I'm a 31 y/o virgin. I can tell you this: you aren't missing much. The majority of females, much like the majority of mankind, are terrible human beings. Most of them aren't worth sticking your dink in, and the few that are are most likely taken. Just do your best to find meaning in life. When you are younger, pussy is literally all you think about. Once you have resolved to die and accepted your death, it will not be as important to you. You will regret not having a legacy, but remember that humanity is unlikely to survive for long anyway. We are failed little combinations, suboptimal solutions to the grand evolutionary problem. Ultimately, it doesn't matter how alpha or beta a human is. Simply being human means we are ridiculously inferior to something like cyanobacteria. We will certainly go extinct soon. We were only here for the blink of an eye, and then, we will be gone. There is no legacy for mankind, so I certainly shouldn't feel so bad about there being no legacy for myself. In the grand scheme of things, we are just combinations of particles. There was nothing special or precious about our existence except the fortune (or misfortune) of being able to consciously experience it. Since we all die anyway, there is also a sense of freedom. You have time to do whatever you feel like and explore things. You can find a way to pass the time and maybe even enjoy yourself until your death. That's what I'm doing.



This is the chittiest advice I have ever seen. This is how men get turned into soyboys and orbiters. This just brings them more suffering later. Negged.



He either needs to just sack up and approach or accept his fate. He will get nowhere trying to befriend girls (Unless he keeps them at arm's length and doesn't try to become emotionally close to them...then, he can maybe use them as a way to meet other girls.) I still don't think most men can have real friendships with girls. Unless you want to be the cuck shoulder she cries on after getting railed by Chad, best to keep your distance.

once you have had sex you'll realize it's not all that. it's more about the person you're having sex with than anything.

You're the last person that should be giving advice, maybe if you actually spoke to women instead of worrying about soyboys you wouldnt be a 31 year old virgin.
At least that soyboy is getting laid.
dont forget to neg me again after recharge tbh

If you fear rejection why dont you try and be friends first? Can't fear rejection then, and then youll grow more comfortable talkin to them?

What exactly are you afraid of?

Sup guys.

Basically I'm 28 years old and have never talked to a girl before. I'm a virgin needless to say and am wondering if anybody here has any advice or was in a similar situation and managed to overcome it.

I'm getting a bit worried as I am getting close to 30 and this certainly is not normal. I just don't know what to do to break out of my shyness and social anxiety with girls. I fear rejection more than anything else at this point and girls seem to be extremely cruel and unforgiving to guys who don't have the typical extroverted macho alpha male personality.

I'm in decent shape, 6'1, 190 lbs around 12 percent body fat. Hasn't really helped though, I'm still invisible and can't socialize.

This fear you feel is basically your subconscious telling you that your genes are inferior and reproduction is not something you should be doing. I also have this, as well as a bunch of other miscers.

I'm starting to believe this tbh.

If a girl has never even started a conversation with u ever, then starting to talk to them now will not work because u are probably ugly

LDAR
Or
I hope u have a decent job so you can see escorts.

Wait, OP you really never talked to a girl? I find that hard to imagine, what about work? You must have female coworkers that you talk to about work related issues. As an advice, I would just try to strike up a simple conversation, like "Hello and how are you?" The goal is to develop confidence, not try to get into a girl's pants.

I'm starting to believe this tbh.

But who was school?

Because it's true. I've felt this way for as long as I can remember... People say "Just be confident", but that's impossible when deep down you've always known you have no value. Every time I see a woman I'm attracted to my immediate thought is "Oh well", because I know I have zero chance. There's an underlying theme always present in my mind: "I'm not good enough.". I've always felt inferior to most men.. to most people in general, and decidedly unworthy of female attention. So far it seems I've been pretty much correct.

If a girl has never even started a conversation with u ever, then starting to talk to them now will not work because u are probably ugly

LDAR
Or
I hope u have a decent job so you can see escorts.

you and I are both bald and we share this in common. funny how this works.

I'm trying to pinpoint exactly who came up with the idea that being a virgin is somehow horrible. Is this mainly a western thing? I guess Eastern Europeans typically don't worry about stuff like that as much. Actually, the biggest thing is whether or not you are married by 30. That's typically the fear over here. More so for women, though. To them, a real man is not someone who sticks his dink into some p00n but someone who is responsible and can take care of himself.

Now I am reasonable person, but this is cope. Virgin implies socially awkward, little to no friends, staying home on the weekends, etc.

Wait, OP you really never talked to a girl? I find that hard to imagine, what about work? You must have female coworkers that you talk to about work related issues. As an advice, I would just try to strike up a simple conversation, like "Hello and how are you?" The goal is to develop confidence, not try to get into a girl's pants.

Was about to say this.. Like even a grocery store OP?
I find this very hard to believe.

Was about to say this.. Like even a grocery store OP?
I find this very hard to believe.