I was bored today and went through the entire thread lol.This is so true it hurts. Im gonna say the same thing in different words. Some guys are nice and will try to give you the benefit of the doubt and, bc you went to the effort of asking him out, wanted to try it. He realized, after the date, that he was right in the first place. Then didn't pursue. You offered him your vaheena, the second go around, and he shrugged and went for it....bc vajjrjeranna. A dude won't turn that down if you're basically sitting on his face. You're a good looking woman. He just wasn't interested in anything other than a warm wet hole.

Just like Jack said, if a dude is truly interested, you wouldn't've had to guess. Had the dude been interested, this is how it would've gone:
-you ask him if he wants your number
-he smiles
-offers date time immediately
-you go on date, have fun
-he texts you back saying "that was fun, let's do it again on this specific date and time"
-you spend longer together then and smash
-then make plans to smash again and a date while still together.
-maybe even have a workout date together
-there are no questions.Darling. I agree with Melis. Don't put any more importance on him that there actually was. He was just a hot dude at the gym. He might be a good guy, but he's not YOUR good guy. You're attractive, smart, funny and can lift like a baws. You've got options.

And don't give up on approaching just bc of this, just be more aware of the little examples of attraction or disinterest. There's big and little examples of both. Body language, actual language, text phrasing (bc that's a GODAM thing now) and the desire to be around you in general. It's all about not giving up or letting possible rejection get the best of you.

Just about every relationship I've been in, I've approached. Or I've given them ample signs to let them know that, if they approached me, I wouldn't say no.

You're still young, no kids I'd assume, and you're a good person. Chin up, luv. You'll get over this and get back in the saddle in no time. Just don't stay in your head too long. Let this wine and cry session be your last. Open your eyes to the men around you that you haven't thought about before. I guarantee you that there's a dude around you already that wants to smash and lift with you on the regular.

If you ever wanna chat, I got you boo. Just holla at me.

I wonder if that would make it to 2 pages if this was a dude.

Drop it OP I'm sick of hearing about this donkeyrapist anytime I open misc .

Hey OP next time don't give it up so quick. I think that was the mistake he just wanted some tail then dipped out.

Basically smashed and dashed

sloots gonna sloot

lies, quit white knighting. women constantly give their number to guys they're not interested in.

just lol at women

strong role reversal here, op gets flaked on and is suddenly suicidal. this is what happens to most men x 100, women don't get to experience this since they are the ones usually getting approached and don't have to open themselves up to rejection.

chin up young padawan, if you're going to commit to the approach game then you'll have to recover from flakes much quicker.

This is why you shouldn’t take a Chad seriously, not sure how you didn’t see this coming after spending so much time on this forum. For example look at Luke, he’s a Chad and he gets plenty of attractive women and as soon as they start to develop feelings he bails. Nothing wrong with screwing around with a Chad but don’t take them seriously because they never want too settle.

who the hell is luke?

He’s also just split up from a long term gf and is playing the field so that description of him is inaccurate

I automatically assume that dudes just want to smash and dash and aren't up for a relationship. When I'm talking to a guy, it's nice if he's cool, but I never hold out hope....anymore. I remember when I was bright eyed and saw through rose tinted glasses.... I'm probably quite bitter now. After the last dude cheated, I'm just kinda meh about men. I mean, I'm 29 now. Not much hope left for me. Might as well get on the smash and dash wagon.



Damn that was depressing. Lol. C'est la vie, mon ami.

People who cheat are scum.

das it mane

I automatically believe the best in people and I am rarely let down ..people rise to your expectations

If you get the just wanna smash vibe, why pursue if that’s not what you want?

In b4 naive

Main takeaway from this thread:


- Misc was right about Chad

take care

Pics of Chad since he’s no longer interested?

Women have a hierarchy they're in just like men do. There are different hierarchical categories as well, depending on the standards that each person strives for. For me, my standards for a mate would be drive and ambition and someone who is my personal definition of attractive. Doesn't matter if they're successful now, bc they will be in the future. I have drive and ambition and the will to succeed. I have added skills to put into my dating resume. I know I'm some men's version of attractive bc I've dated and been in relationships. I know that I'm not successful atm, but I will be. And that's the lane I stay in.

Self study is important. What are you looking for? What are you bringing to a relationship, if you get into one? Is the relationship balance? If you go into the relationship and you have nothing to bring to the table and the person you're with is at the top of their game,you are the subordinate. You will never be equal to them. It's actually really interesting to look back on former relationships and dissect them and why they didn't last. You can learn and grow from everything in your past for the most part.

Wtf is going on here. I thought this was a brand new thread I missed yesterday. But now I'm finding out I've been reading a month long thread? It's just not the same misc

fixed

If that works for you, then cool, but has never worked for me. To me, expectations that aren't voiced and are left up for interpretation, rarely are achieved to the satisfaction of the one doing the expecting. Best to be forthcoming about all you want from a relationship, knowing that the person you're communicating with may not be on the same page. It's all for the best in the long run.

Why did you continue pushing this? Pretty sure people here told you he was not into you....but you kept trying....so now you get rektd.

If hes a chad...Treat it like a dance. Let the man lead. If he's interested he'll text/call. If not...move on. Pretty simple. Or lower ur fkn standards/expectations.

is the avi really you? a tip for women in this thread , if you want a guy to stick around , go for guys equal in looks to you or even 2 below. You will have much more success that way if you want them to stick around and be loyal.

^^^Lol yes. And I don't have unrealistic self image, sir, nor do I date out of my lane. According to the misc, I'm anywhere from a 4 to a 6. I just have a bad habit of not going with my gut concerning the relationship. I let the red flags pass me by, like an idiot.Lol same reason why the dudes in here keep trying..... Bc she liked him... Why do dudes still go after girls when they already have the idea that she just not that into. At least she asked him outright and didn't KEEP pursuing the dude.... She doesn't have that question in her head anymore: Does he like me? She got her answer and thus can move on. She's not stuck in a loop.

Now, if she KEEPS TRYING, which I highly doubt she will, she's beyond help lol.

I get that but it's slightly different for a guy...he is the initiator...he is the one that is normally leading and making things happen while the girl is just reacting off that. So that leaves a lot more room for them to pursue even when it looks like nothing's happening (esp. since some girls need a little more encouragement than others). When the roles are reversed, if the guy is not initiating and making an effort he's not into you....it's easy to spot tbh.

But hey, at least OP got to get laid right?