and foam rolling
6. Herbs – red clover, Cleavers (goosegrass), manjistha, bupleurum, calendula officinalis, Echinacea, astragalus, dandelion, knotted figwort, wolf’s foot clubmoss, poison hemlock, pokeweed, devil’s claw, goldenseal, & wild indigo root (lymph formula liquid herbal extract, lymph rejuvenator, cedar bear lymphatic cleanse, lymphatic systems I tincture)
7. Reduce Stress
8. Anti-inflammatory diet: green leafy vegetables, cruciferous vegetables, omega-3 foods, berries, nuts/seeds (chia, flax, hemp, pumpkin, walnuts, etc), unrefined oils (coconut oil), herbs and spices (ginger, turmeric, garlic – these can also be taken as pills), raw garlic or raw garlic extract, bone broth.https://draxe.com/healing-diet/
9. Infrared sauna treatment
10. Essential oils (lemon, myrrh, oregano, cypress, and frankincense). DoTerra is the brand we used. Frankincense should be applied to your neck 3x/day; also, drink 8 oz’s of water with 3 drops 3x/day.
11. NO sugar, processed foods, alcohol, caffeine, & trans fats.
12. Apply warm compress to infected area for 10 mins 2-3x/day
13. Acupuncture
14. Yoga
Other things to help along the way:
1. CBD & THC – should be taken orally and topically. You should contact Jetty Extracts as they are a reputable company that offers free products for cancer patients. Always make sure to have at least a 10:1 ratio of CBD:THC.
2. Liver cleanse – Remove toxic foods from diet (this should already be going on), drink raw vegetable juice (should be going on already as well), potassium-rich foods (sweet potatoes, beet greens, spinach, beans), coffee enema, milk thistle, dandelion, & turmeric supplements, & eat real liver or take liver tablets.
3. More supplements – vitamin D, probiotics, iodine, ACV – apple cider vinegar, lugol’s solution, potassium compound, thyroid hormone, vitamin b12, chlorella, blue-green algae, spirulina, CLA, B9, melatonin,
4. Eggplant extract – you can find a recipe online because the cream isn’t sold in the US
5. Go in the sun for 20 mins every day. This is best done by exposing 40% of your body to the sun between the hours of 10a-2p. DO NOT wear sunscreen. You can also take an oral D3 supplement around 5k-10k IU’s. It’s fat-soluble so take with coconut oil or a probiotic drink like kefir.
6. Gerson diet: drink 13 glasses of freshly prepared juice, 3 plant based meals, and fresh fruit snack per day. Also eat raw beef liver or supplement with liver tablets. Juice should be made new every time with all organic fruits and vegetables. The juicer should be a 2-step juicer with a masticating step and a hydraulic press. You want to avoid juicers that heat up or move so fast that produce heat bc that kills the enzymes and other vitamins and minerals. Also, coffee enemas should be used at least once a day for the first few months.
7. Budwig Recipe – consume once a day: 6 oz of cultured dairy (cottage cheese, goat’s milk kefir or amasai), 4 tbsp of sprouted and ground chia or flax seeds, 1 tbsp of flaxseed oil, 1 tsp turmeric powder, & ¼ tsp black pepper. Mix together in a bowl or blender and consume.
8. Hyperbaric chamber therapy – cancer cells do not breathe oxygen and cannot survive in the presence of high levels of oxygen, as found in an alkaline state.
9. CANCER-CAUSING FOODS: Processed meats, fried burnt and overly cooked foods, added sugar, foods high in additives, and rice products.
10. TOP 12 CANCER-FIGHTING FOOD GROUPS:
a. Leafy Greens – spinach, kale, collards greens, romaine, arugula, watercress, etc
b. Cruciferous Veggies – cabbage, broccoli, cauliflower, brussel sprouts
c. Berries – blueberries, raspberries, cherries, strawberries, goji berries, camu camu, and blackberries
d. Brightly Orange-colored fruits and veggies – citrus fruits, squash, sweet potato, pumpkin
e. Fresh herbs and spices – turmeric, ginger, raw garlic, thyme, cayenne pepper, oregano, basil and parsley
f. Organic Meats – beef or chicken liver are the best options
g. Cultured Dairy Products – raw milk or raw milk products, kefir, cottage cheese and yogurt. 6oz’s of cultured dairy daily. Kimchi, sauerkraut, coconut kefir, kombucha or natto are other forms of probiotics.
h. Nuts and Seeds: Chia and flax seeds, hemp seeds, sesame seeds, pumpkin seeds, and sunflower seeds. Walnuts, brazil nuts and almonds. Any of those sprouted would be a better choice.
i. Healthy Unrefined Oils – coconut, flax, cod liver, extra virgin olive oil. Out of those examples, the only oil that can be used with heat is coconut…the others will produce carcinogens when heated.
j. Mushrooms – Reishi, cordyceps, coriolus, and maitake are the best species. You can take these in pill form instead of eating. They are also in a lot of green drinks.
k. Traditional teas – Green tea, black tea or oolong tea (no added sugar)
l. Wild caught fish – salmon, mackerel, and sardines are the best omega-3 foods.
11. Commercial Health and hygiene products – find all green products. You can look up the environmental working group’s SkinDeep database to find products
12. Household Cleaners – you should use on green/organic products
13. Unnecessary Medications – don’t take any OTC medicines if applicable.
14. Plastics – do not use plastic for anything and never have anything heated in plastic (even a plastic water bottle left in a car)
1. Rebounding – Jumping on a trampoline for 10-30 mins/day
2. Chiropractic care plus an at home inversion table
3. Drink ½ body weight of Alkaline H2O in oz’s/day. Alkaline can be substituted with warm water and lemon. (1/2 to a whole lemon per 12-24oz’s of water twice a day)
4. Proteolytic enzymes (5g 3x/day on an empty stomach), pancreatic enzymes, and digestive enzymes
5. Lymphatic massage (Dynamic touch) and foam rolling
6. Herbs – red clover, Cleavers (goosegrass), manjistha, bupleurum, calendula officinalis, Echinacea, astragalus, dandelion, knotted figwort, wolf’s foot clubmoss, poison hemlock, pokeweed, devil’s claw, goldenseal, & wild indigo root (lymph formula liquid herbal extract, lymph rejuvenator, cedar bear lymphatic cleanse, lymphatic systems I tincture)
7. Reduce Stress
8. Anti-inflammatory diet: green leafy vegetables, cruciferous vegetables, omega-3 foods, berries, nuts/seeds (chia, flax, hemp, pumpkin, walnuts, etc), unrefined oils (coconut oil), herbs and spices (ginger, turmeric, garlic – these can also be taken as pills), raw garlic or raw garlic extract, bone broth.https://draxe.com/healing-diet/
9. Infrared sauna treatment
10. Essential oils (lemon, myrrh, oregano, cypress, and frankincense). DoTerra is the brand we used. Frankincense should be applied to your neck 3x/day; also, drink 8 oz’s of water with 3 drops 3x/day.
11. NO sugar, processed foods, alcohol, caffeine, & trans fats.
12. Apply warm compress to infected area for 10 mins 2-3x/day
13. Acupuncture
14. Yoga
Other things to help along the way:
1. CBD & THC – should be taken orally and topically. You should contact Jetty Extracts as they are a reputable company that offers free products for cancer patients. Always make sure to have at least a 10:1 ratio of CBD:THC.
2. Liver cleanse – Remove toxic foods from diet (this should already be going on), drink raw vegetable juice (should be going on already as well), potassium-rich foods (sweet potatoes, beet greens, spinach, beans), coffee enema, milk thistle, dandelion, & turmeric supplements, & eat real liver or take liver tablets.
3. More supplements – vitamin D, probiotics, iodine, ACV – apple cider vinegar, lugol’s solution, potassium compound, thyroid hormone, vitamin b12, chlorella, blue-green algae, spirulina, CLA, B9, melatonin,
4. Eggplant extract – you can find a recipe online because the cream isn’t sold in the US
5. Go in the sun for 20 mins every day. This is best done by exposing 40% of your body to the sun between the hours of 10a-2p. DO NOT wear sunscreen. You can also take an oral D3 supplement around 5k-10k IU’s. It’s fat-soluble so take with coconut oil or a probiotic drink like kefir.
6. Gerson diet: drink 13 glasses of freshly prepared juice, 3 plant based meals, and fresh fruit snack per day. Also eat raw beef liver or supplement with liver tablets. Juice should be made new every time with all organic fruits and vegetables. The juicer should be a 2-step juicer with a masticating step and a hydraulic press. You want to avoid juicers that heat up or move so fast that produce heat bc that kills the enzymes and other vitamins and minerals. Also, coffee enemas should be used at least once a day for the first few months.
7. Budwig Recipe – consume once a day: 6 oz of cultured dairy (cottage cheese, goat’s milk kefir or amasai), 4 tbsp of sprouted and ground chia or flax seeds, 1 tbsp of flaxseed oil, 1 tsp turmeric powder, & ¼ tsp black pepper. Mix together in a bowl or blender and consume.
8. Hyperbaric chamber therapy – cancer cells do not breathe oxygen and cannot survive in the presence of high levels of oxygen, as found in an alkaline state.
9. CANCER-CAUSING FOODS: Processed meats, fried burnt and overly cooked foods, added sugar, foods high in additives, and rice products.
10. TOP 12 CANCER-FIGHTING FOOD GROUPS:
a. Leafy Greens – spinach, kale, collards greens, romaine, arugula, watercress, etc
b. Cruciferous Veggies – cabbage, broccoli, cauliflower, brussel sprouts
c. Berries – blueberries, raspberries, cherries, strawberries, goji berries, camu camu, and blackberries
d. Brightly Orange-colored fruits and veggies – citrus fruits, squash, sweet potato, pumpkin
e. Fresh herbs and spices – turmeric, ginger, raw garlic, thyme, cayenne pepper, oregano, basil and parsley
f. Organic Meats – beef or chicken liver are the best options
g. Cultured Dairy Products – raw milk or raw milk products, kefir, cottage cheese and yogurt. 6oz’s of cultured dairy daily. Kimchi, sauerkraut, coconut kefir, kombucha or natto are other forms of probiotics.
h. Nuts and Seeds: Chia and flax seeds, hemp seeds, sesame seeds, pumpkin seeds, and sunflower seeds. Walnuts, brazil nuts and almonds. Any of those sprouted would be a better choice.
i. Healthy Unrefined Oils – coconut, flax, cod liver, extra virgin olive oil. Out of those examples, the only oil that can be used with heat is coconut…the others will produce carcinogens when heated.
j. Mushrooms – Reishi, cordyceps, coriolus, and maitake are the best species. You can take these in pill form instead of eating. They are also in a lot of green drinks.
k. Traditional teas – Green tea, black tea or oolong tea (no added sugar)
l. Wild caught fish – salmon, mackerel, and sardines are the best omega-3 foods.
11. Commercial Health and hygiene products – find all green products. You can look up the environmental working group’s SkinDeep database to find products
12. Household Cleaners – you should use on green/organic products
13. Unnecessary Medications – don’t take any OTC medicines if applicable.
14. Plastics – do not use plastic for anything and never have anything heated in plastic (even a plastic water bottle left in a car)
Sounds tough, especially with parents.
10-23-2020, 06:29 AM
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Ninja cutting onions again. Sorry to hear OP.
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10-23-2020, 09:21 AM
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My heart goes out to you and your family, I've been there and it's truly horrible.
Fuk cancer.
Fuk cancer.
10-23-2020, 09:25 AM
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Originally Posted By ChelshireCat⏩
Damn, I'm really sorry to hear this. I lost my mom, but it was sudden, about three years ago. I can't imagine having to watch her go. My heart hurts for you and your family. I really wish you the best.She was admitted to hospital again with a stomach swollen with fluid. After some testing...Chemo is doing more harm than good.
She is now completely off any kind of treatment. She feels mostly okay physically but we are having to accept that she will start to decline in health pretty rapidly from here on out.
She’s out of hospital but I don’t want to visit. She already has one foot in the grave and I don’t want really want to expedite her death by possibly bringing her into contact with some nasty germs etc.
It’s quite humbling. My mums cancer is hormone driven, she had a mirena coil in for years (So have I).... I have now booked in to have my own IUD removed. Luckily I was able to get myself sterilised a few years ago, but I have realised that using hormones to stop my periods at the expense of increasing risk of cancer seems like a really stupid idea to me now.
She is now completely off any kind of treatment. She feels mostly okay physically but we are having to accept that she will start to decline in health pretty rapidly from here on out.
She’s out of hospital but I don’t want to visit. She already has one foot in the grave and I don’t want really want to expedite her death by possibly bringing her into contact with some nasty germs etc.
It’s quite humbling. My mums cancer is hormone driven, she had a mirena coil in for years (So have I).... I have now booked in to have my own IUD removed. Luckily I was able to get myself sterilised a few years ago, but I have realised that using hormones to stop my periods at the expense of increasing risk of cancer seems like a really stupid idea to me now.
Originally Posted By Dennis71⏩
I remember your posting bro. Last thread update I remember you were in a really dark place. I'm thrilled to hear you've been able to come out on top!There are always clinical trials out there.
I went on one when i had almost no options left and it put me in remission.
Wish her the best of luck.
Stay positive.
I went on one when i had almost no options left and it put me in remission.
Wish her the best of luck.
Stay positive.
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10-23-2020, 09:27 AM
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I would make a joke about checking breasts but I'm gonna just keep my mouth shutted this time.
I hope your mom gets away with this. Ive lost some family members to cancer and I know its really fuked up. My prayers are with you.
I hope your mom gets away with this. Ive lost some family members to cancer and I know its really fuked up. My prayers are with you.
11-02-2020, 11:50 AM
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Still haven’t seen her yet.
She has been unable to eat recently due to what the doctors thought was a massive amount of excessive fluid around her stomach, she went to have it drained from her stomach today. As it turns out, it isn't fluid, it’s actually her liver.
.... today, I had my stepdad message me for the first time ever asking to speak with me whilst my mum was in the hospital (incredibly complicated relationship there with no love lost on either side). He wanted to let me know that it turns out my mum hasn’t been totally honest with us, her diagnosis is way worse than we (me and my other sister who lives 200 miles away) have been led to believe.
The doctors have actually told her 3-6 weeks. My stepdad was urging us to come and see her sooner rather than later. She hasn’t eaten in almost a week, she has “given up and just wants this nightmare to be over”. The palliative care team are involved to ease her pain.
Sister is driving down on Wednesday, I am going to head down a few times over the next few days. Covid and lockdown be damed.
Mum has told us she wants to buy us all one last special gift to remember her by.
I am heartbroken.
She has been unable to eat recently due to what the doctors thought was a massive amount of excessive fluid around her stomach, she went to have it drained from her stomach today. As it turns out, it isn't fluid, it’s actually her liver.
.... today, I had my stepdad message me for the first time ever asking to speak with me whilst my mum was in the hospital (incredibly complicated relationship there with no love lost on either side). He wanted to let me know that it turns out my mum hasn’t been totally honest with us, her diagnosis is way worse than we (me and my other sister who lives 200 miles away) have been led to believe.
The doctors have actually told her 3-6 weeks. My stepdad was urging us to come and see her sooner rather than later. She hasn’t eaten in almost a week, she has “given up and just wants this nightmare to be over”. The palliative care team are involved to ease her pain.
Sister is driving down on Wednesday, I am going to head down a few times over the next few days. Covid and lockdown be damed.
Mum has told us she wants to buy us all one last special gift to remember her by.
I am heartbroken.
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Originally Posted By ChelshireCat⏩
I'm sorry to hear that. I remember having to fly 1600 miles to see my father on his death bed. It sucks, we had hope and then he asked for the palliative team. My prayers are with you, friend.Still haven’t seen her yet.
She has been unable to eat recently due to what the doctors thought was a massive amount of excessive fluid around her stomach, she went to have it drained from her stomach today. As it turns out, it isn't fluid, it’s actually her liver.
.... today, I had my stepdad message me for the first time ever asking to speak with me whilst my mum was in the hospital (incredibly complicated relationship there with no love lost on either side). He wanted to let me know that it turns out my mum hasn’t been totally honest with us, her diagnosis is way worse than we (me and my other sister who lives 200 miles away) have been led to believe.
The doctors have actually told her 3-6 weeks. My stepdad was urging us to come and see her sooner rather than later. She hasn’t eaten in almost a week, she has “given up and just wants this nightmare to be over”. The palliative care team are involved to ease her pain.
Sister is driving down on Wednesday, I am going to head down a few times over the next few days. Covid and lockdown be damed.
Mum has told us she wants to buy us all one last special gift to remember her by.
I am heartbroken.
She has been unable to eat recently due to what the doctors thought was a massive amount of excessive fluid around her stomach, she went to have it drained from her stomach today. As it turns out, it isn't fluid, it’s actually her liver.
.... today, I had my stepdad message me for the first time ever asking to speak with me whilst my mum was in the hospital (incredibly complicated relationship there with no love lost on either side). He wanted to let me know that it turns out my mum hasn’t been totally honest with us, her diagnosis is way worse than we (me and my other sister who lives 200 miles away) have been led to believe.
The doctors have actually told her 3-6 weeks. My stepdad was urging us to come and see her sooner rather than later. She hasn’t eaten in almost a week, she has “given up and just wants this nightmare to be over”. The palliative care team are involved to ease her pain.
Sister is driving down on Wednesday, I am going to head down a few times over the next few days. Covid and lockdown be damed.
Mum has told us she wants to buy us all one last special gift to remember her by.
I am heartbroken.
11-02-2020, 12:02 PM
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Originally Posted By ChelshireCat⏩
Oh, I am so very sorry.Still haven’t seen her yet.
She has been unable to eat recently due to what the doctors thought was a massive amount of excessive fluid around her stomach, she went to have it drained from her stomach today. As it turns out, it isn't fluid, it’s actually her liver.
.... today, I had my stepdad message me for the first time ever asking to speak with me whilst my mum was in the hospital (incredibly complicated relationship there with no love lost on either side). He wanted to let me know that it turns out my mum hasn’t been totally honest with us, her diagnosis is way worse than we (me and my other sister who lives 200 miles away) have been led to believe.
The doctors have actually told her 3-6 weeks. My stepdad was urging us to come and see her sooner rather than later. She hasn’t eaten in almost a week, she has “given up and just wants this nightmare to be over”. The palliative care team are involved to ease her pain.
Sister is driving down on Wednesday, I am going to head down a few times over the next few days. Covid and lockdown be damed.
Mum has told us she wants to buy us all one last special gift to remember her by.
I am heartbroken.
She has been unable to eat recently due to what the doctors thought was a massive amount of excessive fluid around her stomach, she went to have it drained from her stomach today. As it turns out, it isn't fluid, it’s actually her liver.
.... today, I had my stepdad message me for the first time ever asking to speak with me whilst my mum was in the hospital (incredibly complicated relationship there with no love lost on either side). He wanted to let me know that it turns out my mum hasn’t been totally honest with us, her diagnosis is way worse than we (me and my other sister who lives 200 miles away) have been led to believe.
The doctors have actually told her 3-6 weeks. My stepdad was urging us to come and see her sooner rather than later. She hasn’t eaten in almost a week, she has “given up and just wants this nightmare to be over”. The palliative care team are involved to ease her pain.
Sister is driving down on Wednesday, I am going to head down a few times over the next few days. Covid and lockdown be damed.
Mum has told us she wants to buy us all one last special gift to remember her by.
I am heartbroken.
You'll be in my thoughts. Definitely get in there to see her as much as possible. When my dad was dying from cancer I only got to see him once because he passed more quickly than expected.~ In a world where you can be anything, be kind ~
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Originally Posted By ChelshireCat⏩
Gutted for you. Most people can imagine how traumatic losing a family member to cancer can be, but in reality it's 10x worse.Still haven’t seen her yet.
She has been unable to eat recently due to what the doctors thought was a massive amount of excessive fluid around her stomach, she went to have it drained from her stomach today. As it turns out, it isn't fluid, it’s actually her liver.
.... today, I had my stepdad message me for the first time ever asking to speak with me whilst my mum was in the hospital (incredibly complicated relationship there with no love lost on either side). He wanted to let me know that it turns out my mum hasn’t been totally honest with us, her diagnosis is way worse than we (me and my other sister who lives 200 miles away) have been led to believe.
The doctors have actually told her 3-6 weeks. My stepdad was urging us to come and see her sooner rather than later. She hasn’t eaten in almost a week, she has “given up and just wants this nightmare to be over”. The palliative care team are involved to ease her pain.
Sister is driving down on Wednesday, I am going to head down a few times over the next few days. Covid and lockdown be damed.
Mum has told us she wants to buy us all one last special gift to remember her by.
I am heartbroken.
She has been unable to eat recently due to what the doctors thought was a massive amount of excessive fluid around her stomach, she went to have it drained from her stomach today. As it turns out, it isn't fluid, it’s actually her liver.
.... today, I had my stepdad message me for the first time ever asking to speak with me whilst my mum was in the hospital (incredibly complicated relationship there with no love lost on either side). He wanted to let me know that it turns out my mum hasn’t been totally honest with us, her diagnosis is way worse than we (me and my other sister who lives 200 miles away) have been led to believe.
The doctors have actually told her 3-6 weeks. My stepdad was urging us to come and see her sooner rather than later. She hasn’t eaten in almost a week, she has “given up and just wants this nightmare to be over”. The palliative care team are involved to ease her pain.
Sister is driving down on Wednesday, I am going to head down a few times over the next few days. Covid and lockdown be damed.
Mum has told us she wants to buy us all one last special gift to remember her by.
I am heartbroken.
11-02-2020, 12:20 PM
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Originally Posted By ChelshireCat⏩
I'm very sorry to hear this news. I am sympathetic to your situation, and wish there was something I could say, but I know there isn't. It's just tough. Be strong for your mom. More than anyone, she doesn't want you to hurt.I am heartbroken.
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Originally Posted By ChelshireCat⏩
Oh sweetheart, I'm so sorry to hear this.Still haven’t seen her yet.
She has been unable to eat recently due to what the doctors thought was a massive amount of excessive fluid around her stomach, she went to have it drained from her stomach today. As it turns out, it isn't fluid, it’s actually her liver.
.... today, I had my stepdad message me for the first time ever asking to speak with me whilst my mum was in the hospital (incredibly complicated relationship there with no love lost on either side). He wanted to let me know that it turns out my mum hasn’t been totally honest with us, her diagnosis is way worse than we (me and my other sister who lives 200 miles away) have been led to believe.
The doctors have actually told her 3-6 weeks. My stepdad was urging us to come and see her sooner rather than later. She hasn’t eaten in almost a week, she has “given up and just wants this nightmare to be over”. The palliative care team are involved to ease her pain.
Sister is driving down on Wednesday, I am going to head down a few times over the next few days. Covid and lockdown be damed.
Mum has told us she wants to buy us all one last special gift to remember her by.
I am heartbroken.
She has been unable to eat recently due to what the doctors thought was a massive amount of excessive fluid around her stomach, she went to have it drained from her stomach today. As it turns out, it isn't fluid, it’s actually her liver.
.... today, I had my stepdad message me for the first time ever asking to speak with me whilst my mum was in the hospital (incredibly complicated relationship there with no love lost on either side). He wanted to let me know that it turns out my mum hasn’t been totally honest with us, her diagnosis is way worse than we (me and my other sister who lives 200 miles away) have been led to believe.
The doctors have actually told her 3-6 weeks. My stepdad was urging us to come and see her sooner rather than later. She hasn’t eaten in almost a week, she has “given up and just wants this nightmare to be over”. The palliative care team are involved to ease her pain.
Sister is driving down on Wednesday, I am going to head down a few times over the next few days. Covid and lockdown be damed.
Mum has told us she wants to buy us all one last special gift to remember her by.
I am heartbroken.
Safe travels as you go to see her. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.Train hard, train smart, have fun!
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11-02-2020, 12:26 PM
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I’m so sorry this happened to your mom. I really have no other words than to just say cancer sucks.
11-02-2020, 12:41 PM
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I would try DCA (dicholoracetate), DIM (Diindolylmethane), and turmeric.
https://cancerres.aacrjournals.org/c...ent/3228.short
https://link.springer.com/article/10...549-009-0435-9
https://www.nature.com/articles/6604554
https://www.sciencedirect.com/scienc...06295202008560
https://academic.oup.com/nutritionre.../7/432/1752161
https://link.springer.com/article/10...10-020-03378-8
https://www.spandidos-publications.c.../etm.2018.6345
https://link.springer.com/article/10...046-017-0566-5
https://cancerres.aacrjournals.org/c...ent/3228.short
https://link.springer.com/article/10...549-009-0435-9
https://www.nature.com/articles/6604554
https://www.sciencedirect.com/scienc...06295202008560
https://academic.oup.com/nutritionre.../7/432/1752161
https://link.springer.com/article/10...10-020-03378-8
https://www.spandidos-publications.c.../etm.2018.6345
https://link.springer.com/article/10...046-017-0566-5
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Originally Posted By ChelshireCat⏩
I am so sorryStill haven’t seen her yet.
She has been unable to eat recently due to what the doctors thought was a massive amount of excessive fluid around her stomach, she went to have it drained from her stomach today. As it turns out, it isn't fluid, it’s actually her liver.
.... today, I had my stepdad message me for the first time ever asking to speak with me whilst my mum was in the hospital (incredibly complicated relationship there with no love lost on either side). He wanted to let me know that it turns out my mum hasn’t been totally honest with us, her diagnosis is way worse than we (me and my other sister who lives 200 miles away) have been led to believe.
The doctors have actually told her 3-6 weeks. My stepdad was urging us to come and see her sooner rather than later. She hasn’t eaten in almost a week, she has “given up and just wants this nightmare to be over”. The palliative care team are involved to ease her pain.
Sister is driving down on Wednesday, I am going to head down a few times over the next few days. Covid and lockdown be damed.
Mum has told us she wants to buy us all one last special gift to remember her by.
I am heartbroken.
She has been unable to eat recently due to what the doctors thought was a massive amount of excessive fluid around her stomach, she went to have it drained from her stomach today. As it turns out, it isn't fluid, it’s actually her liver.
.... today, I had my stepdad message me for the first time ever asking to speak with me whilst my mum was in the hospital (incredibly complicated relationship there with no love lost on either side). He wanted to let me know that it turns out my mum hasn’t been totally honest with us, her diagnosis is way worse than we (me and my other sister who lives 200 miles away) have been led to believe.
The doctors have actually told her 3-6 weeks. My stepdad was urging us to come and see her sooner rather than later. She hasn’t eaten in almost a week, she has “given up and just wants this nightmare to be over”. The palliative care team are involved to ease her pain.
Sister is driving down on Wednesday, I am going to head down a few times over the next few days. Covid and lockdown be damed.
Mum has told us she wants to buy us all one last special gift to remember her by.
I am heartbroken.
Fuk those lockdowns and do whatever you have to do to be by her side. I'm heartbroken for you.6'1 - 240lbs
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11-02-2020, 12:57 PM
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so sorry you and your family are going through this.. fk cancer srs, I hope they still find a way to overcome this all. wishing you and your family all the best opie.
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11-02-2020, 01:05 PM
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Originally Posted By ChelshireCat⏩
wow...I can hear the pain reading this. go be with mom, fuk everything elseStill haven’t seen her yet.
She has been unable to eat recently due to what the doctors thought was a massive amount of excessive fluid around her stomach, she went to have it drained from her stomach today. As it turns out, it isn't fluid, it’s actually her liver.
.... today, I had my stepdad message me for the first time ever asking to speak with me whilst my mum was in the hospital (incredibly complicated relationship there with no love lost on either side). He wanted to let me know that it turns out my mum hasn’t been totally honest with us, her diagnosis is way worse than we (me and my other sister who lives 200 miles away) have been led to believe.
The doctors have actually told her 3-6 weeks. My stepdad was urging us to come and see her sooner rather than later. She hasn’t eaten in almost a week, she has “given up and just wants this nightmare to be over”. The palliative care team are involved to ease her pain.
Sister is driving down on Wednesday, I am going to head down a few times over the next few days. Covid and lockdown be damed.
Mum has told us she wants to buy us all one last special gift to remember her by.
I am heartbroken.
She has been unable to eat recently due to what the doctors thought was a massive amount of excessive fluid around her stomach, she went to have it drained from her stomach today. As it turns out, it isn't fluid, it’s actually her liver.
.... today, I had my stepdad message me for the first time ever asking to speak with me whilst my mum was in the hospital (incredibly complicated relationship there with no love lost on either side). He wanted to let me know that it turns out my mum hasn’t been totally honest with us, her diagnosis is way worse than we (me and my other sister who lives 200 miles away) have been led to believe.
The doctors have actually told her 3-6 weeks. My stepdad was urging us to come and see her sooner rather than later. She hasn’t eaten in almost a week, she has “given up and just wants this nightmare to be over”. The palliative care team are involved to ease her pain.
Sister is driving down on Wednesday, I am going to head down a few times over the next few days. Covid and lockdown be damed.
Mum has told us she wants to buy us all one last special gift to remember her by.
I am heartbroken.
11-02-2020, 05:26 PM
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I'm sorry. You stay strong, safe and also don't forget to take care of yourself. *bow*
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11-09-2020, 09:40 AM
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My mother died yesterday morning. It was the best death we could have hoped for in the circumstances, very peaceful and surrounded by her husband, youngest daughter and dog.
I got to see her twice before the end, once on Tuesday then again on Thursday. She was dead on Sunday. I could see she was deteriorating but it was terrifying how quick it happened. We got told she had only a few weeks left about a week ago, but I didn’t leave on the Thursday thinking she would be dead within days. She was clearly uncomfortable but quite talkative.
....I am also absolutely livid at one of my sisters, who came down with her family from across the country, caused a massive amount of stress, drama and grief for my mum and the rest of the family, especially on the friday just before she left. She finally ****ed off mid Friday, by that point my mum had retreated upstairs. She then had a massive downturn in her condition. The next day she could barely move or open her eyes and then died the following morning.
I can’t help but think that my sister went out of her way to cause harm which may have expedited my mums passing.... it could just be the grief and anger that’s fuelling that though. I am trying to hold my tongue to avoid causing any more bad feelings but she is now dithering over whether she should come to the funeral as she doesn’t feel like she was fully welcome in the house whilst mum was there dying, it always has to be about her.
We aren’t a very close family and my mum knew that. She was scared (and rightly so tbh) that when she passed, we would just all go our separate ways and never have any meaningful contact with each other again. I guess I am going to try and put our differences aside and maintain contact as much as they want me to, rather than just burning the bridges like I always dreamed of.
This is by far the hardest thing I have ever been through and I am really dreading the funeral.
I got to see her twice before the end, once on Tuesday then again on Thursday. She was dead on Sunday. I could see she was deteriorating but it was terrifying how quick it happened. We got told she had only a few weeks left about a week ago, but I didn’t leave on the Thursday thinking she would be dead within days. She was clearly uncomfortable but quite talkative.
....I am also absolutely livid at one of my sisters, who came down with her family from across the country, caused a massive amount of stress, drama and grief for my mum and the rest of the family, especially on the friday just before she left. She finally ****ed off mid Friday, by that point my mum had retreated upstairs. She then had a massive downturn in her condition. The next day she could barely move or open her eyes and then died the following morning.
I can’t help but think that my sister went out of her way to cause harm which may have expedited my mums passing.... it could just be the grief and anger that’s fuelling that though. I am trying to hold my tongue to avoid causing any more bad feelings but she is now dithering over whether she should come to the funeral as she doesn’t feel like she was fully welcome in the house whilst mum was there dying, it always has to be about her.
We aren’t a very close family and my mum knew that. She was scared (and rightly so tbh) that when she passed, we would just all go our separate ways and never have any meaningful contact with each other again. I guess I am going to try and put our differences aside and maintain contact as much as they want me to, rather than just burning the bridges like I always dreamed of.
This is by far the hardest thing I have ever been through and I am really dreading the funeral.
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11-09-2020, 09:44 AM
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Originally Posted By ChelshireCat⏩
It could be, but don't for a second think you don't have a right to your feelings. And it's certainly not on you to make her feel welcome or whatever. You kind of have bigger things to worry about, like YOU.it could just be the grief and anger that’s fuelling that though. I am trying to hold my tongue to avoid causing any more bad feelings but she is now dithering over whether she should come to the funeral as she doesn’t feel like she was fully welcome in the house whilst mum was there dying, it always has to be about her.
We aren’t a very close family and my mum knew that. She was scared (and rightly so tbh) that when she passed, we would just all go our separate ways and never have any meaningful contact with each other again. I guess I am going to try and put our differences aside and maintain contact as much as they want me to, rather than just burning the bridges like I always dreamed of.
This is by far the hardest thing I have ever been through and I am really dreading the funeral.
We aren’t a very close family and my mum knew that. She was scared (and rightly so tbh) that when she passed, we would just all go our separate ways and never have any meaningful contact with each other again. I guess I am going to try and put our differences aside and maintain contact as much as they want me to, rather than just burning the bridges like I always dreamed of.
This is by far the hardest thing I have ever been through and I am really dreading the funeral.
I'm so sorry, may her sweet memory be a comfort and a blessing to you. Many hugs and casseroles from across the pond. We're here for you.
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So sorry to hear this brahette. Stay strong. Now is not the time to be mad at your sister, don't waste your energy on that chit right now. Her time will come
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Fuark absolutely devastating, my heart goes out to you and your family.
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Condolences for your loss. Grief can hit you like a train, even when you see it coming. Stay strong OP.
11-09-2020, 10:15 AM
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When mine died some 8 years ago now, I still lived at home, I was even pleased when she passed There comes a point of no return, you know its not going to get better but only worse. If your mum was talking only a few days prior, sounds like the ******** hadn't completely claimed her as with mine, so she went out as herself, sounds better on paper, but in reality that probably made it still quite raw.
The funeral was a twat, my mother got married 6 weeks before dying, I walked and then carried her down the same isle and the season didn't even change.
Cancer is a **** of a disease.
From my experiences, the relationships you expect to hold up do, me and my sister talk for a good 2 hours on the phone per week, and some have really blossomed, my Uncle and Aunt, who we used to see about once/month, really stepped up and provided the rock we as kids back then needed, and we see them every week/other and are always welcome. Some soured, namely my sisters close relationship with our step dad(money, what else, around £1million left, he wanted it all and promised to continue raising us, my Uncle rightly so, couldn't put that faith in him).
There's **** to come, but time keeps turning, and we'll be welcoming the first new member to the fam in a while with my sister preggos. The future can always be a better place than the past, no matter how **** it starts off, best of luck.
The funeral was a twat, my mother got married 6 weeks before dying, I walked and then carried her down the same isle and the season didn't even change.
Cancer is a **** of a disease.
From my experiences, the relationships you expect to hold up do, me and my sister talk for a good 2 hours on the phone per week, and some have really blossomed, my Uncle and Aunt, who we used to see about once/month, really stepped up and provided the rock we as kids back then needed, and we see them every week/other and are always welcome. Some soured, namely my sisters close relationship with our step dad(money, what else, around £1million left, he wanted it all and promised to continue raising us, my Uncle rightly so, couldn't put that faith in him).
There's **** to come, but time keeps turning, and we'll be welcoming the first new member to the fam in a while with my sister preggos. The future can always be a better place than the past, no matter how **** it starts off, best of luck.
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