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Thread: Just brokeup with the best GF I've had in about 10 years #deardiary (nopics)

post 1593585251 12-15-2019, 06:37 AM
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Coming from a family with a step dad..
I would say like most others,
Dont hook up with a chick with kids if you cant treat them like your own,
Dont hook up with one if you cant take the good with the bad.
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post 1593585371 12-15-2019, 06:41 AM
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Originally Posted By playerofwar⏩
Should have gone NC with the mother and all your misery would have been resolved.
I feel for you bro, keep it up ������
Once I break up with anyone I’m 100% NC. Told her before if we broke up she’d never hear from me again. Other than all the pictures I had to delete, I felt a huge burden lifted off of me. Her mom basically ruined any chance of her finding happiness because it’s never going to be enough.
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post 1593585541 12-15-2019, 06:44 AM
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Originally Posted By GordonXXX⏩
what ethnicity is her mother?
We’re both Eastern European. I’m from Latvia, she’s Russian. Her mom married an American doctor who brought them over here like 20 years ago. I came with my parents with nothing and had to make a life for myself.

Her dad is actually a great guy who’s been beat down between the things he’s seen in an emergency room for 30 years and the women in his life all asking for money. Offered to pay for the wedding himself because it’s pocket change for him and her mom turned it down. She hasn’t worked other than cleaning the house and hasn’t had to worry about a single bill in 20 years.

Didn’t mean to derail OP’s thread...
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post 1593585601 12-15-2019, 06:46 AM
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some people can be step-dad's, it looks like you can't. I would expect the mother and child to do things like that, especially since xmas lights and pictures are something more special to children. You'd think there'd be a lot of times where it's just the two of you and someone watches the kid while you go out like normal parents. Ah well, maybe just find a girl without kids next time.
post 1593587141 12-15-2019, 07:38 AM
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Op, you set her up to be more attentive to her next date. The next guy should thank you.

Regardless I think you did the right thing if you were not ok with the kid. But if you are ok with the kid then maybe you should give it another try.
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post 1593587431 12-15-2019, 07:48 AM
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lol guys who date girls

lol guys who date girls with kids
post 1593587461 12-15-2019, 07:49 AM
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At the end of the day, if you don't enjoy spending time with the kid as well as the mum, you're wasting everyone's time.

Consider how the outing would go if it were a family trip. Maybe the dad takes a few pictures of mum & kid together, or the kid takes a picture of mum & dad. Maybe the parents stop for a coffee and get the kid a hot chocolate or orange juice or something. The point is... you're doing the activity as a group. Not 'mum spends x amount of time on dad and y amount on kid'.

Once you understand this and can get on board with it, you can have a relationship with a single parent. Otherwise, ultimately someone always ends up getting hurt. No matter how good the intentions on either side, or how well 'balanced' their attention is.
post 1593587481 12-15-2019, 07:50 AM
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With the whole whore culture in 2019, I'm surprise that there are still men like OP who's even willing to entertain these single mothers. I wouldnt even fuk them raw, much less for go on a date with her and her kid. That's cuck chit if you ask me.
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Originally Posted By Bcl2⏩
I agree with this. If you're at the point where your child is meeting your "friend" It should be very serious and you should be working on immersing yourself in their family with the end goal of actually being a family. Blows my mind how many of my friends date single moms and meet the kid on the second date or some chit.
Agree. I would never introduce my son someone unless it's serious. And he's 18. lol
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thats understanding
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
Well that's true. I think good manners are important.
Weak fathers with overly permissive/ineffective mothers making it impossible to go out in public these days without being annoyed by children misbehaving. They regularly make these Hollywood movies where the premise is a group of young kids acting like frat boys and being vulgar like it's hilarious but it is not hilarious.
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Alpha males don't date girls that have other mens kids hanging around.. they kill the bastard child then make their own..

post 1593590601 12-15-2019, 08:55 AM
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Originally Posted By whitepaper⏩
Also,Who gives a fuk if you put "nopics" in the title, you ******* ass cry-baby. You have the audacity to make a thread about your ex, you put her mother fuking pics in the thread. misc house rules



This is the major takeaway from this thread

Considering negging, but I like OP. But rules are rules so I don’t know

Definitely disappointed
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Originally Posted By BuckNakedinBama⏩
Fukking sucks brahs. Great gal, incredibly sweet, good cook, loyal, classically beautiful, wonderful sex on demand, etc etc. Only downside? A 5 year old. We dated a few months but went out to dinner and touring Christmas lights with her kid last night. Every time the three of us have been together the kid gets like 90% of her mom's attention. I just couldn't get down with that dynamic and thought I'd come around over time but it never happened. Last night was the final straw as I found myself walking around the botanical gardens lights by myself as her kid kept being obsessed with having her picture taken every 10 feet in front of every light display. I just wanted to walk around and enjoy the moment and all they did was take pictures of each other. And her kid spilled at dinner and basically hogged all the attention all night. I know time heals all wounds but this one hurts brahs.

Cliffs:
OP brokeup with an otherwise perfect girl because she has a 5 year old that hogs all the attention
if it was your own kid, the same thing would be happening. youre always gonna be second to womans kid, even when its your kid.


but yeah, at least its your kid and youre not playing second fiddle to some bastard child fuk trophy
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Originally Posted By fishnbrah⏩
if it was your own kid, the same thing would be happening. youre always gonna be second to womans kid, even when its your kid.


but yeah, at least its your kid and youre not playing second fiddle to some bastard child fuk trophy
Ya buts it's still your kid so it's like you are part of the picture. If your child is being annoying and needy then it's you as the father to help fix the issue, not just the mother's problem. In OP's case, he has no business saying anything to that kid like correcting the kid. That's not his place unless he really got himself into a fatherly role.

Imo this situation is not the same as of op was the father. This **** is totally different.

OP do yourself a favor and get you a chick who isn't a mom. Imo single moms are used goods.
post 1593593581 12-15-2019, 09:54 AM
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I'm surprised and really appreciative of all the responses and support in this thread. Thank you even for the hate and snide comments.

This morning she's texted saying how much she had fallen for me and how hard this is and that I could've done things differently (always my fault, apparently) and that it didn't need to be this way, but that she understands I've decided she's not worth the risk and time. A lot of guilt tripping packed into one text, but I know she didn't mean it to be a guilt trip, but fukk it does suck.
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Originally Posted By ChknFrydMFer⏩
The other night I went through literally the exact same scenario...only difference being that the daughter was mine and not my GFs...Still all they did was take pictures by the different trees/figures, while I just moseyed along with them.

Point here being...bishes love taking pictures
Strong this LOL. Fathers have been bored and annoyed by the stupid chit young girls love since forever. Any male would be annoyed, but at least be mature enough to let the kid have her moment


This situation was so avoidable... how about you leaving the two of them together for the trip? Or letting the girl bring some friends so they could entertain each other?


Most guys I know get too much attention from their gfs and would love to have a decoy aka child that can put the focus away from them but to each their own



But if the child was an issue, better to end it sooner than later
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Originally Posted By AlphaAlfalfa⏩
Never date Girls with kids... you will always come second...


in fact.. just never date girls at all.. they're all trash
IF the woman you dated would put a man ahead of her child could you rspect them? a womans kid should come first even if that kid is your own biological child.

if she is all you said op then you might have just made a huge mistake. good women are hard to find.
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Originally Posted By BuckNakedinBama⏩
Essentially saying now that she knows it's an issue she'll make an effort to make things better.
Originally Posted By Godfrd824⏩
You didn't give her a chance, guess you wanted to get rid of her more than you let on.
Gotta agree with Godfrey here, OP. If you were really into her like you said, you wouldn't have thrown in the towel. She didn't tell you to fukk off with that noise; she said she'd work on it. Obviously, you weren't willing to. Relationships take work, so maybe being in one isn't for you.










Originally Posted By fishnbrah⏩
...youre not playing second fiddle tosome bastard child fuk trophy
The sheer brutality of this brings the lulz. Never change, misc.
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Originally Posted By BuckNakedinBama⏩
I'm surprised and really appreciative of all the responses and support in this thread. Thank you even for the hate and snide comments.

This morning she's texted saying how much she had fallen for me and how hard this is and that I could've done things differently (always my fault, apparently) and that it didn't need to be this way, but that she understands I've decided she's not worth the risk and time. A lot of guilt tripping packed into one text, but I know she didn't mean it to be a guilt trip, but fukk it does suck.
Thats one thing with single moms bro, they are never at fault, and they only admit it when there is absolutely nothing else they can say or do. Its always the parents, their ex, the child, you, etc. Its always the same ****. "Oh i did this but its only because YOU..."

And you have to realize that that is her at her absolute BEST behavior, single mom trying to keep a guy around? Yeah shes going to be the perfect GF all right, because deep inside she knows she has to compensate. Once she has you wrapped around her finger that will change.
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Originally Posted By kimm4⏩
Doesn't sound like she was the perfect girl for you. When the 3 of you are together the daughter shouldn't be getting 90% of the attention. This is something that mom needs to work on and shut down.

Good luck.
I don't know what all of your life experiences are, but when you're a parent with a young child like 5 and under that kid is going to get at least 75% of the attention. And that's when both biological parents are together with the kid at one time. Literally everything else in life ends up on the backburner by comparison. That's simply because they are a lot needier than adults, which goes without saying. I can only imagine trying to be with a female who had some other guy's kid(s).

Also, typically, dating a "single father" wouldn't be the same for a woman as it is for a man dating a single mother. Single mothers typically have like 80% custody, and at least 50% unless they are absolutely wretched parents. A woman having to deal with a single father's kid(s) once every weekend or less isn't the same as dealing with it 80% of the time.
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Originally Posted By playerofwar⏩
The moment you become a father, you become nr 2.
So does the wife tho.
Originally Posted By Rabbitjb⏩
Cliffs: OP is jealous of a 5 year old
Little bit of this lol. You sound mad jelly, But kids aren't for everyone so good on you for realizing it and breaking it off I suppose
Originally Posted By kimm4⏩
How does one get sex on demand when there's a 5 yr old constantly hogging all the attention?

I call bs
Fuking this, unless OP's demands are infrequent.
Otherwise she's ignoring her kid to fuk you, but won't ignore her kid when you guys go out, which means you are boring when you guys go out, and likely didn't pay much attention to her kid.

Can't date a single mom with a young child on a serious level if you aren't willing to step in as a father "figure".

Lesson learned OP. Smash single moms, do not date.
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Originally Posted By BuckNakedinBama⏩
I'm surprised and really appreciative of all the responses and support in this thread. Thank you even for the hate and snide comments.

This morning she's texted saying how much she had fallen for me and how hard this is and that I could've done things differently (always my fault, apparently) and that it didn't need to be this way, but that she understands I've decided she's not worth the risk and time. A lot of guilt tripping packed into one text, but I know she didn't mean it to be a guilt trip, but fukk it does suck.
she made a huge mistake having a kid with a loser. Women should be very careful to pick a stable mate. That kid will be her downfall time and time again. Kids are one thing (still a deal breaker) but her kid is a huge attention whore from your posts. That kid clearly is used to her mom being alone. The mom needs to teach her kid to stop being selfish.


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If this was the Chicago Botanical Gardens "Lightscape" I feel bad for you. Went on Thursday and it was complete garbage. Even for Half price tickets it was not even close to being worth it.
What are you on about mate?
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Originally Posted By OrdoAbchao⏩
If this was the Chicago Botanical Gardens "Lightscape" I feel bad for you. Went on Thursday and it was complete garbage. Even for Half price tickets it was not even close to being worth it.
check out he Morton Arboretum in Lisle instead hnnnnnnnnnnnnnng
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Well boyos she begged me last Saturday night to meet me out for a drink and I was drunk from the Patriots game so agreed and well of course she stayed over.

Is begging me right now to come over. Swears she just wants sex and to not date again.

Ugh.
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Originally Posted By BuckNakedinBama⏩
Swears she just wants sex and to not date again.
Is there a problem with that? You're getting the action without the commitment. I'm assuming you guys aren't involving the 5 year old so you'll be getting all therightattention.
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Originally Posted By BuckNakedinBama⏩
Well boyos she begged me last Saturday night to meet me out for a drink and I was drunk from the Patriots game so agreed and well of course she stayed over.

Is begging me right now to come over. Swears she just wants sex and to not date again.

Ugh.
She's working hard to get her provider back LOL.


But seriously, it looks like she must really enjoy your company to be pulling chit like this. GJDM on layin' the pipe like a pro.
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