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Thread: What will life actually be like into our 30s and 40s if we don't pursue familiies

post 1632764953 03-02-2021, 03:29 PM
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Starting your own tribe is great and i know for some of you bros thinking this is difficult due to the environment you are in.

****ty 'blended' families, mother reaming you father in divorce or dad beating up on your mum. Media telling you that being a CEO billionaire with ladies down the side is the only way to live life. media telling woman they can have it all and making them fickle. It's tougher than it has ever been to find a good person and settle down and have a family, but nothing good comes easy.

All three major religions preach large families and say family is king, the greatest free thinking men all say have a family is king. Research continually shows that those that come from large nuclear families are always happier and more resilient.

You also don't realize what true love is until you have children, you may think you know what love is but you will never understand it until you see your own child smile at you
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Absolutely whatever I want. And that's the point. In no alternate universe am I sitting at home playing family man. It's not me, never was or will be. Companionship? No problem. Signing off the rest of my life for the sake of my children and a wife? Can't do it. You can do all the right things as a husband and a father, things still go south sometimes. Even alot of times. I have 100% confidence in my abilities yet the way the world is heading makes me question if commitment of that magnitude is wise.

Some folks sign off on the deal early, make it work and find happiness along the way. I salute you for that.

For me it's a life sentence. F all that lol.
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post 1632765973 03-02-2021, 03:40 PM
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post 1632767273 03-02-2021, 03:55 PM
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post 1632769363 03-02-2021, 04:22 PM
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If you don’t? Majority of you will settle down with some woman who has two kids with a real man who has already conquered/destroyed and moved on to the next one to have kids with.


All while you’re stuck fathering some other mans kids. Srs.
post 1632769663 03-02-2021, 04:25 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Yeah I do understand that the love you feel for your children and the love they give you makes up for all the burdens and chores and sacrifices.

Just have never felt the desire to get that love from a child. Never felt a longing for that or need for that love. But I do feel longing from love from a man so I understand the feeling of longing. Just for me it’s focused on a man and not a child.

The only doubt I have about kids is if they could have saved my marriage. I think kids tie men down and keep them stuck in the family. And kids give both parents a good incentive to stay in a bad marriage. So in the sense of kids keeping a marriage together I do wonder if that would have been better.

Although lots of people with kids still do get divorced despite the supposed bliss that kids bring so idk. And there is no way I could handle being a single mom. That seems like the worst life imaginable to me. Having to take care of everything and shouldering all the responsibilities without anyone to help you. That seems like a nightmare.
Iam willing to bet if you had children/life you wouldn’t spend 90% of your life on a male dominated bodybuilding forum telling everybody what your preferences are. Who gives a fuk
post 1632769853 03-02-2021, 04:27 PM
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Originally Posted By whogotmuhbeers⏩
If you don’t? Majority of you will settle down with some woman who has two kids with a real man who has already conquered/destroyed and moved on to the next one to have kids with.


All while you’re stuck fathering some other mans kids. Srs.
"B-b-but a real man destroys and conquers a woman he has kids with!"

You're an idiot bud.
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post 1632769923 03-02-2021, 04:28 PM
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post 1632770093 03-02-2021, 04:30 PM
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life is good, holmes

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post 1632773913 03-02-2021, 05:15 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Yeah I do understand that the love you feel for your children and the love they give you makes up for all the burdens and chores and sacrifices.

Just have never felt the desire to get that love from a child. Never felt a longing for that or need for that love. But I do feel longing from love from a man so I understand the feeling of longing. Just for me it’s focused on a man and not a child.

The only doubt I have about kids is if they could have saved my marriage. I think kids tie men down and keep them stuck in the family. And kids give both parents a good incentive to stay in a bad marriage. So in the sense of kids keeping a marriage together I do wonder if that would have been better.

Although lots of people with kids still do get divorced despite the supposed bliss that kids bring so idk. And there is no way I could handle being a single mom. That seems like the worst life imaginable to me. Having to take care of everything and shouldering all the responsibilities without anyone to help you. That seems like a nightmare.
The only nightmare now is your loneliness and pathetically throwing yourself at guys old enough to be your children.

Probably a good thing you didnt have kids, you would be to jealous of the attention they take away from you.
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post 1632774763 03-02-2021, 05:25 PM
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Honestly, if you're debating that path, then it's probably not for you.

I have never once worried about being alone, which is exactly why I know I'm good on this road. On the flip side, I question my desire to be in a relationship and to raise kids every time the topic comes up.
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ITT: "I don't want kids so I can conSOOM"
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post 1632775533 03-02-2021, 05:35 PM
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im 36, its not much different than when i was 21
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Originally Posted By orangetide⏩
ITT: "I don't want kids so I can conSOOM"
more like RELAX. Single life has like 1/4 of the financial overhead of being in a relationship.
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post 1632775993 03-02-2021, 05:41 PM
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Originally Posted By orangetide⏩
ITT: "I don't want kids so I can conSOOM"
You are dead wrong, brotha. Society no longer encouraging the formation of families has nothing to do with my propensity to consooom.

We made women what they are and these are the consequences.
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I always lol when i see careercels/academics/scientists who dont have kids.

Great, you started a company
Great, you became a partner at the firm
Great, you got your name on some papers

And your bloodline ends with you LMAO. No one to pass it down to, all that knowledge and effort to die with you. Your company will get sold, your papers will stop getting referenced. Your big boy toys will get auctioned off. Your name will just be some dead branch in a family tree. Whatever legacy you obtained will be forgotten in 1-2 generations.

Several of the professors at my uni had their kids taking college level courses and research already. Whatever they maxxxed, their kids are gonna far outmaxxx them with their huge head start.

Again: smart, driven, competent people that are worth something should be having kids.
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Whatever SS says itt, do the opposite and you will find happiness
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Originally Posted By orangetide⏩
ITT: "I don't want kids so I can conSOOM"
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Lmao no you don’t know true consumption until you have kids. They need stuff literally all the time. Your house will be overrun with stuff.
This, that was one of the most brain dead responses itt. Having a family = way more "consooming".
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One thing I'll also say is when you reach your 30s, all the quality women in your age group are taken, many of them will have a couple of kids, be married, be a homeowner etc.

Of course there's the occasional outlier but they are rare, any woman not locked down by that age is that way because nobody sensible wants them.

So that then means you HAVE to date younger, but then that has its own issues as you have to go all the way down to like early 20s to find quality unnatatched women, and then it's like a 10 year age gap, and you'll struggle for common interests.

****s hard mayne.
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Originally Posted By Polaris⏩
This, that was one of the most brain dead responses itt. Having a family = way more "consooming".
Pretty sure it was implied that the consooming would be for themselves and not "wasting" their money on their kids when they could be spending it all on themselves.

See post 117
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Originally Posted By JoeDelts⏩
Pretty sure it was implied that the consooming would be for themselves and not "wasting" their money on their kids when they could be spending it all on themselves.

See post 117
I get the implication, but it was still a poor attempt and what I said is still true. Also, the other flip side is being able to live simply/well under your means and therefore having much more peace of mind.
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