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Thread: Avoided marriage but lost the love of my life - did I dun goof or dodge a bullet?

post 1542732711 02-03-2018, 04:49 PM
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Lets analyze the facts here:
1) Join Date:Feb 2018
2) Age:48
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4) 2 guys (and I am guessing a few more) chasing athirstychick because they don't know better
5) At the start of the relationship OP tells chick that he doesn't want to marry & have kids yet the chick agrees to the relationship because she is thirsty for sex
6) OP is having an emotional breakdown
7) The other facts in the OP


Conclusion: I kinda think the OP is baking bread. lol.
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Originally Posted By RoxyFoxy22⏩
Don't marry, acquire currency (never crypto tho)
Impressive post for a female. Repped.
post 1542733011 02-03-2018, 04:52 PM
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Originally Posted By jakedel⏩
You guys smell that? That's the smell of bhullshģ#. This thread is a lie
Wish that were true, brother
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Originally Posted By sanblz33⏩
Lets analyze the facts here:
1) Join Date:Feb 2018
2) Age:48
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4) 2 guys (and I am guessing a few more) chasing athirstychick because they don't know better
5) At the start of the relationship OP tells chick that he doesn't want to marry & have kids yet the chick agrees to the relationship because she is thirsty for sex
6) OP is having an emotional breakdown
7) The other facts in the OP


Conclusion: I kinda think the OP is baking bread. lol.
Did you even read all the other posts ITT? No, of course you didn't brah. Anyway, why the hell would I waste all my time in this thread just to bake some bread? This is my life. Perhaps it will help some poor, unsuspecting miscer out there

Btw, the 48 age is default. I never inputted by age or birthday.

And in regards to the rep power, rep me and then I'll have some. Thanks in advance bruddah
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Originally Posted By reallyweak⏩
Shot yourself in the foot instead of the head.
Perfect way to put it. Repped for conciseness
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Lol, always lolsy when the bitter female misc comes out with "advice" but kicks a guy when he's down.

OP if you're that against marriage, you should find someone that's the same, if a woman wants to get married and have children, it's too big of a compromise I'm afraid.

Just concentrate on yourself for now, then start dating after a few months. Jumping straight back in won't help you srs.
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Originally Posted By SoutheastBeast1⏩
How were you completely blindsided? She was banging another dude abroad while you jerked off alone in your bedroom. LOL at even wanting her back.

This didn't end around Xmas, it ended when she decided to study/teach abroad and it sounds like that was gonna happen whether you intended to marry her or not so congrats on at least saving yourself the embarrassment of being a true cuckold by definition.
My jimmies are officially rustled. You have done your job well, sir
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Originally Posted By brothoven⏩
Did you even read all the other posts ITT? No, of course you didn't brah. Anyway, why the hell would I waste all my time in this thread just to bake some bread? This is my life. Perhaps it will help some poor, unsuspecting miscer out there

Btw, the 48 age is default. I never inputted by age or birthday.

And in regards to the rep power, rep me and then I'll have some. Thanks in advance bruddah
Dude I stated the objective facts yet you are having the feels over a thirsty (she knew the rules of engagement and yet she still committed at first because she wanted you to bang) chick who has moved on emotionally using MISC meme's and slang.




You dont think you can find another chick that only wants casual sex? Judging only by the threads here there are plenty out there.
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post 1542735021 02-03-2018, 05:16 PM
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Originally Posted By KyleAaron⏩
It may not have occurred to you that you are not the first guy to have fcked it all up and then tried to rationalise it afterwards. Learn from our mistakes.

It's called tough love, son. We make it rough for you now so you don't make it even rougher for yourself with the next one. It's time for you to grow up some more. No shame, son. Get up.

You're right bro, so maybe sharing our experiences can help all of us become a little better? I was a piece of chit and I need to learn from it. But let this story be a warning to some of the other unsuspecting miscers out there. Don't try this at home, kids.

And yeah, I gotta get up and grow up. And stop being such an ugly, Mexican, African fuking whore. Repping the hell out of you for the Glory clip and quotes (on recharge).
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Originally Posted By IBench5Pounds⏩
Lol, always lolsy when the bitter female misc comes out with "advice" but kicks a guy when he's down.

OP if you're that against marriage, you should find someone that's the same, if a woman wants to get married and have children, it's too big of a compromise I'm afraid.

Just concentrate on yourself for now, then start dating after a few months. Jumping straight back in won't help you srs.
I know, don't you love it? All the female miscers jumped on me like a bunch of feral animals. Minus crypto girl. I'm not even saying they're wrong, but geez, they go for the jugular. How are their love lives, anyway?

I never wanted to get married, but this girl actually made me change my mind on that. It's the children I'm still worried about. So yeah, maybe too big of a compromise. I'll never know now.

Good advice, I dated while she was gone and it was a waste of time and money, I'm going to need a long time for this to sink in before I'm ready again. I need to forget about her, and that's going to take a extended period of time focusing on other things. Would rep but I'm out
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Originally Posted By sanblz33⏩
Dude I stated the objective facts yet you are having the feels over a thirsty (she knew the rules of engagement and yet she still committed at first because she wanted you to bang) chick who has moved on emotionally using MISC meme's and slang.




You dont think you can find another chick that only wants casual sex? Judging only by the threads here there are plenty out there.
Lol bro, neither of us want casual sex, and there hasn't been another penis inside of her since I last saw her. I think the entire point of this thread went over your head
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Originally Posted By brothoven⏩
.... Yet I didn't actually want to marry and have kids. I was willing to make the sacrifice in the end...
This is not what she wanted, someone that would put up with having a family. You are not the person she wanted. She is angry at you for not being who she wanted you to be. That's too bad, but living a life of "making a sacrifice" is a ridiculous and stupid thing to do. I think it worked out the best for all concerned.
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its probably because of our giant slavic peni- glory. giant glory.
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Originally Posted By brothoven⏩
Lol bro, neither of us want casual sex, and there hasn't been another penis inside of her since I last saw her. I think the entire point of this thread went over your head
That is what you are bothsaying. The objective facts state otherwise


Think this through. If this is legit I don't think you are being honest with yourself.
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Originally Posted By brothoven⏩
Lol bro, neither of us want casual sex, and there hasn't been another penis inside of her since I last saw her. I think the entire point of this thread went over your head
Don't kid yourself. Vladamir's been poking her from day one. She doesn't want to crush you even more by telling you but c'mon man. She's really going to marry a guy without having sex first? You're being totally naive here.
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Originally Posted By Andrew99⏩
This is not what she wanted, someone that would put up with having a family. You are not the person she wanted. She is angry at you for not being who she wanted you to be. That's too bad, but living a life of "making a sacrifice" is a ridiculous and stupid thing to do. I think it worked out the best for all concerned.
You're probably right, bro. She might've decided that the fantasy version of me that she had in her head did not exist.

But about the sacrifice part... c'mon bruh... relationships and marriage are full of sacrifices. That's just the way of it. I don't think it's as ridiculous as you make it sound. There's always give and take. But love finds a way, right? We loved each other so much, I think we could've made everything work. We would've had a good marriage, and probably a great one. But I just didn't know yet what I wanted in life. I was worried that I wouldn't be truly happy with so much compromise. That's why I hesitated pulling the trigger. Now that I feel the pain of losing her, I think my hesitation was a mistake.
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Originally Posted By ByAssociation⏩
its probably because of our giant slavic peni- glory. giant glory.
Russian = Asian

Asian = a lifetime of asking "Is it in yet?"

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Originally Posted By brothoven⏩
You're right man, but I didn't think we would ever truly move on... I thought we would get back together back some day and finish what we started. And she said the same thing.

So I'm just curious, did you ever talk to your ex again? Friends on social media or anything? Or nothing for 17 years?
I remember a stand up comedian saying that getting back together with an ex is like taking milk out if the fridge, smelling it and going "Ohhh that's nasty! Let me put it back in the fridge and maybe it will be good again in a few weeks". From experience I can tell you he was right. Once it's soured, it's over.

As for my ex. A few months after breaking up and having no contact I actually did talk to her and saw her (it was right after 9/11 and everyone was pretty shaken up by it even though we're in Canada) but nothing happened. That was the last time we spoke. I creeped her on ******** when I was still on it and I didn't see any indication that she got married or anything. She always used to say that she would end up a spinster. Still feel bad for her to this day because she was a good person. At the same time though it's not like I left her after she was completely over the hill she was only 25 and still had lots of time to meet someone but I think I really broke her heart and she was never the same after.
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Originally Posted By sanblz33⏩
That is what you are bothsaying. The objective facts state otherwise


Think this through. If this is legit I don't think you are being honest with yourself.
Conservative Catholic, bro. She had sex with me, yes, but that's because she was completely besides herself in love and was already planning the rest of our life together. She was completely submissive to me - as her future husband. Afterwards, she accused me of "ruining her." But she's definitely not banging this dude, that I can tell you. She's concentrating on doing things "the right way" the second time.
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Originally Posted By JoeDelts⏩
Don't kid yourself. Vladamir's been poking her from day one. She doesn't want to crush you even more by telling you but c'mon man. She's really going to marry a guy without having sex first? You're being totally naive here.
See my above post. She's switched back into the "my body is a holy temple" mode. She's not your normal girl. I do think she is making him wait, and the fact that he's waiting is one reason that she's so impressed by him.
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Originally Posted By JoeDelts⏩
I remember a stand up comedian saying that getting back together with an ex is like taking milk out if the fridge, smelling it and going "Ohhh that's nasty! Let me put it back in the fridge and maybe it will be good again in a few weeks". From experience I can tell you he was right. Once it's soured, it's over.

As for my ex. A few months after breaking up and having no contact I actually did talk to her and saw her (it was right after 9/11 and everyone was pretty shaken up by it even though we're in Canada) but nothing happened. That was the last time we spoke. I creeped her on ******** when I was still on it and I didn't see any indication that she got married or anything. She always used to say that she would end up a spinster. Still feel bad for her to this day because she was a good person. At the same time though it's not like I left her after she was completely over the hill she was only 25 and still had lots of time to meet someone but I think I really broke her heart and she was never the same after.
Ha, that's a good way to put it. Maybe I'm a fool, but I don't believe it with this girl. I think we could reclaim our former glory, depending on how she approached it. I am basically still the same person, and she's the one who's changed. So it would depend on if she's willing to truly give me a second chance, and resurrect elements of her older self... otherwise, you're exactly right.

Damn that's too bad, what was she like when you last saw her? Friendly or cold? Are you with somebody right now? You should check her ******** again and see what she's up to. I do it with all my exes about once a year, just because I'm curious. They were all good people too, even though most of them refuse to talk to me at this point. I still have lots of fond memories with them. No relationships I regret. Anyway, hopefully your ex got over it and did something with her life.

Will rep on recharge.
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Op you goofed
You better go talk to her in person and declare your love or you will regret it for the rest of your life serious
Jump on a plane and go to her work or home and tell her you love her and want to marry her
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Originally Posted By brothoven⏩
Conservative Catholic, bro. She had sex with me, yes, but that's because she was completely besides herself in love and was already planning the rest of our life together. She was completely submissive to me - as her future husband. Afterwards, she accused me of "ruining her." But she's definitely not banging this dude, that I can tell you. She's concentrating on doing things "the right way" the second time.
Dude you are trying to bait me into theorycrafting the rationale & actions of chicks (which is what 99% of what the straight MISC does daily anyway) without analyzing the objective facts:

1) OP wanted casual sex at the time: No marrige & no kids at the time
2) Ex wanted casual sex at the time : OP states his intentions yet the chick sticks around because she is thirsty for casual sex as well.
3) EX fed OP pickup lines to keep the sex constant:She had sex with me, yes, but that's because she was completely besides herself in love and was already planning the rest of our life together. She was completely submissive to me - as her future husband.
4) Ex became desensitized and became distant & started seeing other people
5) OP has emotional breakdown and is unaware of female game
6) ????????????
7) Profit?


Like I said, you don't think you can find another woman that is down with only the expectation of casual sex? There are plenty out there
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Both of you were okay with taking a break and dating other people? Gross. And you have the audacity to call the other guy a cuck? People are sick.
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Originally Posted By brothoven⏩
Ha, that's a good way to put it. Maybe I'm a fool, but I don't believe it with this girl. I think we could reclaim our former glory, depending on how she approached it. I am basically still the same person, and she's the one who's changed. So it would depend on if she's willing to truly give me a second chance, and resurrect elements of her older self... otherwise, you're exactly right.

Damn that's too bad, what was she like when you last saw her? Friendly or cold? Are you with somebody right now? You should check her ******** again and see what she's up to. I do it with all my exes about once a year, just because I'm curious. They were all good people too, even though most of them refuse to talk to me at this point. I still have lots of fond memories with them. No relationships I regret. Anyway, hopefully your ex got over it and did something with her life.

Will rep on recharge.
It was a long time ago but I remember it being really awkward. Like she had finally accepted that it was over but that she would always be devastated because as far as she was concerned I was THE ONE for her. There's no easy way to end a relationship because ultimately you are rejecting that person for who they are. There's just no nice way to do that. I'm married with a son now and if you think the boyfriend /girlfriend thing is complicated well you ain't seen nothing yet.
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Breaks seem like a way to say "Look...we both know we're going to breakup....but lets defer the pain until a future date and kick the can down the road"
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Originally Posted By wnt2bmtlFLbrah⏩
troll senses tingling but thats it mayne. not sure why youd ever even consider marriage thou. sloots gonna sloot.
? There is nothing wrong with marriage as long as its with the right person. As for op sounds like u screwed up if you find a good woman you trust and love you dont let that go anyways good luck to ya brother
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Originally Posted By onaed⏩
Breaks seem like a way to say "Look...we both know we're going to breakup....but lets defer the pain until a future date and kick the can down the road"
Best to treat it like taking off a band aid. Just grit your teeth and rip the fukker off in one shot.
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