If they stay typically they don't think they're going to get a girl as good looking or they also have mental issues they have not dealt with yet. #ProveMeWrong

for me that's not it, it's the moral obligation that I'm trying to shake

Her manipulation is what makes you think that you owe her or have an obligation to make her feel a certain way.

You need to break free from that spell and take that weight off your back. You don't owe her chit.

Don’t you moron

Abort mission.

Leave.

Edmund Kemper's mom had BPD. Inb4...

Only one way to deal with people with cluster B personality disorders:

Drop them and cut them out of your life forever.

Do NOT try to change them as it is futile and all your efforts will go down a black hole.

Source: learned the hard way.

GTFO ASAP. Brothers wife has a form of BPD. Fuqing nuts and controlling. Threatens to kill the dog if he leaves. Life’s too short to put up with that nonsense

disappear or get fuked

Cluster B people will use your empathy against you. They see empathy and honesty and good morals as weaknesses to be exploited.

Leave her or you will mess up your whole life, finances, mental health, stability, everything.

You'r life will get rekt in one way or another or all together

You’re gonna catch a DV case

Good luck walking on eggshells for the rest of your life.

Brb walking to the mail box alone = abandoning her.

therapist here.

get out while you can.

like seriously we are warning you all for a reason. these traits need to be recognized because getting involved with someone with this condition, unfortunately, could very likely end in disaster for you.

like I am all for giving the benefit of the doubt, etc. and seeing the best in people (my job revolves around this,) but as a man and not a therapist, i am telling you:run, dont walk, in the opposite direction of those who have bpd.

One clue to how you'd know you've have met BPD is that you start to question your own sanity after the interaction.

Once I found out the chick told me she had been diagnosed with BPD and several other mental disorders, contemplated hard for a few weeks and decided i was out

Latina, had dat azz, amazing connection but I value my life and those around me so had to let go... it's for the best op

I dated a chick for a year wasn't diagnosed with BPD, but did show several characteristics of it in hindsight. She'd get mad and think I was abandoning her if I didn't text back soon enough or even practically on a scheduled basis. She got ridiculously jealous if I so much as said hi to a female coworker we happened across in public or made a public group type comment on ******** towards. Had a bunch of "guy friend" orbiters because "girls were too much drama", and one unhinged fat annoying cow of a girlfriend pal who she tolerated constantly pulling crap trying break us up. For the first 6 months or so, she wanted to bang constantly, but started using sex as a weapon once I was actually more emtionally vested in tolerating her bs in the relationship.

She would constantly talk about herself. Was always bitching about random aches and pains, "headaches", and supposedly messing her back up by falling off a boat on land or some crap. Would try hitting me up for cash for stupid bs and act like I was a selfish prick if I didn't or even flat out couldn't give it to her. Had a terrible relationship with her mother and severe mommy issues despite a seemingly healthy relationship with an apparently decent father. She was also nearly completely devoid of having any sort of a deep thinking process beyond whatever she could see some sort of rewards/payoff from. Would get pissed off and cry about how I "should just let her win!!!" if I won in a video game about her or stupid things like that.

She initially broke up with me so she could actively bang some other moron guy(s) after stringing me along for the last month or so of it. I took it really hard at first, but quickly became extremely content with having her constant drama bs out of my life and embraced it. She tried begging for me back about a couple weeks after the breakup by calling me like 30 times and texting me about 10 times (this was back in flip phone days and she sucked at texting) trying to get me to answer. I handed the phone to a buddy of mine on like the 25th call of not answering her myself (I never did) and he asked her what the hell she wanted. She went full bat mode told him it was about "my future with her", to which he said she wasn't in my future and hung up on her. Then she frantically tried calling another 5x or so. Tried getting a hold of me a few times randomly for about another year before she finally got bored of trying when the most I'd ever do is troll her for a bit and she finally left me alone for good.



Cliffs:

- Run for the hills.
- Don't look back.
- You're gonna laugh at the idea of ever being with a self-absorbed loon like that ever again once you get over this one.

So just checking, exactly 100% of Miscers who have experience of this issue (dealing with BPD girls) say that you should GTFO?

Damn, you never get this level of agreement here.

Her manipulation is what makes you think that you owe her or have an obligation to make her feel a certain way.

You need to break free from that spell and take that weight off your back. You don't owe her chit.

This is true. Borderline's will always spin everything on you. They are master manipulators. They also repeatedly gaslight and will deny things they did or said and make you think you are the crazy one.

I dated a chick for a year wasn't diagnosed with BPD, but did show several characteristics of it in hindsight. She'd get mad and think I was abandoning her if I didn't text back soon enough or even practically on a scheduled basis. She got ridiculously jealous if I so much as said hi to a female coworker we happened across in public or made a public group type comment on ******** towards. Had a bunch of "guy friend" orbiters because "girls were too much drama", and one unhinged fat annoying cow of a girlfriend pal who she tolerated constantly pulling crap trying break us up. For the first 6 months or so, she wanted to bang constantly, but started using sex as a weapon once I was actually more emtionally vested in tolerating her bs in the relationship.

She would constantly talk about herself. Was always bitching about random aches and pains, "headaches", and supposedly messing her back up by falling off a boat on land or some crap. Would try hitting me up for cash for stupid bs and act like I was a selfish prick if I didn't or even flat out couldn't give it to her. Had a terrible relationship with her mother and severe mommy issues despite a seemingly healthy relationship with an apparently decent father. She was also nearly completely devoid of having any sort of a deep thinking process beyond whatever she could see some sort of rewards/payoff from. Would get pissed off and cry about how I "should just let her win!!!" if I won in a video game about her or stupid things like that.

She initially broke up with me so she could actively bang some other moron guy(s) after stringing me along for the last month or so of it. I took it really hard at first, but quickly became extremely content with having her constant drama bs out of my life and embraced it. She tried begging for me back about a couple weeks after the breakup by calling me like 30 times and texting me about 10 times (this was back in flip phone days and she sucked at texting) trying to get me to answer. I handed the phone to a buddy of mine on like the 25th call of not answering her myself (I never did) and he asked her what the hell she wanted. She went full bat mode told him it was about "my future with her", to which he said she wasn't in my future and hung up on her. Then she frantically tried calling another 5x or so. Tried getting a hold of me a few times randomly for about another year before she finally got bored of trying when the most I'd ever do is troll her for a bit and she finally left me alone for good.



Cliffs:

- Run for the hills.
- Don't look back.
- You're gonna laugh at the idea of ever being with a self-absorbed loon like that ever again once you get over this one.

So she was my sister's friend, that's how we met. And since we've realized what's going on there is suddenly mad clarity as to the gaslighting and denial of things she's done. Dudes it has been a ****ing maddening ride, like I was in an awesome place before I got with this chick and now I feel like a crazy person.

I can imagine. It makes you go insane after a while.

I felt sick to my stomach when I found out what BPD was and everything between my childhood with my BPD mom and grandmother and being with my ex clicked into place. My whole reality was warped from being so codependent with BPD people.

The sooner you part ways with this chick the better. You’re 31 years old and wasting valuable time of finding an actual life partner that you’ll be happy with. I understand she has no real shot at life without you, but that’s not your problem. She’s playing off of your guilt and kindness.

Do you live with your girlfriend?

Why have so many folks on here had a similar experience or been in a relationship with someone like this? Is it because we are more likely to be the type of personality that they seek out?

Married... So yea... Which is why I'm debating and trying to poll the crowd.

How long have you been married, and how long were you with her before you tied the knot? How did you ever let it get that far with someone that off their rocker? Must have been a pretty fast whirlwind process that ended up catching you off guard?


As far as trying to leave her goes, just tell her you support Donald Trump. Even if you don't, just claim that you do. There's a very high probability that she's an ultra SJW liberal moonbat who would consider supporting Trump enough reason alone to leave you lol.

Imagine getting married to someone you don't really know......

You guys do know that there is also around an equal number of men with BPD right? The reason it seems more common in women is because the majority of men with BPD are either in prison or secure psychiatric hospitals.This is because men with BPD present differently to women. There is much more anger and substance abuse,less self harm and eating disorders. Which means they come to the attention of the police more than the women do.

I have BPD and have been in a medium secure psychiatric hospital. Iam still judged to be too much of a risk to myself and others in the community to live alone and am subject to a community treatment order,which means I have to attend weekly therapy and take my medication given as an injection once a month,if I don't the police turn up where I am living and take me back to hospital.