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Thread: How to handle (like an adult) dude from gym making my wife uncomfortable SRS

post 1657557573 03-08-2022, 10:55 AM
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Why would she give him her IG?
post 1657557603 03-08-2022, 10:56 AM
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Put him in check. Walk past him with your wife and smile, nod, say "what's good bro." When he says hi ask him "Oh you're not gonna say hi to my wife? I hear you love talking to her?" Then when he responds tell him to check his chit and ask if this problem will solve itself or if you will have to deal with it

Edit: nvm, read the full thing, she gave him her IG. It's over, divorce her srs. She's confessing her subconscious feelings of guilt over the early stages of cheating on you (and maybe later stages than you realize)
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post 1657557643 03-08-2022, 10:56 AM
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"I didn't know what to do so I told him what is was"

It's over, divorce her.
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post 1657557723 03-08-2022, 10:56 AM
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Originally Posted By TomWanks⏩
It's not about you brah, it's about your wife asserting herself. Does she assert herself in other areas of her life? Does she assert herself with you?

Why is she suddenly afraid of asserting herself with some random dude?

If she's the kind of sloot who hands you her ballot when it's voting season or wants you to order for her 100% of the time, this situations makes sense. Otherwise, she is slooting.
She's pretty passive and hates confrontation. She would rather be nice and talk to him (and assume the best in people) than to tell him to fuk off.....especially in a place that she know's she/we are going to see him 2-3x/week
post 1657557743 03-08-2022, 10:56 AM
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Originally Posted By havoc00⏩
Brutal but true
Not always. Someone women do not handle confrontation well at all. Doesn't mean they'd cheat. She clearly went straight to her husband afterward to show him. She's not hding anything.
post 1657557763 03-08-2022, 10:57 AM
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If she is sending off signals that its ok to approach her, what is the guy supposed to think?

She needs to address it. If you step in and handle it, 100% she will be mad at you. 100%. Saying you ovber reacted and the like.
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post 1657557793 03-08-2022, 10:57 AM
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Originally Posted By fate0311⏩
the most alpha thing you can do is nothing.
fukin lol at this and the avi...i just died
post 1657557823 03-08-2022, 10:58 AM
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Originally Posted By bsmit107⏩
She's pretty passive and hates confrontation. She would rather be nice and talk to him (and assume the best in people) than to tell him to fuk off.....especially in a place that she know's she/we are going to see him 2-3x/week
exactly and if you puff your chest out and try to tell the guy to not talk to her anymore, you're going to look weak in her eyes
post 1657557873 03-08-2022, 10:59 AM
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Originally Posted By Lucas5814⏩
Not always. Someone women do not handle confrontation well at all. Doesn't mean they'd cheat. She clearly went straight to her husband afterward to show him. She's not hding anything.
The IG thing is a huge red flag
post 1657557913 03-08-2022, 10:59 AM
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Originally Posted By bsmit107⏩
She's pretty passive and hates confrontation. She would rather be nice and talk to him (and assume the best in people) than to tell him to fuk off.....especially in a place that she know's she/we are going to see him 2-3x/week
The next time she kicks up chit and starts an argument with you, ask yourself if this is really true.
Originally Posted By havoc00⏩
The IG thing is a huge red flag
The very reddest of flags. Dude has DMs access. It's probably over brah.
post 1657557933 03-08-2022, 10:59 AM
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Originally Posted By AshWar⏩
Why would she give him her IG?
apparently she "didn't know what to do"

This is definitely next...
Originally Posted By Tuga88⏩
"he pulled his dik out and I didn't know what to do so I just sucked it" - OPs wife
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post 1657558223 03-08-2022, 11:02 AM
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Originally Posted By Donny2Yucky⏩
lol this is such petty alpha bullchit. there's no need to be a douche and insult the guy. just straight up tell him she's married and that's it.
In most cases I would agree. This is not such a case. He knows they are married and sees them together, and intentionality only talks to her when OP is not there. Successfully checking him will make him look weak & also probably get him to fuk off
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post 1657558273 03-08-2022, 11:02 AM
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I mean I think the best solution is the passive aggressive one where you have your wife go to the gym ahead of you then you follow about a half hour later and come running in with a brown painted bowling pin in your hand and you scream at her at full volume about having warned her about visiting chipotle and coming home only to clog the toilet again with a colossal chocolate anaconda and you have wasted the last three hours aggressively plungering the drain with your I’m with stupid tshirt pulled up over your nose I mean that would be enough to temper my interest but who knows maybe he is a real weirdo and he is into HTC ladies producing humongous logs so perhaps you should just ignore this entirely
post 1657558313 03-08-2022, 11:03 AM
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Originally Posted By Tuga88⏩
"he pulled his dik out and I didn't know what to do so I just sucked it" - OPs wife
lul'd irl, also slightly true. OPs wife has options but is choosing to make it a bigger deal than it has to be.
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post 1657558343 03-08-2022, 11:03 AM
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Tell her not to give out her info to strangers, it's safety issue if nothing else. There are crazy people out there and you don't know anything about them.

Just tell her to say "no". It's pretty awkward but better awkward than not safe.
post 1657558363 03-08-2022, 11:03 AM
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Originally Posted By fate0311⏩
the most alpha thing you can do is nothing.
MOST LEGIT ALPHA REPLY to any thread any post I've seen in a while.

i know cuz this is what I've done when i've had gfs who gotten hit on even in front of me (and these are good looking white women btw).

Thing is ...in reality you should take it as flattery. I mean HOW MANY WOMEN DO YOU IGNORE on the daily? I literally filter-out women like a n95 mask. Rarely see legit conventionally-attractive women. Most women look like a steaming pile of dogshty despite their husbands professions of adulation.

And FACT: in some years both of you will likely be invisible. how many attractive people do you see over 40 or 50 outside of media celebrities?

cliffs: Enjoy it while it lasts.

btw: your wife should have agency...this is why so many treat women like the dip**** no-skills having fukholes that they are. Unless your wife is in danger...let her handle it on her own. But muh guess is she enjoys it to some extent (either the actual attention OR TELLING YOU about the incident). Muh guess is she is probably average-looking as well.
post 1657558373 03-08-2022, 11:03 AM
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Originally Posted By bsmit107⏩
She's pretty passive and hates confrontation. She would rather be nice and talk to him (and assume the best in people) than to tell him to fuk off.....especially in a place that she know's she/we are going to see him 2-3x/week
And if the guy whoops your ass then what? This is all because she cant speak up and draw the line in the sand. She needs to handle this srs. You come in AFTER the guy is harassing her, AFTER she made clear boundaries and he doesnt accept it
post 1657558583 03-08-2022, 11:07 AM
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Originally Posted By SuperHercules⏩
apparently she "didn't know what to do"
post 1657558673 03-08-2022, 11:07 AM
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I'll kick his ass for you op.
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post 1657558723 03-08-2022, 11:08 AM
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op give me his location and I'll send my homies to send him to the hospital. srs
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post 1657558963 03-08-2022, 11:11 AM
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Originally Posted By Ottobrah⏩
Just take him aside and tell him straight up that you want him to stop associating with your wife. Be alpha about, no bullchit.
Id do this. You said a few times the guy doesn't do chit when you are around, and deliberately waits for you to leave before talking to her. He knows damn well what he is doing and you know damn well what he is trying to pull.

No e-alpha but I'd get really serious really quickly
post 1657558973 03-08-2022, 11:11 AM
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she gave him her contact information and now she's complaining to you about him hitting her up


m8...
post 1657558993 03-08-2022, 11:12 AM
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Originally Posted By andrepmeet⏩
MOST LEGIT ALPHA REPLY to any thread any post I've seen in a while.

when i've had gfs who gotten hit on even in front of me (and these are good looking white women btw).

Thing is ...in reality you should take it as flattery. I mean HOW MANY WOMEN DO YOU IGNORE on the daily? I literally filter-out women like a n95 mask. Rarely see legit conventionally-attractive women. Most women look like a steaming pile of dogshty despite their husbands professions of adulation.

And FACT: in some years both of you will likely be invisible. how many attractive people do you see over 40 or 50 outside of media celebrities?

cliffs: Enjoy it while it lasts.

btw: your wife should have agency...this is why so many treat women like the dip**** no-skills having fukholes that they are. Unless your wife is in danger...let her handle it on her own. But muh guess is she enjoys it to some extent (either the actual attention OR TELLING YOU about the incident). Muh guess is she is probably average-looking as well.
post 1657559053 03-08-2022, 11:13 AM
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Originally Posted By Fang2⏩
op give me his location and I'll send my homies to send him to the hospital. srs
u rly got this kind of power? Mirin
post 1657559083 03-08-2022, 11:13 AM
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post 1657559173 03-08-2022, 11:15 AM
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you gotta wonder if part of her likes the attention..

or she'd of shot him down way earlier
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post 1657559253 03-08-2022, 11:16 AM
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Originally Posted By plsmire⏩
That’s funny op cos there is this sloot at the gym who’s been giving me the “fk me” eyes for a while. Today she started showing off her ultra filtered, ass pics on Instagram and that I should add her.

She’s waiting for the right time to accept my request though because she doesn’t want her husband to see.

Wut do?
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post 1657559263 03-08-2022, 11:16 AM
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But if you want to handle it like a man, go talk to him directly and tell him to stay away from your wife. And tell your wife to stop giving out her info to strangers.
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post 1657559363 03-08-2022, 11:18 AM
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your dumb wife should be the one handling this ..... why tf is she even talking to him.... he talks to her one more time, report him to gym managment
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