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post 1441190391 05-09-2016, 08:12 PM
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Originally Posted By jbball92⏩
iirc in texas if you live with someone long enough you're technically married lol
So if two guys live together for a while they're technically married?
post 1441191411 05-09-2016, 08:18 PM
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Originally Posted By thunderstruck33⏩
So if two guys live together for a while they're technically married?
I think common law applies to same sex to, but if your roommate tried to take half your chit in court I guess you'd just have to prove you weren't a couple. Seperate bank accounts, seperate rooms etc.
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Originally Posted By donblaximus⏩
If I met a 10/10 HBB perfectly loyal, ultra thoughtful, world renown cook, genius, motherly billionaire that happened to adhere to muslim culture, you bet your arseee I would get married in a mosque to make her father happy.
Classic moving the goalposts.

First it was "adopt her religion" (something nobody with even a shred of self-respect or dignity would do) and now it's "getting married in a mosque" (something many people would do).
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Originally Posted By ThePumpmaster⏩
Classic moving the goalposts.

First it was "adopt her religion" (something nobody with even a shred of self-respect or dignity would do) and now it's "getting married in a mosque" (something many people would do).
Keep reading man. Call it what you want. When I say "adopt her religion" that means to me doing the things they do as customs. Belief vs ceremonial things are very different. Read my other details....I said get married in a church, take a marraige class, etc. That should give you guidance on what "adopt her religion" means to me.
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Originally Posted By MegaPump⏩
Life partner / best friend that will be loyal to you

Company for life, someone to talk to and laugh with, never be lonely

Regular sex

The pleasure of kids

Someone to cook for you and clean your clothes

Love

Support , someone that cares about you probably more than anyone else

Someone to sleep beside
Not to be a negative Nancy, but....

-Loyalty isn't guaranteed
-Sex will most certainly not be a regular occurrence
-The kids will grow up to hate you for being too strict (especially if you want to raise them without the BS in this modern society)
-women don't cook anymore
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TBH, I wouldn't mind the married life if it was with the perfect chick (for me), HOWEVER, the fact that she holds your entire life by a thread is WAAAAAYY too much liability for me to ever consider marriage.
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Originally Posted By Maestro⏩
IDK maybe my experiences have been anecdotal, but the guys I work with are all in the late 30's to early 50's age group, and in the break room all they talk about is the divorce they're going through or what they would do if they weren't married and the ones that are "happily married" are constantly joking about sleeping in the dog house or not being able to do/buy XYZ activity/thing because the misses will get mad.
I hear this a lot as well, and majority of the time on my end, those individuals got married for all the wrong reasons. "Oh I knocked her up so I wanted to man up amd wife her." "Eh she needed a visa to come here and marriage was a lot easier." "Hey, we make more money this way vs just being together."

Wrong, wrong, wrong. People don't really seem to understand the true gravity of what staying together until you die really, truly means, and this goes back to my original point that people don't get married because they truly love one another, they do it because of outside pressures, incentives, etc.

Also, being in the military where the divorce rate is upward of 60%, I can usually pick out the couples I come across in my day to day affairs that are and aren't gonna make it, and the ones that don't were, majority of the time, destined to falter from the get go.
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Originally Posted By therealistwat⏩
Exactly. Lol at this "it made me a stronger person" Codependency is the social disease of the century. The best strength is when it's your own. If you seek happiness or yours is dependent on someone else you are weak. True happiness comes from within, it comes from what you make with your own hands. There is nothing wrong with you coming first all the time, you must save yourself before you help others. If you're the one that has to elevate others, you are a sucker.

Marriage has never been about true love or fairytale chit or romantic connections. It's about property, financial connections and children.

I dont need constant companionship or going to clubs 24/7. I'll be away from home all the time and busy 24/7 anyway. A man does what he wants because it's what he wants, not because of societal pressure or shaming. Thats why these marriages crumble in the first place, you're encouraging idiots to stay together who are no good for each other.

With that said, I dont dislike it, I just hate how people romanticize and pressure the fuk out of people.
I was going to type a proper response, but this post accurately reflects everything I feel and wanted to say. Good job brah
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All I know is pretty much every married guy at work is beat down, tired, lost their passion and excitement in life, life revolves around what wife demands and kids need, corporate cucks that get chit on and have to take it, eating bagels for lunch, unhealthy, miserable, always trying to climb the ruthless corporate ladder or feel like a failure as a man and feel the wrath of the wife. No thanks Jeff.

Even my 50yr old rich as fuk dentist told me not to get married! Good luck to those of you who think you've found the one, only time will tell, there's not a lot of good people to choose from anymore.
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Originally Posted By Maestro⏩
Not to be a negative Nancy, but....

-Loyalty isn't guaranteed
-Sex will most certainly not be a regular occurrence
-The kids will grow up to hate you for being too strict (especially if you want to raise them without the BS in this modern society)
-women don't cook anymore
Agreed especially on the bold. Laws just seem to make breaking up marriage too easy which usually benefits the woman more than the man. To be clear there are a lot of great relationship worthy women out there. I am just unsure of this "loyalty for life" thing.

Also havent met or been with a women under 30 who could cook. No idea why so many suck at cooking.
Originally Posted By therealistwat⏩
Exactly. Lol at this "it made me a stronger person" Codependency is the social disease of the century....

With that said, I dont dislike it, I just hate how people romanticize andpressurethe fuk out of people.
Very true, there is a huge amount of social pressure that after 1-2 years, you get married. NO THANKS JEFF. Living with a girl for 3+ years at least before I even consider it.
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post 1441214681 05-09-2016, 10:25 PM
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Originally Posted By hotsaucebrah⏩
A man with his **** together and makes more money than his future spouse..

I'm 8 years old, how does this contract benefit the man?
Different life experience, unless your plan is one of the following:

- wear crocs and bang std-infested trannies in Thailand.
- become one of those 40-year-old Limp Bizkit fans.
- look like this guy:
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post 1441215551 05-09-2016, 10:32 PM
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Originally Posted By BrandG⏩
Taxes and insurance

/thread
One can argue that having knowledge of the tax system/accounting+auditing practices can counter act this srs
post 1441219461 05-09-2016, 11:00 PM
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Originally Posted By JPF82⏩
You're kinda a pusy brah. If I found my 10/10 IDGAF I would marry her after 2 years.


Obviously you're just a bitch and cannot man up. Who gives a fuk IF she cheats, IF she leaves, IF you lose your money.
Alpha is learning to rebuild, beta is letting fear stop you from experiencing.
Obviously, you're right. I'm a beta cuck loser. I bow down to your "alpha-ness", sir.


P.s. let me know how alpha you still are after you rush into a marriage that fails after 5 years and you're living back home with your parents driving a piece of chit car because you have alimony and child support to pay.

Live the dream brah, live the dream
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If you want to have kids and a family, then marriage is a beneficial
Originally Posted By Theanine⏩
All I know is pretty much every married guy at work is beat down, tired, lost their passion and excitement in life, life revolves around what wife demands and kids need, corporate cucks that get chit on and have to take it, eating bagels for lunch, unhealthy, miserable, always trying to climb the ruthless corporate ladder or feel like a failure as a man and feel the wrath of the wife. No thanks Jeff.

Even my 50yr old rich as fuk dentist told me not to get married! Good luck to those of you who think you've found the one, only time will tell, there's not a lot of good people to choose from anymore.
Sounds like a bunch of losers, trying to climb the corporate suck ass ladder and are miserable from it
also crying about their responsibility to provide for the family
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Having been married for almost 3 months now I have this all figured out. If your mariage fails it's your fault. Not the woman's fault. Women are meant to be led by their men. If you act like a man, and choose a good woman, she'll never leave your side.

This is an inherent issue with men. It has been for a few generations now. A good example of this is how all the FAs here are always crying about how women don't want them. As if they're entitled to women. Ask yourselves, does a tiger think he's entitled to his next mean, does he wait patiently hoping a meal falls in front of him? Or does he stalk his prey and strikes like his life depends on it? Which it does.
When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear of death, so that when their time comes they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing your death song and die like a hero going home.
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Woman has vagina and you need to make babies to keep your race alive.
The muscles i value most are the ones directly surrounding the spine, the hips, the scapula, the femur and the tibia... in that order.

Basically the whole body minus chest and biceps... pretty much the opposite of what your local gym looks like on a typical Monday.
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Originally Posted By batspoof⏩
Get a life loser.
I'm sure your life is better than mine. What with no AVI or stats and all.
When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear of death, so that when their time comes they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing your death song and die like a hero going home.
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Originally Posted By Laconises⏩
Turning 33 soon. Self-employed. Spacious apartment. In an LTR with a very submissive young woman but always sleep alone because space and freedom > everything else.

Wouldn't have it any other way this day and age.

There is absolutely NO REASON to get married or have children other than fear of loneliness. And if you fear loneliness as a man then you should off yourself right now.

If I lived in healthy, nationalist patriarchies like ancient Athens or Sparta, of course I would get married and have children. My wife would shut up and serve me. I would bareback slave and prostitute hole on the side. My sons would fuk and fight for the nation. My daughters would serve as incubators for future grandsons. The government would be run by a warrior aristocracy, not by fat, short, degenerate shyster bankers.
Boy have the times changed.
To be continued....
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Originally Posted By hotsaucebrah⏩
Reminds me Tucker Carlson..can't give a reason.
lmao at the dude got all upset over nothing
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Imo marriage incentivises a break up far far to much and can actually destroy a relationship.

Me and gf atm love each other we work hard play hard. I do stuff I don't like sometimes to make her happy she does the same. We know at any time the other partner can say "yer this doesn't suit me anymore" and walk away Scott free.

Now let's say I live in America and put a ring on it I'm basically putting my only "strength" in the relationship in a box and dealing it whilst simultaneously giving her the OPTION to walk away find a different man and take half my assets and alimony as well.

Think of it like a sales job from a woman's perspective. When you know you might lose your job you put 100 percent into it at all times. If you know the company would be ****ed if they got rid of you you are going to put less work in its psychology.

While you can be better off divorcing than staying together money wise marriage isn't for me. Men have to work twice as hard to make it work because the woman holds all the cards.
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Didnt read thread


but i'm sure 99.9% of the stuff said can still happen with a GF/BF without the marriage.
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While I don't agree with all of this especially the freaking title, I think a lot of it is true. Especially #3 I have personally lived this, getting passed over for better jobs for people with the same credentials for someone who was married with kids.


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Originally Posted By Godfrd824⏩
Having been married for almost 3 months now I have this all figured out. If your mariage fails it's your fault. Not the woman's fault. Women are meant to be led by their men. If you act like a man, and choose a good woman, she'll never leave your side.

This is an inherent issue with men. It has been for a few generations now. A good example of this is how all the FAs here are always crying about how women don't want them. As if they're entitled to women. Ask yourselves, does a tiger think he's entitled to his next mean, does he wait patiently hoping a meal falls in front of him? Or does he stalk his prey and strikes like his life depends on it? Which it does.
lol notsureifsrs or trolling.
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It's comical when people in their 20's and 30's say they get married so they will have a lifelong companion when in reality, half of men in their 40's and 50's are getting divorced, or wishing that they were single. I work in an office where all of the guys are in their 40's, 50's, and 60's. The vast majority absolutely hate their lives, are stressed to the max, and have to "check in" every time we go out for drinks after work. These guys are basically married to women that treat them like children.

I can imagine that in some instances, marriage is incredible. If two people have legit 10/10 chemistry both physically and mentally i would do that ALL DAY LONG. The reality is, most people get married to have kids, and to conform with societal and family expectations. These are absolutely the wrong reasons to get married. So many friends of mine have settled, and are now living miserable lives in their 20's and 30's. Fuk that....unless the girl is damn near perfect for you, it's a decision that needs to be thoroughly thought through.
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Originally Posted By Jms89⏩
It's comical when people in their 20's and 30's say they get married so they will have a lifelong companion when in reality, half of men in their 40's and 50's are getting divorced, or wishing that they were single. I work in an office where all of the guys are in their 40's, 50's, and 60's. The vast majority absolutely hate their lives, are stressed to the max, and have to "check in" every time we go out for drinks after work. These guys are basically married to women that treat them like children.

I can imagine that in some instances, marriage is incredible. If two people have legit 10/10 chemistry both physically and mentally i would do that ALL DAY LONG. The reality is, most people get married to have kids, and to conform with societal and family expectations. These are absolutely the wrong reasons to get married. So many friends of mine have settled, and are now living miserable lives in their 20's and 30's. Fuk that....unless the girl is damn near perfect for you, it's a decision that needs to be thoroughly thought through.
those people could be just as miserable if they were single. the grass is always greener. i do agree people get married for the wrong reasons (pressure), or get married too early before they completely understand who their marrying. I think this happens a lot with guys who are dating a super hot girl, and wife her up because of how hot she is knowing they can never pull anything better. Next thing you know that super hot girl is just Tara. Tara who doesn't clean up after herself, terrible with money, contributes nothing to the success of your relationship. Then the, "what have I done?" sets in.
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Originally Posted By Bondons⏩
those people could be just as miserable if they were single. the grass is always greener. i do agree people get married for the wrong reasons (pressure), or get married too early before they completely understand who their marrying.I think this happens a lot with guys who are dating a super hot girl, and wife her up because of how hot she is knowing they can never pull anything better.Next thing you know that super hot girl is just Tara. Tara who doesn't clean up after herself, terrible with money, contributes nothing to the success of your relationship. Then the, "what have I done?" sets in.
This happened to my oneitis, she started going out with some fukker who wasn't even close to her league and within a year he popped the question and her dumb romantic ass said yes, she was like 20 yrs old and a legit 9/10. Such a shame.
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Originally Posted By gycraig⏩
Imo marriage incentivises a break up far far to much and can actually destroy a relationship.

Me and gf atm love each other we work hard play hard. I do stuff I don't like sometimes to make her happy she does the same. We know at any time the other partner can say "yer this doesn't suit me anymore" and walk away Scott free.

Now let's say I live in America and put a ring on it I'm basically putting my only "strength" in the relationship in a box and dealing it whilst simultaneously giving her the OPTION to walk away find a different man and take half my assets and alimony as well.

Think of it like a sales job from a woman's perspective. When you know you might lose your job you put 100 percent into it at all times. If you know the company would be ****ed if they got rid of you you are going to put less work in its psychology.

While you can be better off divorcing than staying together money wise marriage isn't for me. Men have to work twice as hard to make it work because the woman holds all the cards.
Yep, the only time its not like this is when the woman is equally or more loaded then you, either from her job or inheritance.

Hard to find a desirable woman who also has money though, the hotter they are the more coddled and spoiled they were growing up and usually have little motivation to make anything of themselves since their sloot mother has been telling them their whole life that they can just marry a wealthy man. They exist but there aren't nearly enough of them to go around.
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Husband says marriage to me is the best thing that ever happened to him

Well he would wouldn't he? Cos he's not a flaming idiot

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