If you try with guys it's normal that the reaction is polite-disinterested, unless you approach a gay one.
I saw your pics and you look better than the average guy (no homo), no doubt you would have chances with women, you just have to try.
I also used to be very shy and look at girls like superior human beings when I was a teen but I forced myself to come out of it at 18-19 yo and I learned a very important thing: fear of refusal is far, far worse than refusal itself.
Fear makes your life chitty indefinitely, refusal burns only for a short time.
Social skills are like muscles, you have to train them to get results.
Hope this will help you a bit.

This does not happen irl here in the us. At best you get a polite disinterest or rejection like damlurker said. Nobody cares about what randoms say. If this happened I would see it standing in long lines at concerts, my job where I work with thousands of people, the gym etc. I dont see it anywhere.

When I go to grocery stores I never ever see people talking to randoms in the isles like you hear on here.

More internet stories that dont actually happen irl

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Value of women decreases the more partners she has and it generally increases for men the more pussy he gets.. Usually the men that get a lot of pussy have other things going for them, intelligence, looks, purpose in life etc.. Whereas women that get a lot of dick are just sloots... This has been known since the start of civilization..

95/5

I would care more, but you know, I get matches when my tinder is on.

Recommendations though, get off tinder. Women are shallow, but not like men. They are less visually shallow, so you'd have better luck approaching in person.

If you are too pussy to walk this path alone, find a friend who also sucks and push each other to be better.

To you...

Imo the biggest problem for men on tinder is the ratio of guys/chicks that distort the real picture in favor for the chicks.
From what I estimate there are 10+ guys for one chick. I've dated quite some chicks from tinder and there were also a couple of 5/10's. Even those totally average looking women had 99+ likes the first day on tinder lmao.
Tinder is a nice little game for when you're bored and occasionally you meet some nice chick and even get in her pants. But if you really want to meet chicks it's better through a hobby, festivals or just chill out in the park with the boyos and getting in touch with the chicks sitting next to you.

Most women about 98 percent of them are so stupid that they think they are going to get instagram followers on tinder. If they came here they would get alot more. They suck at social media marketing.

Nobody in their right mind is going to follow someone on instagram that they met on tinder that they want to date. Most guys hate the way that they look other than a few select pics which they use for dating site purposes.

I'm not even gay, but I can put myself in a womans shoes, most guys aren't that attractive. If I was a woman, I wouldn't want most of the guys I see to phuk me.

I've checked out how guys look on these sites, and they just look goofy as fuk. Low test looking, the vast majority just don't look like someone who you'd get horny looking at.

Seriously, if I was a female, I'd only be attracted to Chads. I literally can't blame the girls here, even if I want to, even if I think it would be nice is everyone had an equal share... most guys are just unfukable.

My tips? Look a little dangerous, weigh over 200lbs, have low body fat, be aggressive. Look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself "If I was a woman, would I want someone that looks like me to fuk me?" If they answer is no, change things until that answer becomes yes. And for some, they just got dealt a bad hand, and they'll never be able to answer with a "yes".

I probably like 1 in 20 profiles. I always have like 20-30 matches. I don't want to pay to see all my other matches.

this isnt even news anymore.

hypergamy at play


b b b b but misc says looks dont matter

this is the thing for me. I dont see why anyone would want to date a super short guy like me. thats like settling for a fat chick.

I don't know man, he said they won't even smash.

“Just be confident bro!”
“Just go outside bro!”

How quickly we forget about the whole PUA movement and how that went. And don’t give me that crap about pick-up lines because those guys tried everything from “Just be confident” to “do this one trick”. Truth of the matter is that it’s all about looks, money, status, and nothing else. But yeah, let’s ignore how “just go outside” has been tried already. So glad I don’t have to deal with these “gotcha” arguments and advice.

BS man. I met an ex on the bus srs.

There a lot of dorky looking feminine men on those apps. Then if there is a little gem, good luck with him messaging back. If some of the dudes on those apps would bulk up, they would have some success.

Unfortunately a lot of dudes looks like that on apps. I gave up on it.

This.

I step outside and see normal couples everywhere. Enough of this **** already. No duh women on tinder do better, I highly doubt many off them do the "swipe yes to everyone" **** that most guys pull.

Tinder was a top app back in it's day until the hordes came on to it (no pun intended)

To find someone that's a 8/9 out of 10 is incredibly rare (but also depends on where you live)

It happenes all the time IRL. You're generation is just filled with boys, and not enough men. Being confident & a gentleman has always plyed well, and still does. Being a shy incel looking at women as nothing more than a potential fuk will end badly.

Ask yourself, what exactly are you offering women? I see plenty ripping females for having over-inflated standards based on appearance, but I would say it's incels who have no hobbies or social life who are the real ones over-valuing themselves.

Yes the younger generation is full of boys and soy men but why do i never see people my age talking to randoms? If it happens then surely i would see it at least somewhat regularly.

It doesn't really matter what you do or say as long as you do something. It may be hard at first, but it gets easier. If you get shot down, so what? Just go on with your life. It's not like NOT trying is going to make your life better.

I once asked to borrow a seat from a table of girls and when they said I could, I just sat down and started talking to them. They thought it was hilarious.

Women's egos are through the roof because smartphones increased their options from a few dozen at most to millions, literally.

delete

Yeah and even if you get married or get a date that will most likely fail due to people wanting more (thanks to social media and apps). It's a disaster.

What if those guys had poor social skills and a weird vibe?

Would you couples skate with someone who was awkward and had a weird uncomfortable vibe?

Would you go out of your way to have coffee with a dude who makes you slightly uncomfortable?

The reason what they did worked is because they already have solid social skills. They are comfortable in their own skin and have high self esteem. A lot of men don't, and you want nothing to do with them.

Girls who are too shy still get dates/laid; guys who are too shy die alone.


What separates your husbands you described from a lot of guys:

>The brain has survival mechanisms in it that censor you. What I mean is when you're not in your "comfort zone" your brain censors your personality to fit in and remain safe.

>Do you ever notice that around friends and family you are funny and charismatic, and then you're around people you don't know so well and you're quiet and not charismatic at all. You're the exact same person, but your brain doesn't give you access to the charismatic part of your personality when you're not in that "comfort zone" to protect you.

>The theory is that back in caveman times, if you behaved too charismatic around the wrong women (alpha cave man's sloots), he would get jealous and you'd get a caveman's club up side the head and your genes would be wiped out of the gene pool. This happened so many times that, as an evolutionary advantage, the "brain censoring" survival mechanism was hard coded into our genes.

A lot of guys have very small "comfort zones" and thus their brain censors them when they are uncomfortable (like asking you for a coffee date)and unfortunately come off as awkward and maybe creepy. Whereas other guys who have had repeated success with women are not hindered by their brains in such situations and proceed to get dates/laid regularly.

It's like a self fulfilling prophecy, you're uncomfortable asking her out -> your brain censors your personality -> she gets uncomfortable and rejects you -> failure. And depending on how bad it goes your comfort zone might get even smaller.

or

You've asked out a bunch or girls before no problem so -> your brain is relaxed -> when you talk to her you're charismatic -> she's attracted -> success (your 2 husbands)


How FAs and incels make use of this- expand your "comfort zone" as much as possible. You can be just as charismatic around friends and family as you are around people you don't know so well, you just have to let your brain know that it's "safe" to do so. I think it has a lot to do with neurotransmitters and you're position in the social hierarchy (the higher the position to perceive yourself to be - the higher levels of certain neurotransmitters you have and the less censored you are by your brain)

This can obviously work for physically attractive men, but if you do this as a stranger and you arent attractive it will never work. why would she engage with you if she knows nothing about you and isnt attracted? she wont, she'll just be annoyed and think its creepy.

What works for some wont work for others

Ive never been a "looks matter 100%!" guy but your post is pretty true. Looks play a massive role in all of this one way or another. You get a lot more room for error the better looking you are or higher status you are.

that's why I never got up in arms for the whole "grab her by the p___y" Trump thing. I understand what he was trying to say. Basically "if a girl likes you, you can do/say whatever you want." He just didn't word it the best lol.

If youre good looking and charismatic, you will be Mayweather style undefeated in cold approaches (unless she has a boyfriend.)

Height: 6'3
Status: thinks females like him for his beautiful soul

An equivalent of a sloot with DDs thinking all the boys love her sense of humor.

Nagasaki Hiroshima reality:

- If you are under 6'0, 90% of females don't even consider you to be a man. It does not matter what you say or do, they will never be attracted to you
- If you are balding with facial aesthetics < 4/10, same thing

If you are tall enough and not ugly, only then does stuff like personality and actions start to matter. I.e. if you are a 6'2, 5/10+ face you can still blow it up if you are awkward or autistic as phuck.

It's like sloots saying black cars are the best (if it's not a latest model benz or whatever then it's not even a car) - they are not going to be impressed by your 93 black buick.