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post 1547195991 03-23-2018, 08:27 AM
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Are kids stopping you from peaking? (srs)

Do you guys think that having kids (maybe in Mid-Late 20's) can stop you from peaking in life? They require so much time, attention, and money that I believe one would skip opportunities or risk in order to "keep providing for a family".

I know a lot of people having kids and they're just over 25. Saw another thread on here about how "life starts to decline after 25", which IMO is bullchit, since you are still young and have so much to learn about how the world works. Once you have kids, your life is no longer your own and you have to literally provide for another being. Risks are almost not worth the stress from the weight on your back at that point.
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Originally Posted By ssilv⏩
since you are still young
Average lifespan is 70. 25 is a large fraction of that.
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post 1547196271 03-23-2018, 08:30 AM
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I think kids stop most people from enjoying life as much as they could. brb ridiculous amounts of stress on top of more stress. No thanks
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Originally Posted By iloveus⏩
Average lifespan is 70. 25 is a large fraction of that.
So you are just over 1/3 of the way there. What's the big deal?
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It depends on what the definition of peaking is. srs

For some, raising good, productive children (adults) is the pinnacle.

If your focus is on yourself, then children do present a distraction.
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Yeah they most definitely do. My sister has 2 and shes 24 and she has no life outside of them. Shes getting fat and shes broke and shes either working, going to school or dealing with them. I would rather end it then be in her situation at this point in my life. No chance in hell.
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Originally Posted By PowerOfTruth⏩
It depends on what the definition of peaking is. srs

For some, raising good, productive children (adults) is the pinnacle.

If your focus is on yourself, then children do present a distraction.
I agree with this, kids are certainly a brake if you have different goals in life, otherwise, having someone to take care of that gives you a purpose, IS the peak
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Man, you millennial folks are some narcissistic *******s.

By all means, live life only for yourself and never have kids. Never mind that your parents, grandparents, great grandparents, etc.. all had to sacrifice gettin' yucky wit da boyz, getting swole, banging 5/10s on tinder and becoming personal trainers for their kids.

I don't have any kids that I know of yet but if you think having children will inhibit your lifestyle, you're probably not even fit to be a father and will raise another school shooter.
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Originally Posted By deadhead6391⏩
Yeah they most definitely do. My sister has 2 and shes 24 and she has no life outside of them. Shes getting fat and shes broke and shes either working, going to school or dealing with them. I would rather end it then be in her situation at this point in my life. No chance in hell.
her best moments are probably those few hours she actually gets to lay her head on a pillow. That's life son i guess
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Originally Posted By StainlesSon⏩
I agree with this, kids are certainly a brake if you have different goals in life, otherwise, having someone to take care of that gives you a purpose, IS the peak
I think thats true for people who never found a purpose and something worth achieving in their own life. It obviously gives your life meaning but if you have other things that matter to you and things you want to accomplish and experience having kids early is the number one way to kill that.
Originally Posted By MetroBrah⏩
her best moments are probably those few hours she actually gets to lay her head on a pillow. That's life son i guess
They definitely are. Shes stressed, and literally hides in the bathroom.to talk on the phone and get some alone time. She will never admit it but her life would be 100 times better if she didnt get knocked up.
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They are simply an excuse to stay in the 9-5 grind and not pursue your own goals. Most people in their 20s with kids have no other choice

Kudos to you if caring for a child is your end goal in life. You made it I guess
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Had my daughter at 31, she's 5, had my son at 33 he's 3. I didn't want kids in my 20's, and I don't blame those that don't. Are they keeping me from doing anything in particular? No. But that's why I waited til I was grown to have kids. In my 20's I was a piece of chit that didn't give 2 chits about anything but me, and would have made a horrible father. Now, my wife and I live our lives, and do what we do, but we have kids now that we take along for the ride. Sure the nights out partying at the bars have shifted to nights in with other parent friends coming over to drink and party, and sleeping in on the weekends is not going to happen, but we've always been the camping, hiking, do anything you can outdoors when you can types of people, so now we just have 2 tiny people to take along when we do it. Both of them are usually good for about 3 miles of hiking until they're done.
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Originally Posted By cobhc⏩
By all means, live life only for yourself and never have kids. Never mind that your parents, grandparents, great grandparents, etc.. all had to sacrifice gettin' yucky wit da boyz, getting swole, banging 5/10s on tinder and becoming personal trainers for their kids.
Not every brah who doesn't want to have kids wants to become a personal trainer lmao what does this even mean?
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idk how the fk you even want kids in your 20s
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Originally Posted By ssilv⏩
Not every brah who doesn't want to have kids wants to become a personal trainer lmao what does this even mean?
What would kids hold you back from?

I'm not being judgmental, if you don't want kids then you shouldn't have them. Your priorities in life are your own, I'm just saying that there's a good chance older generations of your family sacrificed a lot to bring you here. I highly doubt you'd be here if they didn't.
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Originally Posted By iloveus⏩
Average lifespan is 70. 25 is a large fraction of that.
Average livespan is 80 for men and 82 for women

....but you can say 70 is the cut-off point because when you get to that age you can no longer do most of the things you like to do. A simple fall can be life threatening. Hell, even if you trip but catch your balance you'll surly strain or sprain something...and speaking of injuries, even when you GET hurt it takes much MUCH longer to heal....the same with getting sick. A simple cold which would normally take a week to recover from, can take as long as a month and has a greater chance of developing into full blown pneumonia....which you can also die from....not to mention waking up every morning with new untraceable aches and pains. Then when you go to the doctor to tell them about all thr trouble you're having they simply give the"Well, when you reach a certain age....."speech, then you know you're knocking on deaths door.
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Originally Posted By cobhc⏩
What would kids hold you back from?

I'm not being judgmental, if you don't want kids then you shouldn't have them. Your priorities in life are your own, I'm just saying that there's a good chance older generations of your family sacrificed a lot to bring you here.
Kids can hold you back from taking risks in life if you haven't already done so. Think about it, maybe a new business opportunity comes up and you need to put $200k into it to get going... having kids would most likely stop you.

Say you always wanted to ride a motorcycle, then you have kids and suddenly you're labeled as "selfish" and end up not getting one.

It would be ignorant to not think of your family and what they sacrificed to bring you here, but times were also different back then. Then you also risk having a problem child to make you life a living hell. Don't give me the nurture defense in nature vs. nurture either because I know a ton of guys who had strict parents and turned out to be total chitheads.
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Originally Posted By ssilv⏩
Kids can hold you back from taking risks in life if you haven't already done so. Think about it, maybe a new business opportunity comes up and you need to put $200k into it to get going... having kids would most likely stop you.

Say you always wanted to ride a motorcycle, then you have kids and suddenly you're labeled as "selfish" and end up not getting one.

It would be ignorant to not think of your family and what they sacrificed to bring you here, but times were also different back then. Then you also risk having a problem child to make you life a living hell. Don't give me the nurture defense in nature vs. nurture either because I know a ton of guys who had strict parents and turned out to be total chitheads.
If you haven't established your specialty and income by 30, you most likely never will. Otherwise take out a loan like most people do.

Why would kids stop you from riding a motorcycle you retard?

So you don't want to have children because you're afraid of having a problem child? lol

I support you not having kids, tbh.
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Originally Posted By cobhc⏩
What would kids hold you back from?
Do you have kids or know a couple with younger kids? Their lives are done. Sure they'll tell you that they still have time to do XYZ activity, but in reality they don't, they're just neglecting their kid or pawning it off on their significant other. Even when you completely ignore the fact that kids are a never ending money pit (and just LOL if you think you won't have to pay for your kids living expenses once they reach 18) they still require your undivided attention at virtually all times or they will grow up into a degenerate (because of the lack of parenting) or do something stupid and get hurt or into trouble which is all on you if they're an adolescent.

or you skip all that and not give a phuck and do something stupid like bring your 5 year old to the theater to see an R rated movie like Logan only for the kid to lose interest before the opening credits finish rolling and he's left fidgeting in his chair running up and down the aisles and talking AT FULL VOLUME (yes, speaking from experience).
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Thats why I don't have kids. BRB going to spend my fun coupons on travel, cars, clothes, food and whatever the fuk else I want. Just lol at popping out a financial vampire before mid 30s.
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Originally Posted By Maestro⏩
do you have kids or know a couple with younger kids. Their lives are done. Sure they'll tell you that they still have time to do XYZ activity, but in reality they don't, they're just neglecting their kid or pawning it off on their significant other. Even when you completely ignore the fact that kids are a never ending money pit they still require your undivided attention at virtually all times or they will grow up into a degenerate (because of the lack of parenting) or do something stupid and get hurt or into trouble.

or you skip all that and not give a phuck and do something stupid like bring your 5 year old to the theater to see an R rated movie like Logan only for the kid to lose interest before the opening credits finish rolling and he's left fidgeting in his chair running up and down the aisles and talking AT FULL VOLUME (yes, speaking from experience).
I know it's a sacrifice, everyone does. If someone isn't ready to make that sacrifice then I completely understand, I'm just saying that it's important to be aware that every last one of us is alive right now because a lot of people had to give up a selfish lifestyle. Life isn't about you, it's about all of us.
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Depends on what you consider peaking. There is no guideline for reaching the pinnacle of life. My sons have brought me far more enjoyment than any material possession ever has but everyone has different priorities.
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Originally Posted By cobhc⏩
If you haven't established your specialty and income by 30, you most likely never will. Otherwise take out a loan like most people do.

Why would kids stop you from riding a motorcycle you retard?

So you don't want to have children because you're afraid of having a problem child? lol

I support you not having kids, tbh.
lol can't have kids anyway from tech u mad?
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Originally Posted By ssilv⏩
lol can't have kids anyway from tech u mad?
Mad @ ur gains, yes.
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Originally Posted By cobhc⏩
I know it's a sacrifice, everyone does. If someone isn't ready to make that sacrifice then I completely understand, I'm just saying that it's important to be aware that every last one of us is alive right now because a lot of people had to give up a selfish lifestyle. Life isn't about you, it's about all of us.
Yep I know what my parents went through, and I don't think I want that to be my purpose in life. Thats the decision they chose. When we're as overpopulated as we are now, I'd say its more selfish tobringa child into this world instead of adopting.....and yes I realize the world is technically not overpopulated and you can fit the entire worlds population in the state of Texas, but with everyone wanting to live the "western lifestyle" (2 cars, a 2500sqft house etc) then we're most certainly overpopulated.

In reality, for me its finding a compatible partner that is worth bearing my children....and even if I did find one, the world is a pretty chitty place. I think that I love my potential offspring too much to bring them into a world like this.
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Originally Posted By Maestro⏩
In reality, for me its finding a compatible partner that is worth bearing my children....and even if I did find one, the world is a pretty chitty place. I think that I love my potential offspring too much to bring them into a world like this.
Most humane answer is adoption. There are too many unwanted kids out there and the feeling of changing their life would be great. You can also get them at a variety of ages, so the new baby bullchit you have to put up with would never happen.
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Originally Posted By Maestro⏩
Yep I know what my parents went through, and I don't think I want that to be my purpose in life. Thats the decision they chose. When we're as overpopulated as we are now, I'd say its more selfish tobringa child into this world instead of adopting.....and yes I realize the world is technically not overpopulated and you can fit the entire worlds population in the state of Texas, but with everyone wanting to live the "western lifestyle" (2 cars, a 2500sqft house etc) then we're most certainly overpopulated.

In reality, for me its finding a compatible partner that is worth bearing my children....and even if I did find one, the world is a pretty chitty place. I think that I love my potential offspring too much to bring them into a world like this.
"Overpopulated" is really reaching here.

I agree with you on finding a compatible partner, it's why I chose not to have kids with the last women I was with.

The world isn't any different than it was thousands of years ago, we just continue to pretend humans are born "good."

The more you overthink having kids and raising them right, the more ****ed up kids Jethro the janitor is having in Alabama contributing further to the phucked up youth today.
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Originally Posted By cobhc⏩
So you don't want to have children because you're afraid of having a problem child? lol
I don't see whats funny. that is a valid concern.

now days you can't punish your kids because nosy ass neighbors will call CPS on you if they see you swatting your kid on the butt, or worse, yet your kid will go to school, talk to his friends and realize his friends aren't spanked and then he'll tell the teachers (or the teachers will overhear the conversation) who will call CPS. Hell, even if you don't spank your kids and simply punish them by taking away toys/internet, they'll just tell school officials (out of spite/anger) that you're mean to him and they'll call CPS....and its ALWAYS their word over yours.

So, if you can't spank your kid or take the internet or toys away from them they become wild monkey children which grow up into degenerate adults....unless you turn them into potatoes by prescribing them methylphenidate, in which case they grow up with depression because of improper brain development during their adolescence and shoot up their highschool.

pick your poison.
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