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post 1582178071 06-16-2019, 03:14 PM
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The whole thing about "cold approach" is you need to make it look like youre just a fun guy. Now that i think about it, i think looking like youre on a mission when you see a girl is attractive, but you cant give off the vibe that youre there purely looking for sex - like just running through #'s. Even though thats what it could be

So basically i go anywhere, and while im not 100% looking for something, if a girl catches my interest ill imbibe.

I mean chit.. Just going anywhere in day to day life and trying to have fun should be the goal
post 1582178181 06-16-2019, 03:18 PM
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Don't 90%+ of women already have boyfriends?
post 1582178311 06-16-2019, 03:22 PM
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Originally Posted By ErnieMccracken
Don't 90%+ of women already have boyfriends?
Yeah, majority of women are probably in a relationship but you will never know until you approach plus if you get along and exchange numbers she might hit you up once it's over. My buddy recently told me he got messaged by a chick he met like this almost half a year ago and only talked to her for a while.
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post 1582179101 06-16-2019, 03:40 PM
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Mixed thoughts on this. I have not just cold approached a random broad ever on the street but have certainly approached people at the airport while waiting for my flight, or at the gym, or while shopping. I could have been more aggressive but I guess I don’t just have the time and energy to keep hitting up random women when I have a GF or a nice rotation of 4-5 women that keep me busy.

I’m not sure what I’d say to a random girl on the street unless I saw her doing something which warranted a remark. If you just randomly stop a chick and have nothing to say to her, she would think it’s creepy AF.
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Originally Posted By sam212
Mixed thoughts on this. I have not just cold approached a random broad ever on the street but have certainly approached people at the airport while waiting for my flight, or at the gym, or while shopping. I could have been more aggressive but I guess I don’t just have the time and energy to keep hitting up random women when I have a GF or a nice rotation of 4-5 women that keep me busy.

I’m not sure what I’d say to a random girl on the street unless I saw her doing something which warranted a remark. If you just randomly stop a chick and have nothing to say to her, she would think it’s creepy AF.
The key is to have the desire to get laid. If you can't be arsed then there is no point really. I usually either say some remark like you said or just plain old "hey, this might sound random but I thought you were really cute so I thought I'd just come and say hi" or something in that sense which is usually enough to get the convo started.
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post 1582179541 06-16-2019, 03:53 PM
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Originally Posted By sam212
Mixed thoughts on this. I have not just cold approached a random broad ever on the street but have certainly approached people at the airport while waiting for my flight, or at the gym, or while shopping. I could have been more aggressive but I guess I don’t just have the time and energy to keep hitting up random women when I have a GF or a nice rotation of 4-5 women that keep me busy.

I’m not sure what I’d say to a random girl on the street unless I saw her doing something which warranted a remark. If you just randomly stop a chick and have nothing to say to her, she would think it’s creepy AF.
i dont think women think you seeing her and thinking she's sexy is creepy at all. that's the crux of it

so why should it be a problem if you were out and about and thought she was really sexy?

in fact, a dude wanting them really bad would turn them on

but, the real game is making it appear like she's not just another #
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Originally Posted By BohemianSlav
The key is to have the desire to get laid. If you can't be arsed then there is no point really. I usually either say some remark like you said or just plain old "hey, this might sound random but I thought you were really cute so I thought I'd just come and say hi" or something in that sense which is usually enough to get the convo started.
I guess I can do that, but I’m one of those *******s who don’t compliment girls, not until I’m deep in her anyway. The desire to get laid is still there, but I guess I couldn’t be bothered if i am getting my balls drained on the constant basis.

I would say it’s probably a good strategy if you’re playing numbers game, I’m not disagreeing with you, I just personally haven’t cold approached anyone on the street unless I had some remark to make, or I saw them mirin’. Of course, incel ***s would disagree, they rather LDAR than make any effort.
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Let me tell you young whippersnappers the best way...

Its a blend of both... and its called Meetup.com

Join some groups that meetup for hobbies and social events you like, everyone mostly is there not for dating initially and it is easy to talk to women. You can look at profiles before you go so you have an idea who's there. Its like fish in a barrel.

Meet a cool chic at meet up event, have fun, get her info, set up a date just you two later... plus generally its quality women who actually have hobbies.
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post 1582179731 06-16-2019, 03:58 PM
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Originally Posted By sam212
I guess I can do that, but I’m one of those *******s who don’t compliment girls, not until I’m deep in her anyway. The desire to get laid is still there, but I guess I couldn’t be bothered if i am getting my balls drained on the constant basis.

I would say it’s probably a good strategy if you’re playing numbers game, I’m not disagreeing with you, I just personally haven’t cold approached anyone on the street unless I had some remark to make, or I saw them mirin’. Of course, incel ***s would disagree, they rather LDAR than make any effort.
Yeah, I can see if you already have girls on rotation and getting laid on the regular then you don't really have the need although it's always fun meeting new girls. This was more for the brahs struggling and crying about not having a social circle or complaining about online dating.
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post 1582179931 06-16-2019, 04:03 PM
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I've cold approached years ago haven't done it in a while, all in all success rate isnt too high so you should get used to rejection.
I usually like doing warm approaches where the girl looks at me or thinks I'm interesting or whatever.
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post 1582180441 06-16-2019, 04:18 PM
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OP, I lowkey agree but a few issues:

1. Social circle and work kind of overlap. You meet people at work and you develop social circle. I still believe social circle is good, and possibly better than work. But work is great to use as a starter to get a social circle going. Not to mention that rejection in the workplace sucks balls - you see these people everyday can get awkward, not to mention "harassment" etc.

2. University is great for sex. Nothing like it tbh. But for GF material thing can get pretty difficult if you are in a big country like the UK or USA. For example, a lot of my mates with GFs graduated from the same uni as me in a city in Southern England. We had a very kickass social circle tbh. However, every couple found work (wether it is the only place they could find work or their dream job in London) in different cities. In 1 year the distance destroyed all of them. People going to uni or for a job in different cities is very common in the UK, not to mention in the USA where people move across states.

3. The money/status thing is still relevant because you might get dumped later on when they start caring. That being said, wife material wouldn't care either way as long as you are a complete bum.
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post 1582180791 06-16-2019, 04:26 PM
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Originally Posted By DanSDA
I've cold approached years ago haven't done it in a while, all in all success rate isnt too high so you should get used to rejection.
I usually like doing warm approaches where the girl looks at me or thinks I'm interesting or whatever.
Wasn't aware there was such a thing as warm approach but yeah when the girl smiles at you she is pretty much inviting you to come say hi and the success rate is going to be pretty high if you can keep a convo going and are not a complete autist.
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OP, I lowkey agree but a few issues:

1. Social circle and work kind of overlap. You meet people at work and you develop social circle. I still believe social circle is good, and possibly better than work. But work is great to use as a starter to get a social circle going. Not to mention that rejection in the workplace sucks balls - you see these people everyday can get awkward, not to mention "harassment" etc.

2. University is great for sex. Nothing like it tbh. But for GF material thing can get pretty difficult if you are in a big country like the UK or USA. For example, a lot of my mates with GFs graduated from the same uni as me in a city in Southern England. We had a very kickass social circle tbh. However, every couple found work (wether it is the only place they could find work or their dream job in London) in different cities. In 1 year the distance destroyed all of them. People going to uni or for a job in different cities is very common in the UK, not to mention in the USA where people move across states.

3. The money/status thing is still relevant because you might get dumped later on when they start caring. That being said, wife material wouldn't care either way as long as you are a complete bum.
I guess you are right about the Uni part. It's just that most couples I know that really last are people who have been together either from HS or college and it's also usually people who have not had many sexuals partners before meeting their SO.
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post 1582181211 06-16-2019, 04:38 PM
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Originally Posted By BohemianSlav
No attractive woman has the need to even be on tinder in the first place.
Most you see there are looking for IG followers
post 1582181251 06-16-2019, 04:39 PM
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Originally Posted By leoric1997
I'm not saying it doesn't work, but it's pretty pointless if you live in a small ass town like I do. Most chicks my age here already know me (from social media or real life) and cold approaching them asking for a number or some chit is a waste of time.
If they already know you, then it is even easier. Or just go hang out in a local bar and do your thing. What's the problem?
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post 1582182281 06-16-2019, 05:07 PM
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Fine you know what OP I'll try it next time a girl eye fuks me, just for you.
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Originally Posted By RonaldMcflurry
If they already know you, then it is even easier. Or just go hang out in a local bar and do your thing. What's the problem?
Shooting up a DM on social media to a chick that already knows you and trying to set up a date that way is a lot more practical and easier than randomly approaching them and asking for a number.
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Originally Posted By BohemianSlav
This. Nobody tries but everyone has a million excuses why it's a horrible idea and doesn't work.



I lol @dudes simping and buying random hoes drinks thinking that will get them laid.
Spending money actually has the exact opposite effect sometimes. Last weekend this girl gave me head in the bathroom of the club/bar(not to completion).

I figured sex afterward was a foregone conclusion, so I hung out with her and bought her drinks until closing. Afterward, she decided that she only wanted to get food, and wanted to hang out some other time during the week.

Moral of the story: At least with US girls, buying drinks makes her less likely to fuk. However, I’ve been total Beta drink buyer in other places and got whatever I wanted after.
post 1582184601 06-16-2019, 05:57 PM
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Didn’t read all that chiet but met my current gf cold approaching at the gym.

It really do be a numbers game.
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This is where the MISC totally misses it.

"Probably the most pushed here on the misc as "the best way" to meet quality women. Let's face it how many of your bros actually hang around with good looking single women that you can be introduced to? Most of them are going to be already taken and the rest completely unfugdable. Even my girl friend's friends turn out to be average at best and taken like 90% of the time anyway."

Platonic- girl- friends. Girls that you have never touched. Girls that talk to you and you can build trust with. Girls trust girls. If you have female friends that you have never tried to bed, they will eventually recommend you to their girl friends that need recommendations. Yes, this has the long game in mind. And I'm not saying to put up with females that you are unable to be around (gossipy, selfish, denigrating). When you have female friends that you show honor and respect to, and you intentionally keep your hands off them, they will then tell their girls that you are the best catch on the planet.

My wife and I had a mutual female friend that introduced us. We have been married 31 years and still love/like each other. It really works
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Originally Posted By Deenur
My wife and I had a mutual female friend that introduced us. We have been married 31 years and still love/like each other. It really works
(no pics of wife or friend, don't ask).
The difference is your wife never had 50 chads blowing up her phone 24/7.
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read and agree op. online dating is just a mess of single moms that have multiple baby daddies
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Originally Posted By ErnieMccracken
The difference is your wife never had 50 chads blowing up her phone 24/7.
So much this.

As if it wasn’t much easier to find a decent woman 30 years ago than it is today.
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Originally Posted By Deenur
This is where the MISC totally misses it.

"Probably the most pushed here on the misc as "the best way" to meet quality women. Let's face it how many of your bros actually hang around with good looking single women that you can be introduced to? Most of them are going to be already taken and the rest completely unfugdable. Even my girl friend's friends turn out to be average at best and taken like 90% of the time anyway."

Platonic- girl- friends. Girls that you have never touched. Girls that talk to you and you can build trust with. Girls trust girls. If you have female friends that you have never tried to bed, they will eventually recommend you to their girl friends that need recommendations. Yes, this has the long game in mind. And I'm not saying to put up with females that you are unable to be around (gossipy, selfish, denigrating). When you have female friends that you show honor and respect to, and you intentionally keep your hands off them, they will then tell their girls that you are the best catch on the planet.

My wife and I had a mutual female friend that introduced us. We have been married 31 years and still love/like each other. It really works
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Everything that you just said is irrelevant in 2019.
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Best way to meet women is to go up and talk to them, that’s it. If you fail, then guess what you’re a loser. Very rarely in the history of the universe has a women approached a guy asking them out. It’s happened to me a few times but only because I’m tall. Best place to practice is the bar, because the best looking girl will be garnering the most attention. If you Nut up and just talk to her it will probably work.
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks
Didn’t read your novel.

But yes one of my goals for this year is to cold approach at the gym.
I will bet my whole bank account that that will never happen before the end of the year.

Anyway cold approach is an alternative to all the other options you have. Granted it yields a low amount of success depending on the guy and you have to burn through multiple rejections to have success. There are gonna be women that are busy, have bfs, husbands, fiances, are in a hurry, are not interested in you, don't want to talk to you, etc but it does give you more opportunities. It is worth it in the end whether you cold approach a woman giving you signals or not and you manage to exchange numbers or give her your number and she gets in contact with you but at the same time it's a numbers game and getting a number really don't mean chit.
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks
Didn’t read your novel.

But yes one of my goals for this year is to cold approach at the gym.
Same I was at the gym last week and there was cute girl standing in line behind me at the juice bar no one else was around. I almost offered to buy her smoothie to maybe start a convo, but I wussed out cause I was tired and sweaty from my workout lol
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agreed but only if she's giving you positive body language first.
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I feel like the gym is a bad place to cold approach. Most people just want to be left alone to get their workout in, and if you do get rejected then you have to see that person who rejected you on a regular basis. A regular cold approach rejection doesn't mean sht, because you most likely will never even see that person again.
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Originally Posted By RonaldMcflurry
I feel like the gym is a bad place to cold approach. Most people just want to be left alone to get their workout in, and if you do get rejected then you have to see that person who rejected you on a regular basis. A regular cold approach rejection doesn't mean sht, because you most likely will never even see that person again.
I disagree... I think the gym is the best place to cold approach esp if the girl is like a regular......talk to the girl, get to know her better....you don't have to get her number right away/.... maybe next time you see her then you can ask for her number...
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Originally Posted By ErnieMccracken
The difference is your wife never had 50 chads blowing up her phone 24/7.
Good thing we have boomers in here telling us how to get current year young hotties. Got any job advice for us too? Maybe something about walk in and ask to speak to the manager and give him a firm handshake and eye contact and he'll hire you on the spot?
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