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Lets be honest about something. Black men are the lowest quality/value men there are. So, of course it will be the hardest for them to find a relationship.
So many bad areas black men are the highest.
High school drop outs - lacking educaiton
Lowest credit
Highest poverty
Highest level of criminal records
More kids with other women
Lowest support of those children
Highest unemployment.
Highest prison rate.
Lowest income.
High drug abuse and alcoholism rate.
Higher rate of health problems.
No racism and no hate, just facts. It's not all black men, just a few. If anything, a black man has to only be marginally good to be top tier.
So many bad areas black men are the highest.
High school drop outs - lacking educaiton
Lowest credit
Highest poverty
Highest level of criminal records
More kids with other women
Lowest support of those children
Highest unemployment.
Highest prison rate.
Lowest income.
High drug abuse and alcoholism rate.
Higher rate of health problems.
No racism and no hate, just facts. It's not all black men, just a few. If anything, a black man has to only be marginally good to be top tier.
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Originally Posted By Jasonw1178⏩
Honestly I'm glad that we have more democratized media b/c that stuff is almost always highlighted, but rarely if ever the good stories of Black men being told.Lets be honest about something. Black men are the lowest quality/value men there are. So, of course it will be the hardest for them to find a relationship.
So many bad areas black men are the highest.
High school drop outs - lacking educaiton
Lowest credit
Highest poverty
Highest level of criminal records
More kids with other women
Lowest support of those children
Highest unemployment.
Highest prison rate.
Lowest income.
High drug abuse and alcoholism rate.
Higher rate of health problems.
No racism and no hate, just facts. It's not all black men, just a few. If anything, a black man has to only be marginally good to be top tier.
So many bad areas black men are the highest.
High school drop outs - lacking educaiton
Lowest credit
Highest poverty
Highest level of criminal records
More kids with other women
Lowest support of those children
Highest unemployment.
Highest prison rate.
Lowest income.
High drug abuse and alcoholism rate.
Higher rate of health problems.
No racism and no hate, just facts. It's not all black men, just a few. If anything, a black man has to only be marginally good to be top tier.
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Originally Posted By dabbmw2002⏩
I've seen it also and it's frustrating. LMAO it also annoys me what Black men areexpectedto accept within our community.The key point is that the black community is matriarchal. That is poison for men. What's fuked up is that even in upper middle-class communities, this arrangement still fuks things up. I know lot of black guys who grew up privileged in the DC area but act like ghetto scumbags because they grew up in a mother led home.
When leftists promote celebrate single mothers, they are actively undermining black people. Malcom X figured out the game late in life and realized the biggest enemy of black people is woke liberals.
When leftists promote celebrate single mothers, they are actively undermining black people. Malcom X figured out the game late in life and realized the biggest enemy of black people is woke liberals.
I gave this example to a few friends...this is sort of light hearted though. I'm recently single after almost four years with my ex so I'm not "ready" yet to date, but I do talk to some women here and there.
There's one Black girl I know that's 29, just full of energy, interesting to talk to. I've told some of my buddies about her b/c we have a similar group of friends and I joke around saying she'd be great if she wasn't overweight. Girl is at LEAST 40 - 50lbs overweight. How are you 29 with no kids overweight? LMAO I don't understand it. Unfortunately you have the image of Lizzo and other overweight Black women pushed as body acceptance. That doesn't get a pass in non-Black communities - every time I go to the gym White women are working out - but woke liberals love it.
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Originally Posted By dabbmw2002⏩
I am responding to your posts backwards, but yes a matriarch does hurt Black men. That's why IMO anything us as men can do is to build and maintain strong families.There is a solution for this- don't be fat and obnoxious. Even black women I'm attracted to have this masculine attitude. Act like a lady and you can get a guy. There are a lot guys of all races out there who are lonely and would date black woman if she acted proper.
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Originally Posted By sword_⏩
I wanna add The Moses West FoundationHonestly I'm glad that we have more democratized media b/c that stuff is almost always highlighted, but rarely if ever the good stories of Black men being told.
https://www.theblackmancan.com/
https://thedadgang.com/
https://www.fatherhood.gov/research-...g-black-father
https://www.theblackmancan.com/
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https://www.fatherhood.gov/research-...g-black-father
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Originally Posted By sword_⏩
Blame sloots, not miscersWhy do Black Men have to be thugs to get women? No other group deals with that bull****. You can be a Tradie/Doctor/Lawyer/Wagie in other communities no problem.
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Originally Posted By sword_⏩
10/10 I agree with you. I'm the only white dude at my work and they are all south Atlanta black dudes and they are a great group of guys, probably the best group of people I've ever worked with TBH. A little loud, and they like to talk chit, but it's funny AF. Most of them are homeowners, they love their kids, they do the right thing, I don't worry about things being stolen, most have good credit. Ironically they like Trump and think Biden is a POS It's just like there are white people and then there is trailer trash. Same aspect here except more blacks are ghetto trash. But if you are talking about statistics and generalizations and "more likely" it is what it is.Honestly I'm glad that we have more democratized media b/c that stuff is almost always highlighted, but rarely if ever the good stories of Black men being told.
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Originally Posted By Rebel012⏩
The decent one's you're talking about have insane standards. And yes, they may value mixed guys and not have the same standard as they do for a regular black guy. Happens all the timeHmm, I've briefly dated, smashed, and made out with some decent educated black girls, and they didn't fit this stereotype you're peddling. And I'm mixed race, so you can't pull the "if you're white..." card.
Granted this is an anecdote, and maybe the culture is different in the US, but my buddy lives in Chicago and has had similar experiences.
This really does kinda sound like you're extrapolating your problems, bro. Sure, many hood black girls will have issues, but a lot of them will be low quality anyways.
Granted this is an anecdote, and maybe the culture is different in the US, but my buddy lives in Chicago and has had similar experiences.
This really does kinda sound like you're extrapolating your problems, bro. Sure, many hood black girls will have issues, but a lot of them will be low quality anyways.
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Originally Posted By JMath⏩
what lol all women have it easier than men. Women might not like their options but all have options. A lot of men are incels with nothingBlack women have it the hardest probably.
Don’t know if the data is the same, but a few years ago interracial relationship data showed black women were the least represented. So basically, black men are the only people in their dating pool. So probably what 7% of the population? Really handcuffs you in terms of finding someone.
Don’t know if the data is the same, but a few years ago interracial relationship data showed black women were the least represented. So basically, black men are the only people in their dating pool. So probably what 7% of the population? Really handcuffs you in terms of finding someone.
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Originally Posted By Serenadium⏩
cause I'm not a thug. The very fact that's even a thing proves the entire point of the threadOp why don't you try thugmaxxing?
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Originally Posted By Jasonw1178⏩
Smh no. Black women don't care about any of this. Either they prefer thugs maxed losers , or they have standards way higher than thisLets be honest about something. Black men are the lowest quality/value men there are. So, of course it will be the hardest for them to find a relationship.
So many bad areas black men are the highest.
High school drop outs - lacking educaiton
Lowest credit
Highest poverty
Highest level of criminal records
More kids with other women
Lowest support of those children
Highest unemployment.
Highest prison rate.
Lowest income.
High drug abuse and alcoholism rate.
Higher rate of health problems.
No racism and no hate, just facts. It's not all black men, just a few. If anything, a black man has to only be marginally good to be top tier.
So many bad areas black men are the highest.
High school drop outs - lacking educaiton
Lowest credit
Highest poverty
Highest level of criminal records
More kids with other women
Lowest support of those children
Highest unemployment.
Highest prison rate.
Lowest income.
High drug abuse and alcoholism rate.
Higher rate of health problems.
No racism and no hate, just facts. It's not all black men, just a few. If anything, a black man has to only be marginally good to be top tier.
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Originally Posted By BigBallsMcgee⏩
More Black Men are going #PassportGang boyo.Smh no. Black women don't care about any of this. Either they prefer thugs maxed losers , or they have standards way higher than this
But I seriously think Black Men should focus on their purpose, have a strong social circle that support them, and if need be therapy. You have to fill your own cup b/c the world doesn't always inherently give us value as say other groups. We know that as men first and foremost - that we have to bring something of value into this world. For Black Men even moreso b/c we have had our image tarnished for centuries.
That's why I liked Kevin Samuels so much b/c he told Black Men that the world doesn't owe you anything and you have to get out and take what you want.
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Originally Posted By BigBallsMcgee⏩
This is evidence that Indian and Asian men have it the worst, dumb ****g0t OP.There are asian and Indian women that literally say they just want a white guy.
If you're white and can't get an asian I don't know what to say
If you're white and can't get an asian I don't know what to say
Black men have 13% of the US female population and they don’t stray even when black men like AWS are banging all the different races.
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Pretty rough being polish in the dating world. I’m ripped up and good looking and I’m not even sure it’s being polish. I just have a long last name. My mom is white and although polish is considered white my dad could pass as Latino or Arabic. So to any non white I’m white but to any white I’m considered different
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black guys are more polarizing. There are a lot of chicks that dont like them specifically. But also sloots that fetishize them.
****** have it worse. if it werent for arranged marriages they would be extinct at this point. The strict indian families actually force their daughters to only marry an indian guy.
****** have it worse. if it werent for arranged marriages they would be extinct at this point. The strict indian families actually force their daughters to only marry an indian guy.
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Originally Posted By KingBert⏩
No it isnt, the majority of asians and indian women are still with their own race. There's still plenty to go around for them. And their standards are reasonable and they are more quality womenThis is evidence that Indian and Asian men have it the worst, dumb ****g0t OP.
Black men have 13% of the US female population and they don’t stray even when black men like AWS are banging all the different races.
Black men have 13% of the US female population and they don’t stray even when black men like AWS are banging all the different races.
Now for the average black guy, black women arent interested, they're ghetto trash or a single mom or want thugs.
Look at the kevin samuels chit. You dont find asian or indian equivalents. their women arent that ridiculous
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Originally Posted By elterrible987⏩
Most indian women want indian men. who do you think they would be with otherwise? the majority want indian guys, or even if they want white guys cant get oneblack guys are more polarizing. There are a lot of chicks that dont like them specifically. But also sloots that fetishize them.
****** have it worse. if it werent for arranged marriages they would be extinct at this point. The strict indian families actually force their daughters to only marry an indian guy.
****** have it worse. if it werent for arranged marriages they would be extinct at this point. The strict indian families actually force their daughters to only marry an indian guy.
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Originally Posted By BigBallsMcgee⏩
white guysMost indian women want indian men.who do you think they would be with otherwise? the majority want indian guys, or even if they want white guys cant get one
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Originally Posted By BigBallsMcgee⏩
Are you kidding? Indian chicks date, hook-up with, and even marry, white dudes. It's true that in the very strict households it may not be allowed, but that standard isn't as common as it used to be. And slightly above average Indian girls can date outside their race pretty easily if they want to, to say nothing of the really hot ones.Most indian women want indian men. who do you think they would be with otherwise? the majority want indian guys, or even if they want white guys cant get one
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Originally Posted By elterrible987⏩
nobody wants a white guy, or a black guy or an Asian guy.white guys
Stick to your own race ****git.
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Originally Posted By elterrible987⏩
The vast majority cannot get white guys even if they wanted them so doesnt matter. Most indian women are not with white guyswhite guys
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Originally Posted By Rebel012⏩
Indian men date out at high rates too though so doesnt matter.Are kidding? Indian chick date, hook-up with, and even marry, white dudes. It's true that in the very strict households it may not be allowed, but that standard isn't as common as it used to be. Amd slightly above average Indian girls can date outside theor race, to say nothing of the really hot ones.
"American Indians have the highest interracial marriage rate among all single-race groups. Women are slightly more likely to “marry out” than men in this group: 61% of American Indian female newlyweds married outside their race, compared with 54% of American Indian male newlyweds."
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Originally Posted By BrianDaMan⏩
Weird they didnt just say native american, but still the point still stands then, Asian is only 37% So vast majority of them are with asian/indian guys still.'American Indian' = Native American in this data. Stupid confusing term.
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Originally Posted By JMath⏩
No woman has it hard lolBlack women have it the hardest probably.
Don’t know if the data is the same, but a few years ago interracial relationship data showed black women were the least represented. So basically, black men are the only people in their dating pool. So probably what 7% of the population? Really handcuffs you in terms of finding someone.
Don’t know if the data is the same, but a few years ago interracial relationship data showed black women were the least represented. So basically, black men are the only people in their dating pool. So probably what 7% of the population? Really handcuffs you in terms of finding someone.
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Originally Posted By sword_⏩
cope harderHonestly a lot of Black bros and minority bros would do best being purpose driven and not playing the same game as their white counterparts. Due to the image of White men globally they definitely have it easier. Instead of chasing pussy you should build your own lifestyle and bring women in.
You're correct within the Black community about Black men being treated as "nice to haves" and not necessarily respected in the community like their White/Asian/Hispanic counterparts. Reason is the Black community is more matriarchal and definitely the more negative aspects of our culture is consumed in mass media. That's why some Black men accept a woman being overweight or having kids by other men a lot unfortunately.
I had an older Black woman tell me not to "give up on Black women" and she gave me a story about how when she was younger she would go for the thug/roughneck dudes (i.e. Pookie and Ray-Ray) and didn't think of a man that was nerdy or "square" until later in her life. Keep in mind she was in her mid 40s and she was low-key dissing her man when he was about 10 feet away at a friend's party. She told me that he was nerdy, etc. and how she wouldn't go for a guy like him over 10 years ago because he wasn't street.
A Black man that has his **** together is supposed to just accept this ****?! That's why many do date out. Even then as OP mentioned if you date out you're met with resistance and while not being hood/street may play well for you in life overall it may not bode well in your dating life if women of all races look at one sole image of Black men as the rapper or athlete.
I wish we took more control of our image as Black Men though instead of just accepting things and complaining. Some of us are doing it but we can't do it alone. Black Men also need to stop being the clean up guys also and lowering your standards. Infuriates me to no end.
I'll also note that it's interesting when I was in a relationship that women that wouldn't be interested in you or were scared of social stigma, etc would show high interest b/c you're pre-selected lol. Female nature fails to no end. I wasn't interested in cheating though.
You're correct within the Black community about Black men being treated as "nice to haves" and not necessarily respected in the community like their White/Asian/Hispanic counterparts. Reason is the Black community is more matriarchal and definitely the more negative aspects of our culture is consumed in mass media. That's why some Black men accept a woman being overweight or having kids by other men a lot unfortunately.
I had an older Black woman tell me not to "give up on Black women" and she gave me a story about how when she was younger she would go for the thug/roughneck dudes (i.e. Pookie and Ray-Ray) and didn't think of a man that was nerdy or "square" until later in her life. Keep in mind she was in her mid 40s and she was low-key dissing her man when he was about 10 feet away at a friend's party. She told me that he was nerdy, etc. and how she wouldn't go for a guy like him over 10 years ago because he wasn't street.
A Black man that has his **** together is supposed to just accept this ****?! That's why many do date out. Even then as OP mentioned if you date out you're met with resistance and while not being hood/street may play well for you in life overall it may not bode well in your dating life if women of all races look at one sole image of Black men as the rapper or athlete.
I wish we took more control of our image as Black Men though instead of just accepting things and complaining. Some of us are doing it but we can't do it alone. Black Men also need to stop being the clean up guys also and lowering your standards. Infuriates me to no end.
I'll also note that it's interesting when I was in a relationship that women that wouldn't be interested in you or were scared of social stigma, etc would show high interest b/c you're pre-selected lol. Female nature fails to no end. I wasn't interested in cheating though.
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but what about the 40% of abortions are by black women despite being only 14% of the population.
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Originally Posted By sword_⏩
A woman that goes for thugs isn't really a woman you want to be with anyways, and certainly isn't a woman you want to be taking relationship advice from.Honestly a lot of Black bros and minority bros would do best being purpose driven and not playing the same game as their white counterparts. Due to the image of White men globally they definitely have it easier. Instead of chasing pussy you should build your own lifestyle and bring women in.
You're correct within the Black community about Black men being treated as "nice to haves" and not necessarily respected in the community like their White/Asian/Hispanic counterparts. Reason is the Black community is more matriarchal and definitely the more negative aspects of our culture is consumed in mass media. That's why some Black men accept a woman being overweight or having kids by other men a lot unfortunately.
I had an older Black woman tell me not to "give up on Black women" and she gave me a story about how when she was younger she would go for the thug/roughneck dudes (i.e. Pookie and Ray-Ray) and didn't think of a man that was nerdy or "square" until later in her life. Keep in mind she was in her mid 40s and she was low-key dissing her man when he was about 10 feet away at a friend's party. She told me that he was nerdy, etc. and how she wouldn't go for a guy like him over 10 years ago because he wasn't street.
A Black man that has his **** together is supposed to just accept this ****?! That's why many do date out. Even then as OP mentioned if you date out you're met with resistance and while not being hood/street may play well for you in life overall it may not bode well in your dating life if women of all races look at one sole image of Black men as the rapper or athlete.
I wish we took more control of our image as Black Men though instead of just accepting things and complaining. Some of us are doing it but we can't do it alone. Black Men also need to stop being the clean up guys also and lowering your standards. Infuriates me to no end.
I'll also note that it's interesting when I was in a relationship that women that wouldn't be interested in you or were scared of social stigma, etc would show high interest b/c you're pre-selected lol. Female nature fails to no end. I wasn't interested in cheating though.
You're correct within the Black community about Black men being treated as "nice to haves" and not necessarily respected in the community like their White/Asian/Hispanic counterparts. Reason is the Black community is more matriarchal and definitely the more negative aspects of our culture is consumed in mass media. That's why some Black men accept a woman being overweight or having kids by other men a lot unfortunately.
I had an older Black woman tell me not to "give up on Black women" and she gave me a story about how when she was younger she would go for the thug/roughneck dudes (i.e. Pookie and Ray-Ray) and didn't think of a man that was nerdy or "square" until later in her life. Keep in mind she was in her mid 40s and she was low-key dissing her man when he was about 10 feet away at a friend's party. She told me that he was nerdy, etc. and how she wouldn't go for a guy like him over 10 years ago because he wasn't street.
A Black man that has his **** together is supposed to just accept this ****?! That's why many do date out. Even then as OP mentioned if you date out you're met with resistance and while not being hood/street may play well for you in life overall it may not bode well in your dating life if women of all races look at one sole image of Black men as the rapper or athlete.
I wish we took more control of our image as Black Men though instead of just accepting things and complaining. Some of us are doing it but we can't do it alone. Black Men also need to stop being the clean up guys also and lowering your standards. Infuriates me to no end.
I'll also note that it's interesting when I was in a relationship that women that wouldn't be interested in you or were scared of social stigma, etc would show high interest b/c you're pre-selected lol. Female nature fails to no end. I wasn't interested in cheating though.
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