For someone her age, she is very good looking. So I don't know. Her instagram and ******** is pretty private. Only her close friends are her followers. Or something like that. Although it could be just an excuse because she can't get any followers while deep inside she wants them. It's actually one of the things I liked about her. I don't like popular girls or women who have tons of followers and likes. She was the exact opposite. Doesn't seem to be an attention whore I guess. But she still somehow managed to find a guy. At this age and being very unpopular. Anyway, it doesn't matter anymore.

Did not read. OP, grow up and focus on your own life and your next relationship, it's probably destined to fail as well if you're as childish and stupid as the thread title suggests.

Literally stop giving her attention, stop hanging out, go no contact.

She's seeing someone else, she doesn't respect you. She might have looked at you as a fling, got bored with you, and moved on. Moreover she sees you as consistent reaffirmation of her attractiveness, if she can score a younger fit dude, she can get anyone right? So she'll send you not-so-casual pics and reap the benefits of your attention, words, and simping.

Also going no contact will drive her nuts and do exactly what you want, to mess with her head.

You're so right there. I gave her so much attention and compliments throughout all this time, no wonder she stayed in contact with me. I was a huge ego booster for her.

But you're wrong about that she got bored with me. I left her. Not other way around.

Also, me chasing her, it was once in a life time thing for her. The attraction that I felt and the way I invested in her, no man on this earth would go after her the way I did. I mean any other young and good looking dude wouldn't look at her twice for more than one night stand with this woman. And I know the dude that she's currently seeing. It's her coworker. 16 years younger than she is but fat, balding and overall ugly as fuk. Obviously he's more important to her than I am now because she sleeps with him, hangs out, chats but she doesn't respect him and it's not serious relationship. Otherwise she wouldn't be seeing her ex (me) behind his back. Or maybe he's even aware of that and doesn't mind. Who knows. So he's a fling for her. While we had something more.

Anyway, what matters now is for me to forget this woman. I'm seriously considering going full NC right now after so many people advised to do so.

Quick update:

This evening, I silently, without saying anything, left her stuff (that I was helping her sell) at her home door while she was at her new fukbuddy after work.

She found it. Didn't text me anything and I didn't as well.

Last thing to do is to remove the GPS from her car and I should be done with this woman. The only reason I left it this long is I hoped that I somehow managed to damage her relationship with that new ****get of hers. I hoped that somehow, she would stop seeing him at least for a while. Not that it would change anything but it would've made me feel better and lifted my ego. Too bad it didn't work out. Now that I'm out of her life, she's probably closer to him than ever before.

I was interested till “20 years older then me” you obviously have your own problems.

But you wanted her back and she rejected you.

She's not sneaking around with you behind his back because she can't resist you physically, you guys haven't hooked up in months and she uses you for validation (and to help her with things) and you oblige.

You tell us how you're so much better than her rebound and how her opportunity and connection with you was something she was insane to pass up on yet they're the ones enjoying their lives and you're on the internet trying (and failing) to justify your actions and mindset.
YOU PUT A GPS ON YOUR EX-GIRLFRIEND's CAR!
DO YOU REALIZE LIKE LESS THAN 1% OF PEOPLE WOULD EVER DO THAT?!?!?

Being good on paper means nothing if you don't have the psyche to back it up.
Take the L and understand the mountain of work ahead of you if you want to have the capacity for healthier relationships (probably not just limited to dating) in the future.

With how normalized therapy is these days, I hope you see that your actions are reason to seek professional help.

stopped reading at 20 years older

i just cant imagine simping this hard for someone 20 years older than you.

also, you're stalking her and essentially harassing her.

i know emotions can get high and i've sent quite a few "fuk you, you're just some whore/bish" texts in my day but never went this far. lol

It’s done?

Want to emotionally destroy her huh?

Have some mother fuking stones and move the fuk on. That is how you win. Plain and simple . Don’t block her numbers and all that. Don’t be petty. Just move on. Delete her number idc if you have it memorized. Delete the number, delete her from social and never answer a call, text, nothing.

You think your father would be proud of you trying to destroy a bitch mentally or whatever? He’d look at you like a little bitch, and embarrassment to the family name.

Many guys have had it 10x worse. Cheated on and divorced loss of children and home.

So exactly what I said and start right this fuking second. Be a man, think how your own father would view your actions. He’d literally say be a man, bootstraps time will heal it .

Plain and simple.

I hope you shape up, and get a grip.

This tone sounds like I’m being a dick. I am not tho. You called the misc, we responded. You may not like it. But deep down on everything I just said you know is the right move to make

wow their is a series that plays out exactly like this called "You" on Tv. please understand you are a stalker. The sooner you realize how pathetic that is and start to better yourself the better off you will be. Move on fella... you put a GPS on her car. You are a bit crazy, just understand that and better yourself. You might decide to see a therapist.

What

You broke up with her. She does not owe you honesty about whether she is seeing other people. You told her to get help from the guy she blows and that you don't want to be friends if she won't have sex with you. She has every right to end the friendship.

Your best move is to move on. She never tried to hurt you. You only hurt yourself. Just because you pour your heart back does not mean she has to take you. If she smiled, it was after you dumped her and now regret it. She is not happy beyond that.

There is no reason to leave the GPS on her car now unless you intend to ambush her. You know she has found someone else. No need to track her further. Even if you wanted to get back with her, you don't need gps when you can just look out the window.


I read your whole post and all your replies. I understand you want validation of her being hurt. You already got that when she told you she was hurt when you dumped her the first time. She does not want you hurting her a second time. Just accept that. You hurt her so bad that she hooked up with a fat bald guy whom she trusts won't leave her. Is that proof enough for you? Now move on. And remove the GPS asap. Knowing her every location during each day might tempt you to do other stuff.

Holy necro dogg

Although I checked this thread periodically to feel better when there were days when I was down, I never saw this reply of yours.

Thank you bro. Reading your post now feels like some unseen footage from my favorite movie that I watched 100x but just now discovered that unseen footage. And it's some awesome footage. Although I'm 99% recovered, it still made me feel better. Truly appreciate.

So it's been almost a year since all of this. A lot of things happened. No, she didn't come back. Although, I'll be honest, during this period, I tried lots of things to pique her interest. Not directly though. I started uploading some really hot pictures of myself on social media, increased my ig follow from 30 followers to 600. Received lots of likes from girls. Got into really good shape. But not for her. But for myself. And if that would've piqued her interest, it would've been just a nice cherry on top and some ego boost to me.

But it didn't pique her interest. But that's ok. Because nevertheless, I still feel good because I'm getting better and moving on in life. And although it was incredibly difficult to let her go, I managed to do so.

There are still some setback days where I remimisce about our relationship and days where I feel enraged, vengeful etc like why and how did I let myself go so bad for some old whore? How could she trade me for some fat, balding disgusting blob? But those days and feelings are short lived. I mostly don't care about her anymore. I don't fantasize about her, the physical attraction is gone, she doesn't turn me anymore and there are absolutely 0 romantic feelings left. And although I sometimes feel somewhat curious how she's doing, I would rather hang myself than text to her.

I actually met her a month ago face to face when we were both walking our dogs since she lives close to me. First time meeting her face to face in like 9 months. Only saw her couple times with my car driving by. Anyway, I wasn't very keen talking to her but she approached me with her dog and initiated convo first. Although it looked like she did so just out of politeness. We briefly talked about our dogs and that's it. Neither of us asked how are you doing, what's new etc. Felt like two complete strangers who neither gives a fuk anymore briefly exchanged couple sentences and immediately went their separate ways.




So that's it I guess. It was one hell of a ride I'll admit. But I needed it. This experience "what not to do" will lead me on for the rest of my life and might 1 day even save me from another disastrous event like this.


Just want to say one last thank you to everyone here who tried to help this stupid and desperate fella here. I repped most of you here. Too bad I can't do it multiple times because some of you really deserve it. I also I re-read some posts here dozens of times during these past 11 months. And in those days when I was feeling crushed, it truly made me feel better and lifted me up on my feet.