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post 1662686853 06-11-2022, 06:45 AM
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Originally Posted By GaryRidgway
It's pretty easy bro. Just pretend they're people even though they aren't
Originally Posted By GaryCarnivals
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Technological_singularity

technology is moving too fast so it's too hard to understand what's going on anymore
I know I feel left behind. How many new gadgets and systems are you supposed to learn and remember???

If I don't work on making Texas great I should start some sort of consultancy and do research for companies on making their offerings more friendly for old people...

If they care- maybe not.
Originally Posted By DargeLick
Umm Im doubting the accuracy of the graph.
Brb - Internet/online back in 1980???

1994/5 most likely the earliest use other than military/university geeks.
Well it doesn't have to be due to a dating app...could be myspace or a message board or something.
Originally Posted By TokenV
missing the optionthrough girlfriendlol, had this happen once, pretty brutal looking back lmfao

through friends was really the way to go in my teens/early twenties but nowadays (36 yo) not a lot of expansion is happening in the friend area so this is becoming scarce

through work, fuk that you don't chit where you eat

online, again fuk that

guess my generation is screwed when they become single in their late twenties/thirties
I think the meeting through work thing just got way more complicated due to the whole sexual harassment thing.

If you meet someone at a McJob [entry level, low pay, temporary] then there isn't as much of a risk. And, at least in the before times, meeting/dating someone who you didn't work with directly [different department, maybe even a different floor or building] was low risk too.

Now Brad dating three different women that worked side by side? lol
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post 1662687013 06-11-2022, 06:51 AM
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Most people meet at work
post 1662687093 06-11-2022, 06:52 AM
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Originally Posted By katya422


TFW you lived during peak "met at work".

Personal odds of meeting someone via a dating app are super low since I've got no desire to even try one...
How would you like our "how we met" story to go.....
post 1662687213 06-11-2022, 06:55 AM
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Originally Posted By katya422


TFW you lived during peak "met at work".

Personal odds of meeting someone via a dating app are super low since I've got no desire to even try one...
I don't really care what the data says, I think that it's possible to meet people through a variety of media - if you are intuitive enough and know how to work with nature, you can meet friends and partner anywhere.
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post 1662687613 06-11-2022, 07:13 AM
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Originally Posted By WiseOldApe
I don't really care what the data says, I think that it's possible to meet people through a variety of media - if you are intuitive enough and know how to work with nature, you can meet friends and partner anywhere.
Says a poster who switches from:

- she was the best man

to

- I'm celibate by choice because I am complete, masculine and feminine within myself

to

- I was a total Chad bro, had so much azz

to

- well I sorta tried men, but it totally wasn't gay

Originally Posted By RIKTER
How would you like our "how we met" story to go.....
Oh, just noticing that so far it has been a work thing.

- high school BF [worked together]
- 1st husband [met at his work]
- 2nd husband [worked together]

If I'm writing a novel maybe I would somehow run into the guy that I met on vacation in CA when I was around 12 and somehow we would both be single and live near each other and just happen to meet up randomly and "remember when".

I don't want a job. Or at least not the usual sort. Feel like I've done enough of that and in a few years I will have met my obligations- married, had a kid, parents deceased, kid grown up [almost, she's 16 now].

So really seems like time to do whatever the hell I feel like doing until I can't do anything much anymore.
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post 1662687793 06-11-2022, 07:19 AM
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Met my girl in an online sex subforum of another forum some people here would probably recognize

If we split, work is probably where I'd find someone new
post 1662688233 06-11-2022, 07:39 AM
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Originally Posted By DeadlyStriker
At this point, post covid, the only way seems to be on dating apps.
Which the misc vehemently insists are total trash and should be avoided. And I agree.

What do
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"family"

they mean like marrying ur sister?
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Ironically, women who aren't into online dating also end up having it be a pita for them. Because while online dating heavily favors women and has become so commonplace, most guys are aware that a lot of women simply don't want to be approached much IRL at all these days. Thus, women who aren't into online dating end up actually getting their options significantly reduced, as so many guys won't approach women IRL anymore/only approach minimally. Which is because guys don't want to be labeled as creepy and/or autistic just for even bothering approaching IRL on top of the already high odds of rejection.
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Met this cute chick at work only to find out she was bat sht crazy. That's my type, so I'll let you know how it goes
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i dont see sub6 males dating outside of whiteboy/asiangirl couples lol
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How old are you, Katya? Got someone I might want you to meet. And I'm serious.

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Originally Posted By redraider86
How old are you, Katya? Got someone I might want you to meet. And I'm serious.

matchmaking intensifies
bump for Katya, please respond

I guess I can add my data point, too.

Met my wife in 2002 while attending college. We met at a church activity, my friends knew her first. So, I guess kind of a college/church/friends combo.
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post 1662899193 06-15-2022, 10:19 AM
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Originally Posted By Paul
That's how I met mine.
Married 18 yrs now
Same. Dated for 4 years and married 14.
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post 1662899343 06-15-2022, 10:22 AM
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I don't like online dating because
1. I don't know if the person who made the profile is the same person in the picture.
2. I don't want to advertise myself and what I want to people I'm not interested in.

I'd rather show specialized profiles to people whose pictures have been verified.
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Originally Posted By Fang2
Met this cute chick at work only to find out she was bat sht crazy. That's my type, so I'll let you know how it goes
Maybe she gets you fired.
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Originally Posted By Rajc
cold approach is and will forever be king srs
Yep. It is not where you search, but how you look when you search. And women know that anyone can copy an online photo.
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Met my wife in 1995 in a big "friends of friends" group that met at a bar that had an "all you can eat and drink" happy hour buffet, so I guess we could be considered "through friends" or "at a bar" depending on how you look at it.
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A lot of it will be online now because cold approach in person is a minefield that can get you "shamed" all over the net.

So many things are socially taboo, especially with young people, that the conversation I had when I met my wife simply would not happen on a college campus these days.
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Originally Posted By katya422
Had the best conversations in the '90's. I sort of thought it was an age thing- mostly 20-somethings. Now? Sigh...

I can chat up near strangers IRL if I make the effort, but it's not so easy. Feels like there are too many landmines to avoid.

ETA:

misc katya = | = irl katya

Same person, still think about all sorts of stuff, but I at most gently nudge topics to see how the person responds. I'm not like - WHAMMO - killer vax, Great Reset, geopolitics, finance, etc. etc.

Neighbor today-

So I don't know if you follow economics stuff...

"Oh yeah, I was just watching a guy talking about the stock market you know? Says you should just leave your investments alone and don't pay any attention- markets go up and down...blah blah blah"

[inside thoughts: yeah, but neighbor you are over 60 and retired...]

Right, I dunno though, seems like it could be pretty bad with this crazy inflation...
I'm much better conversing now than in the 90s. I was a complete social retard when I was younger and a nervous wreck around women. Now, I'm married and DGAF what anyone other than my wife thinks about me, so it makes it a lot easier to converse with people. I actually try to chat up people all the time. My wife gets worried that women are trying to flirt with me sometimes, but I never direct the conversation to anything sexual obviously since I'm not looking for that.
Originally Posted By katya422
I think the meeting through work thing just got way more complicated due to the whole sexual harassment thing.

If you meet someone at a McJob [entry level, low pay, temporary] then there isn't as much of a risk. And, at least in the before times, meeting/dating someone who you didn't work with directly [different department, maybe even a different floor or building] was low risk too.

Now Brad dating three different women that worked side by side? lol
I think back to my first PT HS job in a big outlet store. It was basically a meat market for the chads who worked there (not for me, though, sadly). When people think of the "don't chit where you eat" thing against dating at work, they're mostly thinking of career jobs where that can be a huge mine field, but for transitory part time jobs for kids, hookups happen all the time (or did in the 80s/90s anyway).
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[QUOTE=katya422 post_id=1662673133][img]https://pbs.twimg.com/media/FU6M213WUAAjvw7?format=jpg&nam
Personal odds of meeting someone via a dating app are super low since I've got no desire to even try one...[/QUOTE]You’re on one right now bby I’ll take you out


Not srs

Ok maybe srs
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Originally Posted By imbored21
i dont see sub6 males dating outside of whiteboy/asiangirl couples lol
This lol just be white
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Originally Posted By FarmersSon
bump for Katya, please respond

I guess I can add my data point, too.

Met my wife in 2002 while attending college. We met at a church activity, my friends knew her first. So, I guess kind of a college/church/friends combo.
Thanks for the bump. I sent RR a PM.
Originally Posted By Darkius
I don't like online dating because
1. I don't know if the person who made the profile is the same person in the picture.
2. I don't want to advertise myself and what I want to people I'm not interested in.

I'd rather show specialized profiles to people whose pictures have been verified.
I didn't know that was a thing.
Originally Posted By DuracellBunny
A lot of it will be online now because cold approach in person is a minefield that can get you "shamed" all over the net.

So many things are socially taboo, especially with young people, that the conversation I had when I met my wife simply would not happen on a college campus these days.
Flirting in 2022- how does it work?

And the increase in defensive self-censorship due to social media is a topic I've come across a few times now- not just related to dating.
Originally Posted By Jayarbie
I'm much better conversing now than in the 90s. I was a complete social retard when I was younger and a nervous wreck around women.Now, I'm married and DGAF what anyone other than my wife thinks about me, so it makes it a lot easier to converse with people.I actually try to chat up people all the time. My wife gets worried that women are trying to flirt with me sometimes, but I never direct the conversation to anything sexual obviously since I'm not looking for that.

I think back to my first PT HS job in a big outlet store. It was basically a meat market for the chads who worked there (not for me, though, sadly). When people think of the "don't chit where you eat" thing against dating at work, they're mostly thinking of career jobs where that can be a huge mine field,but for transitory part time jobs for kids, hookups happen all the time (or did in the 80s/90s anyway).
There is something to be said for growing into yourself and feeling more confident in your identity. I still feel like the mood was different then- maybe just less defensive?

I've read [and seen] that fewer teenagers have jobs than previously. When I was in high school it was fairly unusual to NOT have a part time job of some sort, at least in the summer.
Teen labor force participation has been on a long-term downward trend. Since reaching a peak of 57.9 percent in 1979, the rate fell to 52.0 percent in 2000, just prior to the 2001 recession. The rate then dropped rapidly during and after the 2007–09 recession to reach 34.1 percent in 2011, and since then, it has stayed within a narrow range. The latest projection of labor force participation from the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics (BLS) points toward an even lower teen participation rate by 2024.
I specifically noticed during the Great Recession that suddenly there were grown up people working at places like Target and Kroger instead of teenagers.
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Originally Posted By katya422


TFW you lived during peak "met at work".

Personal odds of meeting someone via a dating app are super low since I've got no desire to even try one...
You were working 1989? Didn't realize you were so old. What are you like 55-60?
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Originally Posted By katya422
Thanks for the bump. I sent RR a PM.
Lol. Thought that might be the case, after all that would be the responsible approach. Not as entertaining for the peanut gallery though.
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That's because less young people go to church. Families are splintered. And the majority of people are borderline autistic when it comes to approaching/meeting new people.

Men are afraid of confrontation and rejection. They'll swipe right on 1000 girls and send hundreds of messages as openers with 0 fear of rejection. But how many guys just approach/chat up 2 or 3 girls per day IRL? How many guys goes out and approaches/talks to 10 girls in a single day with the goal of getting dates?



Obviously apps are more efficient at messaging/meeting a lot of girls in a short amount of time. But in 2022 a lot of guys are just handicapped by the digital world.

Originally Posted By notbadnotbrad
A lot of girls explicitly state they are looking for relationships and no hook ups on their profile.
Those girls all hook up. They just trying to keep subpar guys away.

Girls get hundreds of messages from socially retarded guys. Most of them just want a quick hookup. Most girls don't.

Originally Posted By DuracellBunny
A lot of it will be online now because cold approach in person is a minefield that can get you "shamed" all over the net.

So many things are socially taboo, especially with young people, that the conversation I had when I met my wife simply would not happen on a college campus these days.
lol no. Unless you come with some line like "Hey girl let me get that pussy" or something dumb like that or are approaching women that are obviously femnoids.



Cold approach IRL is the easiest and most effective way to get girls. Simply because the majority of men are socially retarded now. Who's going to stand-out/ be remembered more? The good looking charming guy that approaches her in public or one of the THOUSANDS of guys that swipes on her/DM's her all the time.
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Originally Posted By katya422

That gif is brilliant!
If you want to ask me a question:

Ask: TheAdlerian

http://forum.obnoxiousbrutes.com/showthread.php?t=150655983&p=1000366043#post1000366043

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Originally Posted By katya422
There is something to be said for growing into yourself and feeling more confident in your identity. I still feel like the mood was different then- maybe just less defensive?
Society was definitely less defensive then. No doubt about that. The Me Too movement was borne of the fact that sexual harassment/assault was often ignored, and that's a big problem, but as with everything, the reaction swung the pendulum too far in the other direction and has made people scared to even talk to other people sometimes.
Originally Posted By katya422
I've read [and seen] that fewer teenagers have jobs than previously. When I was in high school it was fairly unusual to NOT have a part time job of some sort, at least in the summer.

I specifically noticed during the Great Recession that suddenly there were grown up people working at places like Target and Kroger instead of teenagers.
This has done a complete U-turn due to the pandemic & worker shortage. My son clears about $20/hr ($9 + tips) scooping ice cream. My daughter makes $14/hr at Five Guys. There are dozens of places in my town hiring teenagers for PT jobs, and there is at least one job for anyone who wants one.
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Originally Posted By guest89
lol no. Unless you come with some line like "Hey girl let me get that pussy" or something dumb like that or are approaching women that are obviously femnoids.



Cold approach IRL is the easiest and most effective way to get girls. Simply because the majority of men are socially retarded now. Who's going to stand-out/ be remembered more? The good looking charming guy that approaches her in public or one of the THOUSANDS of guys that swipes on her/DM's her all the time.
This is how I met my wife:

She was standing alone in a corrider of the physics building and I walked up to her

Me: are you lost?
Her: no, I'm waiting for a friend. Why, do I look lost?
Me: no, but if you'd been in this building before I would have remembered.
Her: why is that?
Me: two reasons. First you're beautiful and second, out of the 400 or so people in this building at the moment, you might be the only one who's black.
Her: I know. Civil engineering has a few black students and staff, but physics isn't just white, it's pale.
Me: that's because we're all ugly and have zero social skills, so they don't let us outside during daylight.
Her:you'renot ugly and your social skills seem fine to me.
Me: shhhh, don't tell anybody or they'll take away my geek card.
Her: well we can't have that now can we.
Me: who's your friend that you're waiting for
Her: xyz, you know her?
Me: to say hello to, but that's about it.
Her: so she can't give me any dirt on you then?
Me: no, if you want the dirt on me, you will have to meet me in the pub tonight.
Her: I'm not meeting you in the pub
Me: yes you are, I'll be there at 8

I got to the pub at quarter to 8 and she walked in at 5 to.

That conversation is not taking place on a college campus in 2022. No chance in hell.
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