Try not to let it. Honestly, you're just going to have to put faith into what she is telling you, and how she acts (actions speak louder than words), or it's never going to work.

Her actions are part of what’s confusing. She’s lovely, soft, sweet, smart and in charge of her life. Cares about everything and is always one steps ahead of my thoughts. She isn’t promiscuous and has only really had long terms including her marriage forever. I just can’t seem to get past what happened with us. It’s never been a problem for me before because my hookups were not with people I was at risk for wanting beyond that night.

Who she is day to day confuses me because why would a woman like this allow what happened to happen. I have her explanation but I can’t make sense of it. I don’t want anyone else but I don’t want to feel we met in a terrible way and how it’s resulted in me looking negatively on both of us. There’s been no way for me to spin it positively.

Well if you can't put a positive spin on it or you're always going to look at it so negatively, then it's not going to work out for you two. I think what you need to realize is that most people have done something that is out of character for them, but that is not who they are as a whole. You need to look at the big picture, not just the way you met. No one can make you feel differently about the way you met except yourself. You also had sex with her upon meeting. Are you a terrible person? You've had hookups in the past, does that mean you're not long term relationship material? Why not just continue the relationship and let her actions speak for themselves?

I agree what you said about people doing things out of character. I find this to be true for people coming out of long terms learning and feeling new thins again. It’s more just how this went down. After her long marriage that ended a year before we met she had sex with one friend she’s had for many years and decided she didn’t want that again. And then me. No rampage after her marriage and no scratching itches like some people can do. 2 people in a year after 16 years is a plus and I know this. But how we met has made me question so many things and despite how fantastic and solid she is it makes me think she can have poor judgement.

I don’t think I am a terrible person but I have a pretty slutty past. I am drawn to people who have not acted the way I have in life because frankly they are better people that I am.

I never said I or the misc hated all women. I said women develop a certain stereotype on the misc based on negative experiences they have had with them. Just like we all have stereotypes of all types of different people. Sterotypes are developed from real things, but it is not absolute. Just like many women have stereotypes of men as being fukboys, which comes from their real experiences, but again it is not absolute.

fukin LOL-d so hard at OP sharing his tragic love story with a girl of his dreams and suddenly one guy is like "FUKKED A BBW I MET IN REHAB IN THE ANGOOLA AFTER SNORTING KAWK, ANAL CAVITY FELT TIGHT WITH RIDGES"

OP is a ****get who worries too much about meaningless stuff. Do whatever the **** you want, be happy.

Perhaps. But the way you started talking about a woman on tinder and how to think of them all as hoe’s is a terrible thing.

Seems reasonable to me. Go for it

I agree was pretty hilarious lol

I’ve had these thoughts believe me. But I also took the last months to really get to know her. A one off in a moment of weakness. Great girlfriend. Truth is I’ve dated a lot of girls and mostly each and everyone one of them has had something the misc wouldn’t approve of. Yes, some didn’t but there were often other issues and reasons to run from them. It’s not always black and while.