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1. Why get a hotel? Why not spend 10$ on an Uber? This is fishy AF.
2. The fact you didn't hear from her all night is cause for concern. Ever met a girl at a club/bar who didnt pull out her phone every 10 mins? Me either.
3. She may not have done anything questionable, but she doesn't respect you.
2. The fact you didn't hear from her all night is cause for concern. Ever met a girl at a club/bar who didnt pull out her phone every 10 mins? Me either.
3. She may not have done anything questionable, but she doesn't respect you.
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I know bros that some will say I’m insecure and some will say I have every right to do this.
The reason why I texted her what I did is because that’s what truly was on my mind.
Overall we bang every time we see each other and she is always down to do the nasty and does clean my condo as well once in a while.
At first I let it go and wasnt mad but as the day went on my gut felt off.
So it makes me insecure and controlling for saying how I feel about it? Or would it be better to stay quiet and star seeing other females? Cuz I focus on one female that’s my gf unless I’m single then I have multiple ones at all times
The reason why I texted her what I did is because that’s what truly was on my mind.
Overall we bang every time we see each other and she is always down to do the nasty and does clean my condo as well once in a while.
At first I let it go and wasnt mad but as the day went on my gut felt off.
So it makes me insecure and controlling for saying how I feel about it? Or would it be better to stay quiet and star seeing other females? Cuz I focus on one female that’s my gf unless I’m single then I have multiple ones at all times
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Originally Posted By Tuga88⏩
This.BRUH. She got a hotel?! What's the reasoning behind that? Makes 0 sense to me. You said she's done this before (no contact when on a night out despite saying she would). That would be one strike too many for me....I'm out.
Originally Posted By Bluechip13⏩
& This1. Why get a hotel? Why not spend 10$ on an Uber? This is fishy AF.
2.The fact you didn't hear from her all night is cause for concern. Ever met a girl at a club/bar who didnt pull out her phone every 10 mins? Me either.
3. She may not have done anything questionable, but she doesn't respect you.
2.The fact you didn't hear from her all night is cause for concern. Ever met a girl at a club/bar who didnt pull out her phone every 10 mins? Me either.
3. She may not have done anything questionable, but she doesn't respect you.
Obv probably did some things you would have ended it over, maybe even a 3-way. She said she'd get ahold of you but never did and got a hotel room with friends, then add in drinking. What do you think happened OP? Bc it isn't that hard in 2017 to send a text or make a phone call and keep your word. She is now saying "I luv you" because she knows she phucked up if she didn't cheat, and is just trying to cover her a$$ if she did cheat.
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Originally Posted By friesbruh⏩
This is why I asked misc to see this whole thing from a different view.This.
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Obv probably did some things you would have ended it over, maybe even a 3-way. She said she'd get ahold of you but never did and got a hotel room with friends, then add in drinking. What do you think happened OP? Bc it isn't that hard in 2017 to send a text or make a phone call and keep your word. She is now saying "I luv you" because she knows she phucked up if she didn't cheat, and is just trying to cover her a$$ if she did cheat.
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Obv probably did some things you would have ended it over, maybe even a 3-way. She said she'd get ahold of you but never did and got a hotel room with friends, then add in drinking. What do you think happened OP? Bc it isn't that hard in 2017 to send a text or make a phone call and keep your word. She is now saying "I luv you" because she knows she phucked up if she didn't cheat, and is just trying to cover her a$$ if she did cheat.
She does love dancing with gfs being she is Latin but the whole hotel things throws me off and like you said it’s real easy to send a simple text which takes 10 seconds.
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Originally Posted By athleancali⏩
Do not text people when you have an issue with them. Call them or see them face 2 face.Me and my gf have been together since February.
She is Latin and loves to go out dancing with her gfs once every 5 weeks. Other times I go with her.
It was her birthday last week and I took her out to a nice resturaunt and get her a nice gift.
She mentioned she wants to go for a girls only night for her birthday and get a hotel with them.
She went out but never contacted me after she was done like she said she did.
Here is our text convo the next day after she called me in the morning and applogized.
Me:Hey, I want you to have fun with your friends but I don’t feel good about you not checking in with me last night. I don’t think it’s right and it makes me feel disrespected. Especially if you are gonna go out drinking and dancing and get a hotel.
Her: I’m sorry I was tired and fell asleep.
Me: I know you can say you’re sorry but this issue needs to be addressed with actions because we had this conversation before.
Her: I promise it won’t happen again love please don’t be mad
Me: I’m not mad it just really disappoints me when this happens because I trust what you tell me.
Her: But babe I was gonna call you ������
Me: I know but you didn’t.
Her: I’m sorry.
(I don’t reply)
Her: I love you
Me: I know that you keep telling me that but actions speak louder then words and I just want you to respect what I say because I’m putting a lot of effort into our relationship.
So she hasn’t replied yet cuz she sleeping and I work nights.
I just feel disrespected and I can’t accept it.
Am I over reacting or handling it good bros?
Just need to get it off my chest cuz my gut doesn’t feel right.
What do you bros think?
She is Latin and loves to go out dancing with her gfs once every 5 weeks. Other times I go with her.
It was her birthday last week and I took her out to a nice resturaunt and get her a nice gift.
She mentioned she wants to go for a girls only night for her birthday and get a hotel with them.
She went out but never contacted me after she was done like she said she did.
Here is our text convo the next day after she called me in the morning and applogized.
Me:Hey, I want you to have fun with your friends but I don’t feel good about you not checking in with me last night. I don’t think it’s right and it makes me feel disrespected. Especially if you are gonna go out drinking and dancing and get a hotel.
Her: I’m sorry I was tired and fell asleep.
Me: I know you can say you’re sorry but this issue needs to be addressed with actions because we had this conversation before.
Her: I promise it won’t happen again love please don’t be mad
Me: I’m not mad it just really disappoints me when this happens because I trust what you tell me.
Her: But babe I was gonna call you ������
Me: I know but you didn’t.
Her: I’m sorry.
(I don’t reply)
Her: I love you
Me: I know that you keep telling me that but actions speak louder then words and I just want you to respect what I say because I’m putting a lot of effort into our relationship.
So she hasn’t replied yet cuz she sleeping and I work nights.
I just feel disrespected and I can’t accept it.
Am I over reacting or handling it good bros?
Just need to get it off my chest cuz my gut doesn’t feel right.
What do you bros think?
Text doesn't convey emotions like a person's voice and body language does. It's easy to lie when texting.
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Originally Posted By athleancali⏩
I don’t think your gf respects you at all, tbh. Even if she just got tired and fell asleep (doubtful) you still had to text her.Me and my gf have been together since February.
She is Latin and loves to go out dancing with her gfs once every 5 weeks. Other times I go with her.
It was her birthday last week and I took her out to a nice resturaunt and get her a nice gift.
She mentioned she wants to go for a girls only night for her birthday and get a hotel with them.
She went out but never contacted me after she was done like she said she did.
Here is our text convo the next day after she called me in the morning and applogized.
Me:Hey, I want you to have fun with your friends but I don’t feel good about you not checking in with me last night. I don’t think it’s right and it makes me feel disrespected. Especially if you are gonna go out drinking and dancing and get a hotel.
Her: I’m sorry I was tired and fell asleep.
Me: I know you can say you’re sorry but this issue needs to be addressed with actions because we had this conversation before.
Her: I promise it won’t happen again love please don’t be mad
Me: I’m not mad it just really disappoints me when this happens because I trust what you tell me.
Her: But babe I was gonna call you ������
Me: I know but you didn’t.
Her: I’m sorry.
(I don’t reply)
Her: I love you
Me: I know that you keep telling me that but actions speak louder then words and I just want you to respect what I say because I’m putting a lot of effort into our relationship.
So she hasn’t replied yet cuz she sleeping and I work nights.
I just feel disrespected and I can’t accept it.
Am I over reacting or handling it good bros?
Just need to get it off my chest cuz my gut doesn’t feel right.
What do you bros think?
She is Latin and loves to go out dancing with her gfs once every 5 weeks. Other times I go with her.
It was her birthday last week and I took her out to a nice resturaunt and get her a nice gift.
She mentioned she wants to go for a girls only night for her birthday and get a hotel with them.
She went out but never contacted me after she was done like she said she did.
Here is our text convo the next day after she called me in the morning and applogized.
Me:Hey, I want you to have fun with your friends but I don’t feel good about you not checking in with me last night. I don’t think it’s right and it makes me feel disrespected. Especially if you are gonna go out drinking and dancing and get a hotel.
Her: I’m sorry I was tired and fell asleep.
Me: I know you can say you’re sorry but this issue needs to be addressed with actions because we had this conversation before.
Her: I promise it won’t happen again love please don’t be mad
Me: I’m not mad it just really disappoints me when this happens because I trust what you tell me.
Her: But babe I was gonna call you ������
Me: I know but you didn’t.
Her: I’m sorry.
(I don’t reply)
Her: I love you
Me: I know that you keep telling me that but actions speak louder then words and I just want you to respect what I say because I’m putting a lot of effort into our relationship.
So she hasn’t replied yet cuz she sleeping and I work nights.
I just feel disrespected and I can’t accept it.
Am I over reacting or handling it good bros?
Just need to get it off my chest cuz my gut doesn’t feel right.
What do you bros think?
All you should say to her is “words without action mean nothing.” If she doesn’t do anything to sufficiently make up for disrespecting you, let her go.
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Originally Posted By cheerupemokid⏩
She called in the morning at 8am the next day and texted me that she loved me first.I don’t think your gf respects you at all, tbh. Even if she just got tired and fell asleep (doubtful) you still had to text her.
All you should say to her is “words without action mean nothing.” If she doesn’t do anything to sufficiently make up for disrespecting you, let her go.
All you should say to her is “words without action mean nothing.” If she doesn’t do anything to sufficiently make up for disrespecting you, let her go.
Then I sent those texts
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Originally Posted By friesbruh⏩
This.This.
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Obv probably did some things you would have ended it over, maybe even a 3-way. She said she'd get ahold of you but never did and got a hotel room with friends, then add in drinking. What do you think happened OP? Bc it isn't that hard in 2017 to send a text or make a phone call and keep your word. She is now saying "I luv you" because she knows she phucked up if she didn't cheat, and is just trying to cover her a$$ if she did cheat.
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Obv probably did some things you would have ended it over, maybe even a 3-way. She said she'd get ahold of you but never did and got a hotel room with friends, then add in drinking. What do you think happened OP? Bc it isn't that hard in 2017 to send a text or make a phone call and keep your word. She is now saying "I luv you" because she knows she phucked up if she didn't cheat, and is just trying to cover her a$$ if she did cheat.
If she hadnt done anything questionable, she would be standing her ground.
Shes caved and apologized because she wants you getting past and forgeting this ASAP.
Since when do people apologize and bend to someone else when their innocent.
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Originally Posted By athleancali⏩
So that call was so unsatisfying that you had to text her after it? Says it all doesn’t it?She called in the morning at 8am the next day and texted me that she loved me first.
Then I sent those texts
Then I sent those texts
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Update:
She called me and said she was sorry.
I told her it take 10 seconds to send a text and said it doesn’t make sense getting a hotel and I don’t approve of that.
She said only reason she got a hotel is cuz some of her co workers came out and work the next day and the hotel was next to their job (which it was).
Then I told her she needs to respect me and she kept saying she’s sorry and then we both had an awkward pause for 1 Mom and she said she will let me go so I said ok bye and hung up.
But maybe I’m over thinking but my gut is off.
She texted me again saying she loves me and to not be mad after we hung up. I’m just no replying right now man...
She called me and said she was sorry.
I told her it take 10 seconds to send a text and said it doesn’t make sense getting a hotel and I don’t approve of that.
She said only reason she got a hotel is cuz some of her co workers came out and work the next day and the hotel was next to their job (which it was).
Then I told her she needs to respect me and she kept saying she’s sorry and then we both had an awkward pause for 1 Mom and she said she will let me go so I said ok bye and hung up.
But maybe I’m over thinking but my gut is off.
She texted me again saying she loves me and to not be mad after we hung up. I’m just no replying right now man...
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Originally Posted By MHannibal⏩
This. I'm not sure why people here are giving OP **** for being remotely suspicious. It takes so little time to send a text. Especially if you say this isn't the first time you've had this problem with this girl.And don't give a **** about the controlling/insecure crap, most guys who say that are either bitches or don't truly care about the girl and will play games with her/start talking to other women. Either that or they've never been on the other end where a married girl offers to have sex with you cuz she's on a night out with the girlies. You obviously must have reasons for your trust with her being slightly off. If she's doing this every 5 weeks then yeh I'd get the **** out of there.
What gets to me is that so many people can't change perspectives in these situations. If I went out with my single buddies, got drunk, etc. and never contacted my girlfriend that night I'd understand why she would be upset. For that reason I would make an effort to do it.
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OP
Power dynamic is way off in your relationship. Your GF needs to understand that your expectations are not to be ignored, bent or broken.
This isn't controlling, its having boundaries/limits and sticking to them.
She wont respect your boundaries unless you do first.
Power dynamic is way off in your relationship. Your GF needs to understand that your expectations are not to be ignored, bent or broken.
This isn't controlling, its having boundaries/limits and sticking to them.
She wont respect your boundaries unless you do first.
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Originally Posted By Bluechip13⏩
Not to beat a dead horse but jesus H, THIS, op.This.
If she hadnt done anything questionable, she would be standing her ground.
Shes caved and apologized because she wants you getting past and forgeting this ASAP.
Since when do people apologize and bend to someone else when their innocent.
If she hadnt done anything questionable, she would be standing her ground.
Shes caved and apologized because she wants you getting past and forgeting this ASAP.
Since when do people apologize and bend to someone else when their innocent.
Something makes me also wonder if one of her "co-workers" wasn't actually a dude, or even both of them. Figure it out. Good luck.
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Work party...gets a hotel....doesn't check in with you. Come on bro....even her new excuse doesn't make sense. So some coworkers got a hotel cause it's near their job.....and? She can still go home can't she?
I mean, I don't know how long you've been going out etc. but if it's a while you're probably going to want more proof before you have the guts to end it. So...time to investigate. Snapchat? Instagram? ********? Start searching through all of these, not only your girlfriend's but also the other coworkers that were there.
I mean, I don't know how long you've been going out etc. but if it's a while you're probably going to want more proof before you have the guts to end it. So...time to investigate. Snapchat? Instagram? ********? Start searching through all of these, not only your girlfriend's but also the other coworkers that were there.
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Originally Posted By gwg77⏩
Yes she posted a snap with her and all her gfs in the hotel and her girl co worker was there.OP any social media pics that prove she was with her girls? i am inclined to think she was going to pound town with another dude if not.
She said she got the hotel a week before as well.
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Originally Posted By Tuga88⏩
Only one girl co worker was there. She also gets a hotel every birthday based on her IG and FB.Work party...gets a hotel....doesn't check in with you. Come on bro....even her new excuse doesn't make sense. So some coworkers got a hotel cause it's near their job.....and? She can still go home can't she?
I mean, I don't know how long you've been going out etc. but if it's a while you're probably going to want more proof before you have the guts to end it. So...time to investigate. Snapchat? Instagram? ********? Start searching through all of these, not only your girlfriend's but also the other coworkers that were there.
I mean, I don't know how long you've been going out etc. but if it's a while you're probably going to want more proof before you have the guts to end it. So...time to investigate. Snapchat? Instagram? ********? Start searching through all of these, not only your girlfriend's but also the other coworkers that were there.
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Dude girls are on their phone NON stop. She couldn't send a 5 second text?
Why get a hotel? Just uber home. It'll be cheaper and puts all relationship stresses to rest. She doesn't respect your relationship enough for that. I wouldn't give a single fuk if my gf came home drunk at 4 am. I'd trust her that she was just out late having a fun time with her gfs. But not coming home at all is sketchy. Why the need to sleep outside the home after a nigh of drinking?
I'd dump her, OP. Maybe she didn't do anything wrong but why give yourself a headache. Get a girl that doesn't do this kind of stuff that defies common sense. Then you won't have to stress over wondering what did or did not happen.
Why get a hotel? Just uber home. It'll be cheaper and puts all relationship stresses to rest. She doesn't respect your relationship enough for that. I wouldn't give a single fuk if my gf came home drunk at 4 am. I'd trust her that she was just out late having a fun time with her gfs. But not coming home at all is sketchy. Why the need to sleep outside the home after a nigh of drinking?
I'd dump her, OP. Maybe she didn't do anything wrong but why give yourself a headache. Get a girl that doesn't do this kind of stuff that defies common sense. Then you won't have to stress over wondering what did or did not happen.
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Originally Posted By athleancali⏩
So what photos did they post of the night out? Who's in them? But hold up....you said SOME of her coworkers got a hotel.....are you telling me only one of those was a female? WTF BRUH. You got cucked. I don't even.Only one girl co worker was there. She also gets a hotel every birthday based on her IG and FB.
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Originally Posted By Tuga88⏩
No she posted a snap of her and her gfs at the hotel room and then going to the club and drinking and dancing at the club.So what photos did they post of the night out? Who's in them? But hold up....you said SOME of her coworkers got a hotel.....are you telling me only one of those was a female? WTF BRUH. You got cucked. I don't even.
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Originally Posted By sphinxbrah⏩
She doesn’t live with me and said the hotel would have been cheaper then the uber.Dude girls are on their phone NON stop. She couldn't send a 5 second text?
Why get a hotel? Just uber home. It'll be cheaper and puts all relationship stresses to rest. She doesn't respect your relationship enough for that. I wouldn't give a single fuk if my gf came home drunk at 4 am. I'd trust her that she was just out late having a fun time with her gfs. But not coming home at all is sketchy. Why the need to sleep outside the home after a nigh of drinking?
I'd dump her, OP. Maybe she didn't do anything wrong but why give yourself a headache. Get a girl that doesn't do this kind of stuff that defies common sense. Then you won't have to stress over wondering what did or did not happen.
Why get a hotel? Just uber home. It'll be cheaper and puts all relationship stresses to rest. She doesn't respect your relationship enough for that. I wouldn't give a single fuk if my gf came home drunk at 4 am. I'd trust her that she was just out late having a fun time with her gfs. But not coming home at all is sketchy. Why the need to sleep outside the home after a nigh of drinking?
I'd dump her, OP. Maybe she didn't do anything wrong but why give yourself a headache. Get a girl that doesn't do this kind of stuff that defies common sense. Then you won't have to stress over wondering what did or did not happen.
12-18-2017, 11:36 PM
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Damn this post opened up my eyes to my own behavior in my relationship. I don't even tell my gf of 2 years I'm going out sometimes, nor do I text her I've arrived home when she does know. She however let's me know majority of the time and also let's me know she's home without me asking. I definitely need to start doing that though. I can see from your reaction how concerning it is, although I've never brought or went home with another girl. The hotel is just suspicious. I remember a girl I was dating went out and was texting me throughout the next then went silent, then called me at like 3am apologizing and saying she thinks something bad happened with a guy. Long story short she got super drunk and fcked him. Your girl is apologizing and saying I love you a lot, she's definitely feeling guilty about something. If my gf was to bring up me not letting her know I returned home after I promised I would, I'll apologize once and tell her it wouldn't happen again if I didn't cheat. The constant "I love you " and apologizing should cause you concern buddy. And thank you for this post. I'll help me be a better bf.
12-19-2017, 12:13 AM
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Originally Posted By Coolman468⏩
Glad it could help man. It sucks to be in this position because you come off as an annoying insecure dude when you are really just irritated and going with your gut.Damn this post opened up my eyes to my own behavior in my relationship. I don't even tell my gf of 2 years I'm going out sometimes, nor do I text her I've arrived home when she does know. She however let's me know majority of the time and also let's me know she's home without me asking. I definitely need to start doing that though. I can see from your reaction how concerning it is, although I've never brought or went home with another girl. The hotel is just suspicious. I remember a girl I was dating went out and was texting me throughout the next then went silent, then called me at like 3am apologizing and saying she thinks something bad happened with a guy. Long story short she got super drunk and fcked him. Your girl is apologizing and saying I love you a lot, she's definitely feeling guilty about something. If my gf was to bring up me not letting her know I returned home after I promised I would, I'll apologize once and tell her it wouldn't happen again if I didn't cheat. The constant "I love you " and apologizing should cause you concern buddy. And thank you for this post. I'll help me be a better bf.
I know people are cringing here and saying I’m a control freak but I’m going with my gut and staying true to how I really feel which is what I tell her.
12-19-2017, 01:10 AM
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Originally Posted By athleancali⏩
There's not much more to do. She's apologized for it. It's childish to continue to be butthurt at this point, or at least to show that you're butthurt. You don't know if something else happened or not, but you do know she disrespected you. You told her. She apologized. Either accept her apology and move on... or dump her.Glad it could help man. It sucks to be in this position because you come off as an annoying insecure dude when you are really just irritated and going with your gut.
I know people are cringing here and saying I’m a control freak but I’m going with my gut and staying true to how I really feel which is what I tell her.
I know people are cringing here and saying I’m a control freak but I’m going with my gut and staying true to how I really feel which is what I tell her.
If you accept her apology, file this incident away in the back of your mind. It's strike 1 for sure. I don't know if she's got other strikes against her and I don't know how many strikes you're willing to allow, but this should be on the list of strikes she's earned. Don't bring it up again, but don't forget it either. Her actions going forward will tell you whether she's sincere about being sorry, or if she's only sorry because you called her out on her bad behavior.
I'm tempted to tell you my own story about "girls nights out and hotel rooms", but I think some of the miscers above have already awared you about what that often means.
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12-19-2017, 01:30 AM
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If your "gf" got a hotel for her birthday, and wasn't looking forward to hotel sex with you, I got bad news for you brah...
...the question isn't does she respect you, it's how many times cheating on you is ok in her mind...
BRB Girl's love hotel sex
BRB Op was cucked offsite
...the question isn't does she respect you, it's how many times cheating on you is ok in her mind...
BRB Girl's love hotel sex
BRB Op was cucked offsite
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Originally Posted By MiscInformed⏩
This is strike 2.There's not much more to do. She's apologized for it. It's childish to continue to be butthurt at this point, or at least to show that you're butthurt. You don't know if something else happened or not, but you do know she disrespected you. You told her. She apologized. Either accept her apology and move on... or dump her.
If you accept her apology, file this incident away in the back of your mind. It's strike 1 for sure. I don't know if she's got other strikes against her and I don't know how many strikes you're willing to allow, but this should be on the list of strikes she's earned. Don't bring it up again, but don't forget it either. Her actions going forward will tell you whether she's sincere about being sorry, or if she's only sorry because you called her out on her bad behavior.
I'm tempted to tell you my own story about "girls nights out and hotel rooms", but I think some of the miscers above have already awared you about what that often means.
If you accept her apology, file this incident away in the back of your mind. It's strike 1 for sure. I don't know if she's got other strikes against her and I don't know how many strikes you're willing to allow, but this should be on the list of strikes she's earned. Don't bring it up again, but don't forget it either. Her actions going forward will tell you whether she's sincere about being sorry, or if she's only sorry because you called her out on her bad behavior.
I'm tempted to tell you my own story about "girls nights out and hotel rooms", but I think some of the miscers above have already awared you about what that often means.
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Update:
I called her and told her she did not meet my expectations and it made no sense that she got a hotel.
She said said she did nothing wrong except for not contacting me and apoligized and said she loved me.
I told her I have set standards for when I’m with a gf and she needs to respect them.
She said it won’t hapoen again.
I’ve been with her since February and official in June.
I have to make a decision if I give her another chance or cut my losses short.
PS: I used to go out and go hunting a lot and met many girls who had bfs and even husbands so that’s why I’m paranoid. I got tired of being a player cuz that life style is empty and expensive. Being single is easier for me but relationships suck. If you are a real player you will know what I’m talking about.
I called her and told her she did not meet my expectations and it made no sense that she got a hotel.
She said said she did nothing wrong except for not contacting me and apoligized and said she loved me.
I told her I have set standards for when I’m with a gf and she needs to respect them.
She said it won’t hapoen again.
I’ve been with her since February and official in June.
I have to make a decision if I give her another chance or cut my losses short.
PS: I used to go out and go hunting a lot and met many girls who had bfs and even husbands so that’s why I’m paranoid. I got tired of being a player cuz that life style is empty and expensive. Being single is easier for me but relationships suck. If you are a real player you will know what I’m talking about.
12-19-2017, 08:55 AM
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Originally Posted By MuzzieChik786⏩
This OP. Disregard the cucks telling you other wise. SrsThis is where you went wrong.
Which couple doesn't want to be with their SO on major holidays & birthdays? lol. The fact that she wanted to go and then you let her, is beyond understandable.
If she wanted to hang with them and then come back, cool. But getting a hotel and staying out with them? O_o ... err yea, you goofed.
Gather up your dignity and let her know this is NEVER to happen again. And that if she wants to hang overnight with her homies, she can do it as a single lady.
Which couple doesn't want to be with their SO on major holidays & birthdays? lol. The fact that she wanted to go and then you let her, is beyond understandable.
If she wanted to hang with them and then come back, cool. But getting a hotel and staying out with them? O_o ... err yea, you goofed.
Gather up your dignity and let her know this is NEVER to happen again. And that if she wants to hang overnight with her homies, she can do it as a single lady.
Did you not notice the no avi to cuck mentality ratio?
Either way, it’s a matter of respect not trust. If this is a problem for you, man the fuk up and tell her, if you can’t come to a compromise then why still be in the relationship?
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