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Thread: I stand up for friends wedding then 2 weeks later get bill for purchased suit, wut do

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Originally Posted By KMadigan777⏩
Here's the literal email I got from him:

"The suits were $550 each, but we were able to get 20% off the whole order, so they were $440, plus $5 tax for a total of $445. My brother picked up the shirts and ties for you guys, which were $83 a man. The lobster socks and pocket squares were my gift to you (in addition to lifelong friendship and the promise to stand with each of you when your time comes), so don't worry about those.

That shakes out to $528"

Man...
LOL it's ridiculous. You can't invite people to stand up for you and then charge them after. Really bad form. If you wanted a suit, you would have gone out and bought a suit.

Again, tell him he can have the suit back and cut way back in any contact you have with him.
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Some serious lols in this topic. I honestly cant believe when I opened my email and saw the bill from Mr. Lawyer.

We've been friends for a while even though I always felt a distance between us, but his cheapness was always out of control, like I hadnt seen him in years and there was 4 of us at breakfast and he broke the bill apart and was insisting on our extra .37 cents of whatever for the like 31$ total bill split 4 ways.

I am thinking about simply writing 'Were you under the impression we thought we would be paying for this?"
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I've been a part of a few weddings and never seen anything like that OP. If he had explained it beforehand maybe...
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so this is how people end up on judge judy
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Originally Posted By jwarrenfit⏩
ehh if hes got money he may not think its a big deal for yall. I am getting married in october on the beach so no suits required but they are buying their shirts/ slacks from me. But thats only like 75 bucks lol nothing compared to 500. i wouldnt do that to my boys think anything over a 100 should be covered
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Originally Posted By KMadigan777⏩
I am thinking about simply writing 'Were you under the impression we thought we would be paying for this?"
It's a little weird because I can't imagine being in a wedding for someone I'm only so-so acquaintances with. But if I were, personally I would be a little more straightforward than that if he didn't tell you about this before the wedding, I would say something like:

Listen [name], I appreciate you inviting me to be a part of your wedding. I had a great time. I wasn't aware that I was going to be charged $500 for the suit. Unfortunately $500 isn't in my budget. I'm sorry for the misunderstanding.
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Originally Posted By KMadigan777⏩
Some serious lols in this topic. I honestly cant believe when I opened my email and saw the bill from Mr. Lawyer.

We've been friends for a while even though I always felt a distance between us, but his cheapness was always out of control, like I hadnt seen him in years and there was 4 of us at breakfast and he broke the bill apart and was insisting on our extra .37 cents of whatever for the like 31$ total bill split 4 ways.

I am thinking about simply writing 'Were you under the impression we thought we would be paying for this?"
Simply write this back to him, word for word...

"Hey there (cuck).....I can't speak for everyone, but I was under the impression that the suit was part of your gift to us for standing up at your wedding. To be honest I have never heard of the groomsmen being asked to pay for a suit used at a wedding before. I have heard of renting a tux, but nothing to this extreme. I really would have never bought the suit in the first place as I doubt I will ever use it again. Therefore, I will gladly return it to you and you can return it from where it came.

Miscer"
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I'd be pissed too cuz he could've have told me up front that'd he'd want me to pay for it rather than just dropping it on me
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Why the phuck would I spend 500 bucks to go to someone else's wedding LOL.

Wife would be lucky to get me to fork out 500 bucks for MY wedding
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This guy is a lawyer and loves to argue, he is going to drop something like 'Well its commonly understood that costs are defrayed throughout all involved' sort of thing.

To those guys says cut out, is this really that big of an offense? I agree its chitty as hel but seems generally socially unaware mixed with being out of touch of normal people's budgets.
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Ignore all communications regarding his "bill" Wear the suit next time you see him
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Originally Posted By KMadigan777⏩
This guy is a lawyer and loves to argue, he is going to drop something like 'Well its commonly understood that costs are defrayed throughout all involved' sort of thing.

To those guys says cut out, is this really that big of an offense? I agree its chitty as hel but seems generally socially unaware mixed with being out of touch of normal people's budgets.
Do you really want to be friends with someone who when you go out for lunch with you are worried whether you brought the exact change down to 37 cents. He has to learn somehow that being a tightwad might be okay for his finances but not so good for his social life.

The hardest choice for you should be whether to just go nc or call him out for being so out of touch with reality.
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Hmmm...is he a Jew?
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Originally Posted By TwoHumpChump⏩
Do you really want to be friends with someone who when you go out for lunch with you are worried whether you brought the exact change down to 37 cents. He has to learn somehow that being a tightwad might be okay for his finances but not so good for his social life.

The hardest choice for you should be whether to just go nc or call him out for being so out of touch with reality.
Yeah its thats bad. He will remember some 3 dollar debt I owe him but disappear when he owes me cash. He wont forgot the 528$ or whatever it is. I can't believe I gave him 200$ for the gift, and I get crab socks and a 500$ in return.
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Originally Posted By KMadigan777⏩
Here's the literal email I got from him:

"The suits were $550 each, but we were able to get 20% off the whole order, so they were $440, plus $5 tax for a total of $445. My brother picked up the shirts and ties for you guys, which were $83 a man. The lobster socks and pocket squares were my gift to you (in addition to lifelong friendship and the promise to stand with each of you when your time comes), so don't worry about those.

That shakes out to $528"

Man...
Originally Posted By jbball92⏩
respond "lol"
and go NC
This. ^^^^
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your friend is a fukkin ******* and i would tell him he can come get the suit from you in person if he wants it but you are not going to pay him for it
Or this. ^^^
Originally Posted By KMadigan777⏩
Some serious lols in this topic. I honestly cant believe when I opened my email and saw the bill from Mr. Lawyer.

We've been friends for a while even though I always felt a distance between us, but his cheapness was always out of control, like I hadnt seen him in years and there was 4 of us at breakfast and he broke the bill apart and was insisting on our extra .37 cents of whatever for the like 31$ total bill split 4 ways.

I am thinking about simply writing 'Were you under the impression we thought we would be paying for this?"
Care to explain WHY you're friends with this guy? Because I would've told him to fuk off years ago if he was constantly pulling chit like that. Fukking lol @ "crab socks" as a groomsmen gift.
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LMAO honestly son. keep the suit and send him back a big box filled with only the socks and pocket square. and a post it note attached that says 'your wife's a whore'.
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Honestly what I would do is pay the bill and let him know we aren't friends anymore and hope he enjoys his life.

People like that aren't friends imo
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Originally Posted By KMadigan777⏩
Here's the literal email I got from him:

"The suits were $550 each, but we were able to get 20% off the whole order, so they were $440, plus $5 tax for a total of $445. My brother picked up the shirts and ties for you guys, which were $83 a man. The lobster socks and pocket squares were my gift to you (in addition to lifelong friendship and the promise to stand with each of you when your time comes), so don't worry about those.

That shakes out to $528"

Man...
Wow what an asshat.

Tell him you would rather have not stood if u knew it would cost that much.
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Originally Posted By KMadigan777⏩
Yeah its thats bad. He will remember some 3 dollar debt I owe him but disappear when he owes me cash. He wont forgot the 528$ or whatever it is. I can't believe I gave him 200$ for the gift, and I get crab socks and a 500$ in return.
Isn't it clear by now you don't need a loser like that in your life?

He's not your friend.

He's married now, so you'll barely talk to him or see him going forward.

He's a cheap bastard.

Why would you even consider paying him for that suit? Drop the suit and socks and everything else off at his place and wash your hands of him once and for all.




























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Originally Posted By KMadigan777⏩
To expand the situation a bit, there was his bachelor party a few months ago at a house party, where there was like 20 people, the house was like 1k, we get a bill a few weeks later for 75$ each. No talk beforehand of 'lets go in on this'.

I also gave him 200$ for my gift to him. I get some chump socks for my gift. I'm not rich either, I got the money but 500$ is significant.
Wow. What a kunt. Please don't pay for this suit OP.

Just say you can't afford it. Return the suit. Go NC.
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Originally Posted By Xedem⏩
I was groomsman for my cousins wedding - he had 2 groomsman and 1 best man.

Our suits were $479 each, my cousin covered it.

As the groomsman and best man - we covered his bucks trip to NZ, we went on a 10 day bucks trip and covered everything for him. It was part of our gift to him. We each spent easily about $1,000 ontop of our own spending fees for this.

He just moved into a new house and it needed renovating before the wedding. Our wedding gift to him was to take charge of his renovations and complete it for him. He paid for all materials, we did the reno because we've all got trade backgrounds - it saved him around $8000-10,000 by us doing it over a 2 month period.

We also bought him a surprise BBQ at the end.

I come from a culture were family/friends are very close and spending on them isn't something we think twice about - unless they're kunts ofc.

TBH - it should've been made clear from day 1 - who pays for what. Paying for socks is embarrassing as ****, and if he's going to be a **** mate and u don't mind ending the friendship, post the email to ******** and shame him.
This is real friendship OP. Good job mate. You say traditional culture... what is it bruh?
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Originally Posted By AmeriSwissBro⏩
Simply write this back to him, word for word...

"Hey there (cuck).....I can't speak for everyone, but I was under the impression that the suit was part of your gift to us for standing up at your wedding. To be honest I have never heard of the groomsmen being asked to pay for a suit used at a wedding before. I have heard of renting a tux, but nothing to this extreme. I really would have never bought the suit in the first place as I doubt I will ever use it again. Therefore, I will gladly return it to you and you can return it from where it came.

Miscer"
This is a great response OP.

You should use it (srs)
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As said above, pay it off. Send him a letter with the check and a note. Pay for it, make him feel like chit by renouncing your friendship to him, and tell him to kindly fuk off.

Then don't ever talk to that piece of chit again. If I was the groom, I would take care of all my groomsman. I asked THEM to stand up in my wedding. They shouldn't have to pay fukking 528$ for a suit, plus a gift just for several hours in one day. Why wasn't a tux rented?

Fuk that guy
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what kind of selfish kunt expects others to spend over $500 on their own wedding?
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Originally Posted By KMadigan777⏩
Some serious lols in this topic. I honestly cant believe when I opened my email and saw the bill from Mr. Lawyer.

We've been friends for a while even though I always felt a distance between us, but his cheapness was always out of control, like I hadnt seen him in years and there was 4 of us at breakfast and he broke the bill apart and was insisting on our extra .37 cents of whatever for the like 31$ total bill split 4 ways.

I am thinking about simply writing 'Were you under the impression we thought we would be paying for this?"
Nah, tell him,"Listen bro, me paying for the suit....not happening. You've got some nerve asking for money when everything we've done for you has been out of, what I thought was respect and love for the friendship. This sh** you're pulling, childish and inconsiderate seeing as how you NEVER mentioned anything like this until now. Matter of fact, I'm going to do it like this.....I'm going to return the suit and I won't be there at the wedding. I have better things to do than be somewhere for someone who is obviously about himself. Lose my number, suit will be to you shortly."

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Originally Posted By DeadlyStriker⏩
As said above, pay it off. Send him a letter with the check and a note. Pay for it,make him feel like chitby renouncing your friendship to him, and tell him to kindly fuk off.

Then don't ever talk to that piece of chit again. If I was the groom, I would take care of all my groomsman. I asked THEM to stand up in my wedding. They shouldn't have to pay fukking 528$ for a suit, plus a gift just for several hours in one day. Why wasn't a tux rented?

Fuk that guy
These kinds of people don't feel like chit about this stuff. Op, honestly just tell him he can pick up the suit (don't drop it off for him) and return it if he'd like. If he gets fussy, tell him he's always been like this and you're no longer interested in being his friend because he clearly doesn't treat you like one.
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Before I drop something big, does it at all change anything if perhaps he asked one of the guys and thought that was sufficient for all of us? Or maybe sent an email or something about 'I want you guys to buy suits, tell me if this is a problem?'

God man...500$ thats like a new gun or parts for my motorcycle.
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Originally Posted By KMadigan777⏩
Before I drop something big, does it at all change anything if perhaps he asked one of the guys and thought that was sufficient for all of us? Or maybe sent an email or something about 'I want you guys to buy suits, tell me if this is a problem?'

God man...500$ thats like a new gun or parts for my motorcycle.
One guy doesn't speak for everyone. You run something like that by ALL PARTIES. Everyone doesn't have the same pockets, so the expectation it's no issue is that person's fault. Fukc that *******....
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Idk what stand in means but my gf was in her friends wedding last month and spent maybe $1100 total on gown, hair, makeup, rehearsal etc. the max I would spend on a wedding is $120 for the cost of the suit, nothing more. And I would only go to the wedding if it were a close friend. And even if it were a close friend I wouldn't go to the wedding anyways. Ten hours in the sun, no thanks.
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Originally Posted By KMadigan777⏩
Before I drop something big, does it at all change anything if perhaps he asked one of the guys and thought that was sufficient for all of us? Or maybe sent an email or something about 'I want you guys to buy suits, tell me if this is a problem?'

God man...500$ thats like a new gun or parts for my motorcycle.
Why didn't he just have you rent the suit instead of buy.
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