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Thread: Theory: your hobbies are only cool to others if you arent serious about them

post 1634478813 03-23-2021, 07:50 PM
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ded fukn srs, think about it

Let's take some hobbies: Lifting, hiking, acting/improv, stamp collection

Let's define someone not taking them seriously:
Lifting: only go to the gym once or twice a week, only go to bench/curl, bench max <= 225
Hiking: once a month you go the park/trail, take an hour long hike to the top to take a selfie
Acting: once a month you go the local improv club, you have no idea what you are doing but have a good time
Stamp collecting: you don't actually do this, you just your fathers stamp collection on a wall and tell sloots you are into collecting them

Now let's define taking them seriously:
Lifting: Lifting 3-4x per week, aiming for serious hypertrophy and/or huge lifts, constantly eating to fuel the gains, research programs and how to recover faster etc
Hiking: You have a big collection of real backpacking equipment, you talk about how you bought this new sleeping bag that takes half an ounce off of your back, you take week long backpacking trips in uncomfortable climates/terrain
Acting: I don't really know here, you study/research old actor footage to see what they do, rehearse scripts for hours a day, read books about it
Stamp collecting: You go to stamp fairs to trade/collect, research old stamps, know rare stamp's value and history etc

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As long as you are in the "not taking them seriously," you can go to a bar and tell people about your hobby and they will think its cool and sloots might want to tag along with you.

But as soon as you start taking them seriously, it becomes a turn off. You seem more like a freak than someone interesting
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The thing is that most hobbies don’t add anything materially to a woman’s life. If you’re into boating or travelling all over the place or racing fancy cars, believe me they’ll be all ears. Only other dudes are gonna give af about hiking dude, cause it only adds to your life and also can’t be shown off
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post 1634479273 03-23-2021, 07:55 PM
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I got another theory for you OP.

Anyone who does a hobby for social gainz is a certified *******.
Originally Posted By DimTriad⏩
The thing is that most hobbies don’t add anything materially to a woman’s life. If you’re into boating or travelling all over the place or racing fancy cars, believe me they’ll be all ears. Only other dudes are gonna give af about hiking dude, cause it only adds to your life and also can’t be shown off
Dumbass sloots say they love hiking, but can't complete a 17 mile hike on the first date.
post 1634479353 03-23-2021, 07:56 PM
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then just lie and act like you aren't serious about them.
post 1634479403 03-23-2021, 07:57 PM
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HAHAHAHA thats fukken hilarious and true. never thought about it this way
post 1634479423 03-23-2021, 07:57 PM
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Interesting. I can definitely see that. On the flip side, I do think people are attracted to people who are deeply passionate about something. So idk tbfh
post 1634479573 03-23-2021, 07:59 PM
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I kinda agree

I knew a guy who was 100% chess 100% of the time, and it was really fuking weird, he took the obsession to a different level
post 1634479593 03-23-2021, 07:59 PM
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Originally Posted By DimTriad⏩
The thing is that most hobbies don’t add anything materially to a woman’s life. If you’re into boating or travelling all over the place or racing fancy cars, believe me they’ll be all ears. Only other dudes are gonna give af about hiking dude, cause it only adds to your life and also can’t be shown off
Man knows his sloots . Got lucky once and actually met a sloot that was obsessed with dirt biking .
Few and far between though
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post 1634479653 03-23-2021, 08:01 PM
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Originally Posted By MetroBrah⏩
Interesting. I can definitely see that. On the flip side, I do think people are attracted to people who are deeply passionate about something. So idk tbfh
At first, maybe. But then once they realize how much it consumes the other persons life they're like nah f*ck this
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post 1634479843 03-23-2021, 08:03 PM
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Or how about you can take a hobby seriously and just dont be a ******* at the bar explaining every little detail about your hobby unless they want to know more about it. This seems to be more about having good social awareness than the hobby itself.
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Originally Posted By GaryRidgway⏩
then just lie and act like you aren't serious about them.
Originally Posted By NoHerro⏩
Or how about you can take a hobby seriously and just dont be a ******* at the bar explaining every little detail about your hobby unless they want to know more about it. This seems to be more about having good social awareness than the hobby itself.
Agreed, both of you are kind of saying the same thing. Show off your hobby (clothes that show your muscles if you lift, photos of you hiking, etc). But pretend like you didn't have to work for it.

Also this is the misc, ain't nobody got social awareness in here. Maybe this thread will help some people
Originally Posted By SoutheastBeast1⏩
At first, maybe. But then once they realize how much it consumes the other persons life they're like nah f*ck this
Yep, exactly, you can initially downplay the effort you have to put into the hobby at first, but if its a lasting friendship/relationship of any kind it'll come out
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post 1634480583 03-23-2021, 08:13 PM
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That's only true if the person isn't into the same hobbies as you.

If someone is serious about a certain hobby, then they'll be drawn to other people that are also serious about that hobby.

But in general you're right, most people don't really care to know the details of your hobbies and will find it odd if you spend too much time talking about it.
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Being passionate about something is actually a good thing. People will respect your commitment and determination.
post 1634480743 03-23-2021, 08:15 PM
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Originally Posted By MetroBrah⏩
Interesting. I can definitely see that. On the flip side, I do think people are attracted to people who are deeply passionate about something. So idk tbfh
Yea like playing music. The better guitarist you are and take it srs to the point of playing out live is pretty well received by the majority.
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post 1634481023 03-23-2021, 08:20 PM
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People don't like to get reminded of the fact that they're not passionate/driven by anything. They rather want everyone else to be as average as they are.
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Originally Posted By SmithMachineGuy⏩
Being passionate about something is actually a good thing. People will respect your commitment and determination.
Idk man. Normal people like to see the results you get from being passionate about something, but once they see the work/commitment you put into it its a turn off.

For example, if you bench 405 and have 20 inch arms, normal people will think its the coolest thing ever. But when they find out the way you had to train and diet for years................ it comes off as making you seem boring at best, and obsessive/weird at worst.

Note that I said normal people. Obviously the misc might think its cool since we share that hobby, but normal people will not. Substitute lifting for whatever.

When people that are serious about backpacking talk to me about it, I think its fuking weird. When we talk about our hobby to them, its the same thing.
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post 1634481403 03-23-2021, 08:26 PM
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Originally Posted By SmithMachineGuy⏩
Being passionate about something is actually a good thing. People will respect your commitment and determination.
Or just see it as obnoxious.
post 1634481433 03-23-2021, 08:26 PM
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Takeaway here:

If you make good money and have disposable income, but are struggling socially, just buy some random chit like a dirtbike, 3d printer, guitar, whatever.

Then use said items at most a few hours a month. Take photos. Upload photos to social media, dating apps.

Boom, you're set.
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I only want friends who are into the same hobbies as me.

Why the fuk would I want normies talking to me about my hobbies they don’t understand? I don’t want to explain basic chit to anyone who isn’t my children.
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Hobbies are the male brain exercising it's main desire, all men need hobbies it's essential to mental health. Hobbies are for personal development and pleasure, they don't need to involve others.

That said, collecting my little ponies is stupid lol
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If your hobby is lucrative, people will respect it. If you’re making comic books and selling them on Amazon Kindle or Gumroad and making $2,000 a month or writing jingles for commercials and making $$$ people will have respect.

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That has little to do with how seriously one takes their hobbies and everything to do with how they talk about them. Sure - you'd be better off casually mentioning that you like lifting rather than going off on rants about Jason Blaha. But that doesn't mean you should be feeling lukewarm about your hobbies - just need to have some social awareness lmao
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Originally Posted By SaviorSelfJT⏩
Idk man. Normal people like to see the results you get from being passionate about something, but once they see the work/commitment you put into it its a turn off.

For example, if you bench 405 and have 20 inch arms, normal people will think its the coolest thing ever. But when they find out the way you had to train and diet for years................ it comes off as making you seem boring at best, and obsessive/weird at worst.

Note that I said normal people. Obviously the misc might think its cool since we share that hobby, but normal people will not. Substitute lifting for whatever.

When people that are serious about backpacking talk to me about it, I think its fuking weird. When we talk about our hobby to them, its the same thing.
Despite my first comment, which I still stand by, I agree with the theory. People only like to see the pictures of my time in the woods or the chit that I find there. They don't want to know about my gear or what features my GPS is equipped with, etc.

Still I think this is only the case for the average person I guess. Other passionate people don't mind it when I nerd out on my hobbies and I don't mind when they go deeply into their hobbies. It's a learning experience for all brah. Also, delivery and how you speak about your hobby is key.
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Originally Posted By ramimotemem⏩
Despite my first comment, which I still stand by, I agree with the theory. People only like to see the pictures of my time in the woods or the chit that I find there. They don't want to know about my gear or what features my GPS is equipped with, etc.

Still I think this is only the case for the average person I guess. Other passionate people don't mind it when I nerd out on my hobbies and I don't mind when they go deeply into their hobbies. It's a learning experience for all brah. Also, delivery and how you speak about your hobby is key.
Agreed that other people passionate about the same thing will want to talk about it in great detail. But if you're talking to a random person at a bar or from tinder, 99.9 percent odds they are not passionate about the same hobby you are.

I'm sure that comes off as common sense to some here, but not to everyone especially on the misc. I'm sure there's a lot of people reading it and having a lightbulb go off.

Perhaps the reason for this is the common advice given to dudes that are struggling: "find some hobbies first". A lot of guys interpret that as getting passionate about them so they can talk in detail about it. But the reality is so much easier.
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Originally Posted By SaviorSelfJT⏩
Takeaway here:

If you make good money and have disposable income, but are struggling socially, just buy some random chit like a dirtbike, 3d printer, guitar, whatever.

Then use said items at most a few hours a month. Take photos. Upload photos to social media, dating apps.

Boom, you're set.
Idk what's the point of pretending lol. That's equivalent to people going to the gym to take mirror pics in gymshark attire while never actually working out. Anyone that cares about said hobbies will know you're fraudin and there are probably more efficient ways to start a conversation.
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Originally Posted By zarathu5tra⏩
People don't like to get reminded of the fact that they're not passionate/driven by anything. They rather want everyone else to be as average as they are.
Totally agree. I love sports and general, goofy things like a few Netflix shows. But I limit my TV. Some people don't think twice about gettin great at something, or pushing themselves in a work out, or wanting an exciting car, etc.

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Originally Posted By MilkBender⏩
Idk what's the point of pretending lol. That's equivalent to people going to the gym to take mirror pics in gymshark attire while never actually working out. Anyone that cares about said hobbies will know you're fraudin and there are probably more efficient ways to start a conversation.
The point is that its easy and it'll work

If you're struggling socially and don't have any hobbies its going to be hard to talk to coworkers, friends, dates, etc and sound interesting. But pull up a pic of you on your dirtbike? Suddenly you are cool now.

No need to fraud, don't say you are a pro dirtbiker. Just say you got a dirtbike and took it out for a spin.

Substitute dirtbike for guitar, 3d printer, etc
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Squat: 465x1
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Deadlift: 405x13 (conv tap'n'go with straps)
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Originally Posted By MilkBender⏩
Idk what's the point of pretending lol. That's equivalent to people going to the gym to take mirror pics in gymshark attire while never actually working out. Anyone that cares about said hobbies will know you're fraudin and there are probably more efficient ways to start a conversation.
Do you know people irl who did that, or was this a hypothetical example?
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