Do you see a possible connection, here?

Lol Keep a woman around for 9 years, not marry her, and think she's not actively trying to find someone to marry her. LOL. You deserved to get cheated on

This isn't justifying infidelity.It's simply saying that you reap what you sow.

If you liked it then you should have put a ring on it.

yall postin in a roll bread

Don't worry about your mortgage and investments, OP, she made a better investment by investing her time in a surgeon. Don't be scared, she won't chase your 2 bedroom apartment and minivan.

Sending you lots of positive vibes

If you liked it then you should have put a ring on it.

Supposedly it's been called off for a few weeks already. Which is why I should totally forgive and forget.

How and when did surgeon's wife find out?

Is that why it's been called off for a few weeks?

Yes. You can also buy a house or work in the same job for fifty years without a contract. But you'll find that most people like something in writing.

If you're not willing to make the commitment they want, they'll go find someone who is. And the process is likely to be messy, involving lots of shouting, screwing around, maybe some slaps back and forth, arguments over property and one of you ending up temporarily homeless.

"It's just a piece of paper." So is money, but we bust our arses for that every day.

This isn't justifying infidelity. It's simply saying that you reap what you sow. The surgeon is not going to have a sterling family life from now on. His wife will hate him and take him for everything she can get, and his kids will turn against him. Twelve years of twelve hours a day to become a surgeon and build wealth and a family, and he tosses it away to fck a chick who's bored with her boyfriend who won't commit. He's reaping what he sowed, too.

If you liked it then you should have put a ring on it.

sorry for your loss op, 9 years that you'll never get back

She's been acting weird, hiding her phone screen from me, growing distant even though I've been trying extra hard. All the standard red flags. With a heavy heart, I looked at the texts that were forwarded to me by HIS wife. She's been sleeping with a surgeon from her work for lord knows how long. One of her sloot friends was also in her ear, encouraging her "to go get it, girl!" One I've known for years who has long pretended to care about me. I wouldn't wish that emotional gut punch on anyone. Told her to GTFO, obviously. Kind of want to die now.

Now, there is a silver lining here. My life is not over. You know why?I have always been in the no marriage/no kids camp.She is going to walk with nothing, deservedly. Her name isn't on my mortgage, no kids to use as leverage, and my investments are still mine. Her friends and family have scolded me for years for "refusing to grow up," but it was the smartest decision I ever made.

Send me some good vibes, brahs.

Mods have been cucks since that one withdrew thousands from his kids college fund to give to a whore.

bet.

Congratulations on your newfound freedom. Breaking off from a long term relationship really sucks. Lots of ups and downs ahead of you for a long time, but if you can make it through this, you can make it through anything.

Stop spouting this incel bull****.

At the end of the day, most people are reasonable, and most people have feelings. You telling OP that she's happy is a poor attempt at redpilling him.

Here's what's really happening:
- Said girl is likely shocked/dumbfounded/embarrassed right now, and is trying to process what just happened. She hasn't realized the full scope and implications of her actions. She, no doubt, feels bad, and probably regrets her decision. She is slowly realizing that losing the security and comfort of a 9 year relationship for a quick fling with another male isn't worth it. He may have money/prestige, but he can't replace all the good memories OP and his ex have had. He has likely been there for her many times, while the surgeon couldn't give less of a ****.
- Said surgeon probably doesn't know about OP. Said surgeon probably doesn't care about the girl enough to marry her and give her a good life.

Cliffs:
- People who make mistakes/poor decisions are not immune from feeling bad.

If you're not willing to make the commitment they want, they'll go find someone who is.

I spent almost 3 yrs in relationship , cheated twice. If i had a fukung globe that could tell me the future of her shiitting the bed the i would have strunge her for sure and not try to strengthen my weaknesses.

Made it through day 1. Still being crushed by the weight of 1000 stones. How long does it take to feel even remotely better?

In my head this was going to be much easier, but it isn't like the movies at all. Just feels like I'm dead but still walking around.

Roll bread

I woke up this morning and had that brief moment where I had to remember if it was real. Thanks, life.

Lol Keep a woman around for 9 years, not marry her, and think she's not actively trying to find someone to marry her. LOL. You deserved to get cheated on

Do you see a possible connection, here?

Imagine if you two didn't have green names lmao, wtf is this chit. Who deserves to get cheated on? If she wanted marriage and kids she would have left and probably was discussed at the beginning of the relationship.