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post 1519206171 09-12-2017, 02:33 PM
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Originally Posted By LethalGunz34⏩
Then it's time to grow a set of balls and move on.
This.

Also OP, it's time to hire some escorts to squat down onto your face and lap up that pussy. Repeat until you are ready to move on from your degenerated urges.
post 1519206181 09-12-2017, 02:33 PM
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I think I'm in that situation now, i have been with her 2 years and we have had our ups and downs but i just can't seem to take her no more. She's just constantly lazy and complains about her weight when she eats like chit all the time and I'm constantly eating chicken rice etc. Does no washing up etc so me and my dad has to do it all the time, the only reason why I'm still with her and even typing this is because she helps with everything else and i know she does her best all the time but i just think it gets to much, oh and also the fact when i even mention having a break or breaking up she goes into a river of tears and then threatens stupid chit
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post 1519206391 09-12-2017, 02:35 PM
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The longest I've been in a relationship was just over a year and yes I did feel this way with them.

I just overall felt like I was becoming an angry person with them and that was my own fault but definitely a sign since my last significant other made me want to be better. I think it came down to a lack of respect sadly.

Was a good learning experience tho. My previous two relationships ended because the guy did something messed up. This relationship showed me that I'm not perfect and can be a POS too and you can't get lazy in relationships.
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Originally Posted By FrazettaSilke⏩
and yet.... you want to explore. don't get me wrong bro, i'm not judging you, its just basic biology. you just have to make sure that when you get married, you're with her for life.
its because he feels as if he would be cheating himself he did not take the opportunity to explore his options before settling down.

If all you have ever eaten was Italian and Mexican food, how would you be able to dictate Mexican to be your favorite food on earth? You have never tried Italian, French, Persian, etc.
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post 1519206681 09-12-2017, 02:38 PM
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Originally Posted By makadelic⏩
The longest I've been in a relationship was just over a year and yes I did feel this way with them.

I just overall felt like I was becoming an angry person with them and that was my own fault but definitely a sign since normally my last significant other made me want to be better. I think it came down to a lack of respect sadly.

Was a good learning experience tho. My previous two relationships ended because the guy did something messed up. This relationship showed me that I'm not perfect and can be a POS too and you can't get lazy in relationships.
Yes, good observation. You are a POS.
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Originally Posted By FrazettaSilke⏩
and yet.... you want to explore. don't get me wrong bro, i'm not judging you, its just basic biology. you just have to make sure that when you get married, you're with her for life.
But what should I do, leave my current girlfriend who would make a great wife and life partner, so I can have fulfillment and not live with regrets. Get my fantasys, curiositys, and such out of my system for however long and risk not having someone to settle down with who is pure and good.

Or do I stay in the relationship and be unfulfilled, and live with regrets on my death bed.

Some people would probably recommend I stay with her, while I experience a few different girls and get all that out of my system, behind her back and then fully devote my self to the relationship so we can both live happily ever after. To me this seems scummy and wrong.
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post 1519206921 09-12-2017, 02:41 PM
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post 1519207021 09-12-2017, 02:42 PM
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Originally Posted By chickenbroc****⏩
This.

Also OP, it's time to hire some escorts to squat down onto your face and lap up that pussy. Repeat until you are ready to move on from your degenerated urges.
I'm not interested in that stuff, there is specific types of women and body types I'm after and I wouldn't want them to be creatures of the night.
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post 1519207191 09-12-2017, 02:44 PM
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Originally Posted By ChrissJ⏩
I think I'm in that situation now, i have been with her 2 years and we have had our ups and downs but i just can't seem to take her no more. She's just constantly lazy and complains about her weight when she eats like chit all the time and I'm constantly eating chicken rice etc. Does no washing up etc so me and my dad has to do it all the time, the only reason why I'm still with her and even typing this is because she helps with everything else and i know she does her best all the time but i just think it gets to much, oh and also the fact when i even mention having a break or breaking up she goes into a river of tears and then threatens stupid chit
Anytime I bring up the possibility of us separating even temporarily she crys. She also wakes up from dreams of me cheating on her in tears, even though I assure her I wouldn't do that.
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Originally Posted By SicilianPower⏩
Anytime I bring up the possibility of us separating even temporarily she crys. She also wakes up from dreams of me cheating on her in tears, even though I assure her I wouldn't do that.
This is where the growing balls part comes in. She'll get over it eventually. You're the idiot here.
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Originally Posted By sean67⏩
its because he feels as if he would be cheating himself he did not take the opportunity to explore his options before settling down.

If all you have ever eaten was Italian and Mexican food, how would you be able to dictate Mexican to be your favorite food on earth? You have never tried Italian, French, Persian, etc.
Thank you, exactly. There's all different kids of women out their, body types, races, hair colors, personalitys, etc. I don't want to lie on my death bed feeling unfulfilled, and full of regrets.
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post 1519207691 09-12-2017, 02:49 PM
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Originally Posted By SicilianPower⏩
But what should I do, leave my current girlfriend who would make a great wife and life partner, so I can have fulfillment and not live with regrets. Get my fantasys, curiositys, and such out of my system for however long and risk not having someone to settle down with who is pure and good.

Or do I stay in the relationship and be unfulfilled, and live with regrets on my death bed.

Some people would probably recommend I stay with her, while I experience a few different girls and get all that out of my system, behind her back and then fully devote my self to the relationship so we can both live happily ever after. To me this seems scummy and wrong.
Number 1: don't go behind her back.
Number 2: I've had the same experience. I'm fortunate to be married to a wonderful woman now, but I will always wonder what would've happened if I didn't leave ex 4-5 years ago
Number 3: you'll be okay, whatever you decide.
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Yeah, I broke up with my ex after 2 years. I get bored easily and have to be constantly challenged/stimulated mentally and he just wasn't doing either of those things.
I'm much happier now, it helped me learn what I like & dislike in a potential partner.
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Only FA's have never experienced this.
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Originally Posted By LethalGunz34⏩
This is where the growing balls part comes in. She'll get over it eventually. You're the idiot here.
Sure she probably will, but this a girl who wants me as a life partner, she wants to marrry me, have my children, gave me her everything. For me to drop her, would crush her. It would probably take years to get over. She even said she would never feel like she could give herself to anyone else, she could never feel the same about someone else. Now in time I'm sure that could change, but just knowing the amount of emotional damage that would inflict on someone I care so much about truly feels terrible to think about.
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Originally Posted By SicilianPower⏩
I'm particularly talking about a relationship that's been serious, faithful, and long. But something happens to make you feel like you want out, even though before you could get passed all the arguments and issues before. Something just clicks after a long time with the person where you just go fuk it I'm done with this crap, I want to do other things or whatever.
Yes. It has happened to me and others that I know. I've seen people break off year-long engagements. It's nothing new.

Just too much variety nowadays with partners, career opportunities etc. and less and less people are seeing the need or benefit in settling down.
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Originally Posted By FrazettaSilke⏩
Number 1: don't go behind her back.
Number 2: I've had the same experience. I'm fortunate to be married to a wonderful woman now, but I will always wonder what would've happened if I didn't leave ex 4-5 years ago
Number 3: you'll be okay, whatever you decide.
Thank you man, you've given me some solid advice and helped a lot. I appreciate it.
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Originally Posted By SicilianPower⏩
Sure she probably will, but this a girl who wants me as a life partner, she wants to marrry me, have my children, gave me her everything. For me to drop her, would crush her. It would probably take years to get over. She even said she would never feel like she could give herself to anyone else, she could never feel the same about someone else. Now in time I'm sure that could change, but just knowing the amount of emotional damage that would inflict on someone I care so much about truly feels terrible to think about.
Don't base your life choices on someone else. If you're not happy, you're hurting her more in the long run by being dishonest and staying in a relationship that you don't want to be in. She'll be fine, she's a big girl. You have to hurt someone in this case in order to be happy. She'll continue living, and yeah you'll feel like a jerk, but if you respect her you have to be honest with her.
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Originally Posted By ecs33⏩
Only FA's have never experienced this.
What's FA's?
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Relationships change over time. The intense attraction/love/lust you have at the beginning of a relationship is never going to last forever. It slowly turns into that feeling of they are your family. You love them and can still have times of romance but if you expect teenage love feelings for the next 50 years with them, you will be very disappointed. That's the problem with people today. They want that intense feeling forever, and when it fades they lose interest.
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Originally Posted By BbyGainz⏩
Don't base your life choices on someone else. If you're not happy, you're hurting her more in the long run by being dishonest and staying in a relationship that you don't want to be in. She'll be fine, she's a big girl. You have to hurt someone in this case in order to be happy. She'll continue living, and yeah you'll feel like a jerk, but if you respect her you have to be honest with her.
Thank you, I appreciate the advice.
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Also you could technically say she's being manipulative. I mean, she IS, whether it's intentional or not. To say things to make you feel like youcan'tleave her is unfair and is toying with your emotions.
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Originally Posted By FastBack6⏩
Yes. It has happened to me and others that I know. I've seen people break off year-long engagements. It's nothing new.

Just too much variety nowadays with partners, career opportunities etc. and less and less people are seeing the need or benefit in settling down.
I always wanted to the live the bachelor lifestyle. Going to bars and clubs experiences all I want, having a good time, making money.
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Originally Posted By SicilianPower⏩
I always wanted to the live the bachelor lifestyle. Going to bars and clubs experiences all I want, having a good time, making money.
You have an opportunity to do just that.
You just have to get through the hard part, which is hurting someone's feelings, but I can tell you that you'll both be way happier in time. She'll find someone who can give her what she needs/wants, and you can be happy and live the life that you want too.
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Originally Posted By BbyGainz⏩
Also you could technically say she's being manipulative. I mean, she IS, whether it's intentional or not. To say things to make you feel like youcan'tleave her is unfair and is toying with your emotions.
I think she just really doesn't want to lose me, we are a big part of each others lives. She wants me to be "the guy" you know, the her husband,father of her children etc.

She doesn't say I can't go, she says I can if that's the life I want to live usually with tears in her eyes very sad. But it would just crush her.
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Originally Posted By SicilianPower⏩
She doesn't say I can't go, she says I can if that's the life I want to live usually with tears in her eyes very sad. But it would just crush her.
You've already made up your mind brah. It's okay, it really is, but she will be hurt. I'd rather you leave now than get married and regret it. You will learn something about this experience, and learning is always good
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Originally Posted By BbyGainz⏩
You have an opportunity to do just that.
You just have to get through the hard part, which is hurting someone's feelings, but I can tell you that you'll both be way happier in time. She'll find someone who can give her what she needs/wants, and you can be happy and live the life that you want too.
Yeah I think you are right for the most part. I always said I feel there is someone out there that will want to give her that life she wants. We come from different backgrounds and mindsets.
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Originally Posted By SicilianPower⏩
I think she just really doesn't want to lose me, we are a big part of each others lives. She wants me to be "the guy" you know, the her husband,father of her children etc.

She doesn't say I can't go, she says I can if that's the life I want to live usually with tears in her eyes very sad. But it would just crush her.
Ok, then continue being miserable and unfulfilled? Idk, I've given you advice, but it's ultimately up to you my dude. I hope you both can find whatever makes y'all happy.
When I broke up with my ex boyfriend he CRIED. Right in front of me. A grown man. It was like the 2nd time in 10 years that he had ever cried. It was awful to watch, and at first I was like "oh my god what have i done, I need to take it back RIGHT NOW", but I didn't. I was unhappy and bored, wanted to go out and flirt and be a normal 22 year old, so I had to. He and I are actually still civil and talk once in a while, and we've both moved on. We're both way happier.
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Originally Posted By FrazettaSilke⏩
You've already made up your mind brah. It's okay, it really is, but she will be hurt. I'd rather you leave now than get married and regret it. You will learn something about this experience, and learning is always good
Oh man...it's so tough. I really appreciate the advice everyone. It has really helped me a lot. I don't know exactly what I'm gonna do just yet, but anytime I need to look for advice I'll re read through this thread.
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