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post 1544394641 02-20-2018, 03:23 PM
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Originally Posted By Soonerjohn
Communicate with your partners bro even if you have to lie.

Dear Whale,

I have the flu, can you relay to me anything important that happens in class today? Thanks!
OP still won't admit that if he had just done this he could have saved himself some bullish.
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In physics class, guy taking diff q, physics, physics lab, and linear algebra.

Physics lab I am partnered with him, all we have to do is do the assignment go home and do the lab report, takes approx 2-3 hours total.

Lab 1:
I share the document and he says the night before lab is due "Okay, Ill do this and that in the morning". He doesn't, so I did it. the only thing he wrote on the lab report was his name on the assignment. Never said thanks or anything, only asked how long it took me to do it and I wasn't upset at all.

Lab2:
I share the document and he doesn't open it or write his name. I was going to hand him the lab report so he could write his name on it BEFORE class starts. Guy doesn't show, he gets a 0 for the lab report.

Lab3:
Guy didn't show, also gets a zero for this lab.


Guy needs these courses to transfer and is already at a 80% maximum grade for the course 4 weeks in. Just lol


Don't show or communicate with me then gtfo
post 1544395011 02-20-2018, 03:26 PM
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Originally Posted By gharamlifter
-not mandatory
-lose marks if u don't do it

ok, boyo.

strong attitude problem you have, OP. rarely see someone gets so rustled by their thread backfiring.
5 points off your total grade does not make it absolutely mandatory. Mandatory would be if I dont show up, then i'll fail the entire course
Originally Posted By YIAMSOMEBODY
She should have. You left out the part where OP said he HAS been to a few, just didn't feel the need to go to them ALL. So she obviously has the issue with that, so she should've reached out and been like, "Hey, is there........?"

She screwed him. That's on her.
ty men. Glad someone else is on the same page as me that sees this rationally. Misc is unfortunately full of neckbeards these days
Originally Posted By Tomi_Li
In physics class, guy taking diff q, physics, physics lab, and linear algebra.

Physics lab I am partnered with him, all we have to do is do the assignment go home and do the lab report, takes approx 2-3 hours total.

Lab 1:
I share the document and he says the night before lab is due "Okay, Ill do this and that in the morning". He doesn't, so I did it. the only thing he wrote on the lab report was his name on the assignment. Never said thanks or anything, only asked how long it took me to do it and I wasn't upset at all.

Lab2:
I share the document and he doesn't open it or write his name. I was going to hand him the lab report so he could write his name on it BEFORE class starts. Guy doesn't show, he gets a 0 for the lab report.

Lab3:
Guy didn't show, also gets a zero for this lab.


Guy needs these courses to transfer and is already at a 80% maximum grade for the course 4 weeks in. Just lol


Don't show or communicate with me then gtfo
this is a completely different situation lol. This isnt even close to what mine is
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post 1544395291 02-20-2018, 03:29 PM
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send her the roast that jonmcd said tbh

and report back, she has a point but if shes going to be a buzzkill about it treat her the same way
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Girl was assigned new partner, which means there is another brah in the class without a partner. So logically he should still have a partner, and none of this matters.
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post 1544395491 02-20-2018, 03:31 PM
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Originally Posted By drvillain
I don't disagree, but lets lay out the facts:

She shows up to class.

OP doesn't show up to class.

So which of the two should have reached out first to make sure they were on the same page?
OP did communicate first, but it was too late. From my understanding he texts her after missing 3/5 classes, then she says oh yeah sorry I already talked to the teacher, I got a new partner, you probably should too. She could've said something yesterday saying, "hey if you miss another class I'm going to see about getting a new partner because I'm a huge bitch"
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Originally Posted By cojones539
5 points off your total grade does not make it absolutely mandatory. Mandatory would be if I dont show up, then i'll fail the entire course



ty men. Glad someone else is on the same page as me that sees this rationally. Misc is unfortunately full of neckbeards these days




this is a completely different situation lol. This isnt even close to what mine is
Yeah I know. She shouldn't have done that but you should still go to class. Some people are there and they REALLY want to do it and not some last day thing. Like they really want a partner who can talk to them every day about this kind of stuff. Even if its a dumb assignment you're still going to get people who are overachievers who want to do it and converse in perfection.

For me its going to be funny though. I don't have to take the physics lab, it is not required for my major. I am thinking about showing up and doing one more lab, sharing him the document the day after and leaving it completely blank, and then drop the class. If the guy never opens the document, he would have assumed I did 100% of the work and will get a zero for the report. Not sure if I am going to do that though because I really don't care.
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Originally Posted By cojones539
completely agree. I've had other classes where i showed up maybe a handful of times all semester and did just fine. Will rep on r/c
not gonna multi quote them all but based on your posts/replies ITT you're a typical millennial who cant handle criticism and or differing opinions very well. when miscers start taking the piss you fly off the handle calling with namecalling(lol very mature) and you seem to be only agreeing with posters who share your POV and attacking anyone who doesn't.

you'll probably attack me for this post, but that would only further prove my point
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Originally Posted By jonmcd46
OP did communicate first, but it was too late. From my understanding he texts her after missing 3/5 classes, then she says oh yeah sorry I already talked to the teacher, I got a new partner, you probably should too. She could've said something yesterday saying, "hey if you miss another class I'm going to see about getting a new partner because I'm a huge bitch"
this. And as BJ said, she was the one that had the issue with me missing class and didn't communicate at all. She just ignored me and got a new partner which completely screwed me over. I'm not even sure if i'll get another partner now
Originally Posted By Tomi_Li
Yeah I know. She shouldn't have done that but you should still go to class. Some people are there and they REALLY want to do it and not some last day thing. Like they really want a partner who can talk to them every day about this kind of stuff. Even if its a dumb assignment you're still going to get people who are overachievers who want to do it and converse in perfection
Yes but she didn't even communicate with me, I reached out to her first last night to which she ignored and instead just contacted the professor to complain about me. I didn't do anything that jeopardized us actually working together though
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post 1544396051 02-20-2018, 03:39 PM
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Originally Posted By jonmcd46
OP did communicate first, but it was too late. From my understanding he texts her after missing 3/5 classes, then she says oh yeah sorry I already talked to the teacher, I got a new partner, you probably should too. She could've said something yesterday saying, "hey if you miss another class I'm going to see about getting a new partner because I'm a huge bitch"
Originally Posted By YIAMSOMEBODY
She should have. You left out the part where OP said he HAS been to a few, just didn't feel the need to go to them ALL. So she obviously has the issue with that, so she should've reached out and been like, "Hey, is there........?"

She screwed him. That's on her.
after missing 3 consecutive classes and hearing nothing, I would have assumed that OP dropped the class. I don't think that's unreasonable.
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Originally Posted By drvillain
after missing 3 consecutive classes and hearing nothing, I would have assumed that OP dropped the class. I don't think that's unreasonable.
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Originally Posted By YIAMSOMEBODY
But any REASONABLE person would at least text their partner and ask them if they're okay, or what's up....just to find out why they aren't coming.

But when you go behind their back and do this????? Speaks volumes about you. Not everyone feels the need to show up to every lecture or debate or whatever to get the material or pass. So that's not a legit reason. If you've put in ZERO effort on the project, then we have an issue. But if you're doing your part and can keep up with the material, do you.

This chick has control issues.
Sure, she could have gone about it in a better way - she could have texted the OP first before talking to her professor (at least that's what I would have done).

But at the end of the day the OP should have reached out first as he's the one who didn't show up to class.

Put yourself in her shoes - your partner doesn't show up to class for 3 sessions in a row and you haven't heard anything from him even though you have a debate in a weeks time. What was she supposed to think? She has to protect her grades and doesn't owe the OP jack chit.

Also doesn't help that the OP sounds like a narcissistic kunt. Calling everyone disagreeing you a "cuck" is not an argument.
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Originally Posted By Cheeky*******
not gonna multi quote them all but based on your posts/replies ITT you're a typical millennial who cant handle criticism and or differing opinions very well. when miscers start taking the piss you fly off the handle calling with namecalling(lol very mature) and you seem to be only agreeing with posters who share your POV and attacking anyone who doesn't.

you'll probably attack me for this post, but that would only further prove my point
because they're wrong? I wasn't expecting the thread to backfire. How about you actually respond to my points that I refuted the other miscers with and show me that I'm wrong?

Also funny how you used an ad hominem attack on me as well and then proceeded to call me immature for doing the same to you earlier.
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Originally Posted By TheCreature55
Sure, she could have gone about it in a better way - she could have texted the OP first before talking to her professor (at least that's what I would have done).

But at the end of the day the OP should have reached out first as he's the one who didn't show up to class.

Put yourself in her shoes - your partner doesn't show up to class for 3 sessions in a row and you haven't heard anything from him even though you have a debate in a weeks time. What was she supposed to think? She has to protect her grades and doesn't owe the OP jack chit.

Also doesn't help that the OP sounds like a narcissistic kunt. Calling everyone disagreeing you a "cuck" is not an argument.
I did reach out first.. an entire week before our debate which is PLENTY of time to prepare. We're the last group to go, there were people who had to go on the first day that had about 3 days to prepare, nor did they "get to watch people debate so they'd know how to do it better".

It's a completely invalid argument that I didn't get to "learn from other people debating" because half of the groups before us didn't get to do that because A) they had to go first and B) it didn't matter anyways because the debate process is very straightforward
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Originally Posted By cojones539
I did reach out first.. an entire week before our debate which is PLENTY of time to prepare. We're the last group to go, there were people who had to go on the first day that had about 3 days to prepare.
Whether a week is enough time or not, you should have reached out after missing the first class.

Like I said, put yourself in her shoes - if you had a group assignment with someone who skipped 3 classes and was completely silent for 3 weeks, would you be comfortable about the situation?
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Lmao, OP should have kept in contact, letting her know he wouldn't be in class as to why. If I miss a class, especially a partner or group project I am in constant contact with my partner or group. You wouldn't phucking just not showup to work with no explanation. Give your head a shake op.
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Originally Posted By TheCreature55
Whether a week is enough time or not, you should have reached out after missing the first class.

Like I said, put yourself in her shoes - if you had a group assignment with someone who skipped 3 classes and was completely silent for 3 weeks, would you be comfortable about the situation?
Again, it depends. What if we had been the first group to go on the first day? and then I miss the next 3 classes after that? What would it have mattered? It would still just be me missing classes that are just used for other people debating.. giving 0 reason for me to be in attendance for
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What YOU can control are your actions. What you CANNOT control are other peoples reactions. You failed to act properly and you payed the price.
If you're acting like an idoit (ie. not showing up to class), why do you expect other people in the class you're taking not to be idiots?

You're at fault here, hence why the thread back fired.


Also... post pics of you contacting her explaining yourself?
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So did you send a response back or what
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I can get both sides of the argument. I can certainly understand how she might just assume OP is a shytbag partner who wont carry his weight (especially if she's been burned before)...but ultimately I do think she should have made a little bit of an effort to see whats up instead of just going straight to the professor.
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Time to debate her and make the argument on why she is a turd.

Oh wait you skipped debate class so you don't know how...
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Originally Posted By drvillain
after missing 3 consecutive classes and hearing nothing, I would have assumed that OP dropped the class. I don't think that's unreasonable.
Not at all, but this girl doesn't seem like a reasonable individual. "... I was concerned about how few debates you've seen due to absence." Her overall response leads me to believe that she is spiteful and tried to get op in trouble. Even if he deserved this, it's not how I would handle it. I've learned from my career that you get a lot further if you're chill and understanding about matters.
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Originally Posted By cojones539
Again, it depends. What if we had been the first group to go on the first day? and then I miss the next 3 classes after that? What would it have mattered? It would still just be me missing classes that are just used for other people debating.. giving 0 reason for me to be in attendance for
Mate, once your group debate with the partner was over, you can miss as many classes as you like - nobody gives a chit.

The point is that when you're working with other people, it isn't all about you - you might feel that you don't need to show up to class, but you also need to consider how your partner will perceive this.

You think you're smart enough not to go (which may or may not be true), but from her perspective you look like you're flaking out on class by not attending 3 sessions in a row and not reaching out to her. This could have been avoided if you had communicated properly from the start and managed the relationship more proactively.

You're only going to have to do this more and more once you finish your degree and end up in the workplace, so it's best that you learn this now
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Originally Posted By Polaris
I can get both sides of the argument. I can certainly understand how she might just assume OP is a shytbag partner who wont carry his weight (especially if she's been burned before)...but ultimately I do think she should have made a little bit of an effort to see whats up instead of just going straight to the professor.
It would be different if OP had said to her.

Hey I am not going to come to any more classes until our debate. If she went and got a new partner after that talk then OP might have a reason to be upset

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Originally Posted By Brosnbroc****
What YOU can control are your actions. What you CANNOT control are other peoples reactions. You failed to act properly and you payed the price.
If you're acting like an idoit (ie. not showing up to class), why do you expect other people in the class you're taking not to be idiots?

You're at fault here, hence why the thread back fired.


Also... post pics of you contacting her explaining yourself?
Best post in this dumpster fire of a thread. Take responsibility for your actions.
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Originally Posted By jonmcd46
Not at all, but this girl doesn't seem like a reasonable individual. "... I was concerned about how few debates you've seen due to absence." Her overall response leads me to believe that she is spiteful and tried to get op in trouble. Even if he deserved this, it's not how I would handle it. I've learned from my career that you get a lot further if you're chill and understanding about matters.
Agreed - it would have been better to text the OP first to see what was up.

But at the end of the day it's the OP who is here complaining about this, not the girl. Rather than calling everyone "cucks" and thinking of an abusive text to send back to her, he needs to grow up and think about how he can better control the situation next time.

Another thing I'm sure you've learned from your career is that a lot of people you have to deal with are not always reasonable, so this is good practice for the OP
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My favorite part of debating is doing all the talking. Take over OP.
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Originally Posted By cojones539
because they're wrong? I wasn't expecting the thread to backfire. How about you actually respond to my points that I refuted the other miscers with and show me that I'm wrong?

Also funny how you used an ad hominem attack on me as well and then proceeded to call me immature for doing the same to you earlier.
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I was just making an observation brah

also; posters ITT were giving their opinions on a particular occurrence; you're free to agree or disagree but lol @ them being wrong. hurr durr I don't like what you said therefore you are wrong.
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In all seriousness, as someone who was a bit of a slacker in University (Engineering), when you're put in a group and you don't know the other people, communication is key. If you don't know the other person and you skip class, I can see how they are concerned. You probably should've taken some more precautionary measures to keep your partner feeling better about working with you.

That being said I can't really relate to your former partner and it was a dick move on their part.
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Well the fat bitch is paying a lot of money to be in debt for the rest of her life, so can you blame her if she wants a reliable partner?
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