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post 1683540583 05-28-2023, 02:33 AM
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Originally Posted By BuuTheGod⏩
Yep lol that's what I'm scared of happening with my "girlfriend"

Should I just block her off everything and run?
Yes bro.
Gtfo if that situation without telling her she’s crazy or putting on reason on her being the problem as she’ll likely get triggered. Start backing up, which should be easy when she’s been giving you silent treatment and then fully cut her off. Expect her to reach out again at some point as that’s what they do. Genuinely have her blocked and never unblock.

Telling you from experience. Don’t deal with them. Especially the ones that have self harmed or eating disorders. Sounds kind mean but trust me you don’t need that in your life. The only type you might deal with as a friend would those that understand their emotional instability and go therapy every week, srs.
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post 1683541273 05-28-2023, 03:21 AM
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Yeah I think that that ex gf of mine had that and made me go crazy - she basically just dumped me over nothing and left me broken.

Then I ended up crazy and on bipolar medication.
Originally Posted By BuuTheGod⏩
Lol wow my ex did the same exact thing, she made sure to tell me her "psycho ex was stalking her" and making multiple accounts trying to contact her, she prob broke him mentally
Yeah that's what the ex of mine probably done too - she destroyed my psyche and then acted like I didn't exist.

Now? She's 31, childless and has fake lips and fake cheekbones and is trying to be an instagram influencer or some sh*t.

It's like she done some witchcraft on me or some sh*t I can't explain it - these BPD sloots are all like that where they create some sort of 'psychic' connection to you and you can't stop thinking about them, etc.

Actually I think it may be from the mirroring and it's actually how NLP and hypnosis works - you try to mirror the other person to get em hypnotised and then when they're under your 'spell' they can't break free.
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post 1683541733 05-28-2023, 04:00 AM
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Never dated a person with BPD but have known a few. If their insight is good and they're in therapy trying hard to work on proper coping strategies, then their outcome is miles better than a person with BPD who has poor insight and is not trying. It's all about manipulation, fearing abandonment, emotional lability, etc. I had an old buddy who dated a girl with BPD. Lots of generational trauma and other schit in her past. The thing is they're simultaneously putting you on a pedestal and worshipping you and agreeing with anything you say and showering your in affection that that might feel wonderful to receive, but then the other side of the symptoms coin emerges and they become manipulative, threaten to harm themselves if you disagree with them, threaten to ruin you, stalk you, etc.

Once again, depends if they recognize and are working on their difficulties.
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post 1683544003 05-28-2023, 06:18 AM
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Being single and lonely is better than being with a Borderline, and no I am not exaggerating.
post 1683544113 05-28-2023, 06:22 AM
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Yeah, dated one for five years.

Definitely recommend experiencing it at least once. ded srs
post 1683544183 05-28-2023, 06:24 AM
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Originally Posted By northernlights7⏩
Being single and lonely is better than being with a Borderline, and no I am not exaggerating.
Why would you be exaggerating? Being single is a billion times better than being with a BPD woman.
post 1683544313 05-28-2023, 06:28 AM
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Originally Posted By Kewbrah⏩
Why would you be exaggerating? Being single is a billion times better than being with a BPD woman.
Because a lot of thirsty simps are so desperate for love that they'd overlook something as bad as BPD issues in a woman.
post 1683544333 05-28-2023, 06:30 AM
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Originally Posted By northernlights7⏩
Because a lot of thirsty simps are so desperate for love that they'd overlook something as bad as BPD issues in a woman.
yeah but it's an awesome experience. some guys prefer them
post 1683544863 05-28-2023, 06:46 AM
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They will try their damndest to destroy your ego, whether thru sex, your wallet, your emotions, infidelity, you name it.

Truly horrible people. On the rare encounter with one, the best practice imo is to be super calm, no yelling no emotions no nothing and literally just analyze and tell them what they are.

Dont tell them how they make you feel, dont tell them they are a whore(directly anyways) or mean or unrealistic or whatever. Just tell them exactly what they are and watch them implode.

Oh yeah, and there is no escape from whatever petty disgusting **** they might do to retaliate after theyve recovered from being ethered, but this way you can let them know that your eyes are OPEN and you can see them for the flayed demons they are.

Typical BPD Checklist:
Women
15 to 35
Huge sloot(25 plus bodycount)
Does crazy **** in bed, whenever wherever
Lovebombs then starts mind games
Eating disorders(IMO the biggest redflag)
Odd relationship with parents
Lack of or No friends
Usually post on twitter or tiktok
post 1683556213 05-28-2023, 11:29 AM
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Originally Posted By Braheemus⏩
Typical BPD Checklist:
Women
15 to 35
Huge sloot(25 plus bodycount)
Does crazy **** in bed, whenever wherever
Lovebombs then starts mind games
Eating disorders(IMO the biggest redflag)
Odd relationship with parents
Lack of or No friends
Usually post on twitter or tiktok
LMAO the BPD girl I dated was literally every single one of these things.
post 1683556323 05-28-2023, 11:31 AM
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post 1683556393 05-28-2023, 11:34 AM
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Originally Posted By Kewbrah⏩
Why would you be exaggerating? Being single is a billion times better than being with a BPD woman.
This type of thing requires "on the job" training though.
post 1683556493 05-28-2023, 11:37 AM
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Originally Posted By BuuTheGod⏩
(I posted this in RH but it's dead)

Holy ****, I thought I met the most amazing, perfect, relatable woman of my life for the first 2-3 months, then it all came crashing down

I had no idea what BPD was until I researched after the fact. A woman that is unable to see grey areas, she only sees people are good or evil. She either loves you or hates you. No inbetween.

After 2-3 months of her worshipping me, she completely hates me and has not spoken a word to me in 10 days over some silly **** (something a healthy woman would forgive in an hour). In some ways I think I'm lucky... Hopefully she never comes back if they are truly as violent and conniving as people say.

Has anyone dealt with BPD women?

I won't put on a front, my heart is broken but I know time will help
I don't know if mine was necessarily BPD, but I know the feels all to well to the bolded. My ex hates my guts and is the one that broke up with me. I first dumped her 4 months into dating because I didn't know what I wanted and wasn't sure I wanted marriage and didn't want to hurt her. She turned that into my parents must be racist (she's black) and that going forward we're pure enemies and there's no going back and she was going to make my life pure hell. This was after knowing her for a year and seeing nothing but what everybody else including me saw as a normal, nice, sweet, cool girl. 2 years later the final break up happened and she did her smear campaign in the hopes to either ruin every friendship she knew of, or get me thrown in jail. I didn't bite on any of it like she hoped and just made her look like a psycho to her family.

You never know who a woman truly is until you break up with them. Those that simply cry to their gfs are the good ones. The ones that do what I detailed above, or instantly hit up an ex or get on a dating app asap just to get attention and feel better or actually go fk a new guy to feel better about their self are the damaged ones with daddy issues. Whether it be BPD or whatever, just thank God you didn't marry them or have a kid with them.
post 1683556813 05-28-2023, 11:45 AM
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Originally Posted By BuuTheGod⏩
I ended up blocking her. It's crazy how much she has manipulated me, I actually feel guilty for doing it.

I know logically this is the best thing I could do though. Pray for me, I hope this bitch doesn't appear back in my life.
Just keep her blocked indefinitely on everything. Go do some things to stay occupied. After a few weeks, you'll start forgetting about her and things will get much better.
post 1683557003 05-28-2023, 11:48 AM
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I suspect 1 or 2 girls I knew were insane. I am not a psychiatrist, so I don't know if it was BPD, narcissism, or demonic possession. Luckily, these were girls from middle school, so the stakes were pretty low. One of them was a pathological liar. They would lie about the most insane off the wall stuff about people they knew. I had not seen them for years, and through a mutual friend I learned that they were telling insane stories about me that made no sense. Then, like in a sitcom, I thought back to things they told me about other people, that I shrugged off and took at face value, that were obviously lies. The things they made up were like storylines from The OC, but I was 13, and 13 year olds are reasonably easy to fool.

I looked them up a while ago, and they each pumped out a bunch of kids. Which in theory, is a good thing - but I feel bad for their kids/husbands/local communities.

Hopefully, it was just immaturity and they are now well adjusted people who aren't a danger to those around them.
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Originally Posted By Imnew1⏩
I don't know if mine was necessarily BPD, but I know the feels all to well to the bolded. My ex hates my guts and is the one that broke up with me. I first dumped her 4 months into dating because I didn't know what I wanted and wasn't sure I wanted marriage and didn't want to hurt her. She turned that into my parents must be racist (she's black) and that going forward we're pure enemies and there's no going back and she was going to make my life pure hell. This was after knowing her for a year and seeing nothing but what everybody else including me saw as a normal, nice, sweet, cool girl. 2 years later the final break up happened and she did her smear campaign in the hopes to either ruin every friendship she knew of, or get me thrown in jail. I didn't bite on any of it like she hoped and just made her look like a psycho to her family.

You never know who a woman truly is until you break up with them. Those that simply cry to their gfs are the good ones. The ones that do what I detailed above, or instantly hit up an ex or get on a dating app asap just to get attention and feel better or actually go fk a new guy to feel better about their self are the damaged ones with daddy issues. Whether it be BPD or whatever, just thank God you didn't marry them or have a kid with them.
I've recently started cutting a chick off at the first sign of bad emotional behavior. Obviously most aren't BPD, but I'd never deal with a female who can't control her emotions(especially by the age of something like 25+).

I've found that a strong father figure really is a requirement for finding a girl to date. The others are fun to have sex with, but girls with single mothers just aren't going to respect you.
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Originally Posted By Braheemus⏩
They will try their damndest to destroy your ego, whether thru sex, your wallet, your emotions, infidelity, you name it.

Truly horrible people. On the rare encounter with one, the best practice imo is to be super calm, no yelling no emotions no nothing and literally just analyze and tell them what they are.

Dont tell them how they make you feel, dont tell them they are a whore(directly anyways) or mean or unrealistic or whatever. Just tell them exactly what they are and watch them implode.

Oh yeah, and there is no escape from whatever petty disgusting **** they might do to retaliate after theyve recovered from being ethered, but this way you can let them know that your eyes are OPEN and you can see them for the flayed demons they are.

Typical BPD Checklist:
Women
15 to 35
Huge sloot(25 plus bodycount)
Does crazy **** in bed, whenever wherever
Lovebombs then starts mind games
Eating disorders(IMO the biggest redflag)
Odd relationship with parents
Lack of or No friends
Usually post on twitter or tiktok
Bad relationship with parents is one of the biggest red flags. Which is unfair for me to say, but it's life.

It doesn't mean the person is a bad person or whatever, but it means that if you want to have a long term relationship or settle down, there is likely to be a lot of baggage to deal with and work through that if you're not prepared for it might make it difficult to move forward. I guess the big distinction is, is the parent the source of the problems, are they the source of the problems, or a mix of both. If it's the parent, it's unfair to hold it against them, but at the same time, someone who grew up with a difficult or mentally ill mother or father is going to have a higher chance of having relationship problems that you otherwise wouldn't encounter.

At the same time, a bad relationship with parents can also be that they are afraid of upsetting their mom or dad, and subsequently let them walk all over them or run their life.

No one is going to be perfect though. Unless you're the typical 11/10 CEO 10k a day miscer, you're probably not in a position to find yourself a well adjusted 21 year old model who is Christian but not too Christian, loves America, and has only been with .5 guys.
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Originally Posted By BuuTheGod⏩
Has anyone dealt with BPD women?
Ayup.

I dated a woman with bi-polar for a while.. Tbh though she told me she had it but didn't really go into any detail about what it meant. I looked it up, and basically just found out "good and bad - high and low." Got it. No biggie.

But there was something - a side hustle we had just started talking about. Just coming up with ideas, but no plans carved out yet.. And one day she decided it wasn't moving fast enough and she blew up my phone all afternoon. One batshiit rage filled text after another, after another accusing me of lying to her and all men were the same and she hates me and she's gonna kill herself, and... and..... and...

It was legit one of the most shocking things I had ever seen.

Shame too because she was ungodly hot.
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Originally Posted By Braheemus⏩
They will try their damndest to destroy your ego, whether thru sex, your wallet, your emotions, infidelity, you name it.

Truly horrible people. On the rare encounter with one, the best practice imo is to be super calm, no yelling no emotions no nothing and literally just analyze and tell them what they are.

Dont tell them how they make you feel, dont tell them they are a whore(directly anyways) or mean or unrealistic or whatever. Just tell them exactly what they are and watch them implode.

Oh yeah, and there is no escape from whatever petty disgusting **** they might do to retaliate after theyve recovered from being ethered, but this way you can let them know that your eyes are OPEN and you can see them for the flayed demons they are.

Typical BPD Checklist:
Women
15 to 35
Huge sloot(25 plus bodycount)
Does crazy **** in bed, whenever wherever
Lovebombs then starts mind games
Eating disorders(IMO the biggest redflag)
Odd relationship with parents
Lack of or No friends
Usually post on twitter or tiktok
Lol you forgot Tumblr at the end, thats where my ex posts
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Originally Posted By Anachron⏩
BPD?

Try full blown schizophrenia...

Yeah that did not work out.
Yep BPD is minor league stuff, half the single moms have that.

Paranoid Schizophrenia, now there's a real challenge.
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had some similar ish go down. she was all over my nuts then got all pizzy cuz i was "too quiet" in a 1hr car ride after i had like 6hrs sleep in 3 nights. then sent me some text novel and went MIA for the week. JFL @ wimin srs.
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Originally Posted By BuuTheGod⏩
Lol you forgot Tumblr at the end, thats where my ex posts
Can confirm, bpd also did tumblr for a while.

Also had a septum piercing and dressed like a sloot in the past..

Smh literally walking red flag looking back
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