This is simple. You assert your boundaries and state that she's crossing a line by using a male PT that's massaging and touching her.

Her response dictates whether the relationship continues.

The general issue I'd have regardless is why she'd think this isn't crossing a line in the first place. But my scenario is giving the benefit of the doubt and giving her a chance to immediately correct the behavior.

only natural to feel that way.

If your girl is in any way hot/attractive, he WILL want to get with her. Either for just sex or whatever. This would never be accepted for thousands of years, because it's obvious. But... modern feminism has made women think this is fine. It's not.



What I would do :

Before I say anything, I would quietly find a solution by immediately finding a female trainer in my city. If there's any $$ discrepancies, I would pay the difference myself or find one near the same cost. Can't just complain without a solution. Your girl will still have a personal trainer, but this one is much better for her anyway. Her life unaffected.


OUTCOME :

--- If she accepts the solution and immediately terminates other trainer - good. She is receptive, maybe just made a mistake. Teach her. Move on, no harm done.

--- If she refuses this solution.. I would tell her relationship is now over, because she doesn't respect my boundaries, and she shouldn't ever want to do that anyway, and she is unwilling to work together so both parties are happy. I would do it if the roles were reversed. So, she can go be single.




- UPDATE

OP says he only found out recently, and she's had the PT for months. Hahahahaha. She never said anything either. hilarious. If it were me, everything I said up there is rescinded. Relationship over. But you do you OP.

This is what needs to happen. Although, since she apparently thinks it's fine right now it would be done as far as I'm concerned. Not much hope here.

Going to have to leave her I think

Physical trainers don't do ****, which means shes seeing the guy for attention/romance/pound town.

Any other answer is just ****ing lol.

How has nobody asked.....How long have you been together?

3 years brah, she got this male PT a few months ago

A few months ago.

And you only find out now?


Got some bad news for you



Regardless, if you want to give the relationship a shot, my post up there still applies. But I wrote that post under the impression she only just now got a PT and you're talking about it. If she's been seeing this guy for months, and never said anything... very different. But I'm not OP, so maybe he wants to give her a chance to fix it. I'd be gone though, but I would only date for marriage someday... and I'm not marrying a woman with no common sense lol

Lol this is some silly chit. People hire PTs because they know fitness and motivation. They're not hiring them to git fkd. It's super insecure thinking and bad thinking.

Join date: 2012. Son I am disappoint.

PTs regularly run through clients. OP finally gets to see it 3 months later, yeah almost 100% something is going on.

Why have you been together for three years and don't live together? Instead you are calling each other every day like teenagers.

Did she ask you about the idea of getting a male PT before she got one?

Most of you lames on the misc have body dismorphia, thinking everyone needs to be 6'10, shredded 250lbs, with a 10inch cok. The reality is, 5'5 110lbs (3inch cok) is what peak performance looks like.

Lold, thanks.

Didn't see it - is she white or Asian?

when did PTs start massaging clients? That's ridiculous and sounds shady

I was thinking the same thing. I worked as a PT at 3 different gyms for over 20 yrs. We had a few male PTs and none of what OP is describing ever took place. There was no crossing the lines...strictly professional srs.

She is literally gaggin on his cum. Lmao Op super cuck

they're either banging or he's fapping to her

in fact

i'm also fapping to her rn OP, soz bro

This

No way a PT should be touching the client imo…thats extremely unprofessional…let alone massaging

I can see pointing at a muscle or certain stretches, maybe

If you're a beta male who can't get other women, you should stay.

If you're an Alpha Chad you should dump her and get another one.

Maybe 15-20 years ago a PT could touch someone to help them feel the correct movement like guiding their hands - but in this day and age I would assume it is an absolute no to touch someone beyond a high five or shaking hands. But even with that - massaging is crazy just from the idea that a PT gets paid to train, if you want a massage, you pay a masseur.


I think OP is trollin'

OP, what she is doing by telling you she got "massaged" is absolving herself of guilt by subtly admitting whats going on.

In her mind, "well, I told him he was touching me"

Just break up with her. DO NOT get emotional.

those upper inner thigh corrections take as lot of touching to fix

If your gf is really into you and respects you, she would have stopped the dude the first time he did that. Women only let things that border on inappropriate happen when they want it to and enjoy it.

A girl who is totally into you, doesn't want another man touching her.

If you really like her, give her one chance and explain this to her and if she gets defensive or tries to turn it around and make it somehow your fault, go NC

Well son if you had a sloot personal trainer and your gf asked you to switch to male, would you have a problem with it? Probably not, so she should show the same kind of respect of ass.

Unlike miscers, PT's actually fuk.

fukn heck, lul if roll bread. Sad if real.

Op this would be an issue for me. This is unfortunate cause confronting her about it might damage the relationship. She should already know better. If you are strong, exit the relationship.