http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/par...80d998d7b848cf

I MET a girl on ******** in 2010 and we started chatting. I’m in NSW — she’s about 250kms away — I drove to see her one weekend, a couple of months later.

We went out on the Saturday night. She had keys to a friend’s place, who lived in the city, so we ended up back there.

I’d consumed a lot of alcohol. I actually wish I’d been done for DUI. I know I shouldn’t have driven, I wish I’d been pulled over for that.

I got up around lunchtime the following day and said, “Right I need to head home.”

I messaged her a few times but didn’t hear anything. I presumed she wasn’t interested in me.

Around 12 weeks later she sent me a message. I was at work. “We need to talk urgently,” she wrote.

I sat at my desk reading the words, my heart started fluttering and I just knew what she was going to say.

I went out of the office at lunchtime to call her. She picked up straight away.

“I’m pregnant,” she said.

“Right. How do you know it’s mine?” I asked.

“I don’t know it’s yours,” she replied.

“So, you didn’t know you were pregnant after four weeks or eight weeks but now at 12 weeks you decide to tell me?”

I felt like she’d planned it.

“You need to have a serious think about what you’re doing,” I said. “Think about the ramifications for both of us, long term.”

She hung up.

I didn’t hear anything from her until nine months after my son was born.

A man knocked at the door serving a court order for DNA for child support.

I was sitting at home watching TV with my then partner of nearly two years. She’d relocated to move in with me. We were happy.

I’d mentioned the phone call after my one-night stand and she’d shrugged it off saying, “What kind of woman would do that?”

This guy asked my name and said he was here to serve a court order.

I couldn’t believe it. “This lady is a complete fool …” I started to say.

He cut me off, “If you don’t sign, we’ll seize your assets.”

I signed.

My then partner and I sat on the couch stunned for about five hours. We couldn’t even find the words to talk.

I did the DNA test just before Christmas and had to stew on the results until January 20. The DNA cost me $2,000 plus I paid a lawyer, which cost around $5,000.

The Child Support Agency (CSA) then backdated the child support to the birth of my son. Just like that I was $12,000 out of pocket.

I was left reeling, worried sick, thinking, “How am I going to pay my mortgage and bills plus this?” It was an absolute nightmare.

In the end, I had to rent my place out.
My partner and I moved in with my parents.

I was struggling at work and ended up resigning. Life has been a complete disaster since. Actually, that’s an understatement. My mental health is in a bad way. I have no idea how it will hold up for the next 12 years while I have to pay this.

Why am I paying 100 per cent child support? I haven’t seen him once. A lawyer for the family court charges around $500 per hour. I don’t have that financial capacity. I’m left going round in circles thinking, “Why would somebody do this? What do I owe her?”

The government needs to recognise the impact this is having on men’s lives.
My partner packed up and left last year. Our split was amicable. We tried to make it work for four or five years but I had no money to be able to do anything.

We went from having our own place to living back with my parents and having no money at all.

The percentage of second relationships that fail because of child support issues dragging from previous relationships is huge.

I’m not surprised so many men give up. There’s something seriously wrong with this outdated system. It doesn’t work in modern society where many relationships don’t last. Let alone my situation. How is this right?
It’s affected my health. Sometimes I wonder if I might have PTSD. I’ve always been a fitness fanatic so thankfully I have that as a buffer. I exercise a lot and practise yoga, I don’t drink alcohol at all. I do everything I can to try to keep my mental health as strong as possible.

What about the poor blokes who don’t have that? Or don’t have parental support themselves?
There are over 20 men every week suiciding — and the government doesn’t think this is a national emergency? You’ve got to be kidding.
The CSA is costing people their houses, their jobs, their lives. It’s a complete farce.

I’ve given up.
I pay my child support and I hope one day my son comes looking for me.
I’ve lost all hope — in politics, in the system, in life.

These stories are more depressing than Requiem for a Dream


Legit motive to sperm bank then get a vasectomy

why did this retard sign

wut

The system is fuarked no doubt, but he still made the decision to stick it into crazy.

EDIT: Just saw this guy was drink driving, he can get fuarked for all i care, lol at him.

soon to be vasectomy crew

Shouldn't have cheated, drunk drove, and took the chance of knocking up a random.

Lol at him.

Sucks for the kid though.

Maybe if more people realize their d!ck has the power to create human life and treat it with the respect such a powerful tool deserves they wouldn't be in this situation. Are we supposed to feel bad for the guy because he has to pay for the expenses that go along with raising a child? Fukk him. I feel bad for the kid for having sh!tty parents and having to be raised in a broken home but don't feel bad at all for the parents. They both knew how babies are made.



Cliffs- he should stop crying and fist himself

lol what a little ******* with victim syndrome, maybe he should have thought about it before instead of after

In the vasectomy crew and it's amazing. Then again I have two kids so I'm done. If you don't have kids and are young I'd recommend waiting though. Depending on your age you'll probably be amazed how much you views can change over 5-10 years.

I have some knowledge of family law. The problem with this bloke's circumstances is that, there is zero intention to take responsibility on his part, and every right to push some blame onto the other person in question: specifically, the woman who has borne his child. The fact of the matter is, if you are responsible in part for the birth of a child, you have to be held responsible for subsequent future events *in regards* to that child. He could have taken steps to ensure that the woman in question didn't get pregnant. Unfortunately, due to his own poor thinking/planning, he is in this situation.

In regards to him "never seeing his child again", that is a matter of hearsay. Keep in mind, this is not a court report; merely some article. It may as well be a 'he said, she said' dialogue. The fact of the matter is, he was instrumental in the birth of a child. Hence, logic dictates that he should have culpability regarding the life of that child. Don't be emotional; be objective. There are consequences for every action, and this is but one of such.

In the same way that anyone would criticise a woman for not taking precautions regarding birth control (and later, complaining about raising a child), so should this man be given the same treatment. Be objective, folks.

What a fuking nightmare that guy is going through. But feminists still complain. Fuking parasites.

Honestly I'm starting to think that the best solution if you knock up a sloot, if you can't talk her out of the pregnancy, is just to murder her. That or leave the country. Doesn't really give you a lot of other options. If pregnant women started turning up in dumpsters maybe this child support system would get some long overdue looking at.That's bullchit. It's the woman who has the baby and so it is ultimately her responsibility to prevent pregnancies. Yes, he could have worn a rubber, but she could have been taking contraceptives and failing that she could have taken plan B after. Even failing that she could have had an abortion. Meanwhile, after sex the man is completely powerless to prevent the pregnancy.

The woman has 100% control over terminating the pregnancy and so should be 100% responsible for it also. A child isn't born unless the woman actually wants it to be born and the man has very little say in the matter.

He met up with her for sex. Presumably she was drunk too

I see what you're trying to say here, but I don't think women having sex while drunk and regretting it should be considered rape in any way at all either.

You can read this and say "Oh no what a poor guy the laws are wrong and we should all feel sorry for him"

But you can read through that and pick out about 20 mistakes the silly kunt made. Chances are it's probably fake anyway, nobody can be that stupid

FUUUUU-
I feel this guys pain - I am in a similar situation with paying lawyers and chit for family court and am in a crap ton of debt and each consult is knocking me back an even further $1000 besides appearances in court. I'm even thinking of making a fund raiser page to try to help with this cos it's completely screwed my family and I over and not to mention the psychological damage it causes which screws you up a crap ton more

Would definitely leave the country in his situation.

Maybe dump all identification, say you are Syrian and live it large in Germany?

Thanks to reading the comments on that lmao article im now checking out the MGTOW forums

So dumb that women can abort a child without the mans consent, but men cannot even have a "financial abortion" if they don't want the kid.

It's not the females job to fix the mistakes made by the guy. Both people were idiots but that doesn't mean she has to have an abortion. When you make stupid decisions like that you put yourself at risk. We all live with our decisions everyday. If you go knock up some random girl you met online then you have to live with it. How about make better decisions and stop acting like it's everyone's right to be completely irresponsible and expect other people to fix their mistakes. Plus he isn't even trying to contact his child. He has parental rights and can fight for custody or at least partial custody. But what does he do?? Sits there and thinks " hopefully my child will try to find me one day". He's a sh!t tier decision maker who could just as easily be in prison for felony DUI instead of crying about how unfair it is that he has to offer financial support to raise his kid. Why are we supposed to feel bad for someone who makes such horrible decisions?

to avoid this, you say whatever you can to a girl to make her think you are the worst dad possible

I'm not familiar with the laws but I'm pretty sure there are instances where you can sign away parental rights to avoid payments.

Depends upon jurisdiction. But often signing away your parental rights does not mean you are released from financial obligation.http://thelawdictionary.org/article/...rental-rights/

He can be sent to jail for failing to pay child support.This is my biggest nightmare.

I agree he's a chit tier decision maker but it's not about the girl 'fixing his mistake', and also it was a mistake they made together. However, I'm 100% certain this dude would have had the abortion if the child was growing in his stomach. You're saying to put another person on the planet and support it for 18 years just because "meh I don't feel like fixing this guy's mistake tbh". THAT is chit tier decision making if anything brah.

And besides, it's not like an abortion costs her anything. It's like an afternoon of discomfort vs 18 years of hell for the guy and a child doomed to a miserable existence, unloved and unwanted by his genetic trash parents. Just taking the consequences doesn't make anything better and that's an incredibly weird way to think about it when the alternative is basically completely without downsides for both parties. She probably planned the whole thing because she wanted to be a single mom and just chose this guy to pay for her degenerate lifestyle. That or she is just a irresponsible idiot who doesn't deserve the right to breed. Actually that's the case either way.

If he was so drunk he was raped. He is a victim.

Why is he responsible for so much?

Why are men beat down by the legal system?

Why are so many eunuch cuckolds type "men" attacking men?

Why are woman not responsible, ever? Why are they treated like retarded children in society and legal system when it comes to responsibility and criminal/fraudulent behavior?

Can't help but agree. Probably add in fake your own death as well.

Agreed. Where abortion is legal she has 100% control. She should be able to take the father to small claims for half the cost of the abort and that is it. Beyond that she should be 100% responsible. There's no counter-argument against this, just people looking for an excuse to make it sound like it's an equal affair. And the government avoiding it because the amount spent on single mothers already is exceptional and the system would collapse if they stopped extorting fathers to cover these costs.

What a little *******. Why is he acting so surprised that he has to contribute to supporting HIS OWN SON??!?

Also, cry my a fukking river about how "disappointed" he is in the system, with the cheap parting shot of "hoping his son looks for him". The same system that compelled him to support his child will just as strongly protect his rights to be present in the child's life unless he's some degenerate who would place the child in danger. He just has to be involved enough to ensure it.

Wanstains like this make me rage. I am not surprised at all that he moved back in with mommy and daddy.