Online dating sucks for women too

11-13-2017, 01:03 AM

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would bury, not pull out, and not ghost, dont care about age

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11-13-2017, 02:43 AM

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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩

Here's some real tea on online dating. It's a f'ing JOKE! If you're looking to hook up, have at it. If you are looking for a relationship, get off the dating apps. You are not going to find anything real online. So super srs here. I know TONS of people who have been online dating and not 1 has found a lasting relationship. It's all games and bullchit. The only ones I've ever heard of that find lasting relationships met their SO online many many years ago. I think at one time it worked for LTR's, but now it's all about hookups.

I know a few who are in ltr, one engaged couple, one married couple... all from tinder. And I don't even know that many people

11-13-2017, 02:46 AM

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Originally Posted By YeahImMad⏩

I'm probably being naive then. Had a couple of guys where the first question they asked was who do I live with. I was like why are you asking that?

Same here - 'do you live alone', 'do you have your own place'?
And asked really early.

It's cause a. they're only after sex and b. they don't have a place to take you to.

(I presume b.is cause they're not single or live with their parents).

A woman I know had a guy not only ask this but also 'could you have sex with someone you're not attracted to?'
I mean just lmao - there's a place you go to have sex with women who may not be attracted to you with a room provided, it's called a brothel; go and use one you cheap-skate, chancing k*nt.

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11-13-2017, 03:18 AM

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Originally Posted By otakutrevan⏩

You actually got 3 people to message you back and set up a date

Now image no one ever responds back to you, and only wildabeasts view your profile.

THAT is what being an average man is like online.

I disagree, although I will say in a broader sense that you can drop a few pts off of what you could score irl when going online, that's the nature of it.

11-13-2017, 03:21 AM

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11-13-2017, 03:39 AM

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OP: it's hard to find quality partners in online dating for the same reason you don't want a DYEL partner: online profile creation is easy, so is sending a picture or whatever. The hard part is meeting in person, say for a coffee as a first encounter, and that person being able to maintain an interesting conversation with you/bond in front of other people overhearing it. You get what you put in - I'm not a fan of online dating and you shouldn't need it.

Originally Posted By MissChill⏩

Never tried it (too much of a wuss ) but my friend is always dating. She swears by paid dating sites since it shows they're invested in finding someone to date and not wasting time/fooling around. Dunno how much truth there is to that but kinda makes sense.

About paid dating sites I've heard that it is for more "interested/invested" people, so it could make sense. But why does your friend do this if she's "always dating"? My fundamental issue here is why don't people do more of this:

Originally Posted By TrinnieBuu⏩

Let's be real, if I wanted attention I can just put on some skimpy outfit and hit up a bar solo.

And I don't quote this because of the 'skimpy outfit' thing; rather, why don't people f'n approach each other any more? I havealwaysbeen comfortable with the cold approach. And my wife emphasizes that we probably wouldn't be together today if I had not approached her (it was a work function, loads of people, I saw her and walked over during the function to chat her up a bit - guys at other tables obviously listening in, that kind of scene).

So, let's be real. What is stopping people from approaching each other? I have no clue where most of you live but, honestly, is it so insane to say - see a beautiful woman in a Costco and gently approach? "Hi, yeah this'll be a bit weird but I hate online dating. Can I take you out for a coffee sometime?" - is normally approaching someone with a bit of a flirtatious tone not what is done in the dating world any more? I mean, wtf?

11-13-2017, 03:44 AM

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Originally Posted By Aristotelian⏩

OP: it's hard to find quality partners in online dating for the same reason you don't want a DYEL partner: online profile creation is easy, so is sending a picture or whatever. The hard part is meeting in person, say for a coffee as a first encounter, and that person being able to maintain an interesting conversation with you/bond in front of other people overhearing it. You get what you put in - I'm not a fan of online dating and you shouldn't need it.

About paid dating sites I've heard that it is for more "interested/invested" people, so it could make sense. But why does your friend do this if she's "always dating"? My fundamental issue here is why don't people do more of this:

And I don't quote this because of the 'skimpy outfit' thing; rather, why don't people f'n approach each other any more? I havealwaysbeen comfortable with the cold approach. And my wife emphasizes that we probably wouldn't be together today if I had not approached her (it was a work function, loads of people, I saw her and walked over during the function to chat her up a bit - guys at other tables obviously listening in, that kind of scene).

So, let's be real. What is stopping people from approaching each other? I have no clue where most of you live but, honestly, is it so insane to say - see a beautiful woman in a Costco and gently approach? "Hi, yeah this'll be a bit weird but I hate online dating. Can I take you out for a coffee sometime?" - is normally approaching someone with a bit of a flirtatious tone not what is done in the dating world any more? I mean, wtf?

it is not insane but it is weird

no offense but youre old now bro. it doesnt work that way.

btw approach at work/work events is completely different than at costo.

either way its a thin line between charming and creepy. just be good looking and youre good to go

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11-13-2017, 04:03 AM

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Could it be an age thing? If you are legit 47, finding your male counterpart (no kids and non-dyel) is like a needle in a haystack...and then those men are going to be sought out by other women.

Several options:

Go for younger men, but don't expect commitment.
Approach people at the gym or at your powerlifting meets (forget everything the misc has told you about this).

Donotunderestimate male thirst, you have the upper hand here. You got ghosted by 3 guys, imagine never getting your messages responded to ever, zero new messages apart from the occasional semi-literate unemployed landwhale with 5 kids once every 2 months (this is the reality for most normal men).

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and how many guys have you ghosted ?

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Are there any flattering pics of op?

11-13-2017, 04:40 AM

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Originally Posted By Agentdark45⏩

Could it be an age thing? If you are legit 47, finding your male counterpart (no kids and non-dyel) is like a needle in a haystack...and then those men are going to be sought out by other women.

Several options:

Go for younger men, but don't expect commitment.
Approach people at the gym or at your powerlifting meets (forget everything the misc has told you about this).

Donotunderestimate male thirst, you have the upper hand here. You got ghosted by 3 guys, imagine never getting your messages responded to ever, zero new messages apart from the occasional semi-literate unemployed landwhale with 5 kids once every 2 months (this is the reality for most normal men).

Op is not 47 lol

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11-13-2017, 04:42 AM

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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩

I know TONS of people who have been online dating and not 1 has found a lasting relationship. .

No you don't.

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Originally Posted By Fang2⏩

Op is not 47 lol

Edit: u right, my fault.

pssttt.....they are talking about Legz bruh.....shes 47

11-13-2017, 04:45 AM

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Originally Posted By casiNo.⏩

and how many guys have you ghosted ?

She'd ghost a twink like you bruh.

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Online dating is for bottom feeders & huge sloots.

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11-13-2017, 04:50 AM

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Originally Posted By DolphinPilot⏩

It baffles me that so many people who complain about online dating are still using it. I tried it once, on-and-off for about 8 months. Deleted my profile and never looked back.

I don't use it anymore either.

Originally Posted By RC2008⏩

Another reason why women who use Tinder hate dating and men is because they are obsessed with trying to change a man they met in a bad place. I swear Tinder would never get the hate it gets if women actually realised it was pretty much just a hook up app and stopped trying to get men to stay long term. Those men will lie about long term relationships just to get laid because they think you are an idiot expecting more from Tinder.

This man is right on.

Originally Posted By LMAOatYou⏩

I know a few who are in ltr, one engaged couple, one married couple... all from tinder. And I don't even know that many people

Could be location based. I seriously know a lot of people who have tried online dating and no one finds someone for a LTR.

Originally Posted By JPF82⏩

No you don't.

Yes I do. What is this going to come down to? "No you don't" " Yes I do" "No you don't" "Yes I do"??? LMAO. I'm not here to lie about chit.

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11-13-2017, 04:51 AM

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Originally Posted By JPF82⏩

Edit: u right, my fault.

pssttt.....they are talking about Legz bruh.....shes 47

I am NOT 47!!!! I'm 48. Get it right!

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11-13-2017, 04:55 AM

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Originally Posted By 4everalone⏩

Online dating is for bottom feeders & huge sloots.

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Nah, it's life on easy mode even as a Brad nevermind a Chad.

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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩

Yes I do. What is this going to come down to? "No you don't" " Yes I do" "No you don't" "Yes I do"??? LMAO. I'm not here to lie about chit.

Just comes down to fact.

How many exactly do you know who are single, and using online dating? Come on.....whats that view from your high horse like?

-Just because you were treated badly on dating sites doesn't mean they are all bad
-Just because you know SOME people who have had bad experiences doesn't mean you should spit their vitriol

I have met/found:
-Found a 2 year relationship online
-A flat earther crazy as fook bish (made a thread about it)
-Poly girls wanting a man to satisfy their dink needs
-29 year old with 7 kids, a dead father of 5 of the kids, and ex husband who beat her father of the other 2 kids

There are some wicked people out there.....really truly wicked......but isnt that what life is about?

-Find new people for friends, weed out the bad, weed out the untrustwortly
-Find a new job, work it, see if its a good fit, if not find antoher
-Find a relationship, figure each other out, see if its a good fit

Whats so different from filling out app's online for a job than being on a dating site? You're there to see if you can find a diamond in the rough.

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Originally Posted By Aristotelian⏩

About paid dating sites I've heard that it is for more "interested/invested" people, so it could make sense. But why does your friend do this if she's "always dating"? My fundamental issue here is why don't people do more of this:

And I don't quote this because of the 'skimpy outfit' thing; rather, why don't people f'n approach each other any more? I havealwaysbeen comfortable with the cold approach. And my wife emphasizes that we probably wouldn't be together today if I had not approached her (it was a work function, loads of people, I saw her and walked over during the function to chat her up a bit - guys at other tables obviously listening in, that kind of scene).

So, let's be real. What is stopping people from approaching each other? I have no clue where most of you live but, honestly, is it so insane to say - see a beautiful woman in a Costco and gently approach? "Hi, yeah this'll be a bit weird but I hate online dating. Can I take you out for a coffee sometime?" - is normally approaching someone with a bit of a flirtatious tone not what is done in the dating world any more? I mean, wtf?

She does get approached irl too but mainly because she works as a dj so is out and about a lot but she prefers to date online because she has more control over it. Idk I've been out the game for a while but in my day, men hollared at a shawty.

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this is going right where i figured it would

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Originally Posted By wasp9166⏩

this is going right where i figured it would

lol

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Originally Posted By MissChill⏩

She does get approached irl too but mainly because she works as a dj so is out and about a lot but she prefers to date online because she has more control over it. Idk I've been out the game for a while but in my day, men hollared at a shawty.

Yelling at a girl has gotten me laid 0 times and charged with harassment twice. Would not recommend.

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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩

Meh. Clearly I was not interested enough in them to give them my number. Still don't want to meet a guy in a bar. I don't want a bar rat.

See this is where you're messing up. Just because you see someone in a bar doesn't mean they are a bar rat.

I will go to bars and clubs to meet women or to take the girl I'm with dancing. I don't drink.
That doesn't stop me from going out.

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Originally Posted By casiNo.⏩

and how many guys have you ghosted ?

This. They can dish it, but can’t take it

Always lol @ some women’s reaction when a man says no to their fleshy goodness (or advances in this case). Some women truly believe a guy can’t say no to them. Rejection happens to everyone; men and women. Deal with it.

Originally Posted By leoslayer1⏩

See this is where you're messing up. Just because you see someone in a bar doesn't mean they are a bar rat.

I will go to bars and clubs to meet women or to take the girl I'm with dancing. I don't drink.
That doesn't stop me from going out.

And this. Why do miscers judge people who go to bars to this extent? Like chill out. Plus, plenty of people stop frequenting clubs once they get into a relationship. We are still decent human beings you know, Smh

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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩

Here's some real tea on online dating. It's a f'ing JOKE! If you're looking to hook up, have at it. If you are looking for a relationship, get off the dating apps. You are not going to find anything real online. So super srs here. I know TONS of people who have been online dating and not 1 has found a lasting relationship. It's all games and bullchit. The only ones I've ever heard of that find lasting relationships met their SO online many many years ago. I think at one time it worked for LTR's, but now it's all about hookups.

Not true at all.

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11-13-2017, 05:54 AM

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OP, can you post the convos you had or type our transcripts? Could offer advice based on that. There are certain things a girl can say during initial conversation that will make me jump ship.

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Just approach more and be confident. I work at a bar part time and you wouldn't believe what dome deep eye contact and a simple "hi. Whats your name?" Does to woman, Makes the most beautiful and seemingly confident women puddy in your hands. Try it out

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Am I the only one that thinks you can actually get something meaningful out of online dating?

I'll admit that you have to be on constant weedwhack duty to eliminate the gigantic, overgrown prickers, but there's the occasional wildflower in the rough. It just takes hard work, persistence, and an open mindset to get past those first few interviews known as the first date.

Or maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic